Good day nairalanders. So this is a true story of my life and i am currently having mixed feelings maybe your comments will make me have a peace of mind (Hopefully)

Back then in school (IMSU) I had this roommate called Juliet ( not real name). For those who attended IMSU you will know that Hookup was full blown even before other Universities got acquainted with it. I look at Young girls doing it now and i just smile.

Anyways back to the story, this roommate of mine never lacked anything. Was it groceries, expensive hair, Phones, laptops etc , you name it. And this girl was from a poor background. I know her parents.

Rich Guys have rented very expensive apartments for her more than three times but she still chose to be roommates with me so as to chop their money and have savings.

I know you guys will be expecting a sad ending for her but this is not Nollywood. Presently she visits countries around the world like Dubai, Paris, London, LA , New York, Greece etc like breeze. I saw this girls posts and story on Instagram and couldn't believe my eyes.

However me back then was hoping on love and was dating a broke guy back then who later got me pregnant and i was refusing advances from very rich older men as an understanding girlfriend and wife to be ( foolish me) . Doing all the chores for this boy who later dumped me and the child as soon as he graduated and moved overseas. Since we graduated, this guy has never asked of my welfare nor sent a kobo to me for the upkeep of our "daughter".

Right now even to feed is a difficulty not to talk of accomodations.

So Nairaland people was i foolish to believe in Love at the expenses of a good life?

Thanks for reading this far.

I will really appreciate your responses. God bless

I still have a lot of info but let me stop here for now.

Nlfpmod Seun Dominique FP please 🥺

Both of you were DUMB!

If you are old enough to fuuuck, you are old enough to use condoms.

Also, it's not too late for you if hook up is what you want to do. Majority of hookup girls are single mothers.

Dust you pants and hawk that ass.

What exactly are u regretting? The guy that left u with ur baby or ur friend's lifestyle?

Look, if it's about your friend's lifestyle, forget it. U wouldn't even know what she's going through, forget the flashy surface.

U should be focused on improving urself and ur child instead of reminiscing on what u should've done in the past. If u had done what u thought of doing in the past, ur case might be worse, just quit the unnecessary comparison and work on ur self and the well being of your child.

Thank you.

theenchanter:
What exactly are u regretting?

Not being a hookup girl when she was younger.

theenchanter:
What exactly are u regretting?

The Good Life I could have been living now if i followed my roommate and not Love.

Namaster:


Not being a hookup girl when she was younger.

I am not old my dear. I just turned 26.

Moshybear:
The Good Life I could have been living now if i followed my roommate and not Love.

let's assume u followed ur friend's footsteps and ritualists used u nko? Why the unnecessary regrets?

Madam, the deed has been done, improve urself, better days and guys are coming.

@OP

You don't have to regret your actions and decisions.

Maybe if you were into hookups back then, they would have used you for rituals and you will not have this beautiful daughter you have right now.

You don't have to wallow in self pity now. Don't look at the past. The fact that you are still alive is enough to show that you can still achieve your heart desires.

My 2k

No much difference between you and the girl. Both of you engaged in premarital sex but she was wise to commercialized her own while you was ok with the friends with benefits method but your ignorant worsen the situation which led to pregnancy and a child.

On the other hand, don't envy people because you don't really know their reality despite the false impression they display on social media.

It is not too late for you to get it right. Start from where you are right now and decide what you can do to get paid by people who need your service or product.

theenchanter:
let's assume u followed ur friend's footsteps and ritualists used u nko? Why the unnecessary regrets?

Madam, the deed has been done, improve urself, better days and guys are coming.

My dear that is exactly what i was thinking back then now I'm left all alone to myself. Job I no see, money I never get since graduation few years back. Posted about needing a Job here on NL. No reasonable response. I'm just tired of everything.

You were both sinning differently, lol. You just chose the poor sin, nothing like that though, sin is sin.

If you are a Christian, avoiding pre-marital sex would have saved you from a lot of this and forget about your roommate, you could have followed her footsteps and it would have turned out worse for you. Dust yourself and keep moving.

bolseas:
@OP

You don't have to regret your actions and decisions.

Maybe if you were into hookups back then, they would have used you for rituals and you will not have this beautiful daughter you have right now.

You don't have to wallow in self pity now. Don't look at the past. The fact that you are still alive is enough to show that you can still achieve your heart desires.

My 2k

Thanks alot for the uplifting comment sis. God bless you.

But you are basically saying same thing with the previous commenter and my response remains same

Greatest Imo Star, it's a pity you got pregnant out of wedlock. I see no reason why you wished you wanted to be like your roommate. Everyone's destiny cannot be the same. Just keep praying that it gets better now that you have a child. It is well

Moshybear:
Good day nairalanders. So this is a true story of my life and i am currently having mixed feelings maybe your comments will make me have a peace of mind (Hopefully)

Back then in school (IMSU) I had this roommate called Juliet ( not real name). For those who attended IMSU you will know that Hookup was full blown even before other Universities got acquainted with it. I look at Young girls doing it now and i just smile.

Anyways back to the story, this roommate of mine never lacked anything. Was it groceries, expensive hair, Phones, laptops etc , you name it. And this girl was from a poor background. I know her parents.

Rich Guys have rented very expensive apartments for her more than three times but she still chose to be roommates with me so as to chop their money and have savings.

I know you guys will be expecting a sad ending for her but this is not Nollywood. Presently she visits countries around the world like Dubai, Paris, London, LA , New York, Greece etc like breeze. I saw this girls posts and story on Instagram and couldn't believe my eyes.

However me back then was hoping on love and was dating a broke guy back then who later got me pregnant and i was refusing advances from very rich older men as an understanding girlfriend and wife to be ( foolish me) . Doing all the chores for this boy who later dumped me and the child as soon as he graduated and moved overseas. Since we graduated, this guy has never asked of my welfare nor sent a kobo to me for the upkeep of our "daughter".

Right now even to feed is a difficulty not to talk of accomodations.

So Nairaland people was i foolish to believe in Love at the expenses of a good life?

Thanks for reading this far.

I will really appreciate your responses. God bless

I still have a lot of info but let me stop here for now.

You were not foolish, you still are for asking very stewpid questions. Who asked you to get pregnant out of wedlock and without resources to care for a child? It`s only a rich husband that can give you a comfortable life? You can`t do it for yourself? Maybe if you had been reading your books instead of following boyfriends, we would read something sensible today.

I don`t particulary enjoy being hard on people but I don`t believe you are who you say you are. I think you want a thread that creates some heat. You`re welcome.

Beremx:
Greatest Imo Star, it's a pity you got pregnant out of wedlock. I see no reason why you wished you wanted to be like your roommate. Everyone's destiny cannot be the same. Just keep praying that it gets better now that you have a child. It is well

Thanks very much. I appreciate

Hathor5:


You were not foolish, you still are for asking very stewpid questions. Who asked you to get pregnant out of wedlock and without resources to care for a child? It`s only a rich husband that can give you a comfortable life? You can`t do it for yourself? Maybe if you had been reading your books instead of following boyfriends, we would read something sensible today.

I don`t particulary enjoy being hard on people but I don`t believe you are who you say you are. I think you want a thread that creates some heat. You`re welcome.

Who told you i didn't focus on my books? I graduated with a strong second class upper since 2020 and haven't been able to secure a job since then. Even posted about my predicament here on NL. So what gives?.

Your first paragraph is very hypocritical to be honest!

Kemadealadire:
You were both sinning differently, lol. You just chose the poor sin, nothing like that though, sin is sin.

If you are a Christian, avoiding pre-marital sex would have saved you from a lot of this and forget about your roommate, you could have followed her footsteps and it would have turned out worse for you. Dust yourself and keep moving.

Thanks dear.

I guess i have learnt the hard way "in VDM voice"

It's not too late



You can still join her in whatever she's doing

shortgun:
Anybody can make money through prostitution and other vices,this is where you'll find the most morally bankrupt people.
People with character, integrity, and self-respect will always depend on legal means to wealth.

