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Filmdirect:
You men never fail to amaze. Why do you take a single experience and crucify ALL women?

u women do it too....I'm sure uve heard "all men are scum"....besides these generalized statement are just statements pple make when they are shocked or surprised..that doesn't mean they think all men or women are bad... u women take things too serious.....but when ur gender does same ...... u justify it....

Filmdirect:
If you picked a woman that doesn’t love you (assuming the story is true), then look yourself in the mirrror. No woman will suddenly change and become a hater if she was kind and loving hearted from the beginning.

people actually change, people take their partner for granted....trying to paint sur gender as saints is not only wrong but wickedly bias...yet u women don't do this when ur sons and male relatives are involved...

Filmdirect:
Some men get women that they sense don’t really love them and in loving the chase, do everything to win her. Like it’s a game of ego of sorts.

since when did chasing a woman that might be playing hard to get become a crime ?? How do u women do it, be with someone u don't love...fvck him, take gifts from him?? How about telling ur gender to stop marrying who they don't love for greed and living bills free.?...u can't be manipulating someone from ur gain and still put all the blame on ur victim

Filmdirect:
And finally when you decide to pick a woman and regret it, don’t pick up your whip against ALL females. Every female is not the one you have. No human gender is homologous.

"All men are cheats".....u probably agree but don't want it the other way round

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Do not judge every lady base on your wife attitude towards you

Is she pregnant?

Call her family and tell them everything, also let them know that if it continued, you might be forced to go your separate ways.

I hate when sincere and loyal people are being treated badly. I was treated badly and betrayed by two people that I cared so much about, I cried, begged God for mercy and swore never to be that kind of person again.

If your wife don dey misbehave don get another man wey the service her.then but it at the back of your mind either your marriage or your life is on a countdown.
wife wey dey cheat if her husband survive up to 10years my boda na grace

Namaster:
"She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me."

That's a NEW dick speaking through your wife. You wife started tasting a new dick a couple of months ago and that's when it started.

She only asked you to stay because the new dick knows she's a LovePeddler and will not have anything serious with her. He'll fuuuck the shit out of her, though.

The fact that you stayed after being told to your face that you are no different from FAECES to her shows you have ZERO respect for yourself.

You have NO boundaries. So get ready for MORE. She'll start BEATING you soon.

You are the WET dream of abusive whores—an introvert with LOW self-esteem who'll SWEEP the house while a bitch is in bed SLEEPING till 10 o' clock. If you have a little money, your LovePeddler has hit the jackpot.

You'll NOT listen but I'll tell you anyway:

Get a DNA test for both kids. Then KICK her out. No matter the results of the DNA tests, KICK HER OUT.

Hahhahahahahahaha............Pls be calming down o

missjekyll:
Oh shut . Dont spoil your post with misogyny.
This marriage is clearly not working for you. Your wife has contempt for you. Nomatter whatever has led to this,no marriage recovers from contempt.

File for divorce and prepare to pay child support. If you keep going,you have yourself to blame.

Misogyny.. Hmm. Someone has finally managed to sneak in the word.

Solofresh2:
No

So you do see women as lesser beings.

I m not here to debate why that is not true. I just needed to point out your misogyny.

Stay in Nigeria. If you even dare to step out , you ll be hauled before a judge within 6 months for misogynistic acts. Misogyny is part of your DNA at this point

Oga you no be good man you be weak sissy, u dy respect her and she dy use you catch cruise, probably she dy meek and humble like dove towards a younger broke dude out and u run come online dy misyarn, continue dy mumu till she collect all your bar kick you out, who knows if your the real father of the kids.

Namaster:
"She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me."

That's a NEW dick speaking through your wife. You wife started tasting a new dick a couple of months ago and that's when it started.

She only asked you to stay because the new dick knows she's a LovePeddler and will not have anything serious with her. He'll fuuuck the shit out of her, though.

The fact that you stayed after being told to your face that you are no different from FAECES to her shows you have ZERO respect for yourself.

You have NO boundaries. So get ready for MORE. She'll start BEATING you soon.

You are the WET dream of abusive whores—an introvert with LOW self-esteem who'll SWEEP the house while a bitch is in bed SLEEPING till 10 o' clock. If you have a little money, your LovePeddler has hit the jackpot.

