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linecrosser:
2022:

January to March, nothing really happened. But as I was approaching the month of May, the month I was meant to give birth to my baby, I started feeling sad. Thank God I didn't slip into depression, coupled with the fact that I usually see other people that we got pregnant at the same time giving birth to healthy babies. Why didn't my own stay. It wasn't easy but I survived.

I sometimes make a joke about it that maybe the baby doesn't want to come to Nigeria.

During that period, people were just giving birth around me, I was hopeful and still hopeful.

December 2022, I decided I was not going to put myself under any pressure. It's the end of the year, there's a tendency for you to feel oh, this year has gone again. Christmas and New year was like normal day to me, I didn't attach any special event to it. Abeg I need my mental health.

I will not wish losing a baby for my enemy. It's an unpleasant experience. Thank God for His mercies. People will think that is it not just pregnancy, you will have another one. A friend called me sometimes ago and we got talking, he said 'I thought you are strong', I said I thought I was strong too. God is my strength.

Please always check on people, don't assume they've gotten over it, some of them still cry in their closet, they will come out and laugh with you, go inside and cry again. Be nice to people please. This is one of the lessons I've learnt this period.

Some say, I don't know how he/she will take it if I talk about it, there's a way you will talk to people that they will appreciate you. Some people around you are lonely and in the midst of people, please check on them.





I'm not a good writer, please manage my English.

It is well my sister. Sorry about your experience at the hospital. Naija hospital is the worse! No empathy and low competence. Yet nobody holds them accountable.

You could have waited another two weeks or so to see if your body would expel it without an infection. After all, your pregnancy hormone was steadily declining....no be everybody dey get the infection.

Anyways, on to your strong healthy viable baby next! You will kukuma carry him. But pls give your body rest and try to get to the bottom of why you kept losing them. Besides, do you know that our body renews itself after a while if we take the right care? May God bless you and yours. It is well.

sisisioge:
It will end in joy surely....my friend did for a while but her journey ended when she consulted with the IG doctor. It was like a dream. All the time spent in waiting, all the monthly heartbreaks and money spent....she ended up with a son that changed her name. I feel for TTC sisters, the experience is so draining! May God grace every home expecting babies with the joy o.....it is well.

I follow @mdpeoplesdoctor on Instagram and she is really good. I wish the Op can contact her. I pray God answers her prayers soon too like he did your friend.

sisisioge:
It is well my sister. Sorry about your experience at the hospital. Naija hospital is the worse! No empathy and low competence. Yet nobody holds them accountable.

You could have waited another two weeks or so to see if your body would expel it without an infection. After all, your pregnancy hormone was steadily declining....no be everybody dey get the infection.

Anyways, on to your strong healthy viable baby next! You will kukuma carry him. But pls give your body rest and try to get to the bottom of why you kept losing them. Besides, do you know that our body renews itself after a while if we take the right care? May God bless you and yours. It is well.

Hmmm..
When I go to hospitals, I always pray that God's hand will come on the doctor o. Just simple evacuation, the way the doctor was reacting in the theatre sef and one of the nurses.... Health is wealth.
People don't know what they enjoy when they get pregnant and deliver easily

kristana:
I follow @mdpeoplesdoctor on Instagram and she is really good. I wish the Op can contact her. I pray God answers her prayers soon too like he did your friend.

Thank you for this information

So my brother in-law's wife put to birth some months ago(DH is a twin, he got married a year after our wedding).

When the wife put to birth, I took breakfast to the hospital, we got talking and DH said I won't stay long because I'm going for extra lesson that Saturday.

My mother in law's reply was that I should reduce stress, I should always rest on Saturday. When we left the hospital I asked my husband if he hasn't seen people selling in traffic that are pregnant, I don't believe going to lesson on Saturday mean anything.

I like working o, I can't stay idle. I need to make more money.

So, I'm here after a year of writing everything. Still patiently waiting. A lot have happened this one year. Sometimes I feel down and alone, work place issues and all those things.
But something happened at the beginning of this year. The first bible study I went for, we were told to cast our care on God, and I did. This has really helped me. I feel more calm, I pray and I confess God's promises.

The thing is, I believe this waiting period is a seed time and a time to develop myself. If I'm busy with positive things, I won't find myself thinking or feeling down. Sometimes I use all those things that I've been able to get to console myself. At least I'm not idle.

I've learnt how to drive
As a teacher, I've developed the aspect of coding and robotics, I've grown in my career.
Most importantly I'm learning fashion designing. I'm able to sew beautiful dresses for myself now. I'm very happy with this.
While I'm still waiting, I'm looking at changing from an educator to a tech guru. So help me God. I've started learning web development.
I don't know where I'll need all these skills.

