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EXPRESSSMAN:
Well, I have heard you and you have heard me as well.
I am not only married but some of my children have graduated from the university. I am not thinking of marrying again neither am I regretting my marriage. It is not about me.
At this stage , I can only advise the upcoming ones. If they like, they listen.
So I am not talking in parables. I am saying it as it is.
But like you said, everyone is free to go for what he wants.
But, no come back to the complain to us. We don't want that.

Baba ,so you dey use eye of when you take see your wife dey judge the finished nowadays girls? Those days is not these days o.. Even ladies of now knows that the are not wife able anymore.. Deep down they know the truth. I know of one whose traditional marriage was days away ,and still came for hookup of 25k ,somewhere at Asaba. My happiness is that most guys are wiser in handling them now.. They can’t eat their cake and still have it. Except for the Simpsons who are unfortunate. Non premium and Premium can’t be treated same way.. You talk maturely and I regard you for that..

Bukola94:
max pleasure he will derive from the bride. The wife have not taste any prick before, even if the husband no do more than 2minutes, she will think he has tried & no urge for long sex, hard solid rock prick

So this will make his life better? Well when you get married you will know better. Let me not waste much effort to educate you more.

BigYash:
Baba ,so you dey use eye of when you take see your wife dey judge the finished nowadays girls? Those days is not these days o.. Even ladies of now knows that the are not wife able anymore.. Deep down they know the truth. I know of one whose traditional marriage was days away ,and still came for hookup of 25k ,somewhere at Asaba. My happiness is that most guys are wiser in handling them now.. They can’t eat their cake and still have it. Except for the Simpsons who are unfortunate. Non premium and Premium can’t be treated same way.. You talk maturely and I regard you for that..

Well said, but the earth has not stopped moving round. At any period, there are the good and the bad. People will continue to marry and build families of their own so you don't classify all the ladies as being unmarriageable.
It is a personal thing. Just know what you want for yourself, cool down and look for it, you get it.
Why I object to virginity as a standard is that wẹ pray for long life.
When you marry at 30+, you are hoping to live 60+ with your wife right!
Now that virginity you crave as a standard will disappear on the first day of marriage. So what do you think that would keep you going when you encounter the challenges of marriage and life. Is it the same virginity that you made your standard that has now gone.
So look deeper, that journey is deep surely not about being a virgin only.
This is my message to you.

bdchange:
So this will make his life better? Well when you get married you will know better. Let me not waste much effort to educate you more.

please educate me more, we learnt new things every day. What is wrong in wanting a virgin or wanting to get married to a chaste or good virtue women?

EXPRESSSMAN:
Well said, but the earth has not stopped moving round. At any period, there are the good and the bad. People will continue to marry and build families of their own so you don't classify all the ladies as being unmarriageable.
It is a personal thing. Just know what you want for yourself, cool down and look for it, you get it.
Why I object to virginity as a standard is that wẹ pray for long life.
When you marry at 30+, you are hoping to live 60+ with your wife right!
Now that virginity you crave as a standard will disappear on the first day of marriage. So what do you think that would keep you going when you encounter the challenges of marriage and life. Is it the same virginity that you made your standard that has now gone.
So look deeper, that journey is deep surely not about being a virgin only.
This is my message to you.

You made so much sense ,but you see that her past,it’s very important to me. I can’t settle for someone whose past is rotten.. E get why !

Namaster:
NOTHING new here.

There is a SIMPLE man somewhere who would gladly sacrifice his beloved Grandmother to be married to this THINGIFICATION of red flags.

He'd swear she is his SOULMATE. A godsent, if you will.

with the numbers of evening newspapers on the newsstands these days, such guys are becoming woke, infact Tinubu have even made them more woke than before.

Bukola94:
please educate me more, we learnt new things every day. What is wrong in wanting a virgin or wanting to get married to a chaste or good virtue women?

Nothing is wrong in marrying a virgin but how does that translate to being a good virtue woman? A woman is either good or bad. It has absolutely nothing to do with being a virgin. Don't let your brain be tied to marrying a virgin else you will fall victim of wrong choice of priority.

Uptownerd:
A girl took to her social media page to this revelation. What do you think guys?

