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Samfloxin:
How do you know she was deceived? A 23 years old lady was deceived? Anyway....

Samfloxin:
How do you know she was deceived? A 23 years old lady was deceived? Anyway....

seanwilliam:
Take it from me, sooner or later you’ll be trapped. 🪤

And why are you having scarcity mindset ?

Inosky:
This was the situation of a lady that DM few months ago. She told me she likes me and was looking for love. I asked her if she's still have feeling with the guy, she said 💯 "No".

For me, I'm not in (marry) to papa any baby mama, it would be hard to do so in Nigeria and Africa as a whole. We are not used to these stuffs like the whites, except you're wealthy and have influence. 99% percent baby mama are likely to cheat on you or even go back their ex (if he's still alive) in the guise they're visiting their kids and cheat. I have seen where this happened and have watched a lot of films where it happened.
Let me add this, it is better to legally take custody of the kids she birthed entirely if you wish to marry any baby mama. By this, you have solved 98% of the future problems that may arise.

Generally, the condition of any lady being a baby mama matters. Was she rãped? Did her husband die? Or she was open and decided to have a kid by spreading her legs because of the sweetness of sëx and saying she was deceived? The first two are manageable reasons to accommodate but require legal backing to solidify such in case you're going in for a marriage purpose, while the second part is deceiving, could be 99% lies as long as the man in question is still very much alive and you might just be a tool they want to use.

Don't be deceived, use your head if you're embarking on such journey. Just be careful and study her before you jump in with her.

nkemjacob2:
she got deceived by a guy that promised her marriage 5 years ago. She was ignorant then. But the guy still takes care of the boy. But they are no more

nkemjacob2:
she got deceived by a guy that promised her marriage 5 years ago. She was ignorant then. But the guy still takes care of the boy. But they are no more

Trill1:
You Should value your time.

HardMirror:
that child is the problem. If you love complicated relationships, go ahead and marry a single mother. It is always best to start your own family. It is better to adopt a kid than have a single mother wife. It always gets complicated than it should.

LaSenior:
lies lies love has lost it's value

This is not a matter of love. That Baby might still love the Baby daddy more than him sef

RevenuesBoost:
It's possible

I know someone that went through similar issue.
She was lied to by the guy that he got a job and a car and he is ready to settle down.
Meanwhile, the car belonged to his uncle and he was jobless and lived with his uncle.
He even spends money on her like he isn't broke. As soon as she got pregnant, he told her to abort the baby, she refused, so the truth came out.


She got pregnant at 23 now married to another man.
Any man that loves you wouldn't care if you got a kid or not.

nkemjacob2:
she got deceived by a guy that promised her marriage 5 years ago. She was ignorant then. But the guy still takes care of the boy. But they are no more

Emu4u2c:
I'm in one currently.. I love the girl but she is all shade of wrong and every Day I see reasons why everyone is against single mothers...One thing I observed about the single mother in my care..She fights me and disrespects me but you should see the respect she gives to the baby daddy...gets me confused then Why didn't he cope with her bad character..And believe me sometimes I feel like I'm her dump load where she off-loads all her rubbish...Why am I still in such relationship?.. Well I have access to free kitten why it last....I won't say I'm a Red piller..no.. but at least I'm not mentally and emotionally locked to her...so I'm taking advantage of the situation...Are we getting married?.... That's Left for God to decide and well I'm awaiting his direction but I will enjoy the moment while it last

nkemjacob2:
U took porn poster as an advice.

G0odharddick:
Don't be silly. God cannot decide for you.

Oga, dump that single mother now before it's too late. FYI, single mothers fear and respect their baby daddies alot more than any guy they meet. Their baby daddies have access to them anytime he wishes.

Single mothers are toxic. Dump her now. Don't allow her to use her kpekpus to tie you down

BarrElChapo:
Sorry for your experience. Hope you’re doing better now?

nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes

Emu4u2c:
Una know even know sarcasm

G0odharddick:
Nothing like sarcasm there.

You claim you're just banging her pussy whereas she's the one using you to satisfy her sexual urges, with the Numerous Billings she has given you.

Na the single mother just dey use you

Lovit:
Werey

CaptainFM1:
The question I have for you is: Can you not find a single girl without any issue?

I'm sure this is one question your relatives will ask you first!

osazsky:
so it was because of the job and car that made her fall in love with him..immediately she discovered that there was no car her true character came out and they parted ways

HardMirror:
women be talking emotional rubbish. These ones follow money and cars.

osazsky:
so it was because of the job and car that made her fall in love with him..immediately she discovered that there was no car her true character came out and they parted ways

luminouz:
Your last statement is rubbish.

So any woman who loves you won't care if you have a child as a man or you are very broke? Answer that so I can cook you well today.

RevenuesBoost:
Your comment isn't sensible.

A child is a barrier in love and marriage.

Why will will you speak of marriage as a man when you are not financially stable?

Will your kids eat grass?

This is the highest level of irresponsibility!

You claim you're the head so where's the proof when you're broke.

Men gets intimidated by independent women, that's why they lie about their Financial status most of the time.

The woman in the story isn't a broke lady.
She didn't leave, the man did because the woman wasn't ready to give in to abortion.
I love the woman's courage, thank God she later got married to a more sensible and deserving man.

Men that can't handle responsibility, runs away from it.

luminouz:
You clearly don't have sênse! She is not broke but went to marry 'a sensible and deserving' man for what? To
To pray for her? Mumu!! So what exactly makes the new guy deserving? That he could marry an after-1 and foot their bills? That dude is not sensible and far from deserving. Na simp he be.
Now you are adding bonuses to your story to make it seem legit after I called you out. Oh we know how the game goes and we don't give a fuq as men. All that sob-story shiit is for the birds. You are either a baby mama yourself or you have one in your family, hence your lopsided defence. We don't want your type and the man who married that girl in your story is a simp. He will pay bills and cater for a kid he won't ever be able to discipline or scold and who automatically becomes his oldest child? Tufiakwa. I just imagine what war would start on the future between the real kids and the one mama brought in from outside.

Just go away from here with your mumu analysis or dog will bite you this week and your revenue won't boost but sink and shatter...

RevenuesBoost:
😂😂😂
Comedian!

I've never seen a lazy, irresponsible and brainless individual, not until now😂

Let me shock you small
👇👇👇

Darianboy4u:
I know you've been bombarded with a lot of advice. However, i will STRONGLY ADVICE you to add this very one to the top 5 on ground:

GET THE NUMBER OF THE FATHER OF THE BABY

SIT HIM DOWN

&

BEG HIM TO TELL YOU EVERYTHING HE KNOWS ABOUT THE BABY MAMA AND WHY HE LEFT HER (don't rely alone on what the baby mama told you).

Good luck.

LastProphet:
stop listening to advice from a failed society

FRANCISTOWN:
This advice is also coming from that "failed" society.

lesson44:
If you love her,please follow your heart. Baby mama has never been a drag on any woman until this present generation of Nigerians. I am 52 years old , I know what I am talking about here.
Don’t listen to side talk. Do what makes you happy.

immortalcrown:
How old was she when it happened?

She was not deceived. She is not a rational adult. If you don't mind having an irrational wife, go ahead to marry her. The choice is yours but be ready for the consequences of your choices.

I am not saying she is evil or wicked. I am not saying she cannot change for good. My point is that she was and is still an irrational adult. If she has changed for good, she would have taken responsibility of her past actions instead of claiming that she was deceived. Stop believing that she was deceived. I can bet that she was not deceived. But if you think she was actually deceived, tell us the full story of how the deception happened.