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By opening this thread, you’re showing you’re ready to transform your life for the better.

If you’ve been struggling with masturbation, don’t mistake this for a lack of self-control. Just as being broke doesn’t mean you’re lazy, struggling with these habits doesn’t mean you lack discipline. There’s more going on here.

Instead of dwelling on past failures, understand that overcoming this challenge involves more than just willpower. Stay with me, and you'll uncover what really matters.

Remember, over 90% of men deal with porn and masturbation. By choosing to move beyond these habits, you’re not just making a change—you’re making a bold statement.

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See how this guy just throw in "over 90%".
Here's news for you: VAST MAJORITY of men (and women!) have no problem WHATSOEVER with maturation, neither are they addicted to it in any way whatsoever. The small minority of you who have problems keep posting threads up and down.
And stop mixing up porn and maturation - two different issues altogether!

Understanding the Downsides of Masturbation

Masturbation can potentially lead to several negative consequences. Let's look at few for now

**1. If you're not making progress in life, then your regular masturbation might be playing a role there. Note: masturbation might not be the direct cause of why you're not making progress, but it's a contributing factor.

One big downside of masturbation is its potential effect on productivity. When you masturbate regularly, you get distracted from other responsibilities and goals. This could result in procrastination and a lack of focus on work, studies, or personal projects.

**2. Guys who masturbate regularly may also isolate themselves from friends and social activities. This isolation can further cause feelings of loneliness and hinder the development of meaningful romantic relationships and social skills.

**3. Porn and masturbation causes you to experience feelings of guilt, shame, or anxiety.
As a man, There's the feeling of self-respect that comes from the fact that you no longer masturbate. Every time you think about your achievement in escaping the fap addiction, you will get this powerful feeling of confidence and pride.
Nothing beat that inner powerful feeling.
But if you watch pornography and masturbate, you can never have that inner powerful feeling.

***4. Porn and masturbation is hinders you from actually getting a girlfriend or wife.
If you're a Man, One reason why you single is because you have the option to masturbate. As long as there's the option to masturbate, you'll not be motivated to seriously get a partner.
Once you finally quiting fapping, you'll be naturally forced to go out to go look for a woman.
Giving up porn will naturally remove the massive barrier standing between you and "meeting a girl".


Let’s dive in quickly on how to quit masturbation and porn...

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You likely know that quitting masturbation isn’t about a lack of information. A simple Google search for "how to quit porn or masturbation" yields countless results. Despite the wealth of advice available, quitting remains a challenge for many.

Why?

The real issue isn’t “how to quit fapping,” but rather, “why can’t I quit fapping?”

First, let’s explore how your mind operates…

We have two minds: the subconscious and the conscious.

The subconscious mind deals with raw desires, emotional impulses, and habits. For example, if someone angers you and you feel a strong urge to react aggressively, that's your subconscious mind at play. Similarly, when you see an attractive person and are tempted to look, that’s also the subconscious driving your desires.

The subconscious seeks pleasure and avoids pain. It repeatedly pushes you towards activities it finds enjoyable.

Your struggle with porn and masturbation largely resides in the subconscious mind.
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This shift brings awareness. Your conscious mind, concerned with ethics and social norms, immediately critiques the behavior as bad or shameful.

The conscious mind is rational and values morality, while the subconscious mind thrives on immediate gratification and pleasure. This creates an internal conflict:

- **Conscious mind:* "Masturbation hinders your ability to build meaningful romantic relationships."
- **Subconscious mind:** "It’s better than dealing with potential risks in sexual encounters."
- **Conscious mind:** "It drains your energy and makes you feel sluggish."
- **Subconscious mind:** "It provides pleasure and relaxation."

This ongoing debate explains the tension you feel when tempted. The subconscious mind, driven by emotion and immediate rewards, often overpowers the more logical conscious mind.

In essence, your struggle isn’t just about masturbation—it's a battle between your conscious and subconscious minds.

So, how can you effectively manage this internal conflict?

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DaddyCoool:
See how this guy just throw in "over 90%".
Here's news for you: VAST MAJORITY of men (and women!) have no problem WHATSOEVER with maturation, neither are they addicted to it in any way whatsoever. The small minority of you who have problems keep posting threads up and down.
And stop mixing up porn and maturation - two different issues altogether!

So indulge in the act and you think you are not addicted it?

Turn to God… there is nothing impossible with God.

MrRelentless:
So indulge in the act and you think you are not addicted it?

