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Akinpresident:
From experience it works, you just have to do it sparingly and effectively.
Women thrives on attention and when you starve them that, they go crazy. And it pushes them to find out what exactly that's making you not to have time for them and they pest your life with calls and texts.
You don't do this to a talking stage. She'll simply disappear. You do this to someone who just fell for you.
I think the whole thing is about ensuring the lady likes you as much as you like them.

Exactly, you do this when the lady already has a thing for you and even at that it's still very risky but safer than doing it when you're not sure she digs you.

Op this is what I have to say 😀😀

maasoap:
You should have asked whether there are men who are living testimony of the this theory?
I think the one who loves you will chase. The only thing is that the chase will eventually stop when all the hope is lost.

If you read my post in between lines you'll see where I mentioned it works for ugly, low self esteem, and jobless insecure girls. A man who's busy with his life and she sees that he's busy but still find times to check up on her will make her feel valued and loved. And she'll in turn reciprocate unless she's evil. But where a man disregards her completely with the hope that it will create an air of mystery around and strike up curiosity is completely fallacious. Women don't have that time again unless of course she's jobless.

EBEk101:
Op this is what I have to say 😀😀

let's wait for that time 😂

rickleye:
This is an OG theory. Tried and tested. It is not the norm but rather a below average percentage.
Back in the day before social media and Internet cafe and feminism . When I say back in the day I am talking before 1998. When there were no mobile phones and over population . The air was cleaner and you thought Naija had a chance.

To be honest it still happens now - but on much a lower percentage.

Lol Naija actually had a chance then for real 😂

Leemzyy:
Hmm okay oo,i'm 19

Hmmmm. Not 16 years again?

maasoap:
You should have asked whether there are men who are living testimony of the this theory?
I think the one who loves you will chase. The only thing is that the chase will eventually stop when all the hope is lost.

Yes there are men who are living testimony of this but did it last? Or the girl simply moved on and they came to establish it as a fact. Why don't we do the test in 2024 and see what works? Rather than depend on theories that have lost their salt.

DamnnNiggarr:
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This is strictly for married men.

If she's not your wife yet, try this with her at your own peril.
Ignore a career woman, who's still just a "girlfriend" and watch her dump your ass for real.

At first, she'll try to find out what the problem is, but if she finds out that you're just being silly, she'll kick your ass out of her life.

It can only work with your wife, to an extent.
For instance, if I want to get my wife on her toes(which I wouldn't just start unnecessarily, unless something prompted it), I'll just reject her food, busy her calls and keep late hours. Then, come and watch her go gaga, but for the sake of your family, don't let it continue for a longer time, but I can't try this with "a girl friend". But do not suffocate her with your attention.

ADDENDUM:

On the other hand, when you're always available, it also scares women away, to them(women), it can mean many things like joblessness, broke etc, just as I have carefully compiled a list of them below through my research.


Over availability and attention from men to women can lead to;

1. Loss of challenge: When a man becomes too available or eager, the thrill of the chase is over, and the woman may feel less motivated to pursue the relationship.

2. Fear of suffocation: Excessive attention can feel overwhelming or suffocating, leading the woman to pull away and seek space.

3. Decreased sense of autonomy: When a man is too attentive, a woman may feel like she's losing her independence or freedom.

4. Perceived lack of mystery: When a man reveals too much too soon, the mystery and intrigue are gone, making the relationship less captivating.

5. Overemphasis on validation: If a man's attention is solely focused on validating the woman's worth, she may feel like she's only valued for her appearance or charm, rather than her substance.

6. Different attachment styles: Women with anxious or avoidant attachment styles may feel uncomfortable with intense attention, while men with secure attachment styles may not understand this discomfort.

7. Fear of intimacy: Some women may struggle with intimacy issues and pull away when a man gets too close or attentive.[/b]

You're absolutely right bro. It works when you've already locked the woman in. If she's still considering to date you and you disappear, she can easily forget you. You must have created a sense of intimacy and ensured she's into you then use the technique to build her cravings. But using the technique to win her love is ridiculous. And yes, choking a woman with attention can be downright unreasonable unless she's into you. If a woman loves you to stupor, she wants you to call her 3 times daily, she wants you always be around and because you have a life, you can't always be around, so it's a balanced game. I'll never endorse chasing a woman even. I don't chase women. But thinking a woman will run after you because you ignored her is silly. How many women even ask men out with their pride and ego, let alone a man that shows lack of interest. Most ladies will rather die and I did my survey before opening a thread.

As a man, your value will drop if you give away your attention easily. And as a woman, your value will drop when you give away sex easily.

Money, six pack, gold/silver etc are difficult to get and that's what made them valuable. As long as all these resources are scarce and difficult to achieve, humanity will always chase them.

greypencils:
Women want men other women want. Understand that, understand life. They love a challenge, they love competition. They love a high flyer not a low lifer. You can't be a high flyer and not have women chase you. That is who they want. Give them attention as a high flyer and they would drool after you until you cross that line of chasing them. They don't want to be chased. They want to chase, catch, tame and domesticate what they've caught until their catch loses relevance and they are on turned by the next high flyer. Because they are married to a high flyer doesn't mean they don't get aroused by the next high flyer.