But getting married won't stop her from still getting sex from whomever she wanted.

EXPRESSSMAN:
If these are the things you want from a woman, sure there are millions out there who will do it for you.
But the problem is you. When you want to befriend or marry, you go for a street or a village girl in the name of illusive respect or virgin. Then you come to tell us how difficult marriage is.
You should have the gut to go for what you want, they are every where.
Virginity is an illusion, matured men don't take it into consideration when looking for a wife.
Forget about that guy who talks of virgins here. He is only exhibiting his immaturity.
There are things in women that are far greater than being a virgin. But you will only need to discover it yourself. Nobody will tell that.

Rubbish

EXPRESSSMAN:
Well, I have heard you and you have heard me as well.
I am not only married but some of my children have graduated from the university. I am not thinking of marrying again neither am I regretting my marriage. It is not about me.
At this stage , I can only advise the upcoming ones. If they like, they listen.
So I am not talking in parables. I am saying it as it is.
But like you said, everyone is free to go for what he wants.
But, no come back to the complain to us. We don't want that.

You didn't meet your wife as a virgin so e dey pepper you

TOPCRUISE:
Nonsense. That is how one young newly married naive pastor was gushing on his new wife simply because her garnered wealth of experience on the other room was used when they had their honey moon. His stupid attitude of his advising single men like us to marry someone with experience because people like him married a woman who have had enough sexual CV in the other room is another reason why women are becoming promiscuous before marriage.

Very useless and dumb pastor (na dirty name anyway)

The stupid pastor is glorifying fornication and adultery shamelessly. Some men should be fed to lions

Members of his church are the most senseless and gullible nigerians of the 21st century. Idiots are made popular and they all perish together with their members.

Even a whole Almighty God no allow promiscuous woman to give birth to His begotten Son. E get why So that people will not be quoting bible to live a wreckless "it doesn't matter sexual lives"

Yes a christian can judge another christian says the Bible but I can't judge non-christians

bdchange:
When you get married, more sense will locate you and you will understand that marrying a virgin should be the last thing on anyone's mind. You will still argue with me because you can't possibly understand it now until you get married.

The thread is specifically about body counts and the waywardness of ladies, and the person I quoted was lamenting about how many guys these days would certainly end up with ladies that already have uncountable body counts and worn out bodies, ladies whose ex'es have completely finished every sweetness in them.

My response was specifically to him, and I tried to remind him that the only way to avoid ending up with such ladies is to marry a virgin. I never said that marrying a virgin would automatically mean a man has married right, the thread isn't about good or bad wives!

Come to think of it, why are y'all so quick to attack anyone who makes any comment about settling for a virgin?
What makes you think that a virgin cannot also have all the traits of a good wife?!!

My babe is a virgin, and she is 100% my dream lady both in appearance and character, her being a virgin is the extra package and icing on the cake for me, and I will not stop to talk about her because it is not easy to be extremely beautiful, God fearing, morally upright and a virgin all at the same time in this generation!

Kaybaba5:
Even virgin or o virgin is not exempted

So according to you, virgins also have body counts, right?

Demurray:
Don't be too sure, Dem write am for her chest? Except na you disflow her

I remember a guy waiting for wedding night before he could had sex with her partner claiming she is a virgin, unknown to the guy that she is olosho trying to get a good husband. Kasala burst eventually on the wedding night

I initially had similar doubts when she told me the moment we started dating, but I confirmed it myself, she made me confirm it because she noticed i didnt believe her, trust me she's truly a virgin..

I happen to be her first and only boyfriend. We started dating when she was 19years and in her 100level, now she's 24, and wedding plans are kicking already..

I have deflowered a couple of virgins in the past before I met her, so I know how that place looks like for virgins..

EXPRESSSMAN:
Guy, this your virgin egg is an illusion. There are things in women that are greater than being a virgin, so chill.

And what makes you think this my girlfriend and soon to be wife doesn't have all the qualities I want in a woman?

Her being a virgin is just the extra package that accompanies her already incredible qualities, and the icing on the cake for me!!

DaddyCoool:
Which begs the questions:
What makes her your CURRENT girl and how do you know she's a virgin?

