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I don't have time to habour resentment on anyone but that doesn't mean I will have anything to do with you. Even Your number will be permanently blocked on my line.

All these end time wickedass expecting forgiveness from children they thought will never turn out well.

Allow your sister breath if she doesn't want to for now. She should forgive at her own pace.

Yankee101:
Forging does not mean bring her into your circle

It is alot easier for me to forgive a child, than to forgive a full grown adult whose actions where premeditated

[quote author=sunnymighty post=131542392][/quote]Until something bad or you are no more(God forbid) you will understand how much they truly hate those children they claim to love

For your aunt tons wear never to forgive your mother one can only imagine what "evil" your mother had done her. Maybe locked in family secret ... as in your dad was probably the love of your aunt's life and snatched by your mom with the backings of other family members. "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." I can see the forgiveness she is asking is because she unleashed her wrath on you the innocent kids which was not at all right and that is the forgiveness she is begging for. Your sister should forgive her... but if the feud with the mother was for something petty... hell no.

Sonnobax15:
Good day Nairalanders.....Hope everyone of you here is fine and doing just great?

Well, there's a situation my siblings and I have found ourselves in presently.......It's been 19 years since we lost our mom and those years were really hectic years for us,due to the circumstances surrounding her death because she was murdered................But somehow, God came to our rescue and we've all grown now

Before my mom's death,she had a sister who was her only blood sister, tho they had other step siblings...... Honestly,as I kid,I remembered how many times my mom tried to resolve the dispute between she and her only blood sister but all were to no avail.....She(my aunt) was hell-bent on the fact that she'd rather die than to settle things up with my mom.......Even in her death bed,i remember how my elder sister went to inform my aunt about our mom's situation and everything that led to what happened to her,but she gave deaf ears and even chased my sister away.....

I was only a little boy then,but I remembered every single thing that transpired then ..

Now here's the problem.........My aunt has been on our necks, begging us to forgive her......There was a time we were invited to our maternal home for a family meeting,and my aunt happened to be around.....She knelt and was weeping and begging us to forgive her....... Personally, I'm a soft-hearted person and I've toured my heart to see if I could forgive her and I think I'm about to let bygones be bygones.......But my other siblings especially my elder sister has sworn never to forgive her . Tho I've tried to talk to my sister but she has vehemently refused never to forgive her .....My other uncles have summoned another meeting but my sister has vowed to ignore their calls.......

Should my sister be blamed for finding it hard to find a place in her heart to forgive my Aunt, considering the fact that she's a Christian?

Or make everybody just mind him business just like we've been doing over the years?

The matter just tire me I swear but it's all good tho..

If she like make she no forgive, if she dies today, she is going to hell

iamL:
I don't have time to habour resentment on anyone but that doesn't mean I will have anything to do with you. Even Your number will be permanently blocked on my line.

All these end time wickedass expecting forgiveness from children they thought will never turn out well.

Allow your sister breath if she doesn't want to for now. She should forgive at her own pace.

That is not true forgiveness. If you die in that state, you are going to hell

We need to know what your mom did to wrong your mum in the first place, there are some things that if you considered the circumstances the person did it to you, honestly, you may find it difficult to forgive but now that she is the one seeking for forgiveness, you may find it in your heart to forgive her , as for me if you do me wrong if it's 100 years I have the opportunity i must do my own back and if you do me a favour if it's 100 years it take I will try my best to reward you for it , I learnt that principle from OBJ. Don't forget a sin and always remember the good deed.

Sonnobax15:
Good day Nairalanders.....Hope everyone of you here is fine and doing just great?

