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Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by chudez0147(m): 11:17am On Aug 26, 2024
No time for love
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by lextube: 11:17am On Aug 26, 2024
Do you know the population of girls in this country? Why waste time on a girl who is doing shakara when there are so many who would want you to Bleep them for free. Me if I ask you once and you do anyhow, I don move on.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by BrutusOj(m): 11:19am On Aug 26, 2024
Tallesty1:
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

This is why I laugh at women who, instead of working on their stubbornness, say they will find a man that can "handle" them.

Who told you that a man wants to handle you? The last lady I asked out did something similar.

We vibed well, I took her out once, then invited her over, and it was at my place that I told her what I wanted. She straight up said "na."

I said okay, we're good, and that was it.

We gisted a bit more, I saw her off, and when she got home, she texted me, "Are you angry?" I said, "na," but that was it for me.

It wasn’t even the rejection that was the issue, but how it was said. If you want to play hard to get, at least drop hints that you're interested, otherwise, I'll assume you're playing "never gonna happen."

Later she told me I had everything on a platter of gold but wasn’t man enough to take it.

Ladies don’t realize how stressed the average Nigerian guy is already, and then you add unnecessary hard to get on top of it.

I will pass abeg.
I can say you are still learning about Nigerian ladies sha, she came to your house on first date, you didn't do the needful with her instead you started talking about relationship afresh?

Babe don already assume her duty as your babe na, she wanted more of you in your room not gentle man talk of relationship. Nowadays, you don't ask ladies out formally, from the first romantic move you take towards them, it has started.

Going straightforward most times spoil everything for those ladies who have dated very badt sharp guys cheesy
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Dagger111(m): 11:21am On Aug 26, 2024
carl90:
Your profile says you are a male shocked
Are we missing something here ?
Can't you see "Copied"?
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Gandrova: 11:23am On Aug 26, 2024
Gone are the days of chasing girls. With the introduction of phone especially dating apps.
You don't need to toast, just initiate quality conversation case closed.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by jorion(m):
BrutusOj:
I can say you are still learning about Nigerian ladies sha, she came to your house on first date, you didn't do the needful with her instead you started talking about relationship afresh? Babe don already assume her duty as your babe na, she wanted more of you in your room not gentle man talk of relationship. Nowadays, you don't ask ladies out formally, from the first romantic move you take towards them, it has started, going straightforward most times spoil everything for those who have dated very badt sharp guys cheesy
No go rape person daughter o. If she says no, let her be bro.
Before you go start to hear, "HE RAPED ME".

Some will tell you that you couldn't take your chance, NA LIE.
She is just giving you hope and shifting blame to you so THAT SHE CAN FURTHER STRING YOU ALONG.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by bdon123(m): 11:23am On Aug 26, 2024
essentialone:
There's this guy who started working at my workplace in February last year. Of all the ladies that were there, he chose to make only me his friend. We got along well. He asked a lot of questions, and I gave him detailed responses, I was indirectly orienting him. Within a few weeks, he was already receiving accolades from our boss for working hard and being diligent.

All the ladies started throwing themselves at him, but he didn't really mind anyone. He kept only me as his friend, and it made me happy and proud.

About two months later, he invited me for dinner at a restaurant around the airport residential area. I went, and after we had spoken for long, he made it known to me that he admired me and would love for us to start a relationship.

I was already in l0ve with him before he made that proposal but I didn't want him to feel like I was yearning for him or I already wanted it like the other ladies so I turned down his proposal at that moment. He didn't talk much, he just said it was fine and then we went home.
Days later, he got me a flower and some perfumes and added a note that he wanted me to reconsider his proposal. That was where I fell completely in love with him but I wanted to play hard to catch so I told him I wasn't ready, that I was still recovering from my ex and was scared of men.

He tried again for the third time by taking me to the beach and trying to convince me he was different. I told him at the beach to give me some days to think about it. Three days later, he asked if I had thought of something, and my response was simply "not yet."

Bro Kwaku, can you believe that from that time till the guy never asked me anything concerning relationship again? I waited days for him to ask, so I tell him I was ready, but he never did. He only discussed work, work, work with me. I was single and waiting for him to just raise it.

What should I do now as a Lady?

