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Ayomide11111:
You're definitely right oo BOSS. These are the things I've been thinking over and over for a while since. What if? If she could denied so bluntly like on a cooked noodles, what if?

Ayomide11111:
Never! I am not someone like that.
I am not a stingy guy. Infact there was a day she took all the cash (#5000) inside my cross bag and left me with nothing, hunger almost killed me at the studio that day, because I didn't know she has taken everything. Yet I didn't complain or scold her. She said she's hungry and she has somethings to do at the church that's why she took all the money and I forget about it. And there's no way a lady can starve in my home even if there's no food stuff I must provide definitely. Because when[b] a lady begins to starve she can compromise.[/b] What else she wants me to do.

Ayomide11111:
Should I consider what happened yesterday? Nairaland pls advice.

I came back from the studio yesterday's afternoon and I met my girlfriend in my house, yes she has one of my spare keys, I entered the house and I went straight to the kitchen.

I met her washing plates in the kitchen and I greeted her that she has done well but when I was about to leave the kitchen I observed that the kitchen walls were wet because anytime you cook in my kitchen the tiles on the walls gets wet due to the heat. Then, I asked her "babe what did you cook?" She said nothing that she only boiled water. I believed her and I did not suspect her because of the response but I was kind of thinking the water must have boiled over 100°c for those tiles to get wet.

I left the kitchen and I went to the bedroom when I got to the bedroom I saw some trashes she left undisposed and I was irritated and I decided to go and disposed them but when I got to our refuse bin I saw a fresh egg shells and some fresh noodles' pieces, I was kind of confused that which of my neighbors would have left his/her waste bin and come to used mine. Yet, I never thought too much because I knew it was my girlfriend, maybe she just wants to pull my legs that was why she lied at first, I concluded.

When I got inside I found her inside the bedroom, she's done washing plates, then I put it to her jokingly "babe next time you cook noodles and eggs make sure you dispose the nylons properly because you didn't do it well today." As if I ignited a flame she took it up with me angrily that why should I be saying that, that she never cooked anything since morning and I was accusing her wrongly....bla..bla..bla..bla... And she acted so real and dry like as if truly she didn't cook.

Mind you, that she cooked wasn't my problem, why would I get disturbed that my girlfriend cooked and ate in my house? But every evidences I was seeing were making me to ask her if truly she cooked but she kept denying and not that I got angry at this point.

I told her to forget about everything that not that I'm suspecting her but I just felt all what I have been seeing showed me that you cooked and not that I will kill you if you did. You're my woman why would you lied to me if you do things in my home. We shut the chapter and everyone was fine.

After like 5 minutes I went to the kitchen to cook beans, personally I don't like it when my gas cooker is dirty but my girl is a messy lady she doesn't care and I have been fighting over this on how to sort her out. I decided to clean the gas cooker and immediately as I raised the stand I saw enough fresh noodles at the angle corners of the gas Cylinder. I stood up and gave it a thought. After, I decided to show her so that she would not deny it. I called her to come to the kitchen and when she got to the kitchen I showed her and she could not say anything.

Then I asked her "as little as cooking noodles and you lied. Why did you lie on this very little matter? Why babe? " Not that that I will quarrel with you why you cooked and eat. Why? When I was coming from the studio I have already bought things that we are going to eat. Why such a big denial and lie on a little matter? Why?

Pls Nairaland I suggested this is one of the RED FLAGS. Isn't it? Pls advice.

Ayomide11111:
Pls Nairaland I suggested this is one of the RED FLAGS. Isn't it? Pls advice.

Tightpussy2024:
Till date my mom still inflated market prices for my dad. I still extortionate my man. Our mother's did it. If women don't chop your money who will?

Throw her away if that's you want, but know the street is bloody

Ayomide11111:
Should I consider what happened yesterday? Nairaland pls advice.

I came back from the studio yesterday's afternoon and I met my girlfriend in my house, yes she has one of my spare keys, I entered the house and I went straight to the kitchen.

I met her washing plates in the kitchen and I greeted her that she has done well but when I was about to leave the kitchen I observed that the kitchen walls were wet because anytime you cook in my kitchen the tiles on the walls gets wet due to the heat. Then, I asked her "babe what did you cook?" She said nothing that she only boiled water. I believed her and I did not suspect her because of the response but I was kind of thinking the water must have boiled over 100°c for those tiles to get wet.

I left the kitchen and I went to the bedroom when I got to the bedroom I saw some trashes she left undisposed and I was irritated and I decided to go and disposed them but when I got to our refuse bin I saw a fresh egg shells and some fresh noodles' pieces, I was kind of confused that which of my neighbors would have left his/her waste bin and come to used mine. Yet, I never thought too much because I knew it was my girlfriend, maybe she just wants to pull my legs that was why she lied at first, I concluded.

When I got inside I found her inside the bedroom, she's done washing plates, then I put it to her jokingly "babe next time you cook noodles and eggs make sure you dispose the nylons properly because you didn't do it well today." As if I ignited a flame she took it up with me angrily that why should I be saying that, that she never cooked anything since morning and I was accusing her wrongly....bla..bla..bla..bla... And she acted so real and dry like as if truly she didn't cook.