Because she will soon become my WIFE in a couple of months from now... and yes she is a virgin, I know that because I have deflowered few virgins in the past and I know how that place looks like for virgins.

Additionally, I happen to be her first and only boyfriend, I introduced her into relationship and we've so far been dating for some years now, she's still a virgin, the place is still sealed!

Flows001:
Because she will soon become my WIFE in a couple of months from now... and yes she is a virgin, I know that because I have deflowered few virgins in the past and I know how that place looks like for virgins.

Additionally, I happen to be her first and only boyfriend, I introduced her into relationship and we've so far been dating for some years now, she's still a virgin, the place is still sealed!

1) The way you said your CURRENT girlfriend implies you're planning to move on to other girls. You could have said "my fiance or wife to-be"
2) So she allowed you access into her private part to the extent of knowing "the place is still sealed" but you decided to be a good guy and wait till marriage. Clap for yourself.
3) If we all take your advice and marry only virgins who'd marry the "few virgins" you deflowered and who'd marry your single sister with baby?

DaddyCoool:
1) The way you said your CURRENT girlfriend implies you're planning to move on to other girls. You could have said "my fiance or wife to-be".
2) So she allowed you access into her private part to the extent of knowing "the place is still sealed" but you decided to be a good gupy and wait till marriage. Clap for yourself.
3) If we all take your advice and marry only virgins who'd marry the "few virgins" you deflowered and who'd marry your single sister with baby?

1). You're right, I shouldn't have used the word "current'".

2). She insisted I personally confirm it because she felt I was having doubts about her being a virgin, due to how beautiful and captivating she looks. She told me from the beginning of our relationship of her decision to honour God by remaining a virgin until her wedding night, and I promised her that I would help her keep that promise. The promise came from my heart, I already saw a future with her before agreeing to do such with her, that was why she insisted and pleaded with me to personally check and confirm it by myself.
It's been over 4years of dating now, and I'm glad I've been able to help her keep herself.

Already planning our wedding, and trust me; she's my perfect dream woman, with all the qualities I've always prayed for, and our compatibility level is on a 100! The virginity is just an additional special package..

3). I didn't force myself on any of the ladies I deflowered, it was a mutual decision and they gladly let me deflower them, perhaps they weren't even planning to remain virgins afterall, so I merely helped their next guy to do the stressful opening job!

My sisters are all married with beautiful kids and lovely husbands. Perhaps we should be more concerned about yours .

The non-virgins (A.K.A boreholes) like the lady on this thread are available for dudes like you, if you're already married, then you could recommend them for your younger brothers or male cousins.

Kindly find below pictorial description of how your future wife (in case you are not yet married) has been used by countless dudes🤣🤣

Flows001:
1). You're right, I shouldn't have used the word "current'".

2). She insisted I personally confirm it because she felt I was having doubts about her being a virgin, due to how beautiful and captivating she looks. She told me from the beginning of our relationship of her decision to honour God by remaining a virgin until her wedding night, and I promised her that I would help her keep that promise. The promise came from my heart, I already saw a future with her before agreeing to do such with her, that was why she insisted and pleaded with me to personally check and confirm it by myself.
It's been over 4years of dating now, and I'm glad I've been able to help her keep herself.

Already planning our wedding, and trust me; she's my perfect dream woman, with all the qualities I've always prayed for, and our compatibility level is on a 100! The virginity is just an additional special package..

3). I didn't force myself on any of the ladies I deflowered, it was a mutual decision and they gladly let me deflower them, perhaps they weren't even planning to remain virgins afterall, so I merely helped their next guy to do the stressful opening job!

My sisters are all married with beautiful kids and lovely husbands. Perhaps we should be more concerned about yours .

The non-virgins (A.K.A boreholes) like the lady on this thread are available for dudes like you, if you're already married, then you could recommend them for your younger brothers or male cousins.

Kindly find below pictorial description of how your future wife (in case you are not yet married) has been used by countless dudes🤣🤣

Easy to tell you're telling fiction. See below. And you said, not only was your sister not a virgin, she was impregnated by a man with grown kids.
(have you forgotten you created a thread on that?)