Those women that want what other women want are semi-thieves. Why would you want something that's not yours because everyone wants it? And then, wanting someone that everyone wants shows she's unstable, she's easily triggered by public opinion and trends, the feeling to be among, no substance, no ingenuity, no sense. It means when she follows you and sees another man that's more successful and more wanted by other women, she'll jump ship because she wants the trend. That's a sign of a low resolution babe - no authenticity. You just want the man because he's rich and a high flyer. You don't want to know the stuff he's made up, just because of social acceptance you want him. Oh please. Women are bigger than that.

Sonofgod1990:
Hmmmm. Not 16 years again?

Wait! so u believed me?

Leemzyy:
Wait! so u believed me?

Why shouldn't I? Why must you lie

To ignore her successfully means you don't really like her..... If she don't even make efforts to get u back she's uninterested in you.... Tho it's varies with the value he gives

I have a girl that has been with me for the longest time I can remember, she let me get my way with other women and never questioned me but still respect me, she is physically beautiful and God loving, her cooking skill is unmatched and she do enjoy cooking. her head game is amazing, her soundtrack when I give her oral is the sweetest song I have ever heard. her kuntus is tight and always wet. I just want to announce that I will be getting married to her soon.

lacasera14:
Those women that want what other women want are semi-thieves. Why would you want something that's not yours because everyone wants it? And then, wanting someone that everyone wants shows she's unstable, she's easily triggered by public opinion and trends, the feeling to be among, no substance, no ingenuity, no sense. It means when she follows you and sees another man that's more successful and more wanted by other women, she'll jump ship because she wants the trend. That's a sign of a low resolution babe - no authenticity. You just want the man because he's rich and a high flyer. You don't want to know the stuff he's made up, just because of social acceptance you want him. Oh please. Women are bigger than that.

Women are exactly how I've described. Not all would/can make a move on a high flyer but they can't deny their desire for such a man. I repeat ALL women want men other women want, NOT ALL women would follow through or pursue their heart's desires. That is the difference. When the desirable is not always available, they settle for the available. When the desirable is available, why settle for less?

Women love attention
Women love sex
Women love money.

Most times in that order or slightly different.
If you disagree, start going the research today

Leemzyy:
Hmm okay oo,i'm 19

Too early to assume anything or even talk about intimate relationship. Pray and hope for the best.

samuelson06:
Too early to assume anything or even talk about intimate relationship. Pray and hope for the best.

Intimate?? i have never even hug a guy even my so called fiance

lacasera14:
You're absolutely right bro. It works when you've already locked the woman in. If she's still considering to date you and you disappear, she can easily forget you. You must have created a sense of intimacy and ensured she's into you then use the technique to build her cravings. But using the technique to win her love is ridiculous. And yes, choking a woman with attention can be downright unreasonable unless she's into you. If a woman loves you to stupor, she wants you to call her 3 times daily, she wants you always be around and because you have a life, you can't always be around, so it's a balanced game. I'll never endorse chasing a woman even. I don't chase women. But thinking a woman will run after you because you ignored her is silly. How many women even ask men out with their pride and ego, let alone a man that shows lack of interest. Most ladies will rather die and I did my survey before opening a thread.

You're very intelligent to decipher where my write-up was heading.
You don't win a women's love, in the first place, through "ignoring", who does that?
First of all, ensure that she has become "your own", that you now share things in common with her, that your relationship has gone past the talking stage, that your relationship is about to enter into the marriage stage, that she now sees you as her last resort, that you've successfully and completely tied her down by either making her your wife or maybe, your babymama, before pulling up the stunt of "ignoring".

Sonofgod1990:
Why shouldn't I? Why must you lie

Lie

Tales from a mugu

phemray:
Gr8, I love that. Your kind is so scarce nowadays. Keep it up pls

Abeg leave the ignorant guy abeg.Me i nor tall,but every where i went for work or higher institution for the past 18years,the prettiest women always flock around me.I remember in my department then for school,I dated the prettiest girl.Even the finest girl for computer science then wanted me,na fear come dey catch me,because every senior confra man wanted her.I have never ran after any woman in my life,because i generally nor dey send woman.

Leemzyy:
Lie

Apologize for lying to an elder like me

Konjiboii:
I have a girl that has been with me for the longest time I can remember, she let me get my way with other women and never questioned me but still respect me, she is physically beautiful and God loving, her cooking skill is unmatched and she do enjoy cooking. her head game is amazing, her soundtrack when I give her oral is the sweetest song I have ever heard. her kuntus is tight and always wet. I just want to announce that I will be getting married to her soon.

