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ElasmoBranchii:
Okay yeah guys so I have decided to create a thread dedicated to cold approach. The thread will just act as a journal for you to document your cold approaches. Also on the thread we might host challenges like 30-day challenges etc. I feel this will help more people and this will also help me.

Now the thread is not and will not be about game (or who has the most game) or pick-up lines (if you want to use pick-up lines that's fine too)

The goal of the thread is for you to just approach someone (preferably a very attractive girl) and document how it went. That's all.

If you feel you also need to document where you feel you can work on or what went wrong, feel free to do so.

On the thread I'll share some tips/videos that helps me get out of my head and just approach. Other guys can chip in.

I'll create it when I get the time. So wait for my update

luminouz:
You talk sense baba... Leave rizzputin and his epistles to the faithful. I am a man and my pills are bitter and based on real life events. and while it's attractive to be self confident , channel that shiit to getting results. Women may like how bold you are but keep coming home empty handed day after day and we will see just how attractive you still look to her. They want results and they live in the present. That's my angle. All your energy should be into getting things done. This phase may get easier if you are lucky to have a woman who understands you and is a bit tolerant. No woman will keep smiling and admiring your confidence after solely paying all the bills...for a month, a
year..5 years?? Women are not built to carry that load and while some may give you some lee-rope...don't kid yourself they will love it continue to do so.

I have a male neighbor who is now dead. He was a provider while back and the family was happy. He got a smaller paying job and all hell broke loose. I could still hear his wife shouting one night around 11pm 'You are
not bringing money home, and you wan Bleep? Which mumu nonsense oloriburuku Bleep be that? If you touch me, I go show you pepper. He came to me the next day and narrated his ordeal at the hands of his wife. But guess what? I told him to leave for a bit and go hustle so he can provide better ..but he said he loved his kids too much to leave them for so long. A month later, I was called into his room by his wife to help carry him to the hospital because he fainted...his BP was 220/110. He died after. Know what the wife said 'At least, he can now go and rest' about her own husband, a 42 year old man.

I can go on and on. The problem is many men believe women think like them and behave like them and so rationalize shiit and become surprised when their women behave anyhow. I am not. I know that gender and I always never let myself be caught lacking. They don't behave like men or reason like us.

They are cats!!!

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmmmmmmm

It is well.
May God not embarass us or shame us.
Good luck to those looking foy yeye Love

ElasmoBranchii:
Let's talk about cold approaching. I know it has been brought up on this thread in the past and it's not everyone's cup of tea but I don't believe you can be the most confident version of yourself without doing it.

I'm trying to form this habit of always putting myself in uncomfortable situations because like exercising, you won't be the best version of yourself if you don't stress your muscles. Not only with cold approaching, I'm trying to apply this in other areas too.

And just like exercising, you need to make cold approaching a habit. You don't need to be perfect at it. Just make it a habit.
Even if you feel you are confident enough or you have a lot of girls on your plate. You can only get better.

You don't even have to link up with the girls afterward just make it a habit to approach and please only very attractive girls.

I used to think when you are cold approaching, you are stroking their ego but the truth is, it's about strengthening your own because she doesn't have the balls to do what you just did. Building confidence in this area will also transfer to other areas of your life.

Everybody should be doing it even if you are on Monk Mode. Like I said you don't need to link up with the girls afterward which means you don't need to spend a lot of time talking to her.

Also some people will tell you wait for choosing signals and all that but ignore that and just approach. You can do cold approach and warm approach at the same time. If you know it's someone you will still see around then you can use warm approach but I'll pick cold approach in most situation.

I started getting a lot of choosing signals when I started cold approaching. It's crazy. Not that I didn't use to get choosing signals but it could be like once in a year but the week i started cold approaching, i got 3 choosing signals. I feel women can sense the aura.

And yes most of the girls I have linked up with are the ones that gave me choosing signals but I think that's because I am not yet very confident in my cold approach but I know I'll get better with time.

I hope this helps. Keep pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and watch your confidence soar.

Timothykesh13:
How can i go about that..
She looks like the type you can have sex with unless we are dating

Perfectskills01:
Cold approach is for newbies to build confidence, nothing more . If you expect to get girls that meets your expectations, then cold approach will ruin you . So I approve your cold approach ideology because you intend to focus on building confidence.

