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I don't know if to keep it to myself.

He recently told me his intention to marry her, But before then he found out the lady know me through her comment on my Facebook post, Which he asked me if I know the lady.
I told him yes that she's my friend but I didn't go deep to the level our friendship was.
He's asked me if she's my girlfriend that he don't want it be dragging a woman with his brother.

I told him no problem that he should go on with her if he likes her(Already tired of her and didn't know it will lead to marriage discussion) The girl confirmed to my cousin she knows me very well and even know where I live in City,told him my area and street.
But I don't know if she told him our level of friendship.

But before then the girl reached out to me and told me my cousin (junior) is asking her out, That what's our stand, Which I told her to go on if she like him.

Her reply was I am the one she love most but she doesn't understand my attitude towards her again.

I said Okay.

Now my cousin is talking about marrying her, Even some days ago I was with both of them drinking, watching Masquerade and being entertained (I went to my Town for new yam festival)

The lady lives in the same city with me, From where we meet,She came back,I don't know if is for the festival or for the marriage matter because my cousin base in my Town for now.

We dated for three months before I started ghosting her because of a character I can't live with.
She is too possessive.

No lady will pass without her asking why do you look her Nash.(Even when i May not noticed the lady that passed)

Questions of how many girls you collected their numbers today, how many girls toasted you today.
Always demand to go through my phones.

Outside that she had no issues with the little I know her.

I don't know if to mind my business because he's the cousin I am more close to.

chiagozien:
I don't know if to keep it to myself.


He recently told me his intention to marry her, But before then he found out the lady know me through her comment on my Facebook post, Which he asked me if I know the lady.
I told him yes that she's my friend but I didn't go deep to the level our friendship was.
He's asked me if she's my girlfriend that he don't want it be dragging a woman with his brother.
I told him no problem that he should go on with her if he likes her(Already tired of her and didn't know it will lead to marriage discussion) The girl confirmed to my cousin she knows me very well and even know where I live in City,told him my area and street.
But I don't know if she told him our level of friendship.


But before then the girl reached out to me and told me my cousin (junior) is asking her out, That what's our stand, Which I told her to go on if she like him.
Her reply was I am the one she love most but she doesn't understand my attitude towards her again.

I said Okay.


Now my cousin is talking about marrying her, Even some days ago I was with both of them drinking, watching Masquerade and being entertained (I went to my Town for new yam festival)

The lady lives in the same city with me, From where we meet,She came back,I don't know if is for the festival or for the marriage matter because my cousin base in my Town for now.



We dated for three months before I started ghosting her because of a character I can't live with.
She is too possessive.

No lady will pass without her asking why do you look her Nash.(Even when i May not noticed the lady that passed)

Questions of how many girls you collected their numbers today, how many girls toasted you today.
Always demand to go through my phones.


Outside that she had no issues with the little I know her.



I don't know if to mind my business because he's the cousin I am more close to.

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Did anything serious happened between the two of you?

the above is the definition of.....why fear enemies when you have family members like the OP?

when you needed to talk, you kept quiet, and now that you need to keep quiet, you wanna talk... KAI!!!

You must have a low mentality ….

What is wrong in marrying your ex …. The only wrong thing is if she is still secretly nacking you while planning marriage with your cousin….

Do you think you will meet your own wife a virgin??

Every body had an ex Oga …. So rest

Xscape1993:
Did anything serious happened between the two of you?

Of course,she was my girl and comes weekend things.

MrBrownJay1:
the above is the definition of.....why fear enemies when you have family members like the OP?

when you needed to talk, you kept quiet, and now that you need to keep quiet, you wanna talk... KAI!!!

I haven't talked yet.


I just want both to be happy because I don't wish the girl bad.


The truth is I never expected to be put in this position.

If I talk now,it may hunt the girl and if I no talk it will be like betraying my brother.

[quote author=MrBrownJay1 post=131926302]the above is the definition of.....why fear enemies when you have family members like the OP?

when you needed to talk, you kept quiet, and now that you need to keep quiet, you wanna talk...
Well said.

chiagozien:
I haven't talked yet.
I just want both to be happy because I don't wish the girl bad.

here the simple questions you should have asked yourself from the get go:
- if you were in his shoes, would you want to know that your cousin had fukced your new girl?
- dont you think that if he knew from the get go, then he possibly wouldnt have gone that far with her?
- dont you think that the best was simply to tell him the truth so that "he" (not you) can take the decision on whether he should be with her (seriously) or not?
- so, you didnt say shiit when you should have, but now that your cousin is neck deep in that r/ship with your ex, you want to open your mouth... for what reason exactly (you didnt care before, why care now)?

chiagozien:
The truth is I never expected to be put in this position.

you put your own self in that position... because you only thought about yourself. what type of family member are you that you couldnt protect your cousin when it mattered? if you fukced a babe and your cousin is suddenly interested in her, its you DUTY (as a man) to tell him the truth because its obvious this yeye babe doesnt care about telling him such an IMPORTANT point.

