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Drop your number make I start to call u now not when I add u to fundraising that's when you'll dragging me on Nairaland with grammar

The couples getting married probably don't know you were added.

I left the group chat

Na only funeral fundraising I'm aware of
Maybe na bcoz I never reach the age to marry sha

Op, dismiss every advice everyone is giving you. It's a no no.
People are now using committee of friends to raise wedding funds.
When I got married married I was the one that transported my committee of friends to and fro. Paid a chef. And bought drinks. My committee of friends work was to ensure that the food and drinks went round. And everything went very well. And gave them money after everything.

My brother. You're not alone in this.

I had one few weeks ago. Some dude that I didn't even know his name messaged me to introduce himself as my secondary school mate (School that I left about 16 years ago). He mentioned that his wedding was coming up soon and he wanted me to be among his wedding committee.
I asked him if he's sure he's not mistaken me for someone else?
To my amazement, dude called my name. He obviously picked my contact from the alumina chat group.
I also asked how can I help you when you don't even know which state I reside and you need me to be part of the people to organise your wedding?
Dude said, the committee will tell how I can help.
Boom, I found myself in a group. The first thing I saw was we are contributing XYZ for our brother's wedding.
I was like, just like that!
I had no prior relationship with dude and he obviously didn't know how I am surviving. He has never made an impact or whatsoever in my life, but he wanted my money.
This should be banned with an immediate effect.

CuriousCart:
If you're between 25-29 then it's common.
By 31 it will stop/reduce.

Is that age bracket for men or for women?

This happened to me for a burial fundraising.

This is commonly among some guys who have this entitlement of always needing support from people in anything they're doing.

But they don't ever do for anybody.

THEY DON'T CARE ABOUT WHATEVER SITUATION YOU MIGHT BE INTO. It has been their nature of always at the receiving side.

They're always checking up on you once you are only doing well. but if anything is going wrong with you, they will distance themselves.

Some are saying among friends and family it's normal.... there is nothing normal. Its insane. If you are offered assistance without you asking Its fine but you asking for assistance from friends and family is completely crazy.

If you like use list of contributors serve food na you sabi

IMMUNO1:
That one with burial fundraising are already normal. We are currently battling with birthday fundraising.

Birthday fundraising na women dey do am na

Idiots. Court wedding is still 50k

Seriously on the rampant, was added too recently to such group 👥 alot of people where there too to an extend that people started posting stuffs that ain't even related to objective of d group. Long story short man exited d group and had peace of mind 🌬

It's really annoying.

NwaliE01:
My brother. You're not alone in this.

I had one few weeks ago. Some dude that I didn't even know his name messaged me to introduce himself as my secondary school mate (School that I left about 16 years ago). He mentioned that his wedding was coming up soon and he wanted me to be among his wedding committee.
I asked him if he's sure he's not mistaken me for someone else?
To my amazement, dude called my name. He obviously picked my contact from the alumina chat group.
I also asked how can I help you when you don't even know which state I reside and you need me to be part of the people to organise your wedding?
Dude said, the committee will tell how I can help.
Boom, I found myself in a group. The first thing I saw was we are contributing XYZ for our brother's wedding.
I was like, just like that!
I had no prior relationship with dude and he obviously didn't know how I am surviving. He has never made an impact or whatsoever in my life, but he wanted my money.
This should be banned with an immediate effect.

Even if you do, it's still wrong.

It's not your social responsibilty to financially help anyone have a wedding.

The worst was a colleague that knew when I got married, he didn't attend and didn't give me a penny ( I didn't ask either).

Years later, I was added to his wedding fund raising group by someone and they said everyone must contribute 30k minimum.

I didn't say a word till the end. If you can't fund your wedding, do court marriage and rest, it's not by force

Shey na me and him go dey enjoy the wife ni

Somethings are best left unattended to.
Leaving the group like you said will be odd, creating this topic is unnecessary when you can easily ignore or be passive in the group.

.... Not everything we must seek an opinion about!

PHIPEX:
The worst was a colleague that knew when I got married, he didn't attend and didn't give me a penny ( I didn't ask either).

Years later, I was added to his wedding fund raising group by someone and they said everyone must contribute 30k minimum.

I didn't say a word till the end.

It's that simple.

how difficult it is to remove yourself from whatever Whatsapp group some stranger added you into?

realG101:
Sometime in February, I was replying some important whatsapp messages when I suddenly found myself added to a new whatsapp group by a random dude who has my number.

This guy added me to a group that was created for the purpose of monitory contributions for the marriage ceremony of a mutual acquaintance.

The group admin ever since has posted messages at intervals asking members of the group to contribute money for his friend's wedding.

I know the guy who is about to wed quite alright but we are not friends and I'm not sure we have even had a phone conversation together. We just see once in a while and say hello.

The guy getting married didn't even extend any wedding invite to me in person. And while I won't rule out the idea of gifting him for his wedding, I believe adding me to a group and asking me for money is absurd and annoying.

Who else has encountered this kind of situation and how did you handle it.

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Everything is not a problem.

Ever heard of "Exit group" option in WhatsApp?

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CuriousCart:
If you're between 25-29 then it's common.
By 31 it will stop/reduce.

Well, obviously cause thats like the default marriage age for majority of young Nigerians. Those who do so after 30-40 & above are mostly laggards who are already rich enough not care about contributions, matured enough to know everybody has his/her own problems to deal with or BOTH

Mjshexy:
I will excuse myself out of that group, in fact it's disrespectful and annoying for you to add me to a group without seeking my permission first.

The new features of Whatsapp has that. You can't add me to a group without my permission now.

Melagros:
COMRADES are laughing at this op
Na today you know about this trend? Wedding fundraising has been in existence in Nigeria since when I was a kid

But WhatsApp just started after blackberries now, so it's just a recent thread. even at that, why shld anyone raise funds for wedding? Are they going to return the monies when the marriage issues started coming up?

realG101:
I was really going to do this but you know Nigerians and their sentiments. They will tag you a bad Belle and start drama

I just decided to mute the group activities till it becomes defunct.

You can also exit a group without anyone noticing. New WhatsApp feature.

Emma1Oj:
Reason why before i save anyone number on my phone i must make sure the person understands friendship, relationship etiquette

Don't you folks know you can set your whatsapp so no one can add you to groups? Na wa for una o

peterboro:
This is commonly among some guys who have this entitlement of always needing support from people in anything they're doing.

But they don't ever do for anybody.

THEY DON'T CARE ABOUT WHATEVER SITUATION YOU MIGHT BE INTO. It has been their nature of always at the receiving side.

They're always checking up on you once you are only doing well. but if anything is going wrong with you, they will distance themselves.

I hate that word "trust you're doing fine" on your own you believe I'm doing fine you don't even want to check if I'm okay rubbish

Why should your friends contribute for your wedding ?

davodyguy:
Amongst friends, understandable

Lomprico2:
The new features of Whatsapp has that. You can't add me to a group without my permission now.

It is not a new feature at all. It has always been there

I encountered similar thing yrs back. I quickly exited the group.

Lomprico2:
The new features of Whatsapp has that. You can't add me to a group without my permission now.

Yes that's true