Mind you, that she cooked wasn't my problem, why would I get disturbed that my girlfriend cooked and ate in my house? But every evidences I was seeing were making me to ask her if truly she cooked but she kept denying and not that I got angry at this point.

I told her to forget about everything that not that I'm suspecting her but I just felt all what I have been seeing showed me that you cooked and not that I will kill you if you did. You're my woman why would you lied to me if you do things in my home. We shut the chapter and everyone was fine.

After like 5 minutes I went to the kitchen to cook beans, personally I don't like it when my gas cooker is dirty but my girl is a messy lady she doesn't care and I have been fighting over this on how to sort her out. I decided to clean the gas cooker and immediately as I raised the stand I saw enough fresh noodles at the angle corners of the gas Cylinder. I stood up and gave it a thought. After, I decided to show her so that she would not deny it. I called her to come to the kitchen and when she got to the kitchen I showed her and she could not say anything.

Then I asked her "as little as cooking noodles and you lied. Why did you lie on this very little matter? Why babe? " Not that that I will quarrel with you why you cooked and eat. Why? When I was coming from the studio I have already bought things that we are going to eat. Why such a big denial and lie on a little matter? Why?

Pls Nairaland I suggested this is one of the RED FLAGS. Isn't it? Pls advice.

Ayomide11111:
Never! I am not someone like that.
I am not a stingy guy. Infact there was a day she took all the cash (#5000) inside my cross bag and left me with nothing, hunger almost killed me at the studio that day, because I didn't know she has taken everything. Yet I didn't complain or scold her. She said she's hungry and she has somethings to do at the church that's why she took all the money and I forget about it. And there's no way a lady can starve in my home even if there's no food stuff I must provide definitely. Because when a lady begins to starve she can compromise. What else she wants me to do.

Tightpussy2024:
Till date my mom still inflated market prices for my dad. I still extortionate my man. Our mother's did it. If women don't chop your money who will?

Throw her away if that's you want, but know the street is bloody

Crucialgem:
Even though I would blame her and all sort for lieing over something little, But from your write up I could draw the reason why she lied, like you already show how irritated you can be when she uses your kitchen so maybe she doesn't want you to start talking or making her feel somehow but still it doesn't justify the fact that she had to lie when you asked her severally

Haakeem:
]lol, you'll fall in the same fate as that noodles with another man some days.
Or how should I put it sef. That noodles might be her ex someday..
That noodles you caught behind the gas might be the man she is cheating on you with some days.
RED FLAGGGG!

Ayomide11111:
Should I consider what happened yesterday? Nairaland pls advice.

I came back from the studio yesterday's afternoon and I met my girlfriend in my house, yes she has one of my spare keys, I entered the house and I went straight to the kitchen.

I met her washing plates in the kitchen and I greeted her that she has done well but when I was about to leave the kitchen I observed that the kitchen walls were wet because anytime you cook in my kitchen the tiles on the walls gets wet due to the heat. Then, I asked her "babe what did you cook?" She said nothing that she only boiled water. I believed her and I did not suspect her because of the response but I was kind of thinking the water must have boiled over 100°c for those tiles to get wet.

I left the kitchen and I went to the bedroom when I got to the bedroom I saw some trashes she left undisposed and I was irritated and I decided to go and disposed them but when I got to our refuse bin I saw a fresh egg shells and some fresh noodles' pieces, I was kind of confused that which of my neighbors would have left his/her waste bin and come to used mine. Yet, I never thought too much because I knew it was my girlfriend, maybe she just wants to pull my legs that was why she lied at first, I concluded.

When I got inside I found her inside the bedroom, she's done washing plates, then I put it to her jokingly "babe next time you cook noodles and eggs make sure you dispose the nylons properly because you didn't do it well today." As if I ignited a flame she took it up with me angrily that why should I be saying that, that she never cooked anything since morning and I was accusing her wrongly....bla..bla..bla..bla... And she acted so real and dry like as if truly she didn't cook.

Mind you, that she cooked wasn't my problem, why would I get disturbed that my girlfriend cooked and ate in my house? But every evidences I was seeing were making me to ask her if truly she cooked but she kept denying and not that I got angry at this point.

I told her to forget about everything that not that I'm suspecting her but I just felt all what I have been seeing showed me that you cooked and not that I will kill you if you did. You're my woman why would you lied to me if you do things in my home. We shut the chapter and everyone was fine.

After like 5 minutes I went to the kitchen to cook beans, personally I don't like it when my gas cooker is dirty but my girl is a messy lady she doesn't care and I have been fighting over this on how to sort her out. I decided to clean the gas cooker and immediately as I raised the stand I saw enough fresh noodles at the angle corners of the gas Cylinder. I stood up and gave it a thought. After, I decided to show her so that she would not deny it. I called her to come to the kitchen and when she got to the kitchen I showed her and she could not say anything.