Flows001:
I initially had similar doubts when she told me the moment we started dating, but I confirmed it myself, she made me confirm it because she noticed i didnt believe her, trust me she's truly a virgin..

I happen to be her first and only boyfriend. We started dating when she was 19years and in her 100level, now she's 24, and wedding plans are kicking already..

I have deflowered a couple of virgins in the past before I met her, so I know how that place looks like for virgins..

Wish you a fulfilling married life

bdchange:
Nothing is wrong in marrying a virgin but how does that translate to being a good virtue woman? A woman is either good or bad. It has absolutely nothing to do with being a virgin. Don't let your brain be tied to marrying a virgin else you will fall victim of wrong choice of priority.

Bro it have absolutely everything to do with it. I'll rather marry a bad virgin than marry a good hoe.

If all girls are bad,I'll take up my chance with the virgins.

luminouz:
You didn't meet your wife as a virgin so e dey pepper you

Yes, I did not meet her as a virgin. There were other girls I disvirgined yet I did not marry them. So e no de pepper me.

You will soon mature to face realities not illusion.

DaddyCoool:
Easy to tell you're telling fiction. See below. And you said, not only was your sister not a virgin, she was impregnated by a man with grown kids.
(have you forgotten you created a thread on that?)

What do I stand to gain by making fictional claims on a platform that doesn't in any way pay me?

I applaud your sharp memory, yes I created a thread last year about the dillema of one of my three sisters, but guess what? Upon investigation, we discovered that the man's former marriage had actually ended, just that the marriage already produced kids (he didn't want to tell my sister for fear of losing her, mind you he isn't yet old and they both truly love each other).

She has forgivem him and agreed to go ahead with marrying him. He had even proceeded to pay my sister's brideprice in full and married her accordingly, she's now his lawfully wedded wife (they have come to a consensus about settling his kids from his former marriage).

But that's a deviation from this thread and totally out of point, I never bragged about my sisters here, it's my own girlfriend that I talked about here..

Why are you so angry that my girlfriend is a virgin, there are still beautiful, God fearing and well behaved virgins out there, just that they are scarce. Pray for God to give you one if you're still single, I actually prayed for one and God blessed me with a lady that has it ALL.

And about the attached pictures, I really can't be debating with you on what I already have experience on. I had been intimate so many times with both virgins and non-virgins before now, and like I said before, I have deflowered a few ladies, so I know how that place looks like for both virgins and non-virgins.

I can't believe I'm even trying to convince you on this. Believe whatever you wish to believe bro, but just know that indeed; there are still decent virgin ladies out there who are equally God fearing with good manners, perhaps you have never come across any before.

Demurray:
Wish you a fulfilling married life

Amen 🙏
I sincerely appreciate bro.

God bless you

Flows001:
What do I stand to gain by making fictional claims on a platform that doesn't in any way pay me?

I applaud your sharp memory, yes I created a thread last year about the dillema of one of my three sisters, but guess what? Upon investigation, we discovered that the man's former marriage had actually ended, just that the marriage already produced kids (he didn't want to tell my sister for fear of losing her, mind you he isn't yet old and they both truly love each other).

She has forgivem him and agreed to go ahead with marrying him. He had even proceeded to pay my sister's brideprice in full and married her accordingly, she's now his lawfully wedded wife (they have come to a consensus about settling his kids from his former marriage).

But that's a deviation from this thread and totally out of point, I never bragged about my sisters here, it's my own girlfriend that I talked about here..

Why are you so angry that my girlfriend is a virgin, there are still beautiful, God fearing and well behaved virgins out there, just that they are scarce. Pray for God to give you one if you're still single, I actually prayed for one and God blessed me with a lady that has it ALL.

And about the attached pictures, I really can't be debating with you on what I already have experience on. I had been intimate so many times with both virgins and non-virgins before now, and like I said before, I have deflowered a few ladies, so I know how that place looks like for both virgins and non-virgins.

I can't believe I'm even trying to convince you on this. Believe whatever you wish to believe bro, but just know that indeed; there are still decent virgin ladies out there who are equally God fearing with good manners, perhaps you have never come across any before.

