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. by healthkknatural(op): 8:32am On Sep 18, 2024*

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Re: . by buttlover(m): 8:54am On Sep 18, 2024

you are not alone. Probably peace of mind. You suppose live happily in Scandinavian countries m

healthkknatural:
Hello Nigerians.

I don't like living with anyone . I like living , Staying All Alone . I don't just don't know the reason for this.

I feel Uncomfortable Having anyone living with me .

Right now , I have My Family in another House , I stay Alone in another House .

I would visit them , Check there Books , Joke, Play with them and leave to the second house a bit distant where I stay .

I Love Cooking , Washing doing all things by myself .

For Example if anyone Visit Me , After Some Few Hours , I will start feeling uncomfortable that he should just leave.

There is this Comforts, Peace and security that Radiates in my mind whenever someone stays with me.

There was a time , A woman was calling me a Ghost because for 2 years no one ever visit me.

Pls. I don't understand this . Does this feelings has a medical Name ?

Is anyone having this kind of Feelings too

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Re: . by EreluRoz: 9:33am On Sep 18, 2024

Aside my parents and siblings I can't live with anyone else

Re: . by johnstar(m): 9:56am On Sep 18, 2024

Introvert

Me too

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Re: . by Akpabio22(m): 10:09am On Sep 18, 2024

Try to minimize your introvert abit. One dey you might need help for being alone and nobody will be there to save you because no man is an island no man stands alone.

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Re: . by healthkknatural(op): 10:09am On Sep 18, 2024

johnstar:
Introvert
Me too

Really

Honestly, Associating , Having Friends , Going to Parties , Clubs Cathing Fun etc I don't , If I wanna catch Fun , Just me Alone

Quietly walks into a Bar , Or eatery me alone.

I do Charity to the Poor though so not Stingy

There was one Particular Bar I do go , I don't take drinks with High Alcohol though just like Smirnoff, Not a Fan of Beer too.

A Lady Walk up to me asking why do I like Sitting alone , No Lady , No one , Just me alone with Nkwobi , berbacue fish enjoying alone ,

How do I cope like that , I smiled and ask her what she wanted , She demanded for Heineken, I wasn't talking to her , She keeps asking questions about me , I told her some other time we talk.

I already started feeling Uncomfortable.

Later I Left the the Bar , As I was Leaving She mentioned what kind of Man is this .. Na Waooo .

It's well

Re: . by AmalaAtiEwedu: 10:18am On Sep 18, 2024

healthkknatural:
Really

Honestly, Associating , Having Friends , Going to Parties , Clubs Cathing Fun etc I don't , If I wanna catch Fun , Just me Alone

Quietly walks into a Bar , Or eatery me alone.

I do Charity to the Poor though so not Stingy

There was one Particular Bar I do go , I don't take drinks with High Alcohol though just like Smirnoff, Not a Fan of Beer too.

A Lady Walk up to me asking why do I like Sitting alone , No Lady , No one , Just me alone with Nkwobi , berbacue fish enjoying alone ,

How do I cope like that , I smiled and ask her what she wanted , She demanded for Heineken, I wasn't talking to her , She keeps asking questions about me , I told her some other time we talk.

I already started feeling Uncomfortable.

Later I Left the the Bar , As I was Leaving She mentioned what kind of Man is this .. Na Waooo .

It's well

You no ask where toilet dey carry her enter?

Re: . by healthkknatural(op): 10:19am On Sep 18, 2024

Akpabio22:
Try to minimize your introvert abit. One dey you might need help for being alone and nobody will be there to save you because no man is an island no man stands alone.

Thanks so Much, U are Right, I Appreciate

Re: . by Psych412(f): 11:07am On Sep 18, 2024

healthkknatural:
Really

Honestly, Associating , Having Friends , Going to Parties , Clubs Cathing Fun etc I don't , If I wanna catch Fun , Just me Alone

Quietly walks into a Bar , Or eatery me alone.

I do Charity to the Poor though so not Stingy

There was one Particular Bar I do go , I don't take drinks with High Alcohol though just like Smirnoff, Not a Fan of Beer too.

A Lady Walk up to me asking why do I like Sitting alone , No Lady , No one , Just me alone with Nkwobi , berbacue fish enjoying alone ,

How do I cope like that , I smiled and ask her what she wanted , She demanded for Heineken, I wasn't talking to her , She keeps asking questions about me , I told her some other time we talk.

I already started feeling Uncomfortable.

Later I Left the the Bar , As I was Leaving She mentioned what kind of Man is this .. Na Waooo .

It's well

you have a serious spiritual problem that needs God intervention, so that you can be free from the spirit of loneliness☹️....in other words, "you need prayers"😒

Re: . by Tallesty1(m): 4:19pm On Sep 18, 2024

EreluRoz:
Aside my parents and siblings I can't live with anyone else

Re: . by EreluRoz: 4:29pm On Sep 18, 2024

[quote author=Tallesty1 post=132058519][/quote]Yes, even after I get married I'll be using every opportunity to run home. I'll be triggering my husband so that we will fight then fiam to my parent's house.

