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By Daniel Oluwole, Tabitha Adamu, Aisha Abubakar, And Ummu-Salmah Ibrahim


Traditionally, many cultures have valued the role of the full housewife, but the world is changing, with women chasing careers full time.

Would you rather marry a career woman or a full time housewife?


https://dailytrust.com/the-bearing-would-you-rather-marry-a-career-woman-or-a-full-housewife/

This is 2024. You guys should stop asking useless questions. No man in his right senses would choose a liability over an asset.

Zonefree:
This is 2024. You guys should stop asking useless questions. No man in his right senses would choose a liability over an asset.

speak for yourself bro. A full time house wife isn't liability.

I'll rather marry a humble, respectful woman irrespective of whatever she chooses to do, whether career, business or full time stay at home.

Zonefree:
This is 2024. You guys should stop asking useless questions. No man in his right senses would choose a liability over an asset.

A woman who cooks for the family, cleans, babysits, keeps house, trains kids, plans and regulates the home is a liability to her husband? Wow.

Woke 21st century men are definitely Satan's best working tool in destroying homes. You guys are doing a great job

TimiRume:
A woman who cooks for the family, cleans, babysits, keeps house, trains kids, plans and regulates the home is a liability to her husband? Wow.

Woke 21st century men are definitely Satan's best working tool in destroying homes. You guys are doing a great job

Try and be useful to your husband...a house maid can do all those things you mentioned.

The people that want traditional wives but don’t have traditional husband money to pay for every single thing and keep her on a very generous allowance too.🤭

Better enter kitchen and scrub the floor while your wife is cooking jollof. That’s the real 50-50.

Not sitting on your ass expecting money from her because you don’t want liability but can’t lift a darn finger to unburden her from the extra load that you think is too feminine for you. If it’s feminine for you to help her at home, best believe it’s too masculine for her to contribute financially too. Can’t eat your cake and have it

Zonefree:
Try and be useful to your husband...a house maid can do all those things you mentioned.

A full housewife isn't useful when she does all that but a housemaid is? So that's why housemaids are paid but wives ain't. Nice one. We learn everyday

cococandy:
The people that want traditional wives but don’t have traditional husband money to pay for every single thing and keep her on a very generous allowance too.🤭

Better enter kitchen and scrub the floor while your wife is cooking jollof. That’s the real 50-50.

Not sitting on your ass expecting money from her because you don’t want liability but can’t lift a darn finger to unburden her from the extra load that you think is too feminine for you. If it’s feminine for you to help her at home, best believe it’s too masculine for her to contribute financially too. Can’t eat your cake and have it

🤣🤣🤣

Zonefree:
This is 2024. You guys should stop asking useless questions. No man in his right senses would choose a liability over an asset.

You guys always rubbish homemaking skills until you're left all alone to do it when your wife dies.

Evolutionism:
🤣🤣🤣

I wasn’t actually trying to be funny o.

I truly love 50-50 arrangements. The real ones. Not the ones where the men are exploiting their wives for income but feel to emasculated to help the women

Both


She should be both a house wife and career woman .

VTJN:
speak for yourself bro. A full time house wife isn't liability.

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TimiRume:
A woman who cooks for the family, cleans, babysits, keeps house, trains kids, plans and regulates the home is a liability to her husband? Wow. Woke 21st century men are definitely Satan's best working tool in destroying homes. You guys are doing a great job

... He is right. To the average Nigerian man, she is; We have seen this play out enough times to realize this fact of the so-called traditional Nigerian man. Such a woman is considered a liability and not a partner in marriage to these men. So women need to stop placing themselves in such situations.

TimiRume:
A full housewife isn't useful when she does all that but a housemaid is? So that's why housemaids are paid but wives ain't. Nice one. We learn everyday

And when shit hit the fan, she will be thrown out of the house with one box.
Na me and you born pikin. Na me and you go train am.
Na me and you dey live for house.
Na me and you go clean am.
Na me and you dey chop.
Na me and you go cook am.
Children have fond memories of that and kids brought up in such household are better adults.
No be me talk am. Use Google.

1Sharon:
■ You guys always rubbish homemaking skills until you're left all alone to do it when your wife dies.

Women need to stop pretending themselves saviors to such men. These men did their own chores before marriage. So, the woman coming in thinking she saves him from doing chores is the one deceiving herself.

cococandy:
I wasn’t actually trying to be funny o.

