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That's why I dey always show myself well well as I never really cash out because I don't want someone to say it's because I have money now.

Though being brutally blunt has set me back lots of time & made me lose out because I won't asssslick but I tell you it has helped boost my ego & personality!

"Oun ti à ní gbà l'ólówó, tálákà latí ñ kò."

Darlingjay1:
Money is the root of evil

I will really counter this statement,rather it is the lack of money is the root of evil,if that brother has a fat bank account she will not leave him,but good riddance for the guy,nature has shown him the true face of his supposed sweetheart,failure builds and makes us stronger

Jman06:
I blame the guy and other Nigerian men who think that putting women on pedestals is a gesture for which women would agree to be with them.

Women have proven over the years that no matter what you do for them, their selfish interests comes first. Men too should learn how to put themselves first and stop giving our women the entitlement mentality they currently have.

It's Not Just About Women, It's Human Way of Doing Things & The Greeds of Mankind ....

The Problems the nigga suffered is That .. He Placed Heart On The Shitszzzz ....

Helped & swerved .... Always Expect Suprise from Anybody & Everybody.....

The Only Person That Can Never Fvck You Up For Real is God ... Don't Trust Saints Nor Daddy GO ... Don't Trust Your Parents too ... Just One Fvck Up is All It Takes to Send Highest Level of Shockwaves that Kills You ....

Just Trust for Trust Sake & Prepare Yourself for Suprises & When Shits Happens ... Just Dust Am ...

Laslas, If Shitzzz No Happen & Everywhere Smooth ... ThankGod & Move On ....

I love the street.... Nothing Teaches Life Better Than Streets !

All These Ajebos Pikin Na Them All These Trust Trust Issues Dey Affect ....

Fvcked Up People would surely Fvck you Up ... Fvck Up Don't Just Happen Suddenly, The Handwritings Would have been there which you choose to Ignore as a Nothing until Kasala Burst ... ....

The Only Truest Love & Trust Na God, Any Other Relationship Na Businesses(Something For Something) Even With God Gan, You Gatz Be Good to Remain in God's Good Books if Not Satan is Gonna be Ya god & You go see Craze !

@onegai
Hailing Ma'am. Your wisdom na Top Grade.
I raise two hands for you.

Onegai:
Hallo

Ah, I'm not wise o.

If you knew me in real life, I'm still a flighty young woman struggling with her issues, trapped in an old body

But I do like watching other people and learning from their mistakes.

Whatever you think you are...

Everyone of us have our struggles..

The Lord would help us all

It is well..

Emmanuel900:
Money has a way of revealing the ugliness of humans.

A colleague of mine who is an engineer, helped his girlfriend get an interior decoration work with our organization, and after she made money, she dumped him.

She made over 3million naira profit for a job she did in a month. That's her boyfriend's salary in a year and some months.

The things is, she went to an interior decoration school in Lagos, and improved her skills by following architects in Lagos.

As the brain behind the design, I had wanted to recommend someone, since I can't collect contract as a staff.

It was one of the smallest projects, and of course, it was easy to consider a Nigerian for its furnishing.

He approached me and begged me not to give a negative criticism of her status when she arrives for an interview:

"Guy, I wan marry this girl, and the mama even sabi me. I wan propose next month.

Guy anything you fit do -- I know say you get person, but please."

It was an opportunity for him to prove he wanted her progress.

I helped when the boss told me the idea of trying her. Because I wanted a brother's happiness, I covered up her lapses any time the boss asked me what I thought about her.

The project was in PH, and it was the only design I had done for the organisation there.

After the project, she told him her profit, and said "thank you."

She ended the call abruptly, and sent him a text never to call her again. He was hiding it from me, because it would make him look stupid, until another female colleague told me.

"No wonder I you've been avoiding me," I told him.

Then, I saw a man nearly weeping. After showing me a text where she told him never to call her again, he showed me her other text message, and it was this:

" Thank you for everything. I can't continue dating you. You can't even enter flight to visit me in lagos. Since I relocated to lagos 4months ago, I've checked it. You're not the guy for me so find another girl."

I gave him a deep hug.

My female colleague hugged him too.

I gave the lady a call afterwards, and she sincerely told me she could no longer date someone like him.

"Please, is there something he did?" I asked.

" No A. I just can't date someone I earn more than. You know say I no go fit tell am this. I still like him o. But I have eyes on better people. This is the first time I am making up to a million and I appreciate him for that. I don send am 100k sha. Send me your account number too."

