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Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by GloriousGbola: 1:10pm On Oct 12, 2024
Zooposki:
Go read this study and stop the foolishness.

From what the neurologist got looking at 46,000 scans of the brain, men and women are not the same specie, the women have much stronger frontal lobe function and hence the female brain is a lot more wired for leadership.

For men, their emotional brain is much busier than that of the female( hence why you see them mostly gaslighting women and crying on top of women’s matter every damn day). Hence why you see them opening women threads up and down. Why you see them 14x more likely to commit crimes etc etc.
where have i seen this before?

oh yes this same brand of pseudo science



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpZdrR_wpXQ

which leads us here

“If you can convince the lowest white man he's better than the best colored man, he won't notice you're picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he'll empty his pockets for you.”

Lyndon B. Johnson
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by xtianchris(m): 1:10pm On Oct 12, 2024
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Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by iamtoofan: 1:12pm On Oct 12, 2024
greypencils:
I agree with all that you've said except one thing, as long as you want to have access to her phone at all times, she should have access to yours. It is indeed 50:50. That example you gave about Temi Otedola, Eazi, Regina Daniels etc is trash. You want her to come clean, you come clean too. You want her to love you, you love her too. Until then, you are indeed NOT READY for a serious relationship.

Do you know what the red pill does? It tells you, you are superior to the woman. And to remain superior, you keep dating inferior low lives. As men, your superiority is in form of leadership where which you ask your followers to do as I do, NOT do as I say. Anyone with an autocratic do as I say attitude is gonna crash and burn maritally. You would keep dating/marrying women with no values. They would keep leaving you. What example would you be laying for your children? Your girl child especially? You want to have daughters right? Would you want your daughter's spouse or fiance to treat her as an inferior human being, to be seen & not to be heard? Do you think Ngozi Okonjo Iweala is married to a man who 'cages' her with your red pill ideology? Sometimes make una dey reason well sometimes.
As much as i agree with somethings you said, i believe the ideology of 50:50 is an anomaly to Life, in relationship there is nothing like 50:50 consciously or sub consciously one part is giving or investing more financially or care wise.

2ndly, i realize i am superior to a woman since i was a kid cos,
1.my physic says it
2. induced from expectations
3. men as to be superior cos 98% of leaders
i knew as a child were men

when red pill come out huh some of us have being living our lives as God encode us.

In life every genders got role to pay, i dont see why anyone should feel inferior playing gender role ... caging is debateable, caging from what ??
as a woman your freedom can only concieve honor or disgrace on the family undecided so i get why men can be sometimes men
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by Zooposki(f): 1:21pm On Oct 12, 2024
GloriousGbola:
where have i seen this before?

oh yes this same brand of pseudo science


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpZdrR_wpXQ

which leads us here
lol, can you as a rich African say you better than the poor whyte man?

Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by GloriousGbola: 1:24pm On Oct 12, 2024
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Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by GloriousGbola: 1:25pm On Oct 12, 2024
Zooposki:
lol, can you as a rich African say you better than the poor whyte man?
i see - if some poor uneducated white trash is better than you and you accept that - thats on you.

small wonder i can see 10 year old white kids call you boy and you dropping to your knees - yes massa - and then going home to beat your wife who is carrying the household
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by Mcslize: 1:27pm On Oct 12, 2024
pocohantas:
This is a VERY stale and slow take. I have never said I don't have or need a man, so I wonder why you keep quoting me with this retarded bullshit like you have something on me.

I do have one, thankfully he isn't on NL typing epistles on his supposed crypto and checking my phone.

If there is anything you should focus on, it is when you and your kind would hook these good women. I mean, when will you leave feminists and show us your good woman? How you treat her and how feminine/happy and kept she is. Pipe dream hah? I know right.
Poco, I am very glad you've finally submitted to the leadership of a man in your life. That's the most important thing.

Where I have issue with you is the lots of you that keep on deceiving the younger generations, deceiving them to put up a rebellious spirit against the men in their lives, whereas you are doing everything possible to keep your man.

You dare not misbehave if not, you and I know he will dump your sorry àss straight up.