I truly love 50-50 arrangements. The real ones. Not the ones where the men are exploiting their wives for income but feel to emasculated to help the women

I wonder where these ladies get the energy from.
They end up breeding masochists instead of men.
When you see your dad and mum doing things together, it's something to cherish and look forward to do with your spouse and kids.
These days are better. It will continue to get better.

descarado:
I wonder where these ladies get the energy from.
They end up breeding masochists instead of men.
When you see your dad and mum doing things together, it's something to cherish and look forward to do with your spouse and kids.
These days are better. It will continue to get better.

They no get energy. They’re exhausted but they believe their reward is in heaven so they persevere. lol

descarado:
And when shit hit the fan, she will be thrown out of the house with one box.
Na me and you born pikin. Na me and you go train am.
Na me and you dey live for house.
Na me and you go clean am.
Na me and you dey chop.
Na me and you go cook am.
Children have fond memories of that and kids brought up in such household are better adults.
No be me talk am. Use Google.

LOL you don talk am finish

Kobojunkie:
...... He is right. To the average Nigerian man, she is; We have seen this play out enough times to realize this fact of the so-called traditional Nigerian man. Such a woman is considered a liability and not a partner in marriage to these men. So women need to stop placing themselves in such situations.

Right. Everything she does is equal to nothing or a liability now. May God help the insufferable nigerian woman. Ohpps, I'm missing something, she is at least married and has the Mrs title. That should cover up for everything. Perfect

Kuginzi:
By Daniel Oluwole, Tabitha Adamu, Aisha Abubakar, And Ummu-Salmah Ibrahim


Traditionally, many cultures have valued the role of the full housewife, but the world is changing, with women chasing careers full time.

Would you rather marry a career woman or a full time housewife?


https://dailytrust.com/the-bearing-would-you-rather-marry-a-career-woman-or-a-full-housewife/

Family is a team work, not competition. It works best when everyone knows their role, perform it and no one is inferior or superior to anyone.

I’d rather marry a woman who is a full house wife than a full career woman.
But there’s the hybrid, it doesn’t mean we won’t assist one another with our roles. A man should work to provide for his family and protect the family and doesn’t mean he should handoff completely from home management. Same way for a woman, she should focus on managing the home and she can do whatever she can in her capacity to work. Working will not only earn her some income to support her husband but also keeps her engaged, keep her updated and give her a sense of purpose

TimiRume:
■ Right. Everything she does is equal to nothing or a liability now. May God help the insufferable nigerian woman. Ohpps, I'm missing something, she is at least married and has the Mrs title. That should cover up for everything. Perfect

Value for these things in a marriage is not determined by the woman alone but by the type of marriage agreement one enters into. If the man does not place value on any of what the woman intends, then she going into a relationship offering the same means she does not understand herself let alone relationships.

The average Nigerian traditional man tends to see women without meaningful employment as liabilities. Insufferable Nigerian women should learn to help themselves first and stop hiding their ignorance behind the mentions of God who has nothing to do with any of this. You can't force a man to have value in that which he has no value for. Women need to learn to become better for their own sakes.

Kobojunkie:
Value for these things in a marriage is not determined by the woman alone but by the type of marriage agreement one enters into. If the man does not place value on any of what the woman intends, then she going into a relationship offering the same means she does not understand herself let alone relationships.

The average Nigerian traditional man tends to see women without meaningful employment as liabilities. Insufferable Nigerian women should learn to help themselves first and stop hiding their ignorance behind the mentions of God who has nothing to do with any of this. You can't force a man to have value in that which he has no value for. Women need to learn to become better for their own sakes.

Which kind of home did you grow up?
That you haven’t seen good men doesn’t mean there are no good and reasonable men, you need to change your perspective and every morning you wake, pray to your creator to lead you to good men. There are so many men who value family and understand that a wife staying home to manage his home and kids is not a liability but a blessing.
Imagine a man who married a lady who is well educated and doing well, the lady sacrificed her career for the family, why will a reasonable man treat her like liability??

Omoawoke:
■ Which kind of home did you grow up?
That you haven’t seen good men doesn’t mean there are no good and reasonable men, you need to change your perspective and every morning you wake, pray to your creator to lead you to good men. There are so many men who value family and understand that a wife staying home to manage his home and kids is not a liability but a blessing.
■ Imagine a man who married a lady who is well educated and doing well, the lady sacrificed her career for the family, why will a reasonable man treat her like liability??