" Are you really pulling his legs or what?" I asked.

" I am being true to myself," she replied.

The saddest part of it all?

The fact that they've been on many lovey dovey calls before this happened.

As I am typing this, the young man is in the hospital. His blood pressure was triggered.

On my way out of the ward, I remembered he sends her 40% of his salary every month. He even handled a certain personal project, and sent her 600k a certain time.

Honestly, he's the type of Boyfriend that deserves a medal. He's having a rough time now and hasn't sent her money in two months. Could this be the reason?

I think some humans don't even deserve hell -- the Devil's punishment will be too mild for them -- if it exists. There should be another place for more terrible humans.

In all your dealings, try to surround yourself with kind people. Sometimes, ask God to reveal the true nature of that person you're dating.

May we never make sacrifices for people who are undeserving of it.

May we never encounter heartless people in the guise of living their truth.

May we never build fruitless foundations. 🙏

©️ Edward Amah

Did this really happen or is it one of those stories...?

Emmanuel900:
Money has a way of revealing the ugliness of humans.

A colleague of mine who is an engineer, helped his girlfriend get an interior decoration work with our organization, and after she made money, she dumped him.

She made over 3million naira profit for a job she did in a month. That's her boyfriend's salary in a year and some months.

The things is, she went to an interior decoration school in Lagos, and improved her skills by following architects in Lagos.

As the brain behind the design, I had wanted to recommend someone, since I can't collect contract as a staff.

It was one of the smallest projects, and of course, it was easy to consider a Nigerian for its furnishing.

He approached me and begged me not to give a negative criticism of her status when she arrives for an interview:

"Guy, I wan marry this girl, and the mama even sabi me. I wan propose next month.

Guy anything you fit do -- I know say you get person, but please."

It was an opportunity for him to prove he wanted her progress.

I helped when the boss told me the idea of trying her. Because I wanted a brother's happiness, I covered up her lapses any time the boss asked me what I thought about her.

The project was in PH, and it was the only design I had done for the organisation there.

After the project, she told him her profit, and said "thank you."

She ended the call abruptly, and sent him a text never to call her again. He was hiding it from me, because it would make him look stupid, until another female colleague told me.

"No wonder I you've been avoiding me," I told him.

Then, I saw a man nearly weeping. After showing me a text where she told him never to call her again, he showed me her other text message, and it was this:

" Thank you for everything. I can't continue dating you. You can't even enter flight to visit me in lagos. Since I relocated to lagos 4months ago, I've checked it. You're not the guy for me so find another girl."

I gave him a deep hug.

My female colleague hugged him too.

I gave the lady a call afterwards, and she sincerely told me she could no longer date someone like him.

"Please, is there something he did?" I asked.

" No A. I just can't date someone I earn more than. You know say I no go fit tell am this. I still like him o. But I have eyes on better people. This is the first time I am making up to a million and I appreciate him for that. I don send am 100k sha. Send me your account number too."

" Are you really pulling his legs or what?" I asked.

" I am being true to myself," she replied.

The saddest part of it all?

The fact that they've been on many lovey dovey calls before this happened.

As I am typing this, the young man is in the hospital. His blood pressure was triggered.

On my way out of the ward, I remembered he sends her 40% of his salary every month. He even handled a certain personal project, and sent her 600k a certain time.

Honestly, he's the type of Boyfriend that deserves a medal. He's having a rough time now and hasn't sent her money in two months. Could this be the reason?

I think some humans don't even deserve hell -- the Devil's punishment will be too mild for them -- if it exists. There should be another place for more terrible humans.

In all your dealings, try to surround yourself with kind people. Sometimes, ask God to reveal the true nature of that person you're dating.

May we never make sacrifices for people who are undeserving of it.

May we never encounter heartless people in the guise of living their truth.

May we never build fruitless foundations. 🙏

©️ Edward Amah

Consequences of simping and not being selfish. Women know that and are brutal with men who won't learn.

brain54:
Because of 3million...

What if she sees 20 million. What would she do. Slap Tinubu?

I don't believe your story though. But these kind of things happen everyday.

I always say you can never know a person's true character until they have money. Especially those coming from a limited background!

Don't mind her. The girl na big mumu. That's why it's not advisable to pick a girl from the trenches and build her with the intention of marrying her.

Men should learn to prioritise themselves. That lady a guy somewhere is building up while neglecting himself, will leave him once she starts seeing little changes. She will feel she has arrived.