Skepticus:
For those of you always complaining about the red pill constantly talking about women, you may need to stay off for a while, because the red pill is mostly about women, not men or some individual interest.

When the majority of men associate with their fellow men in any situation, most of the time, there are no hormones and neurotransmitters messing with their brains and bodies. No erections etc, so, they think logically and act rationally. With women, it is another ball game, even when such association is platonic, because of the hard-wired biological conditioning and social blue-pilled conditioning to make us (men) see women differently. This is where men lose it and women understanding this, play the field to their own advantage. This is the reason why you hear guys say things like: "The red pill is not easy" "I left this thread and I started to simp" etc.

Some folks also complain that we keep repeating the same things (which is true) and you'll find same on all platforms where the red pill is being discussed at full length. This is done to constantly to keep one updated, and keep you from falling back into the blue-pill which is our default state. Hence, you hear things like, "Taking the red pill a day, keeps simping away" etc.

Also, looking for ways to make money is not uniquely red pill because a lot of folks making money are blue-pilled. Staying fit and healthy is not uniquely red pilled. A lot of folks in the blue pilled world are equally staying fit and healthy. Their only relevance to the red pill is the self-improvement part where a red-pilled man is encouraged not to lose himself, even when he has to act blue-pilled. He must always have his red pill lenses on as it takes a split of a second to revert back to the blue pill.

For those on this thread who are knowledgeable about self improvement topics that are not related to the romance section and find the discussion about women boring, they should simply create threads unique to their area of knowledge in their specific section rather than complaining. This is the romance section. When I want business ideas, I simply go to the business section of the platform.

emmaodet:
You should understand that the life of a man is a Lonely and boring one even though we have over 7 billion humans in the world.
Right from day one, a man will have to prove himself to be a man else will be invincible to the society which means a life of scarcity that leads to simping.
We are humans, we want to be Loved because we are a social animal.
Have you been to motherless baby homes or orphanage homes before? what about prison? These are the set of people in the society that have been really deprived of love.
Any time a person decide to visit these places, there is this happiness, joy in the faces of these forgotten people. They are happy that despite there situation and condition, someone somewhere still remembers them. Those few moments - be it for the children that have never experienced fatherly/motherly love, or the prisoner that has been forgotten by family, spouse or wife in prison, they cherish and appreciates those few moments we spend with them.
That is how the life of the average man is. He is invincible, unnoticed by the society if he doesn't have resources. His family members don't respect him, is younger ones hardly go to his place or call him because they are not going to benefit anything from him and then all of a sudden, a lady he has been chasing decides to date him.
He will be very very happy. He will see the lady as is source of joy and motivation, the person that gives him strength to keep pushing and moving forward in this ever harsh world.
He will simp, simp and simp because he is suffering from scarcity.
A financially stable guy whose phone is always ringing with calls from different ladies will have a low simping threshold.

emmaodet:
Continued......................

And while the average woman is fast to scream men are enjoying and free, she doesn't even know she is more free and favoured than her counterpart.
We all love enjoyment - sex, partying, drinking, travelling (Both men and women) but women have the luxury to enjoy all these from their teen years to late 20's and from there family, marriage, pregnancy slows them down but for a man, even though he perceived himself free, most won't have the resources needed to enjoy their youths (regular cash) and from their mid 20's, they start battling life unending bills that will keep him busy into his late 40's/50's if not to his grave - He starts worrying about getting an apartment, furnishing it, getting a ride / ride regular maintenance, thinking of buying his own land and starts building something to have a roof on his head, children comes into the picture, school fees, medical, clothing, family members still dragging him in one corner, he is still thinking of investing so that he won't be a liability in his old age) before he finishes all these, he is old and very near to his grave. Meanwhile, his wife had a fair share of enjoyment atleast during her youth days but the average man will struggle all his life with all his strengths and freedom.

