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immortalcrown:
Invite your mother for a holiday and order the girl to take good care of your mother.😀 The girl will run.

The funniest part is that she doesn't even want to live with you forever.😀 But you don't know. You think she wants to be with you for life.

She wants to exploit you and save enough money that will afford her a classy lifestyle when she finally dumps you. For your information, she is secretly and desperately looking for an alternative to your house. She will take you by surprise if she succeeds. She is very manipulative and selfish. Now, you must have understood why her previous host evicted her.

No girl with a genuine intention will perch on a male divorcee in the manner described in your post. Don't confront her too much to avoid a domestic violence that can end someone's life.

But I must tell you that you can't eat your cake and have it. You thought that she living with you would offer your more access to her body. You didn't know that there is a price for that.

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation.

Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well.

Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for.

She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores, clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her.

I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues, stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for.

The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment.

Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for.

Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Blackmoran:
Step1 don't fill the gas when it finish

Step2 don't recharge when the light finish. or if you share bills don't pay

Step3 don't subscribe on any cabe channels

Step4. Don't buy foodstuffs at home if you hungry go out and eat

With this I think it would be enough... As long as you don't make her comfortable in your house.

immortalcrown:
Invite your mother for a holiday and order the girl to take good care of your mother.😀 The girl will run.

The funniest part is that she doesn't even want to live with you forever.😀 But you don't know. You think she wants to be with you for life.

She wants to exploit you and save enough money that will afford her a classy lifestyle when she finally dumps you. For your information, she is secretly and desperately looking for an alternative to your house. She will take you by surprise if she succeeds. She is very manipulative and selfish. Now, you must have understood why her previous host evicted her.

No girl with a genuine intention will perch on a male divorcee in the manner described in your post. Don't confront her too much to avoid a domestic violence that can end someone's life.

But I must tell you that you can't eat your cake and have it. You thought that she living with you would offer your more access to her body. You didn't know that there is a price for that.

PerfectStranger:
You wanted to eat free kpekus at anytime you wish now u don tire you want her to leave

davillian:
Buy calabash, buy red clothes, buy powder buy live chicken buy charcoal .....
At midnight wear the red cloth, tie on your head tie on your arm put the charcoal inside lite it put the feathers inside so it would bring smoke start talking rubbish until she wakes up and see you but don't say anything to her before u wake up in the morning she don run

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation.

Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well.

Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for.

She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores, clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her.

I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues, stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for.

The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment.

Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for.

Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

RealityKings:
Let's put the situation in perspective. Let's assume you were the one kicked out by your friend, would she take you in? If she took you in, would you contribute to the house ?

It's good to help others most especially when you are lovers but keep in mind not to let anyone USE you and move on to another dude. She's actually not interested in you(i knowyou sense this already sha). Don't assume the "father role".
Be hard hearted. Make it expressly clear you want her to contribute to the home expenses

Pzpropertylimit:
Wait for the rent to finish and pack out

PerfectStranger:
You wanted to eat free kpekus at anytime you wish now u don tire you want her to leave

Afodot0022:
This won't work cos my rent is sorted out till the end of 2025 . I can't wait till then to kick her out

MrBrownJay1:
if you had listened to the below i told you to do before moving her in (In your initial thread on the issue), all the above wouldnt have happened...

the only solution to your issue now is to be RUTHLESS and stop falling for her emotional blackmail... give her an ultimatum as to when she got to get the fukc out your home (beware that she doesnt run away with your shiit as revenge), and when the day of that ultimatum comes, whether she has a place to stay or not, open the door and get rid of her. basta!

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation.

Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well.

Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for.

She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores, clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her.

I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues, stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for.

The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment.

Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for.

Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Afodot0022:
Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

sonssyo:
I be a lady that stays alone, I had accident some years ago, so after I came back to start work, the clutches I used for over 7 months damaged my nerves, that made me not been able to use my hands, can't bath and all hence i needed a lady to help me.
So i called one babe to come and help me, so after assisting me and several physiotherapy my hands were restored.
But then, she was coming off and on, later she had a problem where she was staying, thou not her fault because I'm aware of the stuff.
So i told her to come and stay with me, my parents do not like the idea, but when i look at what she did for me, I decided to help her.
But one thing i noticed about her is that she doesn't like spending her money, but like Nwa Anambra wey I be, I go just dey watch her from a distance. At a time gas finished, I didn't bother buying, she was forced to buy, pure water finished when I was not around, I came back and saw that she didn't buy, I go buy bottled water, she came back and was forced to buy.
Truth be told, she helps me a lot, washing, cooking and all, she's really trying, but i have to make her understand that she needs to be contributing no matter how small.
Again, she recently started night shift, I advised her to probably go back to her house and be managing from there, or get another house but as per sense girl wey she be, she doesn't want that, free food is involved.
Believe you me, some people may think they are wise but don't know that they are just selfish, least i forget the monthly suya of 2k i told her to be buying for me she have defaulted severally, that made me not to buy anything for her again she think say she wise.

Oga you have to stop cooking in that house, start from there first, tell her that she must have to do the house chores, if she don't want to do that, let her goooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation.

Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well.

Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for.

She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores, clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her.

I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues, stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for.

The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment.

Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for.

Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs