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Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by 9japride(m): 5:04am On May 27, 2024

realG101:
Sometime in February, I was replying some important whatsapp messages when I suddenly found myself added to a new whatsapp group by a random dude who has my number.

This guy added me to a group that was created for the purpose of monitory contributions for the marriage ceremony of a mutual acquaintance.

The group admin ever since has posted messages at intervals asking members of the group to contribute money for his friend's wedding.

I know the guy who is about to wed quite alright but we are not friends and I'm not sure we have even had a phone conversation together. We just see once in a while and say hello.

The guy getting married didn't even extend any wedding invite to me in person. And while I won't rule out the idea of gifting him for his wedding, I believe adding me to a group and asking me for money is absurd and annoying.

Who else has encountered this kind of situation and how did you handle it.

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But they will never add someone to a good business deal. They usually chop alone.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by sonofsteven: 5:15am On May 27, 2024

dominique:
If its amongst family members and close friends then its understandable, which one is adding acquaintances or distant relatives to fund your wedding as if they sent you to do big wedding

If you have contribute, if you don't remove yourself

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by tenry(m): 5:30am On May 27, 2024

This is common among our ibo brothers. Three cases I have experienced were from them. In fact one of them is just someone who sells electrical parts in my neighbourhood and no relationship between us other than few occasions I have patronized him and some occasions he has fixed some electrical problems in my house and get paid. There is no need for an elaborate wedding. Just do it within your means, no need to pepper them abeg.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by RickyJesus: 5:32am On May 27, 2024

donbenie:
Is that age bracket for men or for women?

Definitely for women, it's the other round for men.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by ChybuzzDD(m): 5:32am On May 27, 2024

samcolee:
I hate that word "trust you're doing fine" on your own you believe I'm doing fine you don't even want to check if I'm okay rubbish

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by ChybuzzDD(m): 5:37am On May 27, 2024

IbnB:
Check and find out it's the Ibos doing this nonsense

If GREED had a tribe it would definitely come from southeastern Nigeria

People from every Southern Nigerian state do it, you bastard son of a dirty bigot.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by ChybuzzDD(m): 5:39am On May 27, 2024

cowboyT:
Oga, stop ur tribal nonsense, even Yoruba people dey do am

You shouldn't be addressing that bastard as 'oga' in a show of respect

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by linearity: 6:02am On May 27, 2024

realG101:
I was really going to do this but you know Nigerians and their sentiments. They will tag you a bad Belle and start drama

I just decided to mute the group activities till it becomes defunct.

That is why you have to update your WhatsApp's pravacy settings so that, no one can add you to their groups in the first place.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by chatinent: 6:03am On May 27, 2024

First, any group I wasn't informed about before being added, I normally leave without explanation.

I think there's also a new settings to disable being added to random groups.

And I don't go under any pressure of doing random contributions to the wedding ceremony of people I don't know just because of "nobody knows tomorrow."

If you can't afford a big wedding , do what you can afford and stop trying to impress a whole community who only cares about the taste of your jollof rice.

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Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by bdon123(m): 6:06am On May 27, 2024

realG101:
Sometime in February, I was replying some important whatsapp messages when I suddenly found myself added to a new whatsapp group by a random dude who has my number.

This guy added me to a group that was created for the purpose of monitory contributions for the marriage ceremony of a mutual acquaintance.

The group admin ever since has posted messages at intervals asking members of the group to contribute money for his friend's wedding.

I know the guy who is about to wed quite alright but we are not friends and I'm not sure we have even had a phone conversation together. We just see once in a while and say hello.

The guy getting married didn't even extend any wedding invite to me in person. And while I won't rule out the idea of gifting him for his wedding, I believe adding me to a group and asking me for money is absurd and annoying.

Who else has encountered this kind of situation and how did you handle it.

My own is constantly family members.if u cannot afford to do big ceremony...jst do tradional n forget white wedding.why disturb ur family members for contributions to ur wedding.people should learn to live according to their means

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by Ikpunekenwa(m): 6:27am On May 27, 2024

ChizzyBuna:
Im no longer a supporter of Israel.

I just found out that Jewish people STILL HATE JESUS CHRIST AFTER 2000. YRS AGO

FVCK RIGHTEOUSNESS FOR MISLEADING ME

Head slammers on rampage, what of the ordinary Jewish vagina that kpai'd mohammed with otapiapia in lamb meat, ordinary vagina, that is under somewhere secluded with all the heat and sweat, imagine the darkness, and see you muslims have so much to think about who cursed you.
A place, where every 24-28 days, filthy blood containing ruptured flesh and congealed blood clots comes across there, that is what ended your mohammed, if I am following him, that is enough to sink me into eternal depression.

