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I have been with this my Girl friend Name XYZ, for a year and half. She is in her third year in school. I love everything about her.

I see prospect and she is a girl i will like to spend the rest of my life with. XYZ is still 19, she has a promising character, she always says she will. change when she does wrong. She is intelligent and smart. She is a good cook and is homely. She does demand or ask me for money, na me they give her and i do it without stress because i have it
I am made Tech Bro and am ready to settle down, she is graduating next year, so my eyes are on her.

However, The thing i detest about her is that she is has an eye for promiscuity. She likes fashion and does it in a style that is against my believe.
She sees no problem with wearing leg chains, waist beeds and all her paintings. For me, i just want her to be desent in it, and that is where our problems started. When she was in Year 1, I couldn't attend her matric because all of this. She does it and go to the extreme, but when confronted, she is always sobber and apologizes, but she obviously still goes back to them.

Lets focus on the one that happened recently
After a fight, which her mum settled, She sent me a picture of her close friend which she used as her Lock screen. Her friend was bent in a sexy doggy style bikini attire and i asked her why she used the picture as her lock screen and she said its because she liked it.
Na there I come tire for this girl. She has been pleading but I am feeling she has corrupted her ways.
I take many hours to talk to this girl about prostitution and corruption but it seems they are all falling on deaf ears.
She takes delight in tweaking, making videos of her tweaking or dancing, and all of this but I dont know.
She has changed alot compared to what she was. This is true.
but
if she is pretending?
If she is wasting my time?
If I should break up?
If i should take a break?
Any time i talk about break up, she crys and promise to change but she conitnues to go back, to another style and this is seriously affecting me.
I love this girl but I am really confused

Dump her she's into coded hookup.
You can't be dating a university student when you are not in same school.
She's just using you too foot bills.
Dump her and run for your life
Even lecturer dey chop your babe bro...

DonBenny77:
Dump her she's into coded hookup.
You can't be dating a university student when you are not in same school.
She's just using you too foot bills.
Dump her and run for your life
Even lecturer dey chop your babe bro...

Thanks for your reply but she doesn't really ask me for money ooh

toboizilla:
Thanks for your reply but she doesn't really ask me for money ooh

She's asking someone else.
Shey you be techie
Clone her Whatsapp and clear your doubts

You created this thread exactly 4:48am, means you're having sleepless night over a Nigerian girl.

I think that's enough reason to quit that toxic relationship. You shouldn't be in a relationship that is not giving you peace of mind.

This is what happens when a man has prioritised his feelings over logic. This is what happens when a man puts a woman on a pedestal. This is what happens when a man has no options. This is what happens when a man is blinded by lust. This is what happens when a man thinks her woman is special. This is also what happens when a man has overinvested in a fruitless relationship. They all end up heartbroken, depressed or suicidal over pvssy.

Chai..




She's a young girl with hot blood that's yet to experience life!

It's very difficult for you to influence her right now.

Shift before you have HBP.

Always remember her in your prayers.

STEWpid:
Chai..

which one be chai na, abeg talk your mind, I will listen

toboizilla:
which one be chai na, abeg talk your mind, I will listen

That's because you're too fast to quote!












Chai..

toboizilla:
I have been with this my Girl friend Name XYZ, for a year and half. She is in her third year in school. I love everything about her.

I see prospect and she is a girl i will like to spend the rest of my life with. XYZ is still 19, she has a promising character, she always says she will. change when she does wrong. She is intelligent and smart. She is a good cook and is homely. She does demand or ask me for money, na me they give her and i do it without stress because i have it
I am made Tech Bro and am ready to settle down, she is graduating next year, so my eyes are on her.

However, The thing i detest about her is that she is has an eye for promiscuity. She likes fashion and does it in a style that is against my believe.
She sees no problem with wearing leg chains, waist beeds and all her paintings. For me, i just want her to be desent in it, and that is where our problems started. When she was in Year 1, I couldn't attend her matric because all of this. She does it and go to the extreme, but when confronted, she is always sobber and apologizes, but she obviously still goes back to them.

Lets focus on the one that happened recently
After a fight, which her mum settled, She sent me a picture of her close friend which she used as her Lock screen. Her friend was bent in a sexy doggy style bikini attire and i asked her why she used the picture as her lock screen and she said its because she liked it.
Na there I come tire for this girl. She has been pleading but I am feeling she has corrupted her ways.
I take many hours to talk to this girl about prostitution and corruption but it seems they are all falling on deaf ears.
She takes delight in tweaking, making videos of her tweaking or dancing, and all of this but I dont know.
She has changed alot compared to what she was. This is true.
but
if she is pretending?
If she is wasting my time?
If I should break up?
If i should take a break?
Any time i talk about break up, she crys and promise to change but she conitnues to go back, to another style and this is seriously affecting me.
I love this girl but I am really confused

You are just a backup generator 😆

Secondly, why are you dating a student?

And when she goes for NYSC, guys go still run her mileage by 45,000 miles

Dshocker:
You are just a backup generator 😆

Secondly, why are you dating a student?

And when she goes for NYSC, guys go still run her mileage by 45,000 miles

Make we no date student again?

don't break up with her just like that, her blood is still hot like someone said above. and you never know if another girl you will get will be worse

toboizilla:
Make we no date student again?

A big "NO"....

Lessonteacher:
don't break up with her just like that, her blood is still hot like someone said above. and you never know if another girl you will get will be worse

Thanks so much I appreciate.
The only problem na say over little thing you wil have to talk and talk before she understand

Dshocker:
A big "NO"....

Oga you dey vex ooh, like say them don show you pepper?

