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This OP mumu oooooo!!!
Guy, begin to wear skirt because you're not qualified to be called a man. If toto just tight, una go dey mumu unaselves

Blackman5844:
I met this girl on a app, we vibe, our talking stage does not last up to 3 weeks before we started dating, we were in the same school, she cook different dishes for me, send me her cooked food if she's not at my place. She gave me her phone password herself, she came clean and I fell deeply in love.

Afer one month of our relationship things was going smoothly until one day she asked me to do something on her phone and I saw a video of her on her gallery, she did the video in a guy car. I asked her she said it's her memory on snap, I told her to open her snap so I can confirm, immediately she confess and told me she went out with a friend that the guy ask her to help to buy something in the market. (And I confirmed the road, it's a market road). I believed her and I moved on. And since that day I always pretend that I forgot her password.
Fastward, after second month of our dating it was my birthday. She bought gift for me she spent almost 60k, (she was in her final year ) I was wowed because no girl has ever done that for me. But before my birthday I have spent more than x3 of that for her. In btw she call me a lover boy that no one has ever loved her the way I do.
Fastward to the next month, it was the month we will have a break on school, she started getting strict with her phone, I told her to open her phone, she insist and she told me she doesn't want me to get jealous that she had friends she used to call baby, I wasn't Cool with that and that got me thinking and overthinking. But I'm deeply in love. After some days she would not want to have sex with me, she later told me they had a vision to her that she should not have sex for now, i asked her till when she said when she get parent home she will know. Well I believed her and move on.
She went home and it was coming to the end of the month, and In our talking stage she told me her dad can't say no, because we have differences in religion and she made it clear to me that religion differences can't stop her from getting married to me.
So when she went home she called me and told me that " sometimes we don't always get what we want" that in my relationship with her, her dad might not approve it and she doesn't want to stop having me around her, that she's not breaking up but she's just letting me know. I felt a pain in my heart, I was like what is this. We talked and I moved on. But I started having mixed feelings, so I got a new number and I sent her a message as a customer so she can add the number up on Whatsapp.

She came back to school early the next month and it was her birthday month. I bought her a bone straight hair ( she told me that was the first time a guy will buy her a bone straight). But I have bought her the hair few days to her birthday. She slept at my place a day before her birthday. On her birthday she went to her side and she told me she wanted to go out with her female friends, which I know them. (So that night before she left my place she straightened that bone straight I bought for her on my head. ) she left In the morning.
So i opened what'sapp number she added as a customer started monitoring her status and comparing it with my main WhatsApp account she knows. I started see differences in her post. She lied, she went out with a guy... She blocked me on my main WhatsApp from seeing all the sensitive pictures she posted. ( The guy gave her flower, she snapped in the guys car, and took her on a date). Around 7:30pm I called her pretending asking her how is her outing going with her friends, shey answer it's going well, I told her to flip the camera that I wanted to see her friends she hang up. I called her back she went to the restroom to pick the call, she gaslighted me, I ended the call.
Around 9pm I called her she won't pick, I called severally, she didn't pick. She later sent me a message on Whatsapp that her phone is about to die that we will talk the following day and she says goodnight.
The following morning, I called her and I asked her to meet me in school. I showed her a recording of her status, she was shocked and I broke up with her immediately. I left her and I went home. On my way home she started calling severally I picked and she said " did I come to disgrace her in front of her friends" I sweared for her, and hang up and she later call me that night telling me it was a male friend she knew before we met that theres nothing btw them, that since i said I'm not going to take her out on her birthday, that the guy offered and she can't tell me, that is just normal friend date and that she slept at her place that night.
The love I have for her was controlling me, I really do love her dearly, after like 5 relationships, I met her and everything changed I fell in love deeply, she's the only one that mealt my heart.
After a lot of begging I took her back, but my trust getting more deteriorate, I started checking her phone in the midnight whenever she was asleep. I did my findings very well and I deduce she went out with her ex..
Immediately I started feeling she's using me to get over the hearth break she got from her ex, (because she told me in taking stage how she cried almost 3 months when she broke up with her ex, and I asked her then and she said she's over it , that she moved on already )
I didn't confront her immediately I was playing along, so I went deep in my findings and I find out she has been talking to her ex before she went home for holiday and her ex was the one who she followed to the market. And towards the period she was at home they stated calling themselves on video call. (So I deduce the reason why she told me "we don't always get what we want something times" that her dad might not allow us to get married)
So after some days I confronted her and she confess that it was her ex she went out with. And she told me that the guy is traveling out of the country and he wanted to go on a last date with her that nothing happened btw them.
Fastward, I was still checking her phone in the midnight time to time. Her ex traveled, and she deleted his number from her phone. I was shocked when I saw that I didn't know the reason why she did that. For like 2 weeks she they won't talk, whenever they talk it's just hi how are you doing.
So I confronted her and I told her everything she has been doing, she told me she made that mistake of going out with her ex that I should forgive her, that she doesn't know what she was doing, that the guy really messed up with her.
So I wanted to know if she slept at her ex place on her birthday night, so I lied to her that I cheated on her with my ex, and she confess that she slept at her ex place and they had sex twice, and that he forced the guy to use condom (lol). And she begged that she made a terrible mistake that she thinks they will get back together. Because it's barely two months we started dating that she doesn't know if I'm serious with her. And that she's not a cheater that she's in a state of dilemma then. I asked her to block her ex she did immediately. The ex messaged her with another number after 3 days she blocked him, her ex told her to have a good life that he sees that he blocked him, she said she deleted the message with the number with no reply.
My whole findings and everything took up to 4 months now we are 7 months together.
I broke up with her last week she started begging and crying that I should give her a second chance and she promised I will not regret it that she really do love me. I told her the level of the trust I have for her has reduced. she asked me what can she do to amend things and she wants to prove herself.