Although waiting period is not an easy period,but I believe this phase will eventually end, I don't want this time to be wasted, Iso I'll add value to myself by God's help.
I'm also looking at going into buying shares, but I've not learnt anything on that.
I'm not close to where I'm going, but I'm taking a step at a time

My dear relax and allow God's will to manifest there are people that gave birth an slowpoke and a child that is incomplete or rather died during the process of child birth too.

All things are being in place just pray and relax for yours to come at your best favour with no issue because give birth to a lame child will tarnish your image more than now u haven't gotten any ...

God is a game change 💪
Relax and hope you and your husband has gone for compatibility test too??
If YED and no problem then the time is not here then ..

linecrosser:
So, I'm here after a year of writing everything. Still patiently waiting. A lot have happened this one year. Sometimes I feel down and alone, work place issues and all those things.
But something happened at the beginning of this year. The first bible study I went for, we were told to cast our care on God, and I did. This has really helped me. I feel more calm, I pray and I confess God's promises.

The thing is, I believe this waiting period is a seed time and a time to develop myself. If I'm busy with positive things, I won't find myself thinking or feeling down. Sometimes I use all those things that I've been able to get to console myself. At least I'm not idle.

I've learnt how to drive
As a teacher, I've developed the aspect of coding and robotics, I've grown in my career.
Most importantly I'm learning fashion designing. I'm able to sew beautiful dresses for myself now. I'm very happy with this.
While I'm still waiting, I'm looking at changing from an educator to a tech guru. So help me God. I've started learning web development.
I don't know where I'll need all these skills.

Although waiting period is not an easy period,but I believe this phase will eventually end, I don't want this time to be wasted, Iso I'll add value to myself by God's help.
I'm also looking at going into buying shares, but I've not learnt anything on that.
I'm not close to where I'm going, but I'm taking a step at a time

God will see you through ma

You will carry your own babies too


Don't give up

2025,still waiting patiently. Sometimes the journey is tough, sometimes you take each day as it comes. But I'm still alive and showing strong. Crying inside the house, but showing up outside as strong as I can.
This journey has made me tender, I don't judge people again and I'm more sensitive to people around me .
I believe I'm getting stronger everyday.

As a teacher in a British school, my holiday starts next week till September. Please can anyone suggest business idea. I want to make more money and also distract myself. I don't want to cry all through this holiday.

linecrosser:
2025,still waiting patiently.

There are a lot more options for waiting mothers now. Try and explore those and also get your husband to run tests if he hasn’t done so. You can also look into adoption.

Yea, going in for IUI soon ...

linecrosser:
Yea, going in for IUI soon ...

God Will give you Doubles Blessings 🙏🙏

linecrosser:
2025,still waiting patiently. Sometimes the journey is tough, sometimes you take each day as it comes. But I'm still alive and showing strong. Crying inside the house, but showing up outside as strong as I can.
This journey has made me tender, I don't judge people again and I'm more sensitive to people around me .
I believe I'm getting stronger everyday.

As a teacher in a British school, my holiday starts next week till September. Please can anyone suggest business idea. I want to make more money and also distract myself. I don't want to cry all through this holiday.

Never let anything take away your joy, please. Many times, we become so focused on what we don’t yet have that we forget to appreciate the things we do have. The truth is, even when your prayers are answered, there will always be something else you’ll want, and the cycle continues.

Life will always come with challenges, but how we respond to them makes all the difference. Many people who once cried endlessly for something eventually got it, only to realise it wasn’t worth all the pain and worry. Yes, children are a blessing, but they’re not the solution to any problem or emptiness you feel. They are not meant to fill a void you created within yourself. That emptiness can only be filled by focusing on what truly matters and finding peace within.

linecrosser:
Yea, going in for IUI soon ...

It might be better to just go for IVF or simply continue to wait and enjoy your life. The effectiveness of IUI is too dependent on several male-related and female-related infertility issues. By effectiveness, I’m referring to just about a 15% success rate per cycle, even at the best fertility centres around the world. So, you might need to go through around 3 to 4 cycles to even get a 50–60% chance of success.

Worse still, most of the diagnoses regarding fertility issues are merely guesswork. Today, a woman with PCOS is having a baby through natural conception, while another woman can't. So, please stop stressing yourself and focus on what truly matters. I understand that, as humans, we have been programmed by what I call environmental forces to keep pursuing what we don't have. But trust me, these forces never stop, and their goal has never been to give you joy, but rather to keep pushing you to find "wetin nor lost" in the first place.

My sister the Lord is your strength!
Don't let this phase of temptation in your life shake your faith in God. Believe this year you'll take in and give birth to a healthy baby next year.