emmaodet:
Continued ..............
Just by staying at ojodu/berger, she will get a lift from a man from there to ibadan, ibadan to ilorin, ilorin to abuja likewise back.
Ofcourse, these men will sleep with her and give her money on top But a man will have to work and raise money to do the same journey to and fro.
There are expensive clubs, wines/alcohols (so expensive that we may not have heard the names before or see them physically) that your average girl would have entered, sleep in and drink this wines. Places we can only dream or think or fantasize about yet your average girl is going there courtesy of alhajis, senators, politicians and rich guys when are male counterparts are at home reading, struggling to pass their exams so as to graduate and get good grades, go into the labour market for crumbs and keep struggling.
Many guys have never entered a plane before but their sisters, gfs have sneaked to meet a big man in abuja through plane courtesy of the man.
Many guys have never even experienced uber or bolt by themselves yet their girlfriends or younger sis have all used these things courtesy of the few rich guys.
All these things i wrote, for a guy to experience them, he will have to work his ass to save to enjoy those luxuries and even if he does raise such money, he would have suffered for that money that he will even think twice before doing those things because he is not sure of tomorrow. So he will rather go use the money to mould blocks for house or other things.
We have strength but it is not enough in this present generation

TundeTunapa:
Respect to everyone in the house. I've been a silent follower of this great thread,it has enlightened me in many ways. I have a girlfriend,we've been together for a while. We were to meet last week at my place but I went for a conference hence,we could not meet. She called severely which I ignored. I did not contact her for 8 days. I've been calling and texting her to no avail. She's ignoring too. Brilliant minds,what do I have to do.

ubunja:
yes boss!

it will always be men's weakness to make their woman their everything.
Women themselves know how to break their needs and spread them over many guys, so when they lose their main guy they only suffer a little. A woman will have one guy for money, another for sex, another for comfort, another for life advice, etc. If she breaks up with her BF she's not losing sex, she's not losing money, she's not losing life advice-- just love. Hence she can bounce back faster and feels less of a heartbreak.

But men.... When a man gets a GF he drops everything for her, and makes her his everything: sex? GF.
advice? GF
Comfort? GF
Love? GF
Best friend? GF
Next of Kin? GF

In the event of a breakup,, when the man loses his GF, he loses EVERYTHING. He loses his best friend, his advisor, his sex partner, his comforter--- all in one go. Hence men suffer breakups harder than women. They allow the GF too much monopoly in all parts of their life. And this really needs to change.

Men better learn to spread their needs over many people and stop putting everything on their woman. Many men can't even maintain any relationship with a female once they get a GF,, no matter what role that female played, she's dropped as soon as the man has a GF. Its a loser move.

Don't center everything around your woman for sure.

Hope your weekend is going nicely man.

emmaodet:
It is very hard for good men not to marry harlots. The question is why? I will say EXPERIENCES.
Naturally, we humans learn mostly from experience because it improves us the more we try it and thereby makes us better on the long run.
It is safe to say that sex with a virgin will be far more boring than a high exposed lady sexually …….. Experience.
You tend to get accident with a car when you just start learning than when your hand is strong and can drive from Lagos to ibadan … Experience.
Likewise swimming, playing ball, playing video games etc. the examples are many.
What is my point? Where am I driving to?
Ladies with multiple past partners would have garthered the need Experiences to keep a man compared to a boring, shy inexperienced lady thereby easy for them to quickly spot a rookie or novice in the game and tame him down.
Reason while bad guys or womanizes tend to marry good women and loose ladies tend to marry good guys.
Because most guys are hindered to get the necessary experience they need to survive the milky waters of relationship due to one major factor ….. Finance.
In most cases, most men are so broke or struggling that they are been told to go to school, study hard and pray they get a good job before going into a relationship - we do here this a lot on nairaland. Go and hustle before looking for a woman.
While they are busy doing this, their female counterparts are busy garthering Life needed experiences on sex, human relationship, interpersonal relationship, care etc. so that when the men are ready but novice in this area, the experienced harlots can quickly spot them, give them good sex, care like plaiting their hair, cutting their nails and fingers, massaging their body, washing their clothes etc. that we make the simp fall more and thinks he has gotten a good girl, things he has been starved for so long in life that no lady did for him nor even see him when he was broke.