I will spit on a woman who's flying around the world opening her legs for any lowlifer that brings cash.
I will pick a girl who doesn't have 1 kobo over her

The guy who abandoned you is also a morally bankrupt person..I will also spit on him.
In life people will betray you, lie to you and hurt you .
All these is supposed to make you stronger and more experienced..help you make better decisions in the future.

So "Love" really doesn't exist at the end of the day.

Thanks for the comment and i have learnt the hard way indeed.

Baby girl move on with your life okay. Men are not worth the stress. I just sent you an email pls reply.

Chioma4eva:
Baby girl move on with your life okay. Men are not worth the stress. I just sent you an email pls reply.

Thanks alot sis.

Seen and replied accordingly.

Moshybear:
My dear that is exactly what i was thinking back then now I'm left all alone to myself. Job I no see, money I never get since graduation few years back. Posted about needing a Job here on NL. No reasonable response. I'm just tired of everything.

When I am going to work in the morning, na your mates I dey see dey sweep road and are paid, no matter how small, there is dignity in labour.

You just want who will foot your lifestyle, you are just lazy and without focus in life.

Start there first.

Onyedikachi231:


When I am going to work in the morning, na your mates I dey see dey sweep road and are paid, no matter how small, there is dignity in labour.

You just want who will foot your lifestyle, you are just lazy and without focus in life.

Start there first.

You are really crazy. Pls get out of my mention.

Nonsense.

The fact that you chose to be with a poor or broke guy as partner doesn't mean he will later make it in life. The fact you go after a rich guy doesn't mean the guy will later go broke in life.

Love will not pay your bills and you as a lady will always be at the receiving end expecially dating a broke guy so you need to chose wisely.

Move on with your life and never you attempt to give him the child whenever he shows up in the future

No you were not foolish, you only fell for the wrong person

Hoes everywhere

The world has changed a lot and you need to be real smart to get to the top.

Love is just a fleeting emotion akin to jealousy and hate, it may come and go and not enough to sustain a relationship in the long run.

I have seen good ladies who kept themselves, good Christians, married as virgins to follow Christian's, two of them are divorced now and had horrible marriages.

That you kept yourself and look for love may mean nothing in the long run.

I have seen ladies who were run girls in the school, slept with different people who are today very successful with even great marriages as we speak. They are fulfilled and living happily.

So life is not black and white and you have made the following mistakes;

1. You dated a broke student.
2. You got pregnant for him.
3. You refused to do hookup on the process.

You should have done it when you were young and fresh expecially if you are from a poor home with no support system.

You made a big mistake in school my dear, hookup is not all about sex, it's also about getting connected to move on to the next stage in life in an environment like Nigeria. Love is just a mere emotional feeling that comes and goes.

I am a man who has studied the world carefully and will give you a pragmatic advice by telling you that you made a very big mistake.

Try your best to succeed in life and if you can break a few rules without getting caught, do it.

Also you said this in one of your post

"I'm separated from my partner ( My daughters Dad) because of his gambling problem and many other things too numerous to mention"

Now, he is abroad and no longer an habitual gambler.

Moshybear:
You are really crazy. Pls get out of my mention.

Nonsense.

OK. But you never start to dey regret and suffer, more on the way if you continue on this pedestal.

Truth is bitter but must be said irrespective.

UnfairLife7:
The fact that you chose to be with a poor or broke guy as partner doesn't mean he will later make it in life. The fact you go after a rich guy doesn't mean the guy will later go broke in life.

Love will not pay your bills and you as a lady will always be at the receiving end expecially dating a broke guy so you need to chose wisely.

Move on with your life and never you attempt to give him the child whenever he shows up in the future

You are a smart guy. Even if the broke guy make it in life, there are 99% chances he would change, with the rich, what you see is what you get.

Also, regret is a wasteful emotion I never indulge in.

Moshybear:
You are really crazy. Pls get out of my mention.

Nonsense.

Why the insult?