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Villa12:
you're not a wise man obviously. Any man that belives his wife cannot advise or call him to attention whenever is wrong is obviously not a wise man. If you think paying bills is eldorado then you're deceiving yourself. She's a woman. It won't take her much time to secure a job when she starts going out and she'd be supporting the house. If you come in 10pm, she can come in 11pm abi since she's contributing. Let's see what will become your family

when she starts supporting the house, we theb can cone to an agreement on the stipulated time to always be at home in which she would possibly be an hour or two earlier.. But as long as I'm the one sorting every damn thing in that house, I only make the rules and it must be duly followed .. you break them, you go back to your father's house.. I don't tolerate indiscipline...

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

A woman’s emotion is stronger than her sense of obligation.
They struggle with obligations where their emotions wane.
You just lost her heart. Someone else could have it.
It’s even possible she never loved you to such degrees as to build a home on from the start.
See a marriage counselor.
My prayers.

Change environment and forget her for some times.
When I woman knows all your finances you are in trouble,

cococandy:
He wants people to tell him to stop being a “good” husband, so that he can feel justified in his nonsense that he’s plotting.

That’s if the wife even exists. For all we know this is just another one of them women hating threads.

just fck out. He is not the only one, infact I am experiencing the same thing but I think I got the medicine because her senses has started coming back.

nanauju:
Maybe you should have a discussion with her about this current situation and how you feel.
If she also has something on her mind to clear she should say it. Make it a two way thing and get a feedback from her.
You can move forward on the next point of action from there

Discuss gini

Scotharvath cut paper for her ASAP

Sunday2021:
just fck out. He is not the only one, infact I am experiencing the same thing but I think I got the medicine because her senses has started coming back.

Me,

I don leave the house, even left Ibadan for my ex-wife Mek she dey chop am. Just waiting Mek August ending reach Mek I kick start the dissolution process

[quote author=Villa12 post=130526876]who did your father marry? A beautiful woman I guess[/quot/]

Firstly this is iMacD, ii sell iPhone and I'm an authorized agent/seller. I don't sell secondhand and I do repair iPhone both hardware and software issues. I work on iPhone boards so your dead iPhone could still wake up again .

Secondly, I'll appreciate ever men and women who had say/replied one/two discussions in this thread to help my dear brother and a simple father of two .

You see been called man is not an easy title sir, and I want other ladies here to pay good attention to my little but important message.

Sir, you grow up with two people living together with you, controlling your every moves as at then and you called them your parents aside from your siblings. So, before you take any drastic changes/moves remember you two have children together(so to this fact I'll say number 1)

She's not your angel/God neither you're her God/angel, forget “I love you” she tells you before(when you two first started) and “I hate you” she's telling you now(when she's misbehaving). If she offend you report her to her parents(crisis do happen in family) before even trying to touch her/fight her or even beat her, coz I strongly go against female gender discrimination and violence.

Listen:

1. I give birth to 7 girls and I'm only talking/saying it just to show how much I love them and I don't joke with my girls, bros if my daughter's husband didn't inform me about her stupid behaviors (so I can beat her myself or scold her myself with my words and tears just the way I cry while praying for her, her husband and their marriage) before assulting her. tbh I can do and undo Hun I swear to God.

2. Crisis, conflicts even something worse that your experience do happen in marriage. My wife gave me deep mark in my left limb with high heels I bought for her, I fund her University with my engineer work then and I traveled to link up with iOS industry (apple) she texted me the tell me she's not interested in the marrage preparations. Ha my parents, friends and even haters waiting to hear such to use as gossip topics in our area just dey carry rumors. I rushed down to Nigeria after sealing the deal I went for because she cannot spoil my life and I love business so I traveled a lot.

In a nutshell, she left me for month and later came back and meanwhile when she left me I sent some of my workers to leave close to her new neighborhood. I stalk her and she didn't noticed it. I was promising myself that if she moved on with her life then I'll moved on with mine too. But before I take any actions I visit her village to tell her parents, i think her parents reminded her of how I helped her life and she came back to me, even after that time she use high heels to mark me and I do show one of my daughter anytime her husband comes to report her. I've once show my in-laws before 😂...

Please tell her parents, you see most people here don't have perfect home/good home everyone learn to deal with the devil God has set for man(woman). Yes, I tell my girls. He'll work to satisfy you, stress himself on bed to satisfy you and even do more for you before think about his parents/family just to satisfy you. So why stressing your satisfying machine, we men are trying yes we're all trying in one way or the other.