Just as you have people addicted to alcohol or sex or food or anything but the VAST MAJORITY are not at all

Kobojunkie, your attention is much needed here.🥱

You can quit porn and masturbation for some days or weeks, but if you haven’t filled the hole in your life that you are trying to fill with porn, you’ll still go back to porn.

But porn or masturbation will never fill that hole in your heart…

Pornography can temporarily distract you , but it cannot substitute genuine connection, self-worth, or fulfillment.

Without tackling the underlying issues in your life, the cycle of returning to porn continues, often leaving you feeling even more issues than before.

Ultimately, neither porn nor masturbation can ever truly fill the deep-seated emptiness that drives such behaviors. The key to lasting change lies in addressing the root causes of why you watch porn or masturbate in the first place.

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DaddyCoool:
Just as you have people addicted to alcohol or sex or food or anything but the VAST MAJORITY are not at all

Okay, I wanna ask you this pretty straightforward question... Do you masturbate?

If your answer is, yes, then please kindly tell how you're not addicted to it

FitCorper:
Turn to God… there is nothing impossible with God.

Unfortunately, God can't remove your masturbation habit.

Because God didn't ask you to go and masturbate and watch porn in the first place.

God gave you the free will. And you chose porn and become addicted.


But if God wants to help you, he's gonna send someone.

He has sent me to help men and women escape masturbation.

Porn and masturbation has no happy ending. It going to eventually cause pain for the person involved in the act

MrRelentless:
Unfortunately, God can't remove your masturbation habit.

Because God didn't ask you to go and masturbate and watch porn in the first place.

God gave you the free will. And you chose porn and become addicted.


But if God wants to help you, he's gonna send someone.

He has sent me to help men and women escape masturbation.

Porn and masturbation has no happy ending. It going to eventually cause pain for the person involved in the act

I rebuke you in Jesus name. The Bible says “with man it is impossible, but with God all things are possible”. He that is in Christ is a new creature, old things are past away and behold all things are become new.

MrRelentless:
Okay, I wanna ask you this pretty straightforward question... Do you masturbate?

If your answer is, yes, then please kindly tell how you're not addicted to it

Okay, I wanna ask you this pretty straightforward question... Do you drink alcohol?

If your answer is, yes, then please kindly tell how you're not addicted to it

Porn and Masturbation when consumed with moderation is actually not a bad thing. it has saved me from trouble countless times so to ne it not a bad thing. U guys should stop condemning it

DaddyCoool:
Okay, I wanna ask you this pretty straightforward question... Do you drink alcohol?

If your answer is, yes, then please kindly tell how you're not addicted to it

I don't drink alcohol. Dude, Stop dodging the question.

You still didn't answer the question

MrRelentless:
I don't drink alcohol. Dude, Stop dodging the question.

You still didn't answer the question

I don't masturbate. Dude, Stop dodging the question.

You still didn't answer the question.
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Some people are addicted to alcohol and just about anything you can name, BUT MOST PEOPLE ARE NOT!
You sound exactly like an alcoholic who can't believe that most people who drink are not addicted to alcohol at all.

DaddyCoool:
I don't masturbate. Dude, Stop dodging the question.

You still didn't answer the question.
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Some people are addicted to alcohol and just about anything you can name, BUT MOST PEOPLE ARE NOT!
You sound exactly like an alcoholic who can't believe that most people who drink are not addicted to alcohol at all.

If you claim you don't masturbate, then what's the point on this debate anyways...

MrRelentless:
If you claim you don't masturbate, then what's the point on this debate anyways...

The point is education. I'm trying to educate you that UNLIKE YOU, the vast majority of people don't find masturbation addictive AT ALL! (see below)

Really what you all battling with this unhealthy habit should pray for is for God to help you I. Discovering your purpose. Once you discover your purpose it will give you the drive and passion to do away with habits that derails you from realizing this purpose. Most people as it stands right now don’t even have an idea of what their purpose is (anything you find challenging that adds significant growth and improvement to your life all round, it will challenge and break you, but your passion for it will exceed every pain you feel, it could be exercise, painting, teaching, service to others, e.t.c) Pray to God to help you discover ur purpose cos until you do, you will just keep drifting back and forth with this bad habit.
You see those two arguing up there that they don’t do this, I can bet my last cash that one of them if not both don succumb to the habit.
This is why the apostles of Christ warned about boasting and bragging. We wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers.

DaddyCoool:
The point is education. I'm trying to educate you that UNLIKE YOU, the vast majority of people don't find masturbation addictive AT ALL! (see below)

Own up to your addiction bro...