You'll NOT listen but I'll tell you anyway:

Get a DNA test for both kids. Then KICK her out. No matter the results of the DNA tests, KICK HER OUT.

For the first time in a long time, I agree with you.
Never keep an abusive woman.

missjekyll:
So you do see women as lesser beings.

I m not here to debate why that is not true. I just needed to point out your misogyny.

Stay in Nigeria. If you even dare to step out , you ll be hauled before a judge within 6 months for misogynistic acts. Misogyny is part of your DNA at this point

I don't see women as lesser beings. I am only telling the guy to leave a woman responsibility for the wife and take up his responsibility as a man as well. Even if he want's too do home chores as a man,it should be once in a while not almost all the time. How will your woman respect you when you are always doing those things all the time.
Talking about abroad, have been to Texas earlier this year and am currently in Nigeria so I don't have a problem with that

Doubt that he created this thread for that. I think he's venting....

cococandy:
This literally the reason why OP created this thread. So he’ll have people come join him and tell men not to be good husbands and fathers.

On Father’s Day for that matter.

Make una rest small. At least for today.

Shiit happens in marriage. And I mean, a whole pile of shiit. As a man, you will have to determine the amount of shiit you intend to put up with just to sustain the marriage. Only you can determine that so I won’t tell you what to endure and what not to endure.

But take the side chick advice more seriously whatever you decide to do. Life is too short to be sad in a trapped marriage forever. You will just die of responsibility plus sadness sooner than later. The side chick doesn’t have to be a serious relationship. Just a knacking thing for fun and nothing else.

missjekyll:
So you do see women as lesser beings.

I m not here to debate why that is not true. I just needed to point out your misogyny.

Stay in Nigeria. If you even dare to step out , you ll be hauled before a judge within 6 months for misogynistic acts. Misogyny is part of your DNA at this point

Folkes like him will date a white girl and suddenly become nice toward women, be cooking and cleaning for her but a Lion with Naija lady.

ScotHarvath:
I really don’t think most Nigerian girls
If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

"YOU DON'T HAVE TO TAKE IT OUT ON A NEW INNOCENT WOMAN WHO HAS NO CONNECTION WITH YOUR PAST EXPERIENCE, LET THIS VERY WOMAN WHOM YOU CALL WIFE START SEEING YOUR OTHER VERSION"

The Op presented a story where he makes himself a saint and the wife the devil. The wife countered with the default and most lethal women weapon: accusation of domestic violence/cheating/sexual harassment. I think both the Op and his wife are not ready yet. They're more interested in who shares the most sympathy inducing story rather than work on their failing marriage.

What are you doing outside by 10pm leaving your family? She's not an animal. Truth is missing from this your narration

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

I don't know, but I would like to know who's a best friend? You see, even at the stage of boyfriend and girlfriend level, many are and were not compatible. They just want to be there. Typically and firstly, I believe any group of friends should have common interests, then the second part of the friendship, where two people amongst the group become more closer would have to do with they liking each other's personality and shared beliefs .

Now, to me. The characteristics of a best friend are, personality(good or bad) and subjects of interests(what you talk about and do, crime, science, sex, the stock market, war history, Nigerian entertainment industry etc).

I don't think someone whose interests are in science, war history, wall Street, would be "best" of friend with someone who wants to talk about Saida boj, Portable, gossip neighbors and football all the time.

You see, trying to make your wife your best friend whilst you share lots of different interests would only amount to more frustration.

My thinking: After the passionate sex, what next interesting things are we discussing!!!!

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

if she told you to go and make food in the kitchen ,is that the reason to be feel she disrespect s you,she maybe having a bad mensural cramps and feeling cranky and you are talking of toast,my brother sometimes I cook soup in my house that does not make me less a man,marriage is an institution held by sacrifices from both partners

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

Most modern men get this treatment at the end, how can you treat your wife as your equal? Are you madd? The Quran, the bible, the traditions all put you above her and while you should treat her with love and fairness , never treat her as your equal.

