₦airaland Forum

Zonefree:
No one wants to marry a promiscuous woman.

Gerrard59:
OP,

Female medical doctors are like other women out there. They just happen to be at the zenith of hypergamy. That is all.

Edpuma:
I have come around female medical students and doctors, when it comes to acceptance of friendship, that is on a slight note but when it comes to furthering ahead for courtship or marital settlement, they just start telling you that they are only interested in friendship and not marriage that they are not looking at that picture even though, the spark in the relationship was already there initially when at the point of getting to know one another...

Then just a mistake in the relationship, you see them blocking and backing out when it could have easily been reconciled.

Edpuma:
One just started snubbing, ignoring all my attempts to communicate with her.
These hypogamy and hypergamy are actually real in dating, I believe, the female medics only believe they are marrying at par not even marrying up (hypergamy), if they marry their colleagues or very wealthy/influential professionals while they feel they will be marrying down (hypogamy) if they see the dating move(s) coming from outside the medical field from my several experiences.

Edpuma:
About 5 of them now.
Like I said, I try my best being nice and not only medics, have dated, other areas are extensions of my dates. But the striking flaring up in medical students/doctors is the contention here.

Edpuma:
I have come around female medical students and doctors, when it comes to acceptance of friendship, that is on a slight note but when it comes to furthering ahead for courtship or marital settlement, they just start telling you that they are only interested in friendship and not marriage that they are not looking at that picture even though, the spark in the relationship was already there initially when at the point of getting to know one another...

Then just a mistake in the relationship, you see them blocking and backing out when it could have easily been reconciled.

pocohantas:
Welcome to Nairaland.
Today it is doctors/nurses. Tomorrow go be army or bankers. As they know the ones to date/marry, I wonder why they haven't married them.

Edpuma:
Not at all, not on the basis of what I have acquired over the years in terms of Education, Skills, Training, Projects etc.

It is your personal opinion and it remains so.

Karleb:
Lecturer inside high class professionals?

Karleb:
Lecturer inside high class professionals?

spiceadole:
Nigerian men are confused lots.
I'm a female doctor.
I can't think of any of my female classmates who is still single.
More than 60% of us got married within 2 years of graduating.
I remember how we were attending weddings almost every month.

And we married mostly fellow doctors, colleagues in other medical fields,engineers,lawyers,accountants and business men


So what's this thread about really?

PS--- My husband is a medical doctor too.

Johncuppa:
You bad bro. So lecturing is not a high level grade job?

spiceadole:
Nigerian men are confused lots.
I'm a female doctor.
I can't think of any of my female classmates who is still single.
More than 60% of us got married within 2 years of graduating.
I remember how we were attending weddings almost every month.

And we married mostly fellow doctors, colleagues in other medical fields,engineers,lawyers,accountants and business men


So what's this thread about really?

PS--- My husband is a medical doctor too.

spiceadole:
Nigerian men boys on the internet are confused lots.
I'm a female doctor.
I can't think of any of my female classmates who is still single.
More than 60% of us got married within 2 years of graduating.
I remember how we were attending weddings almost every month.

And we married mostly fellow doctors, colleagues in other medical fields,engineers,lawyers,accountants and business men


So what's this thread about really?

PS--- My husband is a medical doctor too.

Karleb:
How much is their salary?

GloriousGbola:
as a snob and status matter doctors are in high demand as spouses. i remember how one oil worker chanced a schoolmate of his doctor babe before she even finished uni. man wifed her in 6 months.

at the barest minimum men want educated wives for status. no be why poco people go raise bride price of fully educated daughters ?

Fiscus105:
What's total number of young guys working in KPMG and oil company in Nigeria? Compare to nurses that scatter all over the country.

If a young lecturer is too small to marry nurse who will now marry nurse?

Nurses that are being married to pry school teacher on weekly basis.

The way you guys leaving completely outside from reality is worrisome. Perhaps, your low status or age is affecting your reasonings.

Gotocourt:
Same experience bro. The girl is 31 now, trying to come back. I've ghosted her. They can be toxic, very few calm one

Johncuppa:
A skilled lecturer earns fat and big. They ones that know how things are do not make their money from just salary.
I know one, Gbenga Bello (you can try goggle the name), he makes his money from visitations to other universities, especially private schools, man is a world class researcher.

There are high professions, there are people who are high in their professions.
I heard of a teacher in a British school that earns 650k and a principal collecting 1.2m
It's not as if all medics make fat money like that too.

Blitzking:
Tricks to date a female medical dr
1)have a life..I.e get something doing that fetch you something decent
2) approach her with open mind by being friendly but not friends..
3) regular check up but don't be too clingy get to understand her personality likes and dislikes understand work can mess up her emotions don't take it to heart.
4) state your intention and give her space to decide..don't bombard with calls and attention let her choose with a clear eye
5) the key is never be too clingy and know when to walk away ..learn to respect yourself and walk away at any sight of disrespect.
6) keep focusing on your grind..continue improving and achieving in your chosen endeavour
7)make sure you have funds ready cos 99 percent of female Dr's are ripe for marriage so no loafing around you might not meet her single if u delay 1-3yrs max in rare cases some can be more .
understand that they love the why for every decision. Meaning you can't cook up stories..their brains are wired to thing logically. But at times that emotional side comes up..u can't remove the woman in her frm the dr.
Peace

Karleb:
You are giving me the outliers. It is what everyone has been saying here to cover up.