😂 congratulations bro. If I were you I would be worried. Because a lady that allows you have your way with other women doesn't really love you. You could be marrying a LovePeddler who's feelings have been seared.

Sonofgod1990:
Apologize for lying to an elder like me

Biko nawa oo

Jorussia:
Abeg leave the ignorant guy abeg.Me i nor tall,but every where i went for work or higher institution for the past 18years,the prettiest women always flock around me.I remember in my department then for school,I dated the prettiest girl.Even the finest girl for computer science then wanted me,na fear come dey catch me,because every senior confra man wanted her.I have never ran after any woman in my life,because i generally nor dey send woman.

When men brag like this, if you check well, it's usually lies. Anyway, you're derailing from the topic. Women wanting you is not new. Every guy has that story. I can agree with women love bad guys and hate nice guys on a contextual basis, but on this one, I have tangible proof. I can send screenshots.

The poster got it all twisted, it aint ghosting that makes women chase after men its the timing and impact of the ghosting moreover both sex can use the tactic so it doesnt necessarily pertain to only men. You need to have made an impression, captured her imagination and made sure your presence is larger than life in a seductively suffocating yet fantasy fulfilling way only then will you withdraw your presence. Thats how it works not the fallacy someone somewhere told the op.

Jorussia:
Abeg leave the ignorant guy abeg.Me i nor tall,but every where i went for work or higher institution for the past 18years,the prettiest women always flock around me.I remember in my department then for school,I dated the prettiest girl.Even the finest girl for computer science then wanted me,na fear come dey catch me,because every senior confra man wanted her.I have never ran after any woman in my life,because i generally nor dey send woman.

You have an aura but unfortunately maybe back then you had no one to tell you the meaning of the energy following you around, its what makes those girls fall for you, tidy looks might help but its your aura thats the main attractor peeps who have ur kind of aura transmute it into being actors, singers or any showbiz occupation or businesses where women are the highest customers like fashion design,marriage counsellor or therapist,showbiz makeup artist e.t.c

Leemzyy:
Intimate?? i have never even hug a guy even my so called fiance

Lol. And you are talking? Abeg calm down. You ain't even baptized into this sh!t.

samuelson06:
Lol. And you are talking? Abeg calm down. You ain't even baptized into this sh!t.

Hey calm down,i respect you with my words pls i will plead with you to do the same,will you?

lacasera14:
Honestly, I need to find the originator of this theory that ignoring women will make them chase you.

How does that even work?

They say you'll ignore her, don't reply her texts, don't call her often, even when she calls you form busy and promise to call back but don't call back, keep yourself busy with other women, pretend like you can thrive without her and see her chasing after you like her life depends on you.

Really?

In what world is that?

The truth is, a woman that loves you or is attracted to you can easily lose interest when she notices you don't have her time or starve her attention. Women thrives on attention, they do everything to get it, and when they don't get it, they find it elsewhere. So, even if the woman loves you to your poo, and you starve her attention, you cause her interest in you to decline. She feels "okay great, this guy doesn't like me and I don't want to disturb him, let me focus on this one that has my time".

Secondly, if the woman doesn't even like you, she'll be glad you stopped calling and texting and you gave zero chance of winning her back if you like surround yourself with multiple women to create the illusion that you're highly sought after. She'll only wonder how dumb these women are that they're flocking after you.

I conducted this survey on about 30 different women and all gave the same reply

"If a guy keeps ignoring me and starves me attention, I feel he doesn't really want me and I'll move on because I'm beautiful and there are other men who want me too, so why chase after one that shows disinterest?"

Lastly, I think the only girls that will chase a guy who ignores them are low self esteemed, insecure, less attractive, broke, without-a-life, sociopaths, and mentally unstable girls.

No real girl with beauty, brains, steeze, curves, charms, small money and high self esteem will chase a guy or crave a guy that is showing lack of interest in her. She believes she's the prize and should be chased, not the other way round.

So, I wonder again, who thought men this?

Modified.

If you hold unto this fallacious theory so strong you're willing to experiment with it, then I'm game. It will be fun while it lasts. We create a WhatsApp group to share our screenshots of chats.

We approach beautiful women online or offline, chat them up, inspire some vibes and ghost them, then see how many will chat back or call and become interested. 10 girls each. We can finally put this theory to rest and dispel the deception.

The undiluted gospel of a bonafide simp

My personal Experience, as a guy in his late thirties who have dated both Mixed, White and Black girls in different countries.
Let me narrow my experiences to black girls.
Well, I think it depends on the law of attraction and the environment you both meet. One thing I understand about African ladies in General is that they are not the outspoken type (except few). They have this mentality of "I'm a beautiful woman, and I have pusi & yansh". So they've concocted this theory in their head that Men( the Simpsons) have them as their No1 priorty in life. They never think less of themselves.
For her to do the bidding on you is likely she is sexually attracted to you. That's the only time you will see her showing some few signs and gestures for you to get the clue and reciprocate.
But truly like the OP said, Men should stop living the fantasy dream.