A wife will treat you how you let her treat you, you can marry a submissive virgin but your simping and lack of leadership will turn her to a tigress and you'll end up calling relatives to settle quarrels every week. Treat her nice and sweet but let her know you're in charge and don't accept rubbish from her or anyone.

This is why most of you men suffer even till your old age . A woman you're meant to provide for and take care of , you'll end up giving her your life savings as investment for her business, tomorrow she becomes richer than you and you expect her to provide for the family, are you madd ? She wasn't created to provide, she wasn't programmed to provide, she won't remember your large investment in her, she'll only remember those sweet moments, those little little gifts you got her at different intervals. She's loyal to her feelings and the value you teach her to attach to you.


I pity men of this generation, wake up and act manly or perish trying to be a modern man

Bro, let me give you advice from experience. Women don't want men who treat them special.

Even though they tell you they want to be treated like a treasure, they actually despise men who treat them special, they prefer the men who treat them like ordinary person. Your wife actually wants you to be firm and set boundaries for her, she wants you to scold her when she's wrong.

Don't do house chores, they actually don't respect men who cleans the house. Let her know that you will send her packing if she mess up, let her know that you can do without her. You should actually be able to ignore her for days and reject her food. If she doesn't give a fvck about you, despite rejecting her food and ignoring her, then you should not have such woman as your wife.

Again, women only say they want a caring man, it's actually a lie, they will disrespect the caring man and respect the man who doesn't give a fvck about them.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Kobojunkie:
That is a silly proverb.

I did not invent it.
I wonder why the message offends you.

Have you been eating from another person’s pot?

RPG2020:
Same thing happening with me my woman said she hates me and the kids

She is always bitter no laughing no playing with the kids always angry 😡 I'm down I'm feeling for the kids we both don't deserve them when their is problem first thing she does is to carry knife 🗡️

. Report to the authority and her people then look for a way to get a new place. Remove yourself temporarily from there else she will kill you when you never expect. I hate when couple involved weapon when quarreling

@OP You made yourself too available and too accessible.. na wetin see finish dey cause be that, lack of respect for the head of the family.

So much unexplained here by the OP. I feel there's something you aren't saying but whatever. If you are as good and decent as you said you are....kudos to you cos you are among us the 20% best husband in the world. However, you made a mistake in your relationship with your wife. In as much as you claimed you are very responsible, good but you should have kept a thing to yourself.....you don't open all your lives to your wife. Keep something from her and she would respect you forever, don't allow to easily predict you. Keep secret and not necessarily a bad secret or rather having a side chick, No....but be elusive. As long as you keep a woman pondering and mesmerizing over you, asking you questions about things about you that she doesn't know, she would see you in another light. Women love intrigues, they love games, they prefer you to be a James Bond, Simeon Templar......the more they look the less they see about you......a superman.... Don't overexpose yourself to the level of see finish....be a mystery in her life and you will give her a job to discover you for the rest of your relationship life. Once a month or 2 in a week...just take a break from the house alone, go get a good hotel in a far place, travel out of you can afford it.....just tell her you are having a meeting with your business associates in Abuja, Lagos or whatever. Have a sole fun and not necessarily having a side chick abeg.....alone and alone.....go with your laptop since you said you work from home.....spend 2 to 3 days but be forming busy whenever you are on calls with her.....make her feel jumpy while you still remain your good self......She would respect you more by force by force cos when you love a woman too much, naturally she would be so satiated In this love UpTo the extent of that love getting sour.....you need to warm your love life by being elusive atimes and with that you can rekindle the flame all over again. But I still feel you ain't saying the whole truth or rather your wife has her reasons or probably your dick ain't working well like that other nigga of yesterday that has a miniature dick and can't hammer Madam very well. Wish you luck but I ain't perfect too, just a good nice elusive husband and darling father....That's me....

RPG2020:
Which truth? Same thing happening with me my woman said she hates me and the kids she is always bitter and angry 😡 no laughing


Please if you know more about the story say something

Expenses are meant to be shared. Are you still paying your part or are you now just deadweight/burden. A stressed out person finds nothing funny

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

if she told you to go and make food in the kitchen ,is that the reason to feel she disrespect s you,she maybe having a bad mensural cramps and feeling cranky and you are talking of toast,my brother sometimes I cook soup in my house that does not make me less a man,marriage is an institution held by sacrifices from both partners

cococandy:
This is exactly what he created this thread for. To insult men who don’t overburden their wives with work.

