₦airaland Forum

Golan007:
You mean a man would bring a woman who is a pauper in Nigeria to US, give her confidence, support her, and suddenly she becomes too big for him?

Is this what Indians and Koreans do too?

Eriokanmi:
True. I know a number of them. You can never know the real character of your wife until after she relocates with you overseas. Many of them copy the western ladies who don't even have a culture, those who have children like dogs for several men. They always don't enjoy a happy home.

No single mum I met ever told me they're living happily as single mums. There's one of them, whose children always say they miss their dad and they'd like to see him. She always got angry hearing this. One day she agreed to take them to a meeting point with her ex. On getting to that place, she kept a distance and asked the children to go see their dad briefly and come back. She actually timed the meeting. When the time was almost up, she faced the wall and started crying uncontrollably cos of the bond between the children and their dad. They were gisting, cracking jokes and laughing aloud. Instead of 2 hours, these children spent 5 good hours with their dad. They didn't feel like leaving.

I told her to reconcile and seek a reunion but she's still doing shakara. She's a very successful nurse in a major hospital on 3rd avenue in NY. I won't mention the hospital. Whoever knows that place would know the hospital I'm talking about, built with red bricks with many floors. The man had moved on. As an aeronautical engineer, he's not doing badly too at Boeing. He got that job 1 year after the woman chased him out and took custody of the children. Amazingly, he's still single. I guess he's taking his time cos of the horrible experience

Arostar2023:
Most Asian women don't work. They stay mostly at home in looking after the kids. unlike Nigerians that both mom and dad are hustling.

omooba969:
Guys, I have been reading your comments here but I must say you're not making sense. You make it seem like a greater percentage of Asians men who bring their women to the States have IT jobs. Are you implying that there are more blacks than Asians doing menial jobs?

You're really trying your best to turn a blind eye from the real issues of uncontrollable women here.

Nigga, get updated or you GTFO!

Lalami3232:
In Nigeria, 95% of our women are single mothers. It's either they're single mothers of living children or single mothers to dead children (abortions). I'm in a good mood today and patriotic, hence I'm saying 95%, but we know the actual figure. If you didn't meet her as a virgin, there's 98% chances that she's a mother to one of the aforementioned categories.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

saphiere:
.There are a lot of single mums I agree.
But this only got to prove how irresponsible Nigerian men are.
Or were these women impregnated by their fellow women?

APOPTOSIS:
She nailed it.
Same story, Same people Always!
Of all the states, Avoid Texas if you want your marriage to work in the USA, even the Police will warn you to avoid Texas.
Texas Nigerian women will make your wife feel like you guys are not doing fine.
Meanwhile Texas is not a flamboyantly Rich state in America, yet we no go hear word. Most marriage related deaths occur in Texas.
Atlanta is doing tutorials in the hands of Texas.. Even Pastors have barred some of these women from Holy communion. It's easier to sleep with women of every category in the United States as a Jobless man and get paid than sleep with same women in Nigeria as an employed man.

It's in the US, you will see a woman completely divorce her husband to end up a sidechic to another married man for years.

omooba969:
It's not a question of being mad at you but comments like yours just make me sick. If any of the victims of this kind of manipulation were your brother, I strongly believe that your views would be different.

Do you mean that women who bring their men to the States don't also see them as a financial security (going by your word)? Shall we also disparage our women for this and send them packing?

Nonsense!

Hussein035:
You see women. They will have enough but to have their husband with them is a problem due to arrogance and the need to be the head since they are providing something

The only way out of this nonsense that has led to different social immorality such a LGBTQ and other nonsense. The only way is shariah, a woman should be under the guidance and care of man even if she is getting 1 billion dollars daily. If humanity continue this useless trend we will use our ego of hatred towards Islam to destroy human race to irreparable point

Arostar2023:
Most Asian women don't work. They stay mostly at home in looking after the kids. unlike Nigerians that both mom and dad are hustling.

saphiere:
.There are a lot of single mums I agree.
But this only got to prove how irresponsible Nigerian men are.
Or were these women impregnated by their fellow women?