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Re: . by AmalaAtiEwedu: 6:10pm On Sep 18, 2024

EreluRoz:
Yes, even after I get married I'll be using every opportunity to run home. I'll be triggering my husband so that we will fight then fiam to my parent's house.

You will remain in your parents house.
Who want liability?

Re: . by Tallesty1(m): 8:01pm On Sep 18, 2024

EreluRoz:
Yes, even after I get married I'll be using every opportunity to run home. I'll be triggering my husband so that we will fight then fiam to my parent's house.

LMAO.

And you think your parents will always welcome you?

Dey play

Re: . by Mryacks: 8:02pm On Sep 18, 2024

Maybe yours is a bit in the extreme, but I function a bit like you but mine is that I socialize and interact with people but I love my Alone time! For example, I don't like sharing room or personal space .. grin

just to ease up and open up a bit...

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Re: . by EreluRoz: 8:32pm On Sep 18, 2024

Tallesty1:
LMAO.

And you think your parents will always welcome you?

Dey play

Same thing my mom used to tell me each time I tell her my plans of running back home for the slightest reasons when I get married. She said she'll chase me away and make sure not even my siblings will accept me lol. I will sha find a way to enter house 😆

Re: . by Dilaminu: 8:44pm On Sep 18, 2024

healthkknatural:
Hello Nigerians.

I don't like living with anyone . I like living , Staying All Alone . I don't just don't know the reason for this.

I feel Uncomfortable Having anyone living with me .

Right now , I have My Family in another House , I stay Alone in another House .

I would visit them , Check there Books , Joke, Play with them and leave to the second house a bit distant where I stay .

I Love Cooking , Washing doing all things by myself .

For Example if anyone Visit Me , After Some Few Hours , I will start feeling uncomfortable that he should just leave.

There is this Comforts, Peace and security that Radiates in my mind whenever someone stays with me.

There was a time , A woman was calling me a Ghost because for 2 years no one ever visit me.

Pls. I don't understand this . Does this feelings has a medical Name ?

Is anyone having this kind of Feelings too

"This is what usually happens to me whenever someone visits: I feel uncomfortable. I don’t like living with anyone except my family; I prefer to be alone, especially when someone wants to stay in my room, and I don’t want to visit anyone."

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Re: . by FRANCISTOWN: 10:10pm On Sep 18, 2024

healthkknatural:
Hello Nigerians.

I don't like living with anyone . I like living , Staying All Alone . I don't just don't know the reason for this.

I feel Uncomfortable Having anyone living with me .

Right now , I have My Family in another House , I stay Alone in another House .

I would visit them , Check there Books , Joke, Play with them and leave to the second house a bit distant where I stay .

I Love Cooking , Washing doing all things by myself .

For Example if anyone Visit Me , After Some Few Hours , I will start feeling uncomfortable that he should just leave.

There is this Comforts, Peace and security that Radiates in my mind whenever someone stays with me.

There was a time , A woman was calling me a Ghost because for 2 years no one ever visit me.

Pls. I don't understand this . Does this feelings has a medical Name ?

Is anyone having this kind of Feelings too

The fact that you created a topic about it is where the problem is.
It means that's not who you really are but you might be dealing with some psychological issues, maybe childhood trauma or some sorta pain.
I'd suggest you seek a professional help.

I also love being alone and by myself that when I was living in a rented apartment, I barely even say hi to my neighbours, and I've never bothered about it, because that way of life is just so normal to me like I'm drinking a cup of water.

Re: . by Zeezeal7(m): 1:02pm On Sep 19, 2024

FRANCISTOWN:
You are right. Making a fuss out of it means something is wrong somewhere tho that I can't reallysay. If it was his True nature, they wouldn't be any need for bringing up the issue.

Personally, I am like that too. I have just one friend who we haven't seen in 3 years. I prefer being alone most of the time though I socialize a little but always create an alone time to recharge. I can't count how many times I've spent the whole day in my room, not stepping outside the compound or even my gate.

I haven't taken a picture In years now, I haven't chatted or made a single post on my Facebook or WhatsApp for years now and I chat just my far away friend. I don't call people except my parents and siblings and people don't call me too.
In all these, I have no regrets and I don't even see it as an issue cos like you said, it's normal like drinking water. I just wake up, live my life and work hard for a better future. Anyone who is not comfortable or complaining, it's always your business cos I no send you at all.

My dad initially started having issues because of this lifestyle but I didn't even care to spend energy arguing or explaining anything to him till he got the memo and left me be.
I've been alone my whole life so I don't even care what anyone thinks about me, I do what makes me happy and put myself first.

The fact that you created a topic about it is where the problem is.
It means that's not who you really are but you might be dealing with some psychological issues, maybe childhood trauma or some sorta pain.
I'd suggest you seek a professional help.