My friend you're saying everyone should marry a virgin, yet same you say you disvirgined several girls - because they were insisting you disvirgin them. Then you ask us why you would be lying on a forum that doesn't pay you. LIAR!
And you did not try to convince them not to be begging you to disvirgin them o - so that they'd get married as virgins!
Then your girlfriend was begging you to feel her up to convince she was a virgin (it says clearly below that even a doctor can't tell for sure). Not only that, your very own sister was not only disvirgined but IMPREGNATED without marriage. By a man she didn't know well enough to know he was previously married, with grown children, no less! But though he has GROWN children he's still very young. And now they have a perfect marriage and everything is honky dori!
Conclusion: LIAR!

DaddyCoool:
My friend you're saying everyone should marry a virgin, yet same you say you disvirgined several girls - because they were insisting you disvirgin them. Then you ask us why you would be lying on a forum that doesn't pay you. LIAR!
And you did not try to convince them not to be begging you to disvirgin them o - so that they'd get married as virgins!
Then your girlfriend was begging you to feel her up to convince she was a virgin (it says clearly below that even a doctor can't tell for sure). Not only that, your very own sister was not only disvirgined but IMPREGNATED without marriage. By a man she didn't know well enough to know he was previously married, with grown children, no less! But though he has GROWN children he's still very young. And now they have a perfect marriage and everything is honky dori!
Conclusion: LIAR!

After I finished reading this whole stuff you typed, I had to sit down and ask myself whether I've ever offended you anywhere before.

For the sake of clarity, and as MY LAST RESPONSE TO YOU:

I graduated from the University about six years ago, I studied a professional course and stayed longer as a student. I had so many girlfriends (both virgins and non-virgins alike) and did a whole lot of crazy things with them before, during and immediately after school (every guy that went through school can relate to this).

I did everything I did while I was a student, of course I had girls around me (both the good and bad ones) because I was one of the hottest brains in the faculty, and I also have some good looks to top it up. Even though there was no cash back then, I leveraged on my advantages and had all the fun I could ever have, so you wont blame me for exploring..

I was fortunate to meet my present girlfriend during my NYSC. Thankfully, I met her during her 100 level matriculation in the University. I happened to be her first ever boyfriend as I introduced her to her first romantic relationship, caught her very young as a JJC and a VIRGIN (believing this or not is absolutely YOUR BUSINESS), and we have been together till date, we are already preparing towards getting married.

I NEVER SAID EVERYONE MUST OR SHOULD MARRY A VIRGIN!!!!

My initial comment on this thread was a response to someone who was lamenting the state of immorality and the scary body counts of many ladies these days. I merely advised him that if he is so concerned about all of that, then the only option for him to avoid ending up with a lady that has such extremely high body counts is to MARRY A VIRGIN (I wonder why you are so pained by this comment, only God knows why a guy would be pained that a fellow guy is fortunate to be dating a virgin).

About my sister and her family, I do not owe you any further explanation on that, it really isn't any of your business.

It is obvious you have a problem, and I'm definitely not the cause of it. Deal with whatever thing that is disturbing you.

In conclusion, you're ABSOLUTELY FREE to either choose to believe whatever you want to believe or not to believe, as neither of it would send money into my account, nor affect me in any positive or negative way.


#Peace.

Flows001:
After I finished reading this whole stuff you typed, I had to sit down and ask myself whether I've ever offended you anywhere before.

For the sake of clarity, and as MY LAST RESPONSE TO YOU:

I graduated from the University about six years ago, I studied a professional course and stayed longer as a student. I had so many girlfriends (both virgins and non-virgins alike) and did a whole lot of crazy things with them before, during and immediately after school (every guy that went through school can relate to this).

I did everything I did while I was a student, of course I had girls around me (both the good and bad ones) because I was one of the hottest brains in the faculty, and I also have some good looks to top it up. Even though there was no cash back then, I leveraged on my advantages and had all the fun I could ever have, so you wont blame me for exploring..