Men, we have been sounding it again and again to make it a resolution to prioritise yourself first in everything you do.

Never build a woman up with the intention of marrying her. Only roll with the ones that are already striving well for themselves. Neglect yourself to build her up and watch her dumb your sorry ass in a matter of seconds.

Love doesn't exist with the women of this generation. They only go where they know will benefit them. Where they will reap bountifully. They don't believe in building with a guy.

Be wise and stay wise.

DonroxyII:
It's Not Just About Women, It's Human Way of Doing Things & The Greeds of Mankind ....

The Problems the nigga suffered is That .. He Placed Heart On The Shitszzzz ....

Helped & swerved .... Always Expect Suprise from Anybody & Everybody.....

The Only Person That Can Never Fvck You Up For Real is God ... Don't Trust Saints Nor Daddy GO ... Don't Trust Your Parents too ... Just One Fvck Up is All It Takes to Send Highest Level of Shockwaves that Kills You ....

Just Trust for Trust Sake & Prepare Yourself for Suprises & When Shits Happens ... Just Dust Am ...

Laslas, If Shitzzz No Happen & Everywhere Smooth ... ThankGod & Move On ....

I love the street.... Nothing Teaches Life Better Than Streets !

All These Ajebos Pikin Na Them All These Trust Trust Issues Dey Affect ....

Fvcked Up People would surely Fvck you Up ... Fvck Up Don't Just Happen Suddenly, The Handwritings Would have been there which you choose to Ignore as a Nothing until Kasala Burst ... ....

The Only Truest Love & Trust Na God, Any Other Relationship Na Businesses(Something For Something) Even With God Gan, You Gatz Be Good to Remain in God's Good Books if Not Satan is Gonna be Ya god & You go see Craze !

Omo bros na real matters you yarn so o! I wish sey you be my guy. Na your type real manchis suppose dey follow along as guys. You too dey full of wisdom ajeh.

If your parents can Bleep you up? Who be others?

Badmashiii:
Omo bros na real matters you yarn so o! I wish sey you be my guy. Na your type real manchis suppose dey follow along as guys. You too dey full of wisdom ajeh.

If your parents can Bleep you up? Who be others?

I tuale My Brother ... I love your posts too ... U dey represent Wizardry well well... 🙌🙌

Onegai:
Quick question:

How old are you?

Because, you see, I'm old. By every metric globally, I cannot be called anything other than middle-aged. If you met me in real life, you wouldn't call me "you ladies", you'd address me as "ma".

So when I say "there will be loneliness in the future should you tread down this path and no amount of finding ways to make yourself happy will fill that void"...

...I am speaking of my classmates, friends and much older immediate male relatives whom have all expressed these thoughts and emotions to me.

Even women get lonely in old age, but because we are social creatures, we find one church to join, one cultural meeting to spear-head, one omugwo to do forever. So we're fine.

Men aren't socialised like that. And they never learn it until it's too late to change. Literally, I watched those men sit in their houses and attend burials and regret inwardly and then try and fix issues that should have been fixed 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago.

Some did. Others didn't.

It's why I always say "take the podcast mics from the current crop of guys handling them and hand it over to men in their 70s, if you want a cold splash of water to your face".

But, if you feel that you can see the future clearer than someone already in that era, sure.

People like to learn the hard way. That's why we still have addicts till tomorrow.

I wonder why bitter, toxic and hateful feminists easily gets triggered whenever they hear that men can cope with loneliness better than women.

Jman06 is 100% correct when he said men have been lonely all their lives and being lonely in their 70s would not be a new thing.

I decided to have a little run down on your posts and realised nearly all your posts and advice on nairaland are about attacking men, how to destroy a man, how to nail a man etc. That leave me with a conclusion that you must be one of those sad unhappy elderly ladies with daddy and husband/spouse issues.

I really give it to you that you are not off the track in some steps you are giving on how to destroy men. But the saddest part for you is that no matter how many men you destroy, it will never give you peace or fulfilment. The pain and emptiness in such a sad and miserable heart will neve ever go away. no matter the number of men you destroy in a single day. Also, you will only end up creating bitter and hateful women like yourself. As they say, misery loves company.

I genuinely feel sorry for your kind and wish you peace and happiness even though it is very very unlikely you will ever have any of those in your life. All the same, I wish for you a cure to all these pain, emptiness and misery you are carrying in your heart.