#Copied
This one na mumu sha...u need man to be pursuing u up n down becos u be daily bread or wat.u day will still be billing him join
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Igwekalor(m): 11:26am On Aug 26, 2024
Calm down. He is coming for you
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by BrutusOj(m): 11:26am On Aug 26, 2024
jorion:
No go rape person daughter o. If she says no, let her be bro.
Before you go start to here, "HE RAPED ME"
See this one. Too much reading of America rape cases has made most of you guys so timid before ladies. If you a are sharp guy, you don't need to rape a lady, your playful/romantic demeanors will do everything for you.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by nwirinedu(m): 11:27am On Aug 26, 2024
Why are ladies worrying themselves over this? If a guy is not interested in you move on with your life. Chasing guys for handouts should not be your sole purpose in life.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by zebszebs: 11:27am On Aug 26, 2024
How did this crap make it to the front page?
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Myrrhis: 11:28am On Aug 26, 2024
jorion:
Because unlike before, guys now have options.
Unlike before, girls bring no value to a relationship except sex.
Unlike before, girls are not traditional and approachable.
Unlike before, girls don't know how to respect a man even if they would say NO.

Guys are beginning to realize that women are overhyped and the ROMANTIC HAPPILY EVER AFTER IS SIMPLY A FANTASY.
So, they're going after their fellow men?
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by tojahh(m): 11:28am On Aug 26, 2024
Na only this topic for generate traffic for seun na why Una dey repeat am every 4 Eke Market Days
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Bleiz(m): 11:32am On Aug 26, 2024
carl90:
Your profile says you are a male shocked
Are we missing something here ?
This was picked up from Facebook.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by bentenny(m): 11:33am On Aug 26, 2024
carl90:
Your profile says you are a male shocked
Are we missing something here ?
Wanted to even ask if this was a same sex story before I noticed #copied# at the end!
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by olaJako(m): 11:33am On Aug 26, 2024
What you should do is that you lack wisdom. Only an empty brain girl without positive productivity refuses a sincere relationship. Just mind your business at work coz you don't deserve him.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Smartgeek(m):
Good for you.

You think say na Nollywood be this?

The guy even tried to have asked thrice.

You be exam wey dem dey try forever if person no pass ? grin

OR you think his life revolves around you ?

Person beg u thrice to come spend him money with him u dey play TOO hard to get..

Every year, una go dey go shiloh dey pray for husband, Meanwhile na una dey do unaselves.

Continue...
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by chatinent: 11:36am On Aug 26, 2024
Me don marry. Na only my wife I dey chase upandan.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by IbeOkehie: 11:37am On Aug 26, 2024
VeeVeeMyLuv:
Focus o

There's hunger in the land
HUNGER and ANGER.

Good Luck to Nigerians
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by doncartel: 11:40am On Aug 26, 2024
It was during Jonathan that we could go on long chase. Those days you could chase a lady to restaurant, beach etc with N90 per liter fuel.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Smartcitizen: 11:41am On Aug 26, 2024
essentialone:
There's this guy who started working at my workplace in February last year. Of all the ladies that were there, he chose to make only me his friend. We got along well. He asked a lot of questions, and I gave him detailed responses, I was indirectly orienting him. Within a few weeks, he was already receiving accolades from our boss for working hard and being diligent.

All the ladies started throwing themselves at him, but he didn't really mind anyone. He kept only me as his friend, and it made me happy and proud.

About two months later, he invited me for dinner at a restaurant around the airport residential area. I went, and after we had spoken for long, he made it known to me that he admired me and would love for us to start a relationship.

I was already in l0ve with him before he made that proposal but I didn't want him to feel like I was yearning for him or I already wanted it like the other ladies so I turned down his proposal at that moment. He didn't talk much, he just said it was fine and then we went home.
Days later, he got me a flower and some perfumes and added a note that he wanted me to reconsider his proposal. That was where I fell completely in love with him but I wanted to play hard to catch so I told him I wasn't ready, that I was still recovering from my ex and was scared of men.

He tried again for the third time by taking me to the beach and trying to convince me he was different. I told him at the beach to give me some days to think about it. Three days later, he asked if I had thought of something, and my response was simply "not yet."

Bro Kwaku, can you believe that from that time till the guy never asked me anything concerning relationship again? I waited days for him to ask, so I tell him I was ready, but he never did. He only discussed work, work, work with me. I was single and waiting for him to just raise it.

What should I do now as a Lady?

#Copied
WITH THIS PICTURE I KNOW ATTACHED TO THIS MESSAGE, THE WRITER OF THIS MESSAGE IS BOY.