Most lecturers do not visit, do not teach in british schools. How many british schools do we even have in Nigeria? Most lecturers do not have a p. Hd and are not professors. I dare say 70 % of lecturers' highest qualification is a masters.


Professors in nigeria don't earn upto 500k, so how much do you think a junior lecturer would be earning?

BiGVEEN58:
Their brains are wired to think logically?? What do you mean by that?¡ Lol

Edpuma:
The fact that about 5 I dated and just a little misunderstanding, they flare up and do the blocking is my issue here.
It's fine to get angry or disappointed, but I think pride is really what that flares it up.

SunShowAfrica:
The same woman giving you a tough time is using all here airtime to call another dude...
The female medic probably doesn't like what you do to earn a LIVING and is trying to wait if a rich dude will come her way

Blitzking:
When/if u pass tru pass tru the walls of a medical school for 6 to 10yrs u will understand its an experience that changes ones life forever..it makes u question everything..and you don't just ask for asking sake it's based on what u must av seen..heard..experienced and it becomes a habit ordinarily that should be a normal way of life but I av realised many ppl don't just care to know they just move with the flow.

Angelfrost:
Let's be honest... How many men are ready to support and help build a female medical professional's career?!!

How many?!!

If you understand the career path of a Physician from Residency to Specialisation, you will understand that it's actually wisdom for them not to waste their time and lives on nearsighted, unambitious, and low self-esteem individuals.


To successfully date a medic means you have to be highly patient, loving, accommodating, and willing to make serious sacrifices even denying yourself too.


Let the right career-supporting and patient men with vision locate them...!


Others should focus on BBL and urgent 5k ladies littered everywhere.

Tohsynetita1:
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That’s the rare fact, many of them see those guys outside their profession as someone that doesn’t worth their standard.
Due to job challenges in Nigeria, many Nigerians does not really have a good job, if I say “good”,I mean job of around 150k monthly. Because of that they either look for people in their field, or look for those high profile profession like Lecturing, lawyer,Accounting, not knowing that the narrative as changed as it was before that those profession were lucrative and were valued in society of Nigeria.
In Nigeria of today, a lawyer might not really make money up to a man that does POS, but because the job isn’t a white collar job or office work, most ladies in medicine won’t derive interest in such person even if the love is real. They have forgotten that true love matters and not considering any profession.
On the contrary, those guys they are tripping for in their dept don’t really end up marrying them. Most of them don’t like them because they don’t really make good wife in “child upbringing “ Only few of them does.
An average medical profession lady will be in hospital most time of her life, now if husband also does the same thing, who will nurture the children?
So, that’s why most were either single till old age, I know a chiprotractor in Florida still looking for husband at 62 years, imagine! She has never married before and had no child.
Some married wrongly because they don’t want to marry out of their field, and some that married were later divorced. That’s one of the reasons.

haybhi1:
You see Chimamanda run comot Medicine. You think say na play

Note: any girl who is in the medical school (studying Medicine gangan o, not nursing or all these kinikan courses), and still gives you attention, must really love you, she's been withdrawn or you're her source of survival. Where the time abeg? Chai, una no know how much hard life is for an average medical student in a federal university(can't tell about others)—particularly among the TOP 10 MEDICAL SCHOOLS. Sadness upon sadness. Shege upon shege.

Na all these NL low IQ brain you wan dey follow pezin wey understand everything about your biological beingness talk? Pezin wey get brain pass you. Looool.

Una think say na play dem dey play, lol. social life ke, wetin e mean, where social life wan dey, when you're always studying, writing exams, and yet often a result-announcement away from shege and misery... despite the fact you might have put in so much effort. I say people like Chimamanda change their mind after some level. Lol.

Tightpussy2024:
Zenith of hypergamy?

The doctors I know that are female,married a female doctor or some average doing guy,not odogwu silencer

Calitoscassius:
Not difficult, i have dated a doctor/consultant we have a child together she is one if my baby mamas. How we met? I was a traffic warden, i gave her a ticket for parking at the wrong side of the road. After we had argument over the parking ticket. She called me a retard. Next time she apologised said she understood i was just doing my job. Next thing we exchanged numbers before you say jack! She became pregnant. After 2 years she dumped me, said i am a womaniser. I am no longer a traffic warden people were alway rude when you issue them parking fine ticket, one guy threatned to shoot me, just because i gave him a parking fine. So i quit!

Edpuma:
I am into Investment Banking and other SMEs I plan to scale up in the future.

Gerrard59:
Interesting. Are those female doctors Igbos?

But wait o, the female medics you know married females aka women? Or was that a mistake?