APOPTOSIS:
She nailed it.
Same story, Same people Always!
Of all the states, Avoid Texas if you want your marriage to work in the USA, even the Police will warn you to avoid Texas.
Texas Nigerian women will make your wife feel like you guys are not doing fine.
Meanwhile Texas is not a flamboyantly Rich state in America, yet we no go hear word.

Most marriage related deaths occur in Texas.
Atlanta is doing tutorials in the hands of Texas.
Even Pastors have barred some of these women from Holy communion. It's easier to sleep with women of every category in the United States as a Jobless man and get paid than sleep with same women in Nigeria as an employed man.

It's in the US, you will see a woman completely divorce her husband to end up a sidechic to another married man for years.

Omoawoke:
A whole lot of guys are learning from experiences of older guys that have suffered miserably in the hands of women, it’s so sad that even marrying a Nigerian girl who is supposedly meant to be better is even worse.
Those girls will look so harmless and all sweet before marriage, once they get married and get the kids, they become tigers…
That’s why whenever I notice the slightest sign of feminism in a girl, I dust my shoes and run for my life. It’s so surprising that a girl that’s meant to be Nigerian brought-up gets to the us and start swallowing dumb western ideologies of single parenting and divorce…. We have Indians, Chinese and others in America too faa and they respect their culture home and abroad, who do African girls with this shameless lack of identity and always wanting to copy everything, it’s total lack of self esteem

APOPTOSIS:
She nailed it.
Same story, Same people Always!
Of all the states, Avoid Texas if you want your marriage to work in the USA, even the Police will warn you to avoid Texas.
Texas Nigerian women will make your wife feel like you guys are not doing fine.
Meanwhile Texas is not a flamboyantly Rich state in America, yet we no go hear word.

Most marriage related deaths occur in Texas.
Atlanta is doing tutorials in the hands of Texas.
Even Pastors have barred some of these women from Holy communion. It's easier to sleep with women of every category in the United States as a Jobless man and get paid than sleep with same women in Nigeria as an employed man.

It's in the US, you will see a woman completely divorce her husband to end up a sidechic to another married man for years.

Obakoolex:
What of single fathers

press9jatv:
Lady reveals why ‘a lot’ of Nigerian nurses in America are single mothers.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmcy9JKTeAg?si=_wIo3Zpe0Lbnx0Ix

Forkthiefnubu:
BS not true , how long have she been in the USA ? How many nurses does she know ?

CommonSense1967:
Texas is not rich? That's news to me.
A lot of the divorce are due to Nigerian men bringing these ladies to the US as financial security.
You will see a guy with very poor paying job go to Nigeria, bring a lady and push her into the nursing field. Later the lady will realize that she's worth a lot more than the guy driving cab ot Uber.
Women don't respect men that are of less worth than they are. Few ones don't mind but most women don't simply by nature.
Any little disagreement can lead to divorce.
Some women don't care. My sister has been the family main source of income in her household for decades and they are happily married. Most of the young ones now are the opposite.

Eriokanmi:
Your last paragraph says it all. They really need to call themselves to order. Recently, I read a story in which they were asking Nigerian ladies to stop coming to the home office in the UK to report their husband. It's really shameful.

Western ladies lack cultural values, agreed. You don't blame them cos it's the environment in which they grew up that caused it. But when you see an American lady who married a Nigerian say Nigeria is such a place to be and she loves our culture, you see her wearing our traditional dresses and says she doesn't want to go back, you'd be wondering if she's been charmed...far from it. What she's simply saying is...so there could ba a place where such a nice culture exists? Her body language will tell you she's grabbed something which has been missing in her natural self from birth

Let me shock you with something. There are a lot of American envoys and embassy staff, who had refused to go back after their term. Dem full abuja. Many of them have bought houses and naturalised codedly. They realy love to live here cos of our culture. I don't want to mention names to protect them. If you're relocating to Nigeria, they'd not hesitate to relocate with you, especially if they're visited once, before saying youre relocating back home..she'd even be the one to hurry you up. There's this lady called queen aneeva aneeva, who is one of king sunny ade's wives. She's American. She followed him to Nigeria once and went back to pack her things. She said she's found a new home. Now she has a wearable art gallery at lekki. I mentioned her because she's in showbiz. Same applies to their male counterparts.