TAKE IT TO THE BANK.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Obviouslyblunt: 11:41am On Aug 26, 2024
Cos time no Dey and hunger yapa.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by ellizy(m): 11:42am On Aug 26, 2024
The guy try oo
3 times?
I wouldn't do such. A lady needs a man in as much as a man needs a lady...
Learn to lower your ego ladies..
ADVICE
Invite him for dinner just as he did and tell him exactly how you feel the first time and express your mind game to him and also beg him to reconsider his plans just like he did and also buy him a perfume and boxers with a note telling him YOU REALLY LOVE HIM AND WANT HIM IN YOUR LIFE...
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Entanglement: 11:46am On Aug 26, 2024
BrutusOj:
I can say you are still learning about Nigerian ladies sha, she came to your house on first date, you didn't do the needful with her instead you started talking about relationship afresh?

Babe don already assume her duty as your babe na, she wanted more of you in your room not gentle man talk of relationship. Nowadays, you don't ask ladies out formally, from the first romantic move you take towards them, it has started.

Going straightforward most times spoil everything for those ladies who have dated very badt sharp guys cheesy
na your type dey go rape girls up and down undecided

Shall na Nigeria you dey you fit get away with tape! Carry this your yeye mentality abroad, na prison you go sleep undecided

Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Fadakings(m): 11:48am On Aug 26, 2024
You've done just about enough jare... just continue with that vegetable you're picking. You will be ok
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by Honestey: 11:50am On Aug 26, 2024
essentialone:
There's this guy who started working at my workplace in February last year. Of all the ladies that were there, he chose to make only me his friend. We got along well. He asked a lot of questions, and I gave him detailed responses, I was indirectly orienting him. Within a few weeks, he was already receiving accolades from our boss for working hard and being diligent.

All the ladies started throwing themselves at him, but he didn't really mind anyone. He kept only me as his friend, and it made me happy and proud.

About two months later, he invited me for dinner at a restaurant around the airport residential area. I went, and after we had spoken for long, he made it known to me that he admired me and would love for us to start a relationship.

I was already in l0ve with him before he made that proposal but I didn't want him to feel like I was yearning for him or I already wanted it like the other ladies so I turned down his proposal at that moment. He didn't talk much, he just said it was fine and then we went home.
Days later, he got me a flower and some perfumes and added a note that he wanted me to reconsider his proposal. That was where I fell completely in love with him but I wanted to play hard to catch so I told him I wasn't ready, that I was still recovering from my ex and was scared of men.

He tried again for the third time by taking me to the beach and trying to convince me he was different. I told him at the beach to give me some days to think about it. Three days later, he asked if I had thought of something, and my response was simply "not yet."

Bro Kwaku, can you believe that from that time till the guy never asked me anything concerning relationship again? I waited days for him to ask, so I tell him I was ready, but he never did. He only discussed work, work, work with me. I was single and waiting for him to just raise it.

What should I do now as a Lady?

#Copied
The guy tried self, I can't try more than 2 times. Anyway, my advice is for you to be prayerful so he love you again. A man normally fall in love more for someone who makes it a bit easier than someone who had already infuriated, frustrated him before saying yes.
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by sylve11: 11:51am On Aug 26, 2024
vikstandon:
HMMM, THREE TIMES!

That guy is Resilient.
I tell you. cheesy cool
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by jaxxy(m): 11:53am On Aug 26, 2024
Cesarr1:
Guy if she no fit go sexual with u
Infact fucking u. She no dey really feel u sexually b that
So ashewo or runs girls dey feel their customers be that? undecided
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by appini: 11:55am On Aug 26, 2024
balaclava:
Why I go dey chase who I wan help?
Omo
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by sylve11: 11:55am On Aug 26, 2024
illuminutty:
Such a simp. If I ask a woman out more than once let me know wetin cause am. I take her "NO" for the first time as a "NO" forever. No second chance. No afterthoughts> NO IS NO.

The money wasted on those dates, flowers and perfumes would even get you many pretty girls with phat booty and boobs on codedruns that would suck your gbola until you nut in their mouth and all over their pretty faces.

Men should do better and value their time, money and resources.

Instead of throwing money around in pursuit of toto in the name of relationships use that money and order toto straight or use the money and play 2 sure odds.
My Belle o grin cool
Re: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by godofuck231: 11:56am On Aug 26, 2024
You don't romance prostituttes, its like a virgin standing in a red light district and expecting a man to toast her , its a hoee situation
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