What in the world is this one rambling about now? Try to follow the conversation abeg!

2. Look around you to find that the situation is a regular place in Nigeria. There are no laws to prevent these things from happening particularly at the traditional level. So, why then pretend these things run counter to the reality of things in Nigeria?

Kobojunkie:
What in the world is this one rambling about now? Try to follow the conversation abeg!

2. Look around you to find that the situation is a regular place in Nigeria. There are no laws to prevent these things from happening particularly at the traditional level. So, why then pretend these things run counter to the reality of things in Nigeria?

I don’t know maybe we are seeing things from different life experiences. I have people in this current generation that recently married well educated girls, girls with foreign degrees included that are currently not working full time and the guys are doing the full time job and everyone is happy.
Whenever I meet a lady, I tell them my position that I’m not a western wannabe and prefer to run division of labor, I’d do the full time working while she can be doing the minimum at her own capacity as long as she can manage the home and our future kids, while some girls will be like no, they want to chase their own career, i will quietly convert her to kpekus provider and know nothing can happen between us or just vamoose (no be fight, it’s her choice) and at the same time, I’ve met girls that agreed with my opinion and that’s what they want too.
This life no hard abeg.

Omoawoke:
■ I don’t know maybe we are seeing things from different life experiences. I have people in this current generation that recently married well educated girls, girls with foreign degrees included that are currently not working full time and the guys are doing the full time job and everyone is happy.
Whenever I meet a lady, I tell them my position that I’m not a western wannabe and prefer to run division of labor, I’d do the full time working while she can be doing the minimum at her own capacity as long as she can manage the home and our future kids, while some girls will be like no, they want to chase their own career, i will quietly convert her to kpekus provider and know nothing can happen between us or just vamoose (no be fight, it’s her choice) and at the same time, I’ve met girls that agreed with my opinion and that’s what they want too.
This life no hard abeg.

Could you please stop trying to make the discussion about your person? This isn't a discussion about you and your personal preferences which does not affect the next man in any way.

Kobojunkie:
Could you please stop trying to make the discussion about your person? This isn't a discussion about you and your personal preferences which does not affect the next man in any way.

The thread is asking us for our opinion of marrying a girl that is full house wife or full career woman.
How did I change the topic in discussion?

Omoawoke:
■ The thread is asking us for our opinion of marrying a girl that is full house wife or full career woman. How did I change the topic in discussion?

My responses until now have not been to the OP's question but to insinuations made by others about the place of women in marriages. Try to keep up, please!

Kobojunkie:
My responses until now have not been to the OP's question but to insinuations made by others about the place of women in marriages. Try to keep up, please!

Do you and I have a problem ?

If you are a feminist, yes we have a problem!

cococandy:
I wasn’t actually trying to be funny o.

I truly love 50-50 arrangements. The real ones. Not the ones where the men are exploiting their wives for income but feel to emasculated to help the women

At bolded, Lol yeah i actually know right.

As for me, my other half will enjoy me so much because house chores isn't a big deal to me. It's part of my hobbies.

There was this female friend of mine who usually complains that i'm used to doing everything before she arrives lol. I just told her that i'm used to it.

To cap it all, I'm not a fan of traditional marriage setting. Things have really changed lately. But i guess most nigerian men are somehow still stuck in the past.

Kobojunkie:
Value for these things in a marriage is not determined by the woman alone but by the type of marriage agreement one enters into. If the man does not place value on any of what the woman intends, then she going into a relationship offering the same means she does not understand herself let alone relationships.

The average Nigerian traditional man tends to see women without meaningful employment as liabilities. Insufferable Nigerian women should learn to help themselves first and stop hiding their ignorance behind the mentions of God who has nothing to do with any of this. You can't force a man to have value in that which he has no value for. Women need to learn to become better for their own sakes.

You love my post. The only thing you don't like is including my God. Too bad! He is real but that's not the point. Point is, Nigerian women need help from something, someone beyond their humanity.

I know humans can receive advice and be helped to an extent but the human race is greatly helpless and enslaved to it's weaknesses. We all need a bigger hand! I wasn't even preaching but here we are because you have a problem with God or religion 🤷‍♀️

A career woman for sure.

Kaczynski:
Both


She should be both a house wife and career woman .

And you would be what, just a career man? You want her to share 50-50 income with you but won't share 50-50 house work with her?