Questions
1. If it was you can you forgive her and give her a second chance? If not, please give reasons.
2. And if you have ever given your gf a second chance, does it work out ? .

Thanks In advance for your honest response.

you are spending your parents money to buy a bone straight for a girl, both of you are wicked

You are spending 7 months to investigate a Nigerian lady, how many months do you spend to investigate how you can really make it in life


Face your studies, come out with a good grade and do better for yourself.

Nigerian lady will Bleep any Guy with a car, you should know you are just a second option to the lady. And her ex have more money that you.. so hustle to make yourself better and leave girl matters for now

AcadaWriter:
God forbid make i read this simp epistle

You mean Simpistle

Namaster:
First of all, my advice is NOT for OP because he seems determined to be a WOMAN WRAPPER.

Listen guys:

A woman CONFESSED to OP that he was her second choice and he's still acting all confused and dazed.

The girl told literally told him that she thought her ex-BF wanted to rekindle their failed relationship. And that's she LIED to him and STOPPED having sex with him.

This EVIL girl used God to lie to the OP. That some pastor or prophet had a vision that she shouldn't have sex for now and the fOOL believed it.

Meanwhile, she was getting VIGOROUSLY dicked down by her ex-BF while confessing to OP that no one has ever loved her the way he did.

OP is a FOOL for love. Don't be like OP.

Another thing to take note is that whenever you feel jealous, NEVER let any useless girl convince you that you are insecure or immature.

Jealousy is an EVOLUTIONARY trait that evolved to help you detect infidelity and mate poachers. When you get jealous, know that something is WRONG.

Finally, men need to understand the concept of TRICKLE TRUTH.

That's what happened to OP here. Women will NEVER admit to the full extent of their infidelity. That's why they go crazy at the mention of DNA tests.

Instead, they'll feed you little bits of the truth. If you continue to push, they'll tell another truth that's not as bad as what they actually did.

Take OP situation for example:

Before she was caught, girl first admitted to helping a "male friend" to go to the market.

When she was caught, she admitted she went on a date with a guy.

Then she admitted that she went on a date with her ex.

Then she admitted to having sex with her ex.

Then she admitted to only having sex with her ex TWICE.

Then she admitted to FORCING him to use condoms.

Finally, she admitted to having sex with her ex because she was going to leave OP to be in a relationship with him.

You'll notice her admission comes in "trickles" with each successful trickle WORSE than the last.

The objective is to DOWNPLAY their unfaithfulness as something minor. And ALL of them do it.

I messed up I know and you people can call me a simp, but actually I think there's one time in once life that you will fall in love. I dated so many girls before her, I used to break up with any slight mistakes.

Although I allowed my emotions to control me because I fell in love with her, she spent on me and made me feel so loved that I haven't experienced before (lol) she will live in my apartment for months, without receiving any male calls, he phone will not be on dnd or airplane, she made me feel I found a priceless gem.

When I found about everything she's doing and got the fact she started begging and telling stories that she doesn't know what she was doing bla bla.

Thanks for your honest response, I learnt my lesson .

Stenewiser:
Oboy you get energy oo, waking up by midnight to check a girl's phone, when she's comfortably sleeping.
All because you want to monopolise a pussy.
She wear your bone straight go collect dick, what else defines wickedness if not this, Why do I feel you're the cause of Nigeria's problem.

That's more than wickedness, she disrespected me, ah omoh, she will tell me I'm the first person that care so much about her, I'm this I'm that. She played her game so well.

Uchenna10:
Baba pls move on o,I've dated such girl before.... she already knows you're weak,and she's using you already..pls block her and move on pls.

Yes she knows im weak for her, now she's pressuring me to invest in her business, she dey give me billing everyday. She wanted me to buy a bag worth 50k her in exchange for sex (someone that said she doesn't want to have sex for now ) , that I can lodge her and Bleep her till dawn. Lol

drnoel:
Na wah for people. I mean with the way the exchange rate is right now, I find it impossible to believe that some people have time and expense to spare for an unfaithful partner.
That lady is just using you to spare time. Once what she wants comes, she will litter you. Am sure you know that. So for the time she is wth you cut your share but don't give your heart. Be nice, friendly and generous to her as much as you want for the time she stays with you. Use condom so she don't give you disease. Never give your heart.

