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Many are in pursuit of a perfect partner- the question remains how?

The success story of married couples explains the "hows". A colleague told me a secret and I wasn't really surprised. He said he never really loved his wife when he got married to her. I would have asked why he still hanged in there with someone he doesn't love but, I felt that would be interfering. However, he did clarify his decision by making it clear that "people don't really know what they want until they try". That was a risk but the clearest answer he could give.

I want to elaborate on this subject using the advice from the aforementioned colleague. Finding the right partner comes down to different things, but two come to mind- "[b][/b]understanding and [b][/b]risk. These two principles, help you find the presumed "right partner". If there's no risk taking, you'll be unable to know if a prospective partner is right or wrong. Second, if you do take the risk, you need an understanding to know each other better for a long lasting relationship. We often realise these things and wonder why relationships still fail.. the answer- [b][/b]DECISION

As a partner, you are as powerful as your other half. Neither of you is mightier, so what whatever either of you decide upon, can keep or totally destroy a marriage. That's the power of decision. If we drafted a "book of prophetic love" on marriage, a marriage would still fail because, you would base your expectations on predictions and educated guesses rather than reality. Marriage is truly a "decision" that must be mutually agreed on.

The possibility of a good partner or marriage can be 100% but can partners drop their egos to make this work? Ego has been a big factor for most partners and neither partner is willing to sacrifice for it. Marriages that have lasted beyond 30 years, may have secrets many of you are in search of. It's easy to appreciate the 30-year journey of some marriages, but can you really take the bullets these partners have shot at each other for years? - even though they're still waxing on- [b][/b]DECISION

Marriage isn't for the faint hearted. You must have a tough skin to endure the characteristics of marriage. Never look down on someone who says they will never get married...they've probably seen ahead of you or are just being protective of their hearts. The decision to get married is a cross you must imagine - you should also be willing to carry it no matter the circumstance. You can always come out of a relationship if it becomes unhealthy.

Can you really find the right partner? [b][/b]No. But you can adapt. There's no such thing as a right partner neither is there anyone of your rib as well. If that isn't the case then, partners will not hop from one marriage to another- so the "rib of my ribs" school of thought holds no waters. People just match mate their personalities to find compatibility - that's all.

How can you find a potential partner or someone close to your perfect idea, send me a message so I can share tips.

Like the op has already stated, there’s arguably no such thing as a right or perfect partner from the get go.

Patience, unlimited amount of tolerance and humility, in handling the one you find who’s ready to take the walk of faith.

Let not the one take the other for a fool, ever.

It is work, but doable…

As a man with money, how about you simply find a woman who would bear kids for you and take care of her financially far away from you....

Win-win situation.

Marriage has become intolerable...

jorion:
As a man with money, how about you simply find a woman who would bear kids for you and take care of her financially far away from you....

Win-win situation.

Marriage has become intolerable...

A man who's financially buoyant can make any decision he wants because he's got the money. True!

If a man lives separate from a partner, that can be a win-win situation and, that can save both partners a lot of daily altercation.