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Some pastors has caused great havoc in the homes of their members by putting themselves first over every thing else in the life of their members.

Pastor worship. If i was the one a new neutral pastor will officiate

BlindAngel:
We both have agreed on the name, she suggested it and i agreed, though it pains me that I wasn't the one that came up with the name fully, but we've already agreed and changing my mind right now will lead to an heavy quarrel and lot's of endless crying from her. That I'm wicked and heartless that after we've both agreed, I changed things.

She manipulated you into getting married, maybe even a relationship.

She manipulated you into not naming your own child.

Now she's manipulating you using pastor and you've capitulated.

You are a weakling unfortunately.

She will continue to manipulate you using her tears and other means, and any day you wake up, she will leave you.

You brought it upon yourself.

I feel sorry for emotionally weak men like you

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

My friend you have done well by letting her have her way always let people have their way that’s the only way you can get to know who they truly are. So relax and make her understand ur own reasons were not out of wickedness

My wife followed me to my church even before marriage.

Men behaving like sissies

BlindAngel:
That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

PEACE OOO.Make una invite both Pastor .Case closed.



* where is the naming ceremony venue*
Nairalanders Elders Council must rep

Namaster:
First of all, do you mean she wants her pastor to CHOOSE the name of your baby or OFFICIATE the naming ceremony?

Secondly, do a DNA test to confirm rhat you'll not be raising the bastard son of her pastor. This woman obviously WORSHIPS her pastor. It's not UNIMAGINABLE that she's tendered her pussy as offering one or two times.

Next you need to face the fact that a SCAMMER (the pastor) and a STRANGE man (still the pastor) exerts more INFLUENCE in your marriage than you do. And ask yourself whether you still want to be in that marriage.

A strange man holds the remote control to your relationship. Your marriage subsists by his will. Are you okay with that?

NEXT, she is blatantly MANIPULATING you without remorse. You are NOT responsible for the complications that led to the C-Section. Even if it's because the baby is too big because you are a big man, it's still NOT your fault.

Her eyes were wild open when she CHOSE to marry you and have your child. If it's yours, that is.

STOP letting her use child birth as an ammo for manipulating you. Because if you capitulate today, you best belive she'll NEVER stop. Next she'll weaponise the child.

Then her next pregnancy would be a NUCLEAR weapon. Everything you previously disagreed on would be tabled again UNTIL she has her way. Maybe, she'll demand you DONATE your house to her pastor and rent a room and parlour for yourself.

Put your foot down and DON'T even compromise. Don't allow her pastor to be involved in ANYWAY when it comes to naming the child unless DNA proves the child is his.

You are a wise man

Eyahhhh....You are closing d barn after d fox has colonized ur fowl.
From the foundation u don carry last!
How can u and her be attending different churches and u say u are d 'husband'?

Since u couldn't control her to be attending same church as you, u don fall hand.
Bro, it's too late to cry when d head is already off d body.

Just manage her for her vágina and d children she bears for u.
You don lose-guard from d onset!

BlindAngel:
I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

BlindAngel:
That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

This is a problem that should have been avoided b4 d start of marriage.. u should.have both agreed on which church u both will attend together... ordinarily, the practice is the wife leaves her church for the husband's church.. but of course they both can agree to her church or another church. But it is very BAD to be attending different churches from the outset.. which church will the children be going to? U need to find a way to resolve that ASAP

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

You be Jumbo SIMP..
If I be her, since I know say na tears be your weakness.. na to the cry for you everytime I want to make a stupid demand..
Shame.on you MuMu

Namaster:
First of all, do you mean she wants her pastor to CHOOSE the name of your baby or OFFICIATE the naming ceremony?

Secondly, do a DNA test to confirm rhat you'll not be raising the bastard son of her pastor. This woman obviously WORSHIPS her pastor. It's not UNIMAGINABLE that she's tendered her pussy as offering one or two times.

Next you need to face the fact that a SCAMMER (the pastor) and a STRANGE man (still the pastor) exerts more INFLUENCE in your marriage than you do. And ask yourself whether you still want to be in that marriage.

A strange man holds the remote control to your relationship. Your marriage subsists by his will. Are you okay with that?

NEXT, she is blatantly MANIPULATING you without remorse. You are NOT responsible for the complications that led to the C-Section. Even if it's because the baby is too big because you are a big man, it's still NOT your fault.

Her eyes were wild open when she CHOSE to marry you and have your child. If it's yours, that is.

STOP letting her use child birth as an ammo for manipulating you. Because if you capitulate today, you best belive she'll NEVER stop. Next she'll weaponise the child.

You are blessed, you deserve blessings for this input

Everything is not an issue of authority. I hate power plays in relationships but especially marriage. What authority do u want to exercise without compassion or reason on ur wife judt because u married her she must be ur slave and dare not have her own opinion?