If I didn't create that time to find out, I will still be in the dark right now eating her lies. I will not know the kind of girl I'm dating. I'm giving her space and also cutting my share right now and I'm not giving her my money.
And I believe the reason she's till with me is that she knows, she doesn't lack anything from me. And I know if I stop giving her money and caring for her she will go

Auxtan:
Second chances only makes things worst.

Your trust for her has already been broken and nothing can change that.

As it stands, you can't stop second guessing her every move and that's because you don't trust her.

And lastly, she might be materialistic, and it's just a matter of meeting another guy that will spend more on her before she's back to cheating on you again.

Move on for good. It will hurt but you will be fine las las.

I really appreciate your honest response.

Blackman5844:
Yes she knows im weak for her, now she's pressuring me to invest in her business, she dey give me billing everyday. She wanted me to buy a bag worth 50k her in exchange for sex (someone that said she doesn't want to have sex for now ) , that I can lodge her and Bleep her till dawn. Lol

Ask yourself, is her disjointed and overused kpekus worth 50k?

Blackman5844:
I messed up I know and you people can call me a simp, but actually I think there's one time in once life that you will fall in love. I dated so many girls before her, I used to break up with any slight mistakes.

Although I allowed my emotions to control me because I fell in love with her, she spent on me and made me feel so loved that I haven't experienced before (lol) she will live in my apartment for months, without receiving any male calls, he phone will not be on dnd or airplane, she made me feel I found a priceless gem.

When I found about everything she's doing and got the fact she started begging and telling stories that she doesn't know what she was doing bla bla.

Thanks for your honest response, I learnt my lesson .

did you really learn your lesson because from the way you type it seems you dont have the stomach to end things finally finally with her.

mehn i am really sorry for you, you have fallen very deeply for her and she knows it that is why she is playing you without remorse.

The best thing you can do for yourself and your family is to let go, you cant do that at once but gradually because of the level of love you have for her, the honest truth here is the babe doesn't love you and she is a serial cheat don't let anyone bobo you into thinking you can forgive her and you guys will have the best life because that will never happen.

she does not love you and rate you, for your peace of mind never you consider forgiving her because that will be the end of you and your peace of mind.

i know my advise to you will be a waste because you are a lover boy but i really hope you take it.

bless

Blackman5844:
Yes she knows im weak for her, now she's pressuring me to invest in her business, she dey give me billing everyday. She wanted me to buy a bag worth 50k her in exchange for sex (someone that said she doesn't want to have sex for now ) , that I can lodge her and Bleep her till dawn. Lol

Pls just avoid her.....let it be as if u never met her.

Blackman5844:
If I didn't create that time to find out, I will still be in the dark right now eating her lies. I will not know the kind of girl I'm dating. I'm giving her space and also cutting my share right now and I'm not giving her my money.
And I believe the reason she's till with me is that she knows, she doesn't lack anything from me. And I know if I stop giving her money and caring for her she will go

Then enjoy it while it lasts. Enjoy it all and get her out of your system. If you don't when she goes you will start having heart pains from what must have been. That what must have been would eat any person alive. It's not a place you want to be in.

I just pity ur mental health
Cox am sure it's messed up now,try to heal from the heartbreak Cox I know u re experiencing one .
U got Involved with some1 more experienced than u,nd she's very manipulative

Girls met on dating app re red flags

Auxtan:
You must be a son of a very wise man

Yes,am sure he has dealt with a lot of women.cox all he said up there re proven facts

Blackman5844:
I really appreciate your honest response.

I understand how you feel man. Don't mind Nairaland trolls who don't understand that sometimes experiences like this only builds a stronger and a better person.

I am guessing this is your first time falling deeply in love with someone, because it has a way of bringing out the foolishness in us.

But relax, you will become a much better man in your next relationship and you will learn to do things differently.

And lastly, never spend this much on a girl you haven't called a wife.

Blackman5844:
I messed up I know and you people can call me a simp, but actually I think there's one time in once life that you will fall in love. I dated so many girls before her, I used to break up with any slight mistakes.

Although I allowed my emotions to control me because I fell in love with her, she spent on me and made me feel so loved that I haven't experienced before (lol) she will live in my apartment for months, without receiving any male calls, he phone will not be on dnd or airplane, she made me feel I found a priceless gem.

When I found about everything she's doing and got the fact she started begging and telling stories that she doesn't know what she was doing bla bla.

Thanks for your honest response, I learnt my lesson .

Op dont mind those people insulting you.

I have been there. I have played woth several girls, but fell inove with girl i am currentely dating. Many red flags but i just ignore.

Now i choose to block her for my peace of mind.

Omoh😂😂😂😂😂