Then I asked her "as little as cooking noodles and you lied. Why did you lie on this very little matter? Why babe? " Not that that I will quarrel with you why you cooked and eat. Why? When I was coming from the studio I have already bought things that we are going to eat. Why such a big denial and lie on a little matter? Why?

Pls Nairaland I suggested this is one of the RED FLAGS. Isn't it? Pls advice.

jessylaurel:
There are many reasons why she lied
1. Because you complain of her wasting your gas
2. You’re stingy
3. You’re too petty (imagine entering the kitchen and looking out for wetness on the walls) your type will count the amount of beans and foodstuffs at home before leaving for work.
4. She’s definitely not free in your house that’s why she has to lie and cover up before you get back.
5. You want her to take out trash, you get angry because she didn’t clean the cylinder ah ah but she’s not free to eat common noodles. You would have count the noodles na or I guess she bought them with her money.

Magnoliaa:
I would like to hear the girl's side of the story.


We only have your words for it.

- You might be stingy.
- Perhaps you don't like to share...
And she was starving.


Or maybe you guys have had a previous disagreement like that and she feared your reaction?

Ayomide11111:
Should I consider what happened yesterday? Nairaland pls advice.

I came back from the studio yesterday's afternoon and I met my girlfriend in my house, yes she has one of my spare keys, I entered the house and I went straight to the kitchen.

I met her washing plates in the kitchen and I greeted her that she has done well but when I was about to leave the kitchen I observed that the kitchen walls were wet because anytime you cook in my kitchen the tiles on the walls gets wet due to the heat. Then, I asked her "babe what did you cook?" She said nothing that she only boiled water. I believed her and I did not suspect her because of the response but I was kind of thinking the water must have boiled over 100°c for those tiles to get wet.

I left the kitchen and I went to the bedroom when I got to the bedroom I saw some trashes she left undisposed and I was irritated and I decided to go and disposed them but when I got to our refuse bin I saw a fresh egg shells and some fresh noodles' pieces, I was kind of confused that which of my neighbors would have left his/her waste bin and come to used mine. Yet, I never thought too much because I knew it was my girlfriend, maybe she just wants to pull my legs that was why she lied at first, I concluded.

When I got inside I found her inside the bedroom, she's done washing plates, then I put it to her jokingly "babe next time you cook noodles and eggs make sure you dispose the nylons properly because you didn't do it well today." As if I ignited a flame she took it up with me angrily that why should I be saying that, that she never cooked anything since morning and I was accusing her wrongly....bla..bla..bla..bla... And she acted so real and dry like as if truly she didn't cook.

Mind you, that she cooked wasn't my problem, why would I get disturbed that my girlfriend cooked and ate in my house? But every evidences I was seeing were making me to ask her if truly she cooked but she kept denying and not that I got angry at this point.

I told her to forget about everything that not that I'm suspecting her but I just felt all what I have been seeing showed me that you cooked and not that I will kill you if you did. You're my woman why would you lied to me if you do things in my home. We shut the chapter and everyone was fine.

After like 5 minutes I went to the kitchen to cook beans, personally I don't like it when my gas cooker is dirty but my girl is a messy lady she doesn't care and I have been fighting over this on how to sort her out. I decided to clean the gas cooker and immediately as I raised the stand I saw enough fresh noodles at the angle corners of the gas Cylinder. I stood up and gave it a thought. After, I decided to show her so that she would not deny it. I called her to come to the kitchen and when she got to the kitchen I showed her and she could not say anything.

Then I asked her "as little as cooking noodles and you lied. Why did you lie on this very little matter? Why babe? " Not that that I will quarrel with you why you cooked and eat. Why? When I was coming from the studio I have already bought things that we are going to eat. Why such a big denial and lie on a little matter? Why?

Pls Nairaland I suggested this is one of the RED FLAGS. Isn't it? Pls advice.

Ayomide11111:
Never! I am not someone like that.
I am not a stingy guy. Infact there was a day she took all the cash (#5000) inside my cross bag and left me with nothing, hunger almost killed me at the studio that day, because I didn't know she has taken everything. Yet I didn't complain or scold her. She said she's hungry and she has somethings to do at the church that's why she took all the money and I forget about it. And there's no way a lady can starve in my home even if there's no food stuff I must provide definitely. Because when a lady begins to starve she can compromise. What else she wants me to do.

debbydams:
. It's obvious you have Lost interest in the relationship let her go...do you run a studio?

Haakeem:
]lol, you'll fall in the same fate as that noodles with another man some days.
Or how should I put it sef. That noodles might be her ex someday..
That noodles you caught behind the gas might be the man she is cheating on you with some days.
RED FLAGGGG!

advanceDNA:
She cooked for herself alone and quickly washed the evidence because she ddnt want you to know of her self centered move ...instead of just saying I'm sorry when u found out...she gaslight you....

It's a redflag to me ooo ...I don't know about you... I hate when someone offends me,, deny it and still look for way to make it look like im the one that did wrong....