I also love being alone and by myself that when I was living in a rented apartment, I barely even say hi to my neighbours, and I've never bothered about it, because that way of life is just so normal to me like I'm drinking a cup of water.

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Re: . by ThaThinka: 1:47pm On Sep 19, 2024

You're not alone. But I think yours is more than mine.

The only persons I can comfortably live with is a wife or someone (a peer) that respects others' feelings and we share a lot in common. I guess I can also live with anyone that I won't feel miserable in their company and that I trust to an extent, but only my mum seems to fit that description for now.

I find it hard to sleep away from my little place because I won't feel comfortable. I'd even prefer staying in a hotel or guest house than sleep over at most people's places.

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Re: . by nautybride: 4:10pm On Sep 19, 2024

Friends and family probably conspired against you in your past life undecided

Re: . by nicerod(m): 5:30pm On Sep 19, 2024

You are an introvert.

We plenty for this table oo

I thought something was wrong with me ni

Well try and learn to accomodate others time will come we will need one another

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Re: . by Sapasenator: 5:18am On Sep 20, 2024

EreluRoz:
Aside my parents and siblings I can't live with anyone else

What about a husband? You want to be a part-time wife?

I actually love to live alone.

Re: . by Sapasenator: 5:22am On Sep 20, 2024

EreluRoz:
Yes, even after I get married I'll be using every opportunity to run home. I'll be triggering my husband so that we will fight then fiam to my parent's house.

What about your kids? You will carry them run too? If I am your husband, I will lock you inside house after our quarrel and go out with keys.

Re: . by Fiscus105(m): 7:34am On Sep 20, 2024

healthkknatural:
Hello Nigerians.

I don't like living with anyone . I like living , Staying All Alone . I don't just don't know the reason for this.

I feel Uncomfortable Having anyone living with me .

Right now , I have My Family in another House , I stay Alone in another House .

I would visit them , Check there Books , Joke, Play with them and leave to the second house a bit distant where I stay .

I Love Cooking , Washing doing all things by myself .

For Example if anyone Visit Me , After Some Few Hours , I will start feeling uncomfortable that he should just leave.

There is this Comforts, Peace and security that Radiates in my mind whenever someone stays with me.

There was a time , A woman was calling me a Ghost because for 2 years no one ever visit me.

Pls. I don't understand this . Does this feelings has a medical Name ?

Is anyone having this kind of Feelings too

It shows you are not responsible. (A responsible man must be able to ENDURE, TOLERATE & ACCOMMODATE character/behaviour of at least, his wife and kids, such man need to be with his family, not only to nurture and defend them, but also to a role model)

Can absentee father do, all I listed above?

Meanwhile, if your wife does unthinkable now, you would be the first to come on nairaland to wail about women's wahala, and trust me, several hopeless teenagers that full here would even cry more than bereaved.

Re: . by healthkknatural(op): 2:22pm On Sep 20, 2024

nautybride:

Friends and family probably conspired against you in your past life

Hmmmm !

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Re: . by healthkknatural(op): 2:24pm On Sep 20, 2024

Fiscus105:
It shows you are not responsible. (A responsible man must be able to ENDURE, TOLERATE & ACCOMMODATE character/behaviour of at least, his wife and kids, such man need to be with his family, not only to nurture and defend them, but also to a role model)

Can absentee father do, all I listed above?

Meanwhile, if your wife does unthinkable now, you would be the first to come on nairaland to wail about women's wahala, and trust me, several hopeless teenagers that full here would even cry more than bereaved.

Your View ... Anyone that Truly seek the Face of the Lord does not call outrightly another Person Irresponsible in a Judgemental Manner.

Try to Talk With Some Manners.

Re: . by YemyTemmy: 1:39am On Sep 22, 2024

healthkknatural:
Hello Nigerians.

I don't like living with anyone . I like living , Staying All Alone . I don't just don't know the reason for this.

I feel Uncomfortable Having anyone living with me .

Right now , I have My Family in another House , I stay Alone in another House .

I would visit them , Check there Books , Joke, Play with them and leave to the second house a bit distant where I stay .

I Love Cooking , Washing doing all things by myself .

For Example if anyone Visit Me , After Some Few Hours , I will start feeling uncomfortable that he should just leave.

There is this Comforts, Peace and security that Radiates in my mind whenever someone stays with me.

There was a time , A woman was calling me a Ghost because for 2 years no one ever visit me.

Pls. I don't understand this . Does this feelings has a medical Name ?

Is anyone having this kind of Feelings too

It seems someone just described me to you.... this is so me.....
Inner peace is what i enjoyed when alone

Re: . by healthkknatural(op): 6:25pm On Sep 23, 2024

YemyTemmy:
It seems someone just described me to you.... this is so me.....
Inner peace is what i enjoyed when alone

Na Waoooo ... Chai ! , shocked

Was Thinking it's Only Me in this Shoe

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