Well, there's a situation my siblings and I have found ourselves in presently.......It's been 19 years since we lost our mom and those years were really hectic years for us,due to the circumstances surrounding her death because she was murdered................But somehow, God came to our rescue and we've all grown now

Before my mom's death,she had a sister who was her only blood sister, tho they had other step siblings...... Honestly,as I kid,I remembered how many times my mom tried to resolve the dispute between she and her only blood sister but all were to no avail.....She(my aunt) was hell-bent on the fact that she'd rather die than to settle things up with my mom.......Even in her death bed,i remember how my elder sister went to inform my aunt about our mom's situation and everything that led to what happened to her,but she gave deaf ears and even chased my sister away.....

I was only a little boy then,but I remembered every single thing that transpired then ..

Now here's the problem.........My aunt has been on our necks, begging us to forgive her......There was a time we were invited to our maternal home for a family meeting,and my aunt happened to be around.....She knelt and was weeping and begging us to forgive her....... Personally, I'm a soft-hearted person and I've toured my heart to see if I could forgive her and I think I'm about to let bygones be bygones.......But my other siblings especially my elder sister has sworn never to forgive her . Tho I've tried to talk to my sister but she has vehemently refused never to forgive her .....My other uncles have summoned another meeting but my sister has vowed to ignore their calls.......

Should my sister be blamed for finding it hard to find a place in her heart to forgive my Aunt, considering the fact that she's a Christian?

Or make everybody just mind him business just like we've been doing over the years?

The matter just tire me I swear but it's all good tho..

Thing is, maybe, there's something your mum did to her sister that she couldn't forgive her.... And probably your mum seeking for her forgiveness and to resolve issues between them.

Your sister has every right to exclude herself from building any relationships with your aunt.

You sister is not different from your aunt. She inherited wickedness from her aunt and let her expect her cousins not to forgive her to.

Sonnobax15:
Good day Nairalanders.....Hope everyone of you here is fine and doing just great?

Well, there's a situation my siblings and I have found ourselves in presently.......It's been 19 years since we lost our mom and those years were really hectic years for us,due to the circumstances surrounding her death because she was murdered................But somehow, God came to our rescue and we've all grown now

Before my mom's death,she had a sister who was her only blood sister, tho they had other step siblings...... Honestly,as I kid,I remembered how many times my mom tried to resolve the dispute between she and her only blood sister but all were to no avail.....She(my aunt) was hell-bent on the fact that she'd rather die than to settle things up with my mom.......Even in her death bed,i remember how my elder sister went to inform my aunt about our mom's situation and everything that led to what happened to her,but she gave deaf ears and even chased my sister away.....

I was only a little boy then,but I remembered every single thing that transpired then ..

Now here's the problem.........My aunt has been on our necks, begging us to forgive her......There was a time we were invited to our maternal home for a family meeting,and my aunt happened to be around.....She knelt and was weeping and begging us to forgive her....... Personally, I'm a soft-hearted person and I've toured my heart to see if I could forgive her and I think I'm about to let bygones be bygones.......But my other siblings especially my elder sister has sworn never to forgive her . Tho I've tried to talk to my sister but she has vehemently refused never to forgive her .....My other uncles have summoned another meeting but my sister has vowed to ignore their calls.......

Should my sister be blamed for finding it hard to find a place in her heart to forgive my Aunt, considering the fact that she's a Christian?

Or make everybody just mind him business just like we've been doing over the years?

The matter just tire me I swear but it's all good tho..

I don’t forgive. And I have my reason.

You see, things like this resolve around “Power Play”

People like your aunt shouldn’t be forgiven. Do you know why? It’s because she has lost her supposed power. If that power still exist, she will stay wicked.


I have an aunt like her too who was begging my younger sister and asking that we all forgive her. This is a woman my mum took care of when their dad died, even hustled job for in the bank. She caused my mum to lose her own job.

Years later, she left Nigeria and her daughter with my mum. My mum was pay school fees for some time before she could start sending money and when it was time, they came to carry the daughter from us.


As if that was not enough… many years after we were living in her house, she asked to pack our things and leave. Yup, same woman my mum fed and clothed.

How do you forgive such a person?

I surely know that she begging for forgiveness is because of old age and the fact that she has lost everything. If she still had that power, she wouldn’t ask for forgiveness or be kind.