If I talk now,it may hunt the girl and if I no talk it will be like betraying my brother.

you already betrayed him once... whats one more betrayal from you, right?

Tales by moonlight. Eye dey pain me. I no get power to read.

MrBrownJay1:
here the simple questions you should have asked yourself from the get go:
- if you were in his shoes, would you want to know that your cousin had fukced your new girl?
- dont you think that if he knew from the get go, then he possibly wouldnt have gone that far with her?
- dont you think that the best was simply to tell him the truth so that "he" (not you) can take the decision on whether he should be with her (seriously) or not?
- so, you didnt say shiit when you should have, but now you that your cousin is neck deep in that r/ship with your ex, you want to open your mouth... for what reason exactly (you didnt care before, why care now)?



you put your own self in that position... because you only thought about yourself. what type of family member are you that you couldnt protect your cousin when it mattered? if you fukced a babe and your cousin is suddenly interested in her, its you DUTY (as a man) to tell him the truth because its obvious this yeye babe doesnt care about telling him such an IMPORTANT point.



you already betrayed him once... whats one more betrayal from you, right?

So what do you suggest now?

meobizy:
Tales by moonlight. Eye dey pain me. I no get power to read.

Then move.

You no need tell me twice.

chiagozien:
Then move.

meobizy:
You no need tell me twice.

Good girl.

chiagozien:
Good girl.

All you disrespectful Gen Z children. Na Nairaland I blame.

meobizy:
All you disrespectful Gen Z children. Na Nairaland I blame.

Sorry Grandma

chiagozien:
So what do you suggest now?

the choice is yours....
you can keep quiet and hope that she will never throw your "little affair" in his face the day they start arguing and she wants to get back at him OR you can choose the right time to sit down while facing both of them and be honest about the situation, while trying not to insult anybody nor hurt anyone's feeling (and dont expect a wedding invite anytime soon)

its already a fukced up situation but best he knows before the wedding (and he takes the decision of whether he wants to go ahead with it or not) rather than learning about it after having 3 kids with the babe.

Thundafireseun:
You must have a low mentality ….

What is wrong in marrying your ex …. The only wrong thing is if she is still secretly nacking you while planning marriage with your cousin….

Do you think you will meet your own wife a virgin??

Every body had an ex Oga …. So rest

High mentality thanks for your input.



Moreover i May end up with a virgin if God wish,my current girlfriend is a virgin

Jealousy will kill you

Lol that's the thing about wedding a babe who's been around. One nigga go just casually talk say "him friend say him done back your wife b4"

Na money I dey find now sha

MrBrownJay1:
the choice is yours....
you can keep quiet and hope that she will never throw your "little affair" in his face the day they start arguing and she wants to get back at him OR you can choose the right time to sit down while facing both of them and be honest about the situation, while trying not to insult anybody nor hurt anyone's feeling (and dont expect a wedding invite anytime soon)

its already a fukced up situation but best he knows before the wedding (and he take the decision if he wants to go ahead with it or not) rather than learning about it after having 3 kids with the babe.

Thanks

Candidlady:
Jealousy will kill you

Jealous of what.

chiagozien:
Of course,she was my girl and comes weekend things.

You need to let know him then.

Hands akimbo..

Xscape1993:
Did anything serious happened between the two of you?

Can’t you tell they were fvck buddies from the story? (fiction or non-fiction)

chiagozien:
Jealous of what.

Invalid question

Candidlady:
Invalid question

You claim I am jealous over a girl that will choose me over.

A girl I ghosted because of her over possessive attitude

Xscape1993:
Did anything serious happened between the two of you?

They have been sleeping with each other. Say it as it is.

chiagozien:
Of course,she was my girl and comes weekend things.

You slept with her. What do you mean by she come weekend things.

Las las you too will marry someone ex, so shut up and allow the young woman enter house.

Your cousin is your blood and the wife will soon be your in law, so it is best to have an understanding. You do not want to create two enemies out of friendships you currently have.

So invite the lady and have a talk with her. And assure her that your past relationship will stay a secret as long as she does not inform her husband. That remains part of your secret life with her.

I am not saying tomorrow you can not use that against her to navigate the borehole in Okafor's law. I am just saying that silence is to your advantage but then there is a knife dangling around your neck.

I do not see your cousin proceeding with the marriage knowing you already enjoyed the prime pussy.

chiagozien:
Of course,she was my girl and comes weekend things.

You should tell your cousin everything. He will never forgive you if he gets to know later. How can he marry someone you already tested her Kpekus? Is she the only one in town?

Tell him o. If he still wants the marriage he can go ahead. Also, note that when they get married, the lady would limit your relationship with your cousin because she won't be comfortable with you around.


There's also okafor's law. Your cousin won't be free with you for fear of the law.

Please tell your cousin now.