On the contrary, a cultured Nigerian lady would get abroad and start misbehaving. The good husband once upon a time becomes bad to them. This has to change else, they'd be destroying their homes and future of their kids unknowingly.

bluerose1414:
I don't mean to be rude, I'm honestly asking but how is Texas not a rich state? It has the second largest economy after California and is one of the biggest producing states in the country. It is even larger than New York. Texas' GDP is $2.66 trillion and Africa's GDP is $3.1 trillion. One state in America out of 50 could almost overtake the entire continent with 54 nations.

Golan007:
You mean a man would bring a woman who is a pauper in Nigeria to US, give her confidence, support her, and suddenly she becomes too big for him?

Is this what Indians and Koreans do too?

Gerrard59:
But how does a man who is an Uber driver in the day and security guard at night afford to sponsor someone throughout an academic program? I doubt her tale. Two, why did he not improve himself academically? When you tell these men to be a bit selfish and SPEND on yourself as a MAN, they no go hear word!

Good luck to those involved.

FameGlory:
That's is how my Uncle who lives in USA for more than 20yrs came back in 2020 to marry a Nigerian lady.

My Uncle filed for her to come and join him in USA.

Lady went for her USA Spousal visa interview in September 2022.

After 2 weeks, my Uncle fell sick with stroke after hearing she failed the interview.

The Visa Officer gave the wife conditions to bring "Evidence of Marriage".

His job didn't give him Health insurance and he didn't have private health insurance so he was brought back to Nigeria in 2023 for treatment.

His job was not too strong in USA.

America refused to treat him.

This lady was in Imo state working and never came to see her husband whom we were now taking care of in Lagos.

We called her and she kept on giving excuses that she is working.

The day she came, this lady came with Camera Phone and was just snapping series of pictures of both of them together.

She snapped over 200 pictures of herself and my uncle.

Snapping pictures with a man that is sick and managing to recover.

I suspected something suspicious and told my family about it.

In December 2023, we got a call that the lady has traveled to USA finally

Though we have no proof.

Meanwhile my Uncle is still in Nigeria recovering from stroke.

He can't even walk as we speak.

I am so angry right now

She used my Uncle to travel to USA for her own personal gain.

Last week, her old father in the Village came and brought back the bride price my uncle paid

Everything was just a trap

My uncle was just a vehicle they used for their daughter to move to the USA.

Who knows if this stroke affecting my uncle is even a spiritual attack from her and her old father in the village?

Men please be wise.

Some women are evil.

I will open a thread to share this story soon to warn single men especially those in USA.

God will help us.

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Please how can I confirm if somebody is living in USA?
I want to confirm what we were told.
I need help.
Thank you.

1Sharon:
Alot of these Nigerian men put their wives in nursing school and turn around years later when she qualifies to ask for her cheque later on.


Their real intention was to make her a cash cow of the family.

When are these men not using that extra money they have to invest in themselves so they're better equipped to handle the finances of their home?

Alot of them think nursing roles are feminine jobs that are beneath them. That's why they rather their wife train as a nurse and become the family's money-maker.

When the man's ask for her salary that's when the war starts.

Gerrard59:
Interesting experience here. Thomas Sowell was right after all. The two-parent household remained strong even during the Jim Crow era but was destroyed after government feeding bottle policies.

At the bold, there is no benefit whatsoever marrying again after he had children with the woman, and the children loved him. I pray for sound health so I observe the aftermath of these lovey-dovey policies embraced by Ndi liberals. They want to fight against nature and evolutionary biology? Good luck!

CommonSense1967:
Texas is not rich? That's news to me.
A lot of the divorce are due to Nigerian men bringing these ladies to the US as financial security.
You will see a guy with very poor paying job go to Nigeria, bring a lady and push her into the nursing field. Later the lady will realize that she's worth a lot more than the guy driving cab ot Uber.
Women don't respect men that are of less worth than they are. Few ones don't mind but most women don't simply by nature.
Any little disagreement can lead to divorce.
Some women don't care. My sister has been the family main source of income in her household for decades and they are happily married. Most of the young ones now are the opposite.