Make everybody just Dey their Dey…

Oga, how the matter take concern you?

I have an uncle that I will never forgive, same with some cousins.

If I meet any of them for afterlife, we will continue our fight there maybe na Angel Michael go seperate fight for us.

Lance008:
All this Christian no normal at all
Did you know if satan apologize to God at the last moment but he stil throw am out u no ask urself why ?
Isreal get enemy
God favorite country

I really get your point but the truth is for a Christian, if you don't forgive anyone regardless of their offense, it's a sign that you have surrendered completely to the Authority of Christ. You are still in charge of your life, despite knowing that God pulled you through the hard times. And remember vengeance belongs to Him.

This is how I quickly let people off in my heart: I ask the question - Am I willing to point a gun at the offender? Answer is No. Am I sure that God will reward everyone who have wrongly worked against me? Yes he will. So if I keep getting angry and unwilling to forgive, how does that deal with the person? No way! I just let go, and let God.

You can forgive and stay away from the person if you are unsure of the person's motive. But to not forgive is a trouble you don't want to go to hell for.

lawbabs:
I really get your point but the truth is for a Christian, if you don't forgive anyone regardless of their offense, it's a sign that you have surrendered completely to the Authority of Christ. You are still in charge of your life, despite knowing that God pulled you through the hard times. And remember vengeance belongs to Him.

This is how I quickly let people off in my heart: I ask the question - Am I willing to point a gun at the offender? Answer is No. Am I sure that God will reward everyone who have wrongly worked against me? Yes he will. So if I keep getting angry and unwilling to forgive, how does that deal with the person? No way! I just let go, and let God.

You can forgive and stay away from the person if you are unsure of the person's motive. But to not forgive is a trouble you don't want to go to hell for.

I no say mak he no forget the issue
U Dey mistake me
I say mak she far from them
Mak Watin kill mama no kill her

Sonnobax15:
Good day Nairalanders.......

Please, tell her that forgiveness is a gift that we give to ourselves. Storing all that anger and hatred inside her will only destroy her. This life is so short sir. Death can come at any time and it will be dangerous to stand before our maker without resolving all our issues here on earth first.

redcliff:
That is not true forgiveness. If you die in that state, you are going to hell

Keep deceiving yourself.

Forgiveness means letting go of resentment and not holding animosity against someone it doesn't necessarily means been friends with the person again.

Abi person wey try to poison you and didn't succeed you go follow am go chop again? Or a child that was sexually abused go be friends with his molester abi?

Even bible say you reap what you sow.

Sonnobax15:
Good day Nairalanders.....Hope everyone of you here is fine and doing just great?

Well, there's a situation my siblings and I have found ourselves in presently.......It's been 19 years since we lost our mom and those years were really hectic years for us,due to the circumstances surrounding her death because she was murdered................But somehow, God came to our rescue and we've all grown now

Before my mom's death,she had a sister who was her only blood sister, tho they had other step siblings...... Honestly,as I kid,I remembered how many times my mom tried to resolve the dispute between she and her only blood sister but all were to no avail.....She(my aunt) was hell-bent on the fact that she'd rather die than to settle things up with my mom.......Even in her death bed,i remember how my elder sister went to inform my aunt about our mom's situation and everything that led to what happened to her,but she gave deaf ears and even chased my sister away.....

I was only a little boy then,but I remembered every single thing that transpired then ..

Now here's the problem.........My aunt has been on our necks, begging us to forgive her......There was a time we were invited to our maternal home for a family meeting,and my aunt happened to be around.....She knelt and was weeping and begging us to forgive her....... Personally, I'm a soft-hearted person and I've toured my heart to see if I could forgive her and I think I'm about to let bygones be bygones.......But my other siblings especially my elder sister has sworn never to forgive her . Tho I've tried to talk to my sister but she has vehemently refused never to forgive her .....My other uncles have summoned another meeting but my sister has vowed to ignore their calls.......