Mr Authority marriage isn't sustain by authority oo but by love and good reason.

ur wife gave birth ur family is dragging rights of pastor to use? The question is why don't u know ur wife's pastor? That is already a red flag after dating and a year of marriage..

2ndly who says the 2 pastors can't handle the naming? must it be a competition or are they serving different gods?

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

if she want to cry let her cry now, why will you accept such thing.
You are creating problem you will not be able to settle for yourself.
This kind talk self dey make me vex.

I don't understand why you are reporting an issue that you have already made decision over

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

Oga,

As you have allowed her have her way.....


WELCOME TO THE SIMPson'S CLUB aka Unaneva C. Enitin

Oga... you are in a big trouble. Control her now no matter what it will cost. She will extend it to other family matters in the future. Give the devil an inch....he will take a meter.

However, YOU ARE A WEAK MAN

BlindAngel:
That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

Your wife used tears to lure you into marrying her....
Refused to change her name to your surname after marriage...
Gave birth to your first son and your name appears nowhere on your son's birth cert...
Used tears to manipulate you into allowing her name the child with the name she chooses, not yours.
Forcing you with years to allow her pastor officiate the naming ceremony, in her church.

Sorry my guy, but you be big mu.mu

jaxxy:
Everything is not an issue of authority. I hate power plays in relationships but especially marriage. What authority do u want to exercise without compassion or reason on ur wife judt because u married her she must be ur slave and dare not have her own opinion?

Mr Authority marriage isn't sustain by authority oo but by love and good reason.

It is like you Neva marry that's why you dey talk like that brother

Bro - just let it be. This is a fight/agreement you can avoid.
Unless you think she was unfaithful and na pastor get pickin.
Let her have her way there are other issues to quarrel over

Please can you permit me to tell you that the foundation of your marriage is faulty as a Christians Bible lays emphasis on foundation, how can you come outside and say you don't know your wife's pastor, I don't understand that word, for complete the nine months you spent together before the arrival of the additional blessing of God to your home don't you guys have a place where you've agreed to worship before, if you and your wife are a good Christian you're expected to worship in the same church

Wande22:
It is like you Neva marry that's why you dey talk like that brother

U should know when and when to exercise Authority not everything u show urself..

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

Ask her whether na her pastor pay the hospital bill, whether she is married to pastor and whether the child belong to the pastor?

As me o, na no no. If she can't give a enough reason why her pastor must be the one to name my child. Na no. No dey say yes, yes to everything wey woman demand.

BlindAngel:
That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

Look here, you created the problem. Both of you were supposed to be under the same ministration. Attending different churches is already a broken foundation.
Since you have toll this part and for the sake of her health, do the naming in her church and do dedication in yours.

Address your altar to be one

GboyegaD:
Did they force him to marry her or [b]do you think he is doing her a favor marrying her? [/b]He needs thread with caution and as a man learn to lead his home and not just listen to people like you who want to make him feel he is more than he is.

Yep!

Though u have made up your mind to allow her with the pastor. I will advise you to reconsider your decision and don't allow her.

This will give you the opportunity to see how far she can go about this issue. Don't give in. You are going into a trap. DONT ALLOW HER HAVE HER WAY. Wait and see what will happen next. If there is more to it, this is the only way you can know.

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.
This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,
she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.
But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.
I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.
I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

What are you trying to insinuate?
The naming ceremony is usually the business of a Priest or Pastor and whais wrong by your exclamation ' that her Pastor is going to do his duty of naming a Child.
Don't allow an Outsider in Social Media to destroy your Marriage,yo Ur wife might be right.
Always remember that Women brings Emotions to issues.
Let there be Peace, please.

Fist of all my brother you don't look well before you leap o
According to our tradition don't know if you are a Yoruba man o.
Woman can hold her wedding in her church to honour her and her family but anything ceremony after that should be handle by your pastor or your church. Even if her pastor show up he can be among the officiating minister not leading cos it's your church responsibility to officiate your baby christening.
Man up and rebuke any spirit of manipulation o op

Try do DNA. Pastor was part of the process. After DNA if the baby is your kindly stop her from going to any church unless the one you re going

Is the pastor FIFA barged?

TOPCRUISE:
Some pastors has caused great havoc in the homes of their members by putting themselves first over every thing else in the life of their members.

I tire o,
I am a Catholic and a girl belonging to same church society as myself also had this issue some time ago.

She was married outside the Catholic church but does attend it occasionally. She had this issue during the naming of her child and confronted the Rev father about it.

The priest told her point blank: He is your husband, as regard this issue, do whatever he says! The girl weak and case closed

BlindAngel:
We both have agreed on the name, she suggested it and i agreed, though it pains me that I wasn't the one that came up with the name fully, but we've already agreed and changing my mind right now will lead to an heavy quarrel and lot's of endless crying from her. That I'm wicked and heartless that after we've both agreed, I changed things.

Man you are not in control of your marriage...

What you are Afraid of Now .. will soon catch up on you unprepared.

Man up... Joor

This your is looking too childish