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Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by omokab: 6:54am On May 27, 2024

dominique:
If its amongst family members and close friends then its understandable, which one is adding acquaintances or distant relatives to fund your wedding as if they sent you to do big wedding

this is not a tribal war but my experience . All that have added me are my ex Igbo ladies . I have not experience this among my Yoruba friend or ex girl friends . The one one I know is within my family and I am graciously happy to be doing it . we do it to help our family members and is not only for wedding . We do it for those that need helps like school fees and to raise money for business .

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by lexy2014: 7:01am On May 27, 2024

realG101:
Sometime in February, I was replying some important whatsapp messages when I suddenly found myself added to a new whatsapp group by a random dude who has my number.

This guy added me to a group that was created for the purpose of monitory contributions for the marriage ceremony of a mutual acquaintance.

The group admin ever since has posted messages at intervals asking members of the group to contribute money for his friend's wedding.

I know the guy who is about to wed quite alright but we are not friends and I'm not sure we have even had a phone conversation together. We just see once in a while and say hello.

The guy getting married didn't even extend any wedding invite to me in person. And while I won't rule out the idea of gifting him for his wedding, I believe adding me to a group and asking me for money is absurd and annoying.

Who else has encountered this kind of situation and how did you handle it.

if someone added you to a whatapp group chat without your consent, why dont you just get out of the group chat? why are you coming to nairaland to announce it?

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by ariesbull: 7:02am On May 27, 2024

ericmor:
I raise fund for you to get married and latter caught your wife sleeping with other men. Is that not a waste of funds. It is not by force to do big wedding, introduction and registry with just family members and selected friends is ok. We like wasting money and time on irrelevant things in Nigeria

introduction isnr wedding

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by travelzcruix: 7:03am On May 27, 2024

Fundraising for wedding untop woman wey go bring another man pikin. If she does not like the marriage to be just parents, pastor and 3 representatives from each family, she should as well forget about it.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by polite2(m): 7:03am On May 27, 2024

It's absolutely nonsense..if they don't have money to marry they should just stay single

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by Resonance2019: 7:04am On May 27, 2024

ChizzyBuna:
Im no longer a supporter of Israel.

I just found out that Jewish people STILL HATE JESUS CHRIST AFTER 2000. YRS AGO

FVCK RIGHTEOUSNESS FOR MISLEADING ME

You have never been a supporter swear with Ogun lemme see something

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by CosmicJames(m): 7:19am On May 27, 2024

ChizzyBuna:
Im no longer a supporter of Israel.

I just found out that Jewish people STILL HATE JESUS CHRIST AFTER 2000. YRS AGO

FVCK RIGHTEOUSNESS FOR MISLEADING ME

Well, you don't need to Bleep RIGHTEOUSNESS. All you need is to study the Bible to know what God said in His word so no one can decieve you. There is a reason why the Israelites are not believing in Jesus Christ yet. But the time will come that they will believe and accept him.
That shouldn't be your problem.

On supporting Israel? I don't think you should stop if you really want to support them.
Why? They are still the children of Abraham and God Himself is with them because of His (God) covenant with Abraham their father.

What you are seeing today is a manifestation of God's covenant with Abraham

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by unbiased2021: 7:24am On May 27, 2024

CaptainFM1:
Don't shame us na. It's normal for family and friends to contribute towards a good course. Abi you want make dem steal ni?

If you’re not financially set to sponsor your own marriage, then you’re not ready.

Like myself, I decided to build my businesses to top class before thinking of anything marriage. I no send anybody message o, who never ready never ready.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by Orinechi: 7:27am On May 27, 2024

If u don't want to contribute, it is not by force. Stop disturbing people with ur poverty. As u do to others is how is going to be done to u. What u give to the guy will be given to u in due course. Always complaining.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by alezzy13: 7:28am On May 27, 2024

If you need fundraising to help you get married, it simply means you not ready for the institution.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by ChiefS(m): 7:54am On May 27, 2024

Mine is different.
Mine was not wedding invitation but funeral. One of my colleagues at work not close invited me to be in her committe of friends when she lost her mother. We were not close. She is in a distant department but we exchange greetings occasionally when we saw. But we have never discussed for 20; minutes before. I politely declined because things were terribly difficult for me and funeral was not in Lagos but in Anambra. There was no practical means of me attending the funeral. I noticed her attitude has significantly changed always wearing a long face.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by CrossRhodes: 7:55am On May 27, 2024

realG101:
Sometime in February, I was replying some important whatsapp messages when I suddenly found myself added to a new whatsapp group by a random dude who has my number.

This guy added me to a group that was created for the purpose of monitory contributions for the marriage ceremony of a mutual acquaintance.

