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She is using you to achieve her goal with other guy. Your mum never do

you too slow it down , why you dey rush her ?
try and listen to song "baby cool it down"

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Harddiskng:
Oga it is not everything, that needs to be spelt out

She is not ready to settle with you, if you think this year is your year of marital bless; look for a lady that is ready.

Babe wey you suppose press spacebar like 100 times give better space immediately those words came out of her mouth. You still carry matter con here dey disturb us

Correct

okerekingsley90:
Smart men are on NL. AS A MAN YOU MUST BE highly mental when it comes to women. OP be a man . Build your confidence. Nothing makes women want your more if you are very confident. Dress well be fit look good smell nice guy women are nothing if you get game but when you see that woman that complements you. You know what to do.

You get levels, I dey tell you

Once they start sounding that way... Just know that she's started seeing someone else.... Do your findings and thank me later. I'm also a victim of " Let's Slow Things Down "

It's a sign of intellectual incapacity to consistently use a single scenario to generalise a matter.

FYI The Redpill movement has a population of less than 2% of all males above 18.

The Redpill is a vocal minority as most men have been brought up to be easy targets for the women around them.

We observe and take notes of the males around us who are crashing and burning at the altar of feminine wiles.

Thankfully, we are free.

No mother, sister, girlfriend or wife can easily manipulate us.

We will only do what we are supposed to do for the females in our lives - not whatever their fancy is

Jeon:
What should I call this?
Men don't need love or Women, but I always see them dying to get it and be accepted by Women.






Redpill crew dy use anonymous mask to prevent him from brotherhood.

ttobizz:
Baba you nailed it.. "mine told me marriage is not my ginger" today I'm happily married to the one who saw marriage as her ginger. I nor lose!

Very simple. And is she married now?

7demons:
"Slow things down" in relationship means hitting each other up at intervals; less frequent calls, less monitoring, getting to know the other partner better by going on dates, spending quality time, and never being in rush..a step a time.
Not that bunkum your spewing up there.

You know nothing boy, just keep it at that

Give her space and collect your ring back. Life no really hard.

Chairman, why are you forcing yourself to that girl who doesn't want you?

Let that girl go to where her mind is. She doesn't want you.

Telling you to slow down with things is a red flag your mumu love no gree you see

#Simp

qtguru:
What are the things she wants you to work on ? Are they of grave concerns ? This is forever, could be thinking twice before entering the union. Maybe make yourself scarce if she's not really serious.

Solofresh2:
She said there are areas you are lacking behind.In what areas please?

LordReed:
Can you name the areas of change she pointed out?

cococandy:
What were the areas she asked you to work on? Tell us so we can know if she has a point or not

@Chidex369
why are you continuously avoiding to answer the above important questions?!

Nehyooh:
Absolutely!
You're very correct, I am a living testimony to this. Thank God, I'm free from that Witch girl now.

Lol... He said "that witch girl"

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

What you should do is slow things down. If possible put a break on it.

If there is anything of value that she told you , take it. But don't ever improve yourself just because a woman or anyone else told you.

Improve you for you. Love yourself first. Don't depend on another to make you happy. And the one that loves you for you will come to you.

FRANCISTOWN:
Rule Number 1. Never reconnect a failed relationship.
For whatever reasons under the heavens, do not ever reconcile with your ex. The people who leave are never the people that return.
And the people you left, you will never meet them the same .

Rule Number 1. Never reconnect a failed relationship.
Just posted it on my WhatsApp status

💯Fact

Offpointng:
Very simple. And is she married now?

My brother she's not married, in fact I had to disconnect fully from her to avoid temptation

Jeon:
What should I call this?
Men don't need love or Women, but I always see them dying to get it and be accepted by Women.






Redpill crew dy use anonymous mask to prevent him from brotherhood.

not men but this idiot begging on pussy he will be tired off after 1yr...go to shilors and see the gender praying for marriage!

Op enough advice has been given I swear down men mount and guys dey para from their word you can sense deep concern for the brotherhood.

My submission is that ...you Bleep that lady one more time and afte that f* tell her you guys should slow things down till further notice .

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Is like, you don't like the truth

She has hinted the areas she wants you to work on yourself and also adviced that you guys should slow down all arrangements

Is another way of telling you that you are not the one for her but she can keep you on hold while searching for her taste of man

I think you should work on yourself or let her go

Marriage is different from friendship

Marriage is life Time commitment. Loving her isn't enough but the question is did she love you back? Can't u see the red flag. Allow her be. Perhaps, she's seeing someone's else or she's not yet ready.
Just fine ur square root. Thank you!!

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

In my own opinion, Bro...you have been dating yourself for the past 6months......

The real relationship was the one that happened 2 years back before breakup....

For now, you on your humble own

Another man is in the picture....or she is receiving ungodly counsel from strange people..

Start letting go small small...

I know she Must be very pretty, count your loses bro.

If cry come, cry silently.....never try to prove anything to her....

okwa umunwanyi ? We don see this people finish o

Dem de wise wen things don spoil finish

If woman say make you no rush then no rush...

Even Davido do begged for love why do you want to follow him and be begging around?
Bro... If she wants you to slow down I would advise to you not only slowing down but reverse and a turn let her go where her mind is telling her when she comes back don't accept her again, am telling you nothing but the truth thousand of ladies are out there looking for her man who can just accept to reciprocate the love they will lavish on him unfortunately they are very far away from true love..

Your own lady will come for you so don't stress yourself for now

Wen a girl tells you to slow things down and you still asking for advice. Brother she has pointed a fix in you, pause and correct those area and improve for someone else that is truly calm and loving to you. Time no dey.

Don’t force it, she’s either have a better fish or not fully into you like that but rather with you to just feed.

Slowly move on

You are not the price Are you pained
You went off years ago to taste other fishes with your bad characters,now you are back because no one tolerated it like she did. You don sharply propose within 6months but girl don wise.

But seriously,
Why do people go back to relationship that failed before?
My only problem is why will she accept proposal when she knew there were many things she can't put up with...infact, why did you accept to be in a relationship with such a person. Don't be desperate girll . You are better off single and just friends

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Don't form deaf. She does not want to marry you. Give her credit for being honest and not wasting your efforts

She said she don't like my way of dressing
She don't like my spiritual life
And my plans is not known to her later

MrBrownJay1:
@Chidex369
why are you continuously avoiding to answer the above important questions?!

Leave her now or you regret later.......marry someone who sees you as an achievement not otherwise

She's doesn't know how to tell you directly it's over. Bro, next time never show a woman how much you need her. It gets to their heads and begin to misbehave. Treat them like trash, ignore them , that's when they chase after you.. such a confused human beings.

She doesn't know how to tell you directly It's over. Next time never show a woman how much you need her. Treat them like trash, ignore them, stop following them lapping like a dog. That's when they chase after u. They are confused human beings.

Bro, leave her and move on.

She maybe seeing someone else but the tin never mature so she maybe buying time.... get in touch with her close friend or family member to get real situation of things

It's a golden rule never to reconcile with your ex.