I was fortunate to meet my present girlfriend during my NYSC. Thankfully, I met her during her 100 level matriculation in the University. I happened to be her first ever boyfriend as I introduced her to her first romantic relationship, caught her very young as a JJC and a VIRGIN (believing this or not is absolutely YOUR BUSINESS), and we have been together till date, we are already preparing towards getting married.

I NEVER SAID EVERYONE MUST OR SHOULD MARRY A VIRGIN!!!!

My initial comment on this thread was a response to someone who was lamenting the state of immorality and the scary body counts of many ladies these days. I merely advised him that if he is so concerned about all of that, then the only option for him to avoid ending up with a lady that has such extremely high body counts is to MARRY A VIRGIN (I wonder why you are so pained by this comment, only God knows why a guy would be pained that a fellow guy is fortunate to be dating a virgin).

About my sister and her family, I do not owe you any further explanation on that, it really isn't any of your business.

It is obvious you have a problem, and I'm definitely not the cause of it. Deal with whatever thing that is disturbing you.

In conclusion, you're ABSOLUTELY FREE to either choose to believe whatever you want to believe or not to believe, as neither of it would send money into my account, nor affect me in any positive or negative way.


#Peace.

Peace to you too. Just that your stories don't add up. They seem to be things that exist only on paper and not in this our real-life everyday Nigeria. You met a 19-year-old who just entered uni as a virgin. She's now 24 and has gone through uni a virgin in this our Naija. You, on the other hand, in the interim, has deflowered several girls who were begging to be deflowered - girls begging to be deflowered in this our Nigeria! Meanwhile your sister was getting impregnated by some young man she didn't know enough to know he was married and had grown kids, but then it all magically worked out perfectly, grown kids, his lies, and all, and you're now just waiting to marry your 24-year-old who had gone thru uni a virgin while you were busy disvirgining girls who were begging to be disvirgined!

If only virginity dey show for face ladies will behave well

Flows001:
The thread is specifically about body counts and the waywardness of ladies, and the person I quoted was lamenting about how many guys these days would certainly end up with ladies that already have uncountable body counts and worn out bodies, ladies whose ex'es have completely finished every sweetness in them.

My response was specifically to him, and I tried to remind him that the only way to avoid ending up with such ladies is to marry a virgin. I never said that marrying a virgin would automatically mean a man has married right, the thread isn't about good or bad wives!

Come to think of it, why are y'all so quick to attack anyone who makes any comment about settling for a virgin?
What makes you think that a virgin cannot also have all the traits of a good wife?!!

My babe is a virgin, and she is 100% my dream lady both in appearance and character, her being a virgin is the extra package and icing on the cake for me, and I will not stop to talk about her because it is not easy to be extremely beautiful, God fearing, morally upright and a virgin all at the same time in this generation!

In my dating experience before I got married. I dated two virgins. The first one was double dating despite being a virgin. She didn't get disvirgin by me or the other guy. I broke up with her because I couldn't trust her despite being a virgin. She begged with everything but I maintain that it won't work for me. The second virgin didn't cheat but don't have the right character for a good wife, so I broke up with her. She is still angry till today that I broke up with her despite being a virgin but she never understood that marriage for a man with vision is beyond being a virgin. So like I said, marrying a virgin is not bad but making a center of your choice in marrying a wife is the beginning of getting your marriage wrong from the onset.

bdchange:
In my dating experience before I got married. I dated two virgins. The first one was double dating despite being a virgin. She didn't get disvirgin by me or the other guy. I broke up with her because I couldn't trust her despite being a virgin. She begged with everything but I maintain that it won't work for me. The second virgin didn't cheat but don't have the right character for a good wife, so I broke up with her. She is still angry till today that I broke up with her despite being a virgin but she never understood that marriage for a man with vision is beyond being a virgin. So like I said, marrying a virgin is not bad but making a center of your choice in marrying a wife is the beginning of getting your marriage wrong from the onset.

I understand your point, every bad wife today was once a virgin, so being a virgin alone does not automatically make a good wife..

However, my girlfriend is not just a virgin, but she's my ideal kind of woman, both in physique, character and Godliness.

She's a lady that I wouldn't think twice before proceeding to marry, even if I didnt meet her a virgin.

My grilfrient being a virgin is just a plus for me