Some ladies are like that too, if you stop cooking it will shock you she might even start ordering KFC especially when she's earning more than you or she's also working. My daughter's husband do come to complain and I do the needful. And if you have a very bad in-laws then get a very good therapist to help you two.


Go get a therapist, cooking, sweeping is not ladies job alone. If she now leave it to you alone I call it abnormality so report her, get a therapist. “I hate you” or even if she's raising curses at you if normal in relationships. My grandson told me he hate me in person and even two of my daughters say the same when I won't allow them to go for sleepovers abi?

She has something in her to say or people somewhere advising her, bros think .... think abeggggggyyyyyyyy. I don't like dealing with introverted people like you, I challenge my introvert in-law so he could tell my his hiding pains. She'll confess that thing, those people or what happened to her parents or friends so somehow report her then challenge her to open her phone in front of her parents to check whatever it's not normally, well I think that would help.

If her parents are stupid like her, report her to your spiritual fathers, mothers/mentors, if care is not taking her problems could kill you and that's if your not emotional strong like me, wise to pick decision or too slow in everything. Don't cover your mouth, I've reported my wife to her friends especially this her friend who was nominated has Iya Loja of oir town. Haaa 😂 she fought me badly but I don talk my own abi? then if her wahala kee me, ppl will stand for me. And I do all of that for the strong love I have for her, yes she also knows everything about me. Haaa GF and BF from 16yrs old ooo and I funded her education since 19yrs ooo, she knows how I stand and how highly respected I was. She knows I no go school oooo 😭, she sabi me die.

I just pray you find your way around this and please don't divorce her yet, give her time to decide if she'll go against her decivers or accept the temptation. Let her leave, forget abi you paying for everything ok. Tell her how everything she's doing or how her behavior is draining you emotionally, spiritually and mentally. Pray against devil honestly, she's not the one doing it.... I see you're a good man but she's just behaving like a lady with dirty brain.

Peace ✌️ out

cococandy:
When you and your ilk grow past using this forum to propagate woman hate. Jobless imps. All y’all do is curate hatred for women on this forum

women hate? lol, go and suck your husbands d!ck, that’s if you have one cos you obviously don’t!

Another one here https://www.nairaland.com/8125440/girlfriend-left-me-big-joystick#130480467 I even enjoy just reading threads here just to add to my experience so this is my first comment/reply.

Namaster:
"She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me."

That's a NEW dick speaking through your wife. You wife started tasting a new dick a couple of months ago and that's when it started.

She only asked you to stay because the new dick knows she's a LovePeddler and will not have anything serious with her. He'll fuuuck the shit out of her, though.

The fact that you stayed after being told to your face that you are no different from FAECES to her shows you have ZERO respect for yourself.

You have NO boundaries. So get ready for MORE. She'll start BEATING you soon.

You are the WET dream of abusive whores—an introvert with LOW self-esteem who'll SWEEP the house while a bitch is in bed SLEEPING till 10 o' clock. If you have a little money, your LovePeddler has hit the jackpot.

You'll NOT listen but I'll tell you anyway:

Get a DNA test for both kids. Then KICK her out. No matter the results of the DNA tests, KICK HER OUT.

ahhh this MAaaaNN

cococandy:
He wants people to tell him to stop being a “good” husband, so that he can feel justified in his nonsense that he’s plotting.

That’s if the wife even exists. For all we know this is just another one of them women hating threads.

You are always full of shît

Fishlips

dominique:
Let's hear the other side of the story first.

why are u ladies findinv it difficult to believe this story?

Biglittlelois:
The bolded is the reason why Op created this thread, to start a gender war and insults on all Nigerian women while using his imaginary wife and family as a case study

The usual stupidity of jobless guys on here.

why all of you ladies hate jobless and broke guys? always accusing us of everything. the majority of redpillers and women haters on nairaland are not broke and jobless. pls let us breath. a true jobless and broke ass guy dont have time for hating women. we r always thinking about the way out.

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

Some of you don't know how to apply moderation in things.

How can you always be in the face of your wife everyday because you work from home and an introvert?

You have to use scarcity to create respect. That's one law from 48 laws of power you simp should have applied.

Sooner or later, this issue you're having now would have still come up - maybe by then you have started going out because the nature of your work might have changed, she'll definitely feel you're cheating. But always staying around has also made her grown tired of you.


Try to get a place to work and come back in the evening after going out in the morning, she'll respect you.

You tell her everything... Yen yen... Mumu man!

You people will go and read marriage script of people in different climes and trying to apply it here. It doesn't work.