Acidosis:
Never let anything take away your joy, please. Many times, we become so focused on what we don’t yet have that we forget to appreciate the things we do have. The truth is, even when your prayers are answered, there will always be something else you’ll want, and the cycle continues.

Life will always come with challenges, but how we respond to them makes all the difference. Many people who once cried endlessly for something eventually got it, only to realise it wasn’t worth all the pain and worry. Yes, children are a blessing, but they’re not the solution to any problem or emptiness you feel. They are not meant to fill a void you created within yourself. That emptiness can only be filled by focusing on what truly matters and finding peace within.




It might be better to just go for IVF or simply continue to wait and enjoy your life. The effectiveness of IUI is too dependent on several male-related and female-related infertility issues. By effectiveness, I’m referring to just about a 15% success rate per cycle, even at the best fertility centres around the world. So, you might need to go through around 3 to 4 cycles to even get a 50–60% chance of success.

Worse still, most of the diagnoses regarding fertility issues are merely guesswork. Today, a woman with PCOS is having a baby through natural conception, while another woman can't. So, please stop stressing yourself and focus on what truly matters. I understand that, as humans, we have been programmed by what I call environmental forces to keep pursuing what we don't have. But trust me, these forces never stop, and their goal has never been to give you joy, but rather to keep pushing you to find "wetin nor lost" in the first place.

Thank you. I've tried to put my mind off it. And it really worked for me at some point. But sometimes pressure from environment and all can make you feel sad.

I think I'll just go back to putting my mind off it and get something to distract myself

teresafaith:
My sister the Lord is your strength!
Don't let this phase of temptation in your life shake your faith in God. Believe this year you'll take in and give birth to a healthy baby next year.

Thank you

May God grant you your heart's desires op.. you will smile before the end of this year Amen🙏

May God grant your heart desires, my friend who got married in 2013 had a baby boy last month, it ended in praise. Passed through a lot in these years- miscarriages, still birth still God came through for her.

Don't lose hope soonest your bundle of joy will arrive. You will laugh.

Acidosis:
Never let anything take away your joy, please. Many times, we become so focused on what we don’t yet have that we forget to appreciate the things we do have. The truth is, even when your prayers are answered, there will always be something else you’ll want, and the cycle continues.

Life will always come with challenges, but how we respond to them makes all the difference. Many people who once cried endlessly for something eventually got it, only to realise it wasn’t worth all the pain and worry. Yes, children are a blessing, but they’re not the solution to any problem or emptiness you feel. They are not meant to fill a void you created within yourself. That emptiness can only be filled by focusing on what truly matters and finding peace within.




It might be better to just go for IVF or simply continue to wait and enjoy your life. The effectiveness of IUI is too dependent on several male-related and female-related infertility issues. By effectiveness, I’m referring to just about a 15% success rate per cycle, even at the best fertility centres around the world. So, you might need to go through around 3 to 4 cycles to even get a 50–60% chance of success.

Worse still, most of the diagnoses regarding fertility issues are merely guesswork. Today, a woman with PCOS is having a baby through natural conception, while another woman can't. So, please stop stressing yourself and focus on what truly matters. I understand that, as humans, we have been programmed by what I call environmental forces to keep pursuing what we don't have. But trust me, these forces never stop, and their goal has never been to give you joy, but rather to keep pushing you to find "wetin nor lost" in the first place.

Spoken well!
@IUI many fertility doctors suggest it just to get some money from you, though they know the chances are sooo slim. They really chop my friend's money on IUI until they went for consultation at another hospital.

May God grant your heart desires @ Linecrosser. St Ives does promos on IVF. You can follow their IG page to keep up with them and know when they start. Wishing you the best in 2025.

If you can conceive naturally without stress, you don't know what God has done for you. My prayer goes out to all expectant women out there. The divine mandate of God for mankind is "be fruitful and multiply" and may it be fulfilled by His mercies, in Jesus' name.

NoToPile:
May God grant your heart desires, my friend who got married in 2013 had a baby boy last month, it ended in praise. Passed through a lot in these years- miscarriages, still birth still God came through for her.

Don't lose hope soonest your bundle of joy will arrive. You will laugh.

Thank you

Sometimes you feel alone and lonely, especially when everyone around you is getting pregnant easily and it seems you are the only one remaining. I complained tomy husband one day and he reminded me of a popular quote in front of a school close to my house. " when good things are happening to people around you, it means God is in the neighborhood, rejoice with them because you are the next".
I believe in this, I believe everything I'm doing will work for me. I believe my testimony is near.
This journey isn't for the weak, but it's making my heart tender daily, understanding people more. I no longer judge people again, I try to understand them, think probably they are going through something that's why they behave the way they behave.

Please stop judging people, you don't know what they are going through.