Should my sister be blamed for finding it hard to find a place in her heart to forgive my Aunt, considering the fact that she's a Christian?

Or make everybody just mind him business just like we've been doing over the years?

The matter just tire me I swear but it's all good tho..

If really @bolded is what your aunt said then I will advise you talk to your sister to not forgive her. Let her go and ask your dead mom for forgiveness. They are some words we are not meant to use regardless of the situation we find ourselves in. She crossed the line by saying the bolded and even sticking to it. That was first class wickedness that can come from only a demon.
If you or any of your siblings goes close to this woman one of you must regret. There is no way someone that cold hearted will jst wake up and claim they are changed and anyone would believe them.
Una fir forgive her sha o.. But make sure y'all stay at least 50 miles away from her. A word is enough.

Sonnobax15:
Good day Nairalanders.....Hope everyone of you here is fine and doing just great?

Well, there's a situation my siblings and I have found ourselves in presently.......It's been 19 years since we lost our mom and those years were really hectic years for us,due to the circumstances surrounding her death because she was murdered................But somehow, God came to our rescue and we've all grown now

Before my mom's death,she had a sister who was her only blood sister, tho they had other step siblings...... Honestly,as I kid,I remembered how many times my mom tried to resolve the dispute between she and her only blood sister but all were to no avail.....She(my aunt) was hell-bent on the fact that she'd rather die than to settle things up with my mom.......Even in her death bed,i remember how my elder sister went to inform my aunt about our mom's situation and everything that led to what happened to her,but she gave deaf ears and even chased my sister away.....

I was only a little boy then,but I remembered every single thing that transpired then ..

Now here's the problem.........My aunt has been on our necks, begging us to forgive her......There was a time we were invited to our maternal home for a family meeting,and my aunt happened to be around.....She knelt and was weeping and begging us to forgive her....... Personally, I'm a soft-hearted person and I've toured my heart to see if I could forgive her and I think I'm about to let bygones be bygones.......But my other siblings especially my elder sister has sworn never to forgive her . Tho I've tried to talk to my sister but she has vehemently refused never to forgive her .....My other uncles have summoned another meeting but my sister has vowed to ignore their calls.......

Should my sister be blamed for finding it hard to find a place in her heart to forgive my Aunt, considering the fact that she's a Christian?

Or make everybody just mind him business just like we've been doing over the years?

The matter just tire me I swear but it's all good tho..

You sister should let go. Someone needs to break the circle, lets assume you aunt dies without getting your sisters forgiveness, you sister would be repeating the same thing you aunt did 19 years ago.... Break that circle of unforgiveness.

iamL:
Keep deceiving yourself.

Forgiveness means letting go of resentment and not holding animosity against someone it doesn't necessarily means been friends with the person again.

Abi person wey try to poison you and didn't succeed you go follow am go chop again? Or a child that was sexually abused go be friends with his molester abi?

Even bible say you reap what you sow.

Then you do not understand tbe kingdom of God and how he wants us to live before we make heaven. Blocking the number alone is enough grounds to make Hellfire. You seem like a christian who truly believes God's word. Ask him for discernment so that you wont make a mistake.

What your sister is doing now is exactly what her aunt did. I just hope she doesn't take out her frustration on her nieces the way her aunt did to her.

That said, carrying on your mom's beef with her sister, especially when you don't know or aren't willing to understand the full story, is not healthy. If she hasn’t wronged you directly, then there’s really nothing to forgive.

Everyone should focus on their own lives. You don’t need to be friends, but that doesn’t mean you have to be enemies either. You can simply be strangers.

If your aunt needs forgiveness, tell her to meet your mom. You don't have the capacity to forgive your aunt over what she did to your mother.

Diabolical 😮‍💨

Acidosis:
If your aunt needs forgiveness, tell her to meet your mom. .

cococandy:
Diabolical 😮‍💨