Red flags are very important. But know that anything you can't change now can't be changed in marriage. Secondly, what are you doing dating a 19 year old? She's not ready for marriage as she clearly has little or experience for relationship let to say marriage. Don't rush things, relax and let her grow up in maturity. The matured ones won't be doing fashions that would hurt their partners. So, i would say give her time. And if you go into it hurriedly, your marriage won't survive past five years if it even get up to that. Go and read history of women who married in their teen or early 20s especially in this generation, you'd hear, 21yo wife stabbed husband at sleep after argument, etc. Secondly, most women who married between 19 and 25 end up in divorce. The truth is, here in Nigeria, our current modern adapted culture and tradition which has spoiled our society makes women mature for marriage only when they're closer to their 30s. Those way below 30 are still game players. FACT!!! Most hookup girls falls in.

toboizilla:
Oga you dey vex ooh, like say them don show you pepper?

Seems you are below 25yrs and yet to experience life.

You cannot date a student, without having headaches.

Imagine a girl that has several options that are better than you to chose from.

And if are thinking she would keep herself for you alone, better think twice.

19 year old girl is happy to enjoy her life. please do not bring her any sadness, we only have one life to live.

she does not owe you anything

Dshocker:
Seems you are below 25yrs and yet to experience life.

You cannot date a student, without having headaches.

Imagine a girl that has several options that are better than you to chose from.

And if are thinking she would keep herself for you alone, better think twice.

Thanks brother for your feedback, but I am not below 25 and I am not anyhow option to her

alphaNomega:
19 year old girl is happy to enjoy her life. please do not bring her any sadness, we only have one life to live.

she does not owe you anything

Thanks for your response but what if she doesn’t want to leave me and I don’t either because I love her

When has wearing leg chains and waist beads start to become exhibiting promiscuity...

The hypocrisy that reeks amongst majority of Nigerian men ehhh... Tufiakwa

If you can't stand her own form of fashion then leave her for men who can.. go to the church to look for your kind of woman to put in the house

Most of my gender like better thing.. you also listed out somethings you like about her but e no do you.. mind you no one is perfect... You yourself ... Are you perfect

She is 19 sir and she is doing what 19yrs old do. He that agrees to take ant infested firewood home on his head should be ready to scratch his balls when the ants start swarming on his body.

Ni 4am on sunday?

You're expecting a 19 year old lady to behave like she's 26? Stop it! Let her enjoy her womanhood ffs, she's still a teenager, she has fantasies and dreams, I'm pretty sure you're in your late twenties, you don live life wella but you want a homely 19 year old?

She has a promising future in hook up

toboizilla:
Thanks for your response but what if she doesn’t want to leave me and I don’t either because I love her

dude doesn't need advise premium tears is all I see.

DonBenny77:
She's asking someone else.
Shey you be techie
Clone her Whatsapp and clear your doubts

Very good suggestion.

@Op, do the bolded and uncover some secrets.
A lady who loves, respects and truly sees a future with you wouldn't continously do what you hate. Your babe has definitely been corrupted by either her friend or course mates, and it is highly impossible for her to be bold enough to be doing all those twerking videos without codedly running a few hookup gigs with the influence of those her friends.
She's enjoying the "hoeing" lifestyle, and trust me; you can't tame her at this point. The chances of her even getting more wild is when she goes for NYSC, there wey boys dey even knack married young ladies with reckless abandon.

To her, she feels she is enjoying her life, so no matter what you do or say, she won't stop it.

Don't make a mistake of pushing her into marriage because you think you can use marriage to secure her completely. Ladies these days do not see marriage as a cage anymore, the ones wey wild go still wild even inside marriage, reason why the rate of paternity fraud is alarming these days.

Clone her WhatsApp, tiktok, e.t.c and get the evidence you need. Whatever you do afterwards depends wholly on you.

[quote author= toboizilla post=130834015]Thanks for your response but what if she doesn’t want to leave me and I don’t either because I love her[/quote]

Nicepoker:
dude doesn't need advise premium tears is all I see.

Bro you think it is easy to love truly and to breakup

Shey be you are seeing the red flags now, you are interpreting it as carnival decorations, continue my bro

toboizilla:
Bro you think it is easy to love truly and to breakup

It isn't but you're not helping matters by cancelling every single advice you've been giving by those not in love with your girl and prolly more experienced


As much as I'd not date a Peugeot 505 car, I'd not wanna bore a 19yo with marriage matters too

This things are more biological than logical, you can't rush things with her and believe it or not, she's still prolly gonna go wilder than she currently is till she's maybe around 25 or thereabout

toboizilla:
Thanks so much I appreciate.
The only problem na say over little thing you wil have to talk and talk before she understand

Lolz...your brain actually knows what to do, but your heart is looking for support to do the other.
I believe u are above 30yrs...the age gap is much, and the avg nigerian girl below 24yrs wants to taste life, hv fun, party, etc....you are a stumbling block to this girls dreams, and she would be resentful towards you, for preventing her from enjoying her younger yrs to the max.

Have a final candid talk with her and free the girl and move on with ur life....if and when she has enjoyed life...and comes back to her senses...other men will wife her

earthrealm:
Lolz...your brain actually knows what to do, but your heart is looking for support to do the other.
I believe u are above 30yrs...the age gap is much, and the avg nigerian girl below 24yrs wants to taste life, hv fun, party, etc....you are a stumbling block to this girls dreams, and she would be resentful towards you, for preventing her from enjoying her younger yrs to the max.

Have a final candid talk with her and free the girl and move on with ur life....if and when she has enjoyed life...and comes back to her senses...other men will wife her

Brother thanks, but I have done that severally and told her that there are better guys out there, but she said it is me she wants. In her words “There is nothing to enjoy”