The group admin ever since has posted messages at intervals asking members of the group to contribute money for his friend's wedding.

I know the guy who is about to wed quite alright but we are not friends and I'm not sure we have even had a phone conversation together. We just see once in a while and say hello.

The guy getting married didn't even extend any wedding invite to me in person. And while I won't rule out the idea of gifting him for his wedding, I believe adding me to a group and asking me for money is absurd and annoying.

Who else has encountered this kind of situation and how did you handle it.

Just archive the chat and carry on

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by CrossRhodes: 7:57am On May 27, 2024

alezzy13:
If you need fundraising to help you get married, it simply means you not ready for the institution.

People should cut their cloth according to available material.

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Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by 7demons: 8:11am On May 27, 2024

ChizzyBuna:
Im no longer a supporter of Israel.

I just found out that Jewish people STILL HATE JESUS CHRIST AFTER 2000. YRS AGO

FVCK RIGHTEOUSNESS FOR MISLEADING ME

I liked 👍 your comment because you said "Fvck righteousness".
@Righteousness fvck you too!!
And if you're down with Israel, fvck you too!
If you're down with jesus, fvck you too!
If you're down with Mohammed, fvck you too!
Any mur'fuker down with religion, fvck you too!!

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by DavidEsq(m): 8:15am On May 27, 2024

realG101:
I was really going to do this but you know Nigerians and their sentiments. They will tag you a bad Belle and start drama

I just decided to mute the group activities till it becomes defunct.

If u are living based what people would say, then u are still not yet ready to live your life

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by 7demons: 8:18am On May 27, 2024

Elsueno:
Well, obviously cause thats like the default marriage age for majority of young Nigerians. Those who do so after 30-40 & above are mostly laggards who are already rich enough not care about contributions, matured enough to know everybody has his/her own problems to deal with or BOTH

Fact! 💯

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by Fearurcreeator: 8:58am On May 27, 2024

When oyinbo dey fundraise to startup a company na wedding our youth dey fundraise for... Chei!

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by Treasure17(m): 8:58am On May 27, 2024

If you are expecting people to fund your weeding via donation or whatever, it means you are irresponsible. Marry according to your budget and let the chips fall where they may.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by CaptainFM1: 9:04am On May 27, 2024

unbiased2021:
If you’re not financially set to sponsor your own marriage, then you’re not ready.

Like myself, I decided to build my businesses to top class before thinking of anything marriage. I no send anybody message o, who never ready never ready.

Everybody will not be like you. And to each his own standard. Your standard is for yourself and not an authoritative standard for everyone.

Whenever my friends are having anything to celebrate, whether they ask for contribution or not, me and my circle of friends contribute.

As a matter of personal principle, I don't attend events or party without giving something towards that course. I don't go to party to spray money. I would rather give the money to the celebrant. And that I find comfortably to do well ahead before the party.

The world is filled with several perspectives. The lens and authority to view it doesn't reside with you alone. The fact that you don't take contributions doesn't mean it's a rock solid standard for everybody.

To the glory of God, I'm quite comfortable. Atleast I've been to all the continents of this world. So financially, I can say I'm moderately ok. Nonetheless, I don't do for myself what others can do for me. It's the spirit of camaraderie, and togetherness that's important to me and not the perceived boastfulness or feeling of pride that I single handedly do this and that.

I will leave you with this that might help you in future.
TEAM: Together Everyone Achieves More.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by descarado: 9:08am On May 27, 2024

omokab:
this is not a tribal war but my experience . All that have added me are my ex Igbo ladies . I have not experience this among my Yoruba friend or ex girl friends . The one one I know is within my family and I am graciously happy to be doing it . we do it to help our family members and is not only for wedding . We do it for those that need helps like school fees and to raise money for business .

Seriously these people, just stop.
Go and look for something to engage your life with. Nigeria has more than 50million youths. You don't see them online spewing these. They are busy out there trying to erk out living for themselves. Some come online for news and some good interactions and move on. But anybody who has time for stories like this is mostly jobless and without direction.
Agbero work dey but you have to prove your worth before uou start seeing money.

Re: Wedding Fundraisers Are Becoming A Trend In Nigeria And It's Absurd. by doggedfighter(f): 10:24am On May 27, 2024

ChizzyBuna:
Im no longer a supporter of Israel.

I just found out that Jewish people STILL HATE JESUS CHRIST AFTER 2000. YRS AGO

FVCK RIGHTEOUSNESS FOR MISLEADING ME

Hahahaha.

The funniest thing I have read today 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂

So righteousness has followers on Nairaland ? Even you ?

Cococandy said here's a strange place.
And I think this is a confirmation.

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