emmaodet:
Concerning the points you raised about marriage - Bro, you have good points but the truth still remain that Most women choose men due to what they can get and not what God ordained and they will gladly leave the marriage without giving 2 foocks what God says or what the man had done for them before.
Also, from my experience so far, have developed this phobia for women due to what have seen.
Most guys see women on the surface level. Believe me, NO man who has gone into the undergound female world and come back will want to marry or have anything to do with it.
There is one reality have come to know from little experience in the women's world - ALL WOMEN are WHORES - i hope you heard well? including our mothers, wives, sisters, aunties etc simply because there is this LovePeddler atom inside ALL women and will only be triggered when the necessary conditions are met.
For some, it may be hunger that will trigger it, for some heart-break, war/crisis and living in IDP camps and become whores when survival instinct kicks in due to scarce resources, some for fun, some for money, some political factors that has rendered the country poor etc i can go on and on but the truth still remain - all women are whores and some are only responsible because the necessary factors have not been triggered.
Bro, have met ladies that want me to do 3some, many dirty bad shits. Some are married now and i doubt if they will be faithful and these are women you see on street and they look responsible, calm, good looking, religious but underneath, they are are Disasters.

emmaodet:
bro, it all depends on the angle you look it from.
The ONLY single reason women sleep around, club, bang and chase the top 20% guys is because deep deep deep down, they know the remaining 80% will be stranded and really thirsty. So no matter what, worst case scenario, they will get a beta to settle down with at the end of the day even if they actually don't like him. They will grudgingly settle down with him.

Bro, the thirst is real, i see it on daily basis. A lot of men invincible to ladies meanwhile crying for ladies attention. IT IS ALL GAME OF NUMBERS.
If most men are seeing women on daily basis for relationship like 1 lady per day, then it is a game over.
These thirsty men EASILY give out their most priced advantage which is COMMITMENT.I was once in that shoe but i thank God am out of it. Let's be frank with each other, MONEY is a big factor that changes the game 180* to most men favour provided you know your worth ofcourse.
I met a lady here on NL, mid 30's desperately looking for a hubby but when we got closer and she told me about her past, wawuuuuuuuuuuuu....
Banging different kind of men, partying, drinking, clubbing thinking the whole earth revolves round her and got carried away, Boooom.....she is in her late 20's/early 30's struggling to hold down a quality man but in all these, she is not short of thirsty low quality men all begging for her to be their wife and throwing the singular advantage they have out to her.......COMMITMENT. Their commitment is soooooo cheap thereby not valuable.
If all poor and struggling guys can take commitment out of the table, a lot of sanity will be restored in relationship.

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmmmmmmm

It is well.
May God not embarass us or shame us.
Good luck to those looking foy yeye Love

EreluRoz:
Yeye love? this shouldn't be coming from you.

emmaodet:
Jeshal007 wetin happen?
Noticed you have been reading many of my past comments, liking and sharing of late.
I just decided to take some time off commenting ni jare to focus on money in another section of the group.
I find it lazy nowadays even typing and commenting.

ElasmoBranchii:
I think I understand where you are coming from but I don't agree with some of the things you said.

For example why do I need invest time to gather information about a girl I don't know is genuinely interested in me?

Why should you be serious about getting her? Isn't that oneitis?

What makes you think a woman you get through this way won't manipulate you? Are aware women are constantly testing your frame even the ones that have genuine interest in you?

Are you aware that social circle is the most popular way people get to know each other yet most relationships fail. What does that tell you?

Maybe you have a different objective like marriage in mind, if so I understand.

I don't really like arguing about game with people. After all, if you understand the basics of the redpill you can devise a form of game that works for you (The fundamentals of Pick Up Artistry is from the redpill). There are different forms of game.

This is why I advice new redpillers to go and read the Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.

I'm not saying cold approach is the best. It just one way to get women. Plus there are other benefits about it that I am going to discuss in my thread (whenever I get the chance to create it).

Thanks for your input.

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmm
Iyaebe, there are some conversations left for the private and not to be discussed publicly.
I like speaking in parables when in public.
Plenty water don pass under bridge, it is better not to open the Pandora's box and spread out dirty linens publicly.
I hope you get my point

Skepticus:
If you are a man of faith, may the deity you believe reward you for your kind gesture (pardon me but I'm not religious, though). Men don't have to be nice. Being kind is okay, though it must be done within limits where you aren't taken advantage of, at the level of mockery.