This small girl.
Na to dey put mouth Cho Cho Cho Cho!!!
Dey drag with Men on a public forum.
From your responses I can see that you are more uncouth than the wife of the OP.
Better find a place and fix that dirty ass.

Women don't change for nothing check yourself you could be the problem

You are married and still take advise from friends and outsiders and expect to have a peaceful home you are joking bro.

How can people suggest to you not to spend time with your family and you even have the boldness to say it here on public domain ?

Your complain describes you as a man who talks about his marital life with anyone who cares to listen.

The funny thing is same people giving you advise on how to live with your wife will destroy your home
And keep theirs in order.

They advise you to get a side chick
Brother what have you been telling people about your wife?

Before anyone will suggest some things to you about your partner you must have told them a lot of terrible things.

Go n make peace with your wife
Go n build your home
This all I can say to you.

Stupid advice . Lay a finger on her and end up in a cell. What an atavistic way of thinking

RavagedHeart:
Whether the story is true or not. Nobody will believe you because it's sounds too good to be true.
Exactly the same thing happened to me and nobody believed I was punished for being too good. People will always think you did something wrong.

Women don't like it when you make them your everything. Always have friends and family you enjoy life with.
Have other things going on in your life that she's not part of. They find you more attractive that way.

Concerning this your situation. There's nothing you can do about it. She can never want you genuinely again no matter what you do, or how you choose to protest.
Your main mistake is making her your everything and being so domestic. Two attributes that makes a man unattractive the most.

1. Go out and make friends with both men and women. Connect with more people and spend less time at home. Except you're working.
2. Get a hubby and try to enjoy it more than marauding around the house.
3. Stop trying to make your wife equal. Women want a man that leads with firmness. Not the equality you think they crave
4. Be less domestic and feminine. Grow some balls and show some dominance and assertiveness.
5. Be more inclined in doing the right thing than trying to please her. In fact please and beg less.
6. There's nothing wrong in exerting some physical force when necessary.


Give it six months and see if she gets back in line. But never expect the old love cause it's no longer for you.
Also use to six months to plan your happy exit. In case she's sworn to remain irredeemable.

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

You are a very foolish man. Na una type they come social media type nonsense so that women will love you! Enjoy your nonsense abeg!

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

Exact samething is happening to me right now.
As I type, I m looking at my wife lying on the couch while i plan to change my way going forward...

My wife is naturally extra respectful that's why she's still holding some things back.
I made her my best friend and i confided in her alot. Office talk, our finance, my plans, any bonus, any unexpected money that comes in, when I'm broke etc...

Naturally, if I continuously speak for up to 15min, I will be feeling headache but not anymore.
She do respect me alot because I'm introvert and also pick my words wisely before saying them. Even at home, I have my room. We only watch prime time novellas together (6:45pm-9pm).
But as the family continue to grow, she became my best friend, wife, buddy etc... Very Wrong bro!

I dont have a single secret personally. She have full access to me...My ATM, My Internet banking pin/password for all my bank accounts, Mobile banking apps pin, My Binance, my Bybit ..everything.
I'm regretting everything already.

Now I am addicted to her (talking, joking, playing, etc) and anytime her mood change alittle, I will notice and I will keep asking what is it (Like a Simp bro!)
Its either we're Talking, Joking, Playing, Other room, or we are keeping malice which I often start because sometimes I need to be the father, the husband and man of the house.
Bro! It's a big trap and a big mess.

Women love men that play a little, talk alittle, Joke alittle..... everything alittle.
I dont know how to go back to my old self.
I plan on personal vacation/relocation just for 3 weeks and if I comeback, I will retain my old self.

ScotHarvath:
If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

That part scares me alot because of my kids.. I for don send her parking but hardly will any other woman treat them the way their mother will.

If she mistakenly tells me that, they're not my children, i swear i might not be angry,I will just fly like bird. Anytime they're ready, they can leave my house lock the gate and hand over the key to my parent. But I will surely leave first.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

I dey vex for u I swr to God