You're the causer of your problems. You're too soft with your wife. Women generally take men who are too soft for granted. It's never too late. Play her game with her, pack her up, stop talking to her, if she greets you, don't answer her. Start keeping late nights outside the house. Don't sleep in the same bed with her. Don't eat her foods. Omo all these things will reset her brain back to factory settings. She will be the one that will come and beg you. When she comes, no gree am quickly, do shakara for her small for another one week. She will never try that nonsense with you again. I ate nonsense

iMacD:
Firstly this is iMacD, ii sell iPhone and I'm an authorized agent/seller. I don't sell secondhand and I do repair iPhone both hardware and software issues. I work on iPhone boards so your dead iPhone could still wake up again .

Secondly, I'll appreciate ever men and women who had say/replied one/two discussions in this thread to help my dear brother and a simple father of two .

You see been called man is not an easy title sir, and I want other ladies here to pay good attention to my little but important message.

Sir, you grow up with two people living together with you, controlling your every moves as at then and you called them your parents aside from your siblings. So, before you take any drastic changes/moves remember you two have children together(so to this fact I'll say number 1)

She's not your angel/God neither you're her God/angel, forget “I love you” she tells you before(when you two first started) and “I hate you” she's telling you now(when she's misbehaving). If she offend you report her to her parents(crisis do happen in family) before even trying to touch her/fight her or even beat her, coz I strongly go against female gender discrimination and violence.

Listen:

1. I give birth to 7 girls and I'm only talking/saying it just to show how much I love them and I don't joke with my girls, bros if my daughter's husband didn't inform me about her stupid behaviors (so I can beat her myself or scold her myself with my words and tears just the way I cry while praying for her, her husband and their marriage) before assulting her. tbh I can do and undo Hun I swear to God.

2. Crisis, conflicts even something worse that your experience do happen in marriage. My wife gave me deep mark in my left limb with high heels I bought for her, I fund her University with my engineer work then and I traveled to link up with iOS industry (apple) she texted me the tell me she's not interested in the marrage preparations. Ha my parents, friends and even haters waiting to hear such to use as gossip topics in our area just dey carry rumors. I rushed down to Nigeria after sealing the deal I went for because she cannot spoil my life and I love business so I traveled a lot.

In a nutshell, she left me for month and later came back and meanwhile when she left me I sent some of my workers to leave close to her new neighborhood. I stalk her and she didn't noticed it. I was promising myself that if she moved on with her life then I'll moved on with mine too. But before I take any actions I visit her village to tell her parents, i think her parents reminded her of how I helped her life and she came back to me, even after that time she use high heels to mark me and I do show one of my daughter anytime her husband comes to report her. I've once show my in-laws before 😂...

Please tell her parents, you see most people here don't have perfect home/good home everyone learn to deal with the devil God has set for man(woman). Yes, I tell my girls. He'll work to satisfy you, stress himself on bed to satisfy you and even do more for you before think about his parents/family just to satisfy you. So why stressing your satisfying machine, we men are trying yes we're all trying in one way or the other.

Some ladies are like that too, if you stop cooking it will shock you she might even start ordering KFC especially when she's earning more than you or she's also working. My daughter's husband do come to complain and I do the needful. And if you have a very bad in-laws then get a very good therapist to help you two.


Go get a therapist, cooking, sweeping is not ladies job alone. If she now leave it to you alone I call it abnormality so report her, get a therapist. “I hate you” or even if she's raising curses at you if normal in relationships. My grandson told me he hate me in person and even two of my daughters say the same when I won't allow them to go for sleepovers abi?

She has something in her to say or people somewhere advising her, bros think .... think abeggggggyyyyyyyy. I don't like dealing with introverted people like you, I challenge my introvert in-law so he could tell my his hiding pains. She'll confess that thing, those people or what happened to her parents or friends so somehow report her then challenge her to open her phone in front of her parents to check whatever it's not normally, well I think that would help.

If her parents are stupid like her, report her to your spiritual fathers, mothers/mentors, if care is not taking her problems could kill you and that's if your not emotional strong like me, wise to pick decision or too slow in everything. Don't cover your mouth, I've reported my wife to her friends especially this her friend who was nominated has Iya Loja of oir town. Haaa 😂 she fought me badly but I don talk my own abi? then if her wahala kee me, ppl will stand for me. And I do all of that for the strong love I have for her, yes she also knows everything about me. Haaa GF and BF from 16yrs old ooo and I funded her education since 19yrs ooo, she knows how I stand and how highly respected I was. She knows I no go school oooo 😭, she sabi me die.