The man you extended your act of benevolence to, reminds me of how sad it is when I see men being harsh on each other for no reason because some have it "easy" than others (with factors beyond their control like privilege, time and chance contributing to their success), ignorant of the facts of life (shît can go wrong, even if you think you are fully prepared for the better) or stupid dick contests that reeks of psychological insecurity, emotional immaturity and mental inferiority.

When I went fully red-pilled, I started appreciating men striving to make life meaningful for themselves and their families if they had one (from those at the bottom like manual labourers, truck pushers to those at the top like CEOs, MDs top political leaders etc. Whether we like it or not, class and rank (Hierarchies) will always exist among men. Even, the ranking criteria is relative (subjective) and can vary within environments/strata etc.

In Nigeria where it's common to rank men with fiat cash (money) and financial networth, even, the networth of Nigeria's (and Africa's) richest man is some other men's "tax" money and "chicken change". Life happens to all. It's a reason why I have stopped broke-shaming men or mocking them for being in certain low economic class which is typical of Nigerian men. Most of those who broke-shame or mock others for being "low-value" are either ignorant or coping psychologically online. Also, the modern romantic scene is not static universally. A lot of broke, poor men end up having a lot of sex and are even "reproductively successful" than some rich high value men could ever imagine. Men need to start looking deeper and read between the lines. Justformen can relate.

This is not to say that men should not strive to get better or not be "encouraged" to get better. It's not "broke-shaming" in my opinion. For those stuck on the "Burden of Performance" thing, do you think the guy who goes out there to push his wheel barrow to survive and probably feed his family, and the guy who who gets up early, earning millions monthly, working extra hard, as the MD/CEO of a multinational firm, don't understand the burden of performance saddled on a man, and are not working towards lifting the burden that their "muscles" can "afford to lift"? Do you think they are working for the fun of it other than earn money to survive and solve their basic problems like food, shelter and clothing?

You don't have to agree with me. Just understand my point. Life is different for every man. Let's not make it harder for ourselves. We only have a life to live.

JESHAL007:
I want to tell you for Free that many Nigerian Men most especially the Financially Poor Men are aware thier Wives are being fvcked by other Men but they just decide to feign ignorance because They are at their Wives Mercies and they know how difficult it is to get Modern Ladies if you are not a Financially Successful Man.

Believe Me, Many Nigerian Men either Elite/Wealthy/Rich/Poor "BEGGED" their Wives before they Agree to MARRY Them. It's an Open Secret.
Life is very Terrible for Most Nigerian Men.

Philosopher1979:
I don't understand. Time is not on women's side so at 30 they are at a disadvantage. At least with money you don't have to beg your way into a relationship.
Is simping so bad that even with money one us still at a disadvantage with women

JESHAL007:
I want to tell you for Free that many Nigerian Men most especially the Financially Poor Men are aware thier Wives are being fvcked by other Men but they just decide to feign ignorance because They are at their Wives Mercies and they know how difficult it is to get Modern Ladies if you are not a Financially Successful Man.

Believe Me, Many Nigerian Men either Elite/Wealthy/Rich/Poor "BEGGED" their Wives before they Agree to MARRY Them. It's an Open Secret.

Life is very Terrible for Most Nigerian Men.

JESHAL007:
Because of poverty, scarcity, sexual deprivation, aged post wall women are golden in the eyes of most poor, average men, women are costly and that's the best they can afford

JESHAL007:
Because of poverty, scarcity, sexual deprivation, aged post wall women are golden in the eyes of most poor, average men, women are costly and that's the best they can afford

Philosopher1979:
A post wall woman
1. Needs to beg her way into relationship.
2. Not complain if she has to share her man with other women.
She is not in the market anymore.
Now you are saying it is the other way round.
The way post wall women have turned the table in modern times is amazing. In traditional african culture that people say is primitive, a woman has to be a virgin before any man can take her serious. Now ex prostitutes and damaged women are been begged. Its phenomenal.
Maybe our forefathers knew something we didn't know.