I just pray you find your way around this and please don't divorce her yet, give her time to decide if she'll go against her decivers or accept the temptation. Let her leave, forget abi you paying for everything ok. Tell her how everything she's doing or how her behavior is draining you emotionally, spiritually and mentally. Pray against devil honestly, she's not the one doing it.... I see you're a good man but she's just behaving like a lady with dirty brain.

Peace ✌️ out

the name of this course is Rubbish 204

Don't change yourself because of this woman. There are women who will value you and treat you with respect. If your marriage fails, look for a woman like that instead of becoming disrespectful like your wife.

As for your situation, there must be more to the story. For now, assert your boundaries, but it will probably be hard to turn things around. Maybe if there's a major crisis that makes your wife how lucky she is to have you, things will improve.

Was she always like this? I'm sure you wouldn't have married her if she was like this before. Something changed.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

eTroll:
you're a very stupid and useless woman.
I really blame all those idiots giving you the undeserved attention.
Useless old age slowpoke with a bad character and nasty attitude.
You're even a lesbian sef and a dirty one at that.
Learn to keep your dirty mouth shut that is more stinking than your shit stained ass.
Useless ugly fool

Coco is not ugly, a very beautiful and smart lady. Those lips are fire, omg!

abba190:
why all of you ladies hate jobless and broke guys? always accusing us of everything. the majority of redpillers and women haters on nairaland are not broke and jobless. pls let us breath. a true jobless and broke ass guy dont have time for hating women. we r always thinking about the way out.

who told you that? I know some of them sir. Jobless while some are broke in their 40s. I am not mocking them in anyway but claiming majority aren't broke isa big fat lie. Without even knowing anyone in person sef you shall know them by their comments on here. Successful guys don't have the luxury of time bashing women. It's never possible. When you get money and doing fine for yourself you can't be bitter. They are two parallel lines of course. Na broke or joblessness dey make person bitter which every sane person understand that women aren't the cause of their brokenness or joblessness.

eTroll:
you're a very stupid and useless woman.
I really blame all those idiots giving you the undeserved attention.
Useless old age slowpoke with a bad character and nasty attitude.
You're even a lesbian sef and a dirty one at that.
Learn to keep your dirty mouth shut that is more stinking than your shit stained ass.
Useless ugly fool

fine clean woman living in a 1st world country. Even a blind man knows that she's a very beautiful and clean woman. You're just being pained and bitter because she air her view.

Sapasenator:
Coco is not ugly, a very beautiful and smart lady. Those lips are fire, omg!

don't mind him. Social media is a leveller na. Everybody na mate and on the same level for social media.

Silentgroper:
when she starts supporting the house, we theb can cone to an agreement on the stipulated time to always be at home in which she would possibly be an hour or two earlier.. But as long as I'm the one sorting every damn thing in that house, I only make the rules and it must be duly followed .. you break them, you go back to your father's house.. I don't tolerate indiscipline...

if she breaks to her father's house you go still go marry another woman again . Should we now agree that women are the PRICE? Abi you no fit go marry your fellow man? At least marry your fellow man so that you will stop bringing up stories that doesn't exist with your imaginary wife.

Silentgroper:
I don't do that .. They beg me.. they need me more than I need them ..

why are you now crying here if they need you more? Why telling us about your imaginary family? What's stopping you from doing the needful biko? Carry your tale by the moonlight story go. It doesn't hold any water

@Silentgroper

I put it to you that this is nothing but a FICTION. Myself and few others persons on here are smart enough to know that. It can easily be deduced from all your comments and responses in relation to your post. You can only fool yourself and your likes. Not me or any sane person here.

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

You said that you're an Introvert.??

Then truly become one.
She's already treating you like a stranger..
THEN BECOME ONE..

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

You're not a good man oga..
And you don't have another version.

If this marriage fails (it had failed already sef),, try and see if you can be on your own for many years,, and truly learn more about yourself and about women without actually falling in love with, or even dating any of them.

God1000:
I don't know what some women really want, if a man is too good, they will start to misbehave and torment him


Her toxic behavior isn't good for your mental health and sanity, talk to her and if she refuses to change, then stop talking to her, don't eat her food as well, a sensible woman would realize her mistakes and adjust, don't die in silence.

To be in the same house with a woman, and not eating her food.??

The aroma of the food will continue to torture my hungry tummy..

Na to just leave the house for her (if it is a rented house),, or make her leave the house (if I built it by myself).

cococandy:
He wants people to tell him to stop being a “good” husband, so that he can feel justified in his nonsense that he’s plotting.

That’s if the wife even exists. For all we know this is just another one of them women hating threads.

I had to unlike my like after noticing you are f