Please, I want you to do me a favour. Stop imparting in our young girls a rebellious spirit. It is pure wickedness to fight against men while still doing everything possible to keep one with you at home. Poco, that's pure hypocrisy I must tell you.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by pocohantas(f): 1:31pm On Oct 12, 2024
Mcslize:
Poco, I am very glad you've finally submitted to the leadership of a man in your life. That's the most important thing.

Where I have issue with you is the lots of you that keep on deceiving the younger generations, deceiving them to put up a rebellious spirit against the men in their lives, whereas you are doing everything possible to keep your man.

You dare not misbehave if not, you and I know he will dump your sorry àss straight up.

Please, I want you to do me a favour. Stop imparting in our young girls a rebellious spirit. It is pure wickedness to fight against men while still doing everything possible to keep one with you at home. Poco, that's pure hypocrisy I must tell you.
Please shut up.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by greypencils: 1:33pm On Oct 12, 2024
iamtoofan:
As much as i agree with somethings you said, i believe the ideology of 50:50 is an anomaly to Life, in relationship there is nothing like 50:50 consciously or sub consciously one part is giving or investing more financially or care wise.

2ndly, i realize i am superior to a woman since i was a kid cos,
1.my physic says it
2. induced from expectations
3. men as to be superior cos 98% of leaders
i knew as a child were men

when red pill come out huh some of us have being living our lives as God encode us.

In life every genders got role to pay, i dont see why anyone should feel inferior playing gender role ... caging is debateable, caging from what ??
as a woman your freedom can only concieve honor or disgrace on the family undecided so i get why men can be sometimes men
So if you have female children, will you tell them they are inferior to their male classmates? Will you tell them not to aspire to be great in life because whatsoever they do, whatsoever career they decide to pursue, men will always be superior? Is that the ideology you will pass on to your female children?
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by greypencils:
iamtoofan:
As much as i agree with somethings you said, i believe the ideology of 50:50 is an anomaly to Life, in relationship there is nothing like 50:50 consciously or sub consciously one part is giving or investing more financially or care wise.

2ndly, i realize i am superior to a woman since i was a kid cos,
1.my physic says it
2. induced from expectations
3. men as to be superior cos 98% of leaders
i knew as a child were men

when red pill come out huh some of us have being living our lives as God encode us.

In life every genders got role to pay, i dont see why anyone should feel inferior playing gender role ... caging is debateable, caging from what ??
as a woman your freedom can only concieve honor or disgrace on the family undecided so i get why men can be sometimes men
So if you have female children, will you tell them they are inferior to their male classmates? Will you tell them not to aspire to be great in life because whatsoever they do, whatsoever career they decide to pursue, men will always be superior even if such a man is poor & an illiterate? Is that the ideology you will pass on to your female children?

Will you tell your female child to remain in an abusive relationship where she is being battered by a man with your thinking, a man who believes his wife shouldn't be bigger than him? Will you agree if that man with your thinking asks her to throw away that university degree you are so proud of as her father and go stay in a shop he wants to open for her because God forbids, she earns money and becomes somebody of substance with her 9-5?

Think carefully before you answer me. Your female child will have a husband just like you with your same ideology, I promise you.

As a man, I repeat, You are to DICTATE the moral code to your girlfriend/fiancee/wife. Tell them what you want, INSIST on it and SHOW them by being that person FIRST. If they won't toe that line, DROP THEM. But you be that person you want them to be FIRST. SHOW them what you expect of them NOT TELL them. You want faithfulness from your wife, BE FAITHFUL. You want openness from your wife, BE OPEN. That is your leadership & superiority as a man.

A bit of myself once again. Before I got married, my girlfriend now my wife knew my ATM & phone password. I knew hers too. Till date, we operate on that same level. Right now, my wife transfers her salary to my account because she believes I am more frugal with expenses than she is. I didn't ask her to do so. She is doing so of her free will. That is what being open gets you.

I will use examples of two very successful men, Elon Musk and Barrack Obama. Elon has no respect for women hence his women don't stay with him. Neither do his children who all declare that he is a shitty father. Is he successful? Yes. Is he happy his children don't want to have anything to do with him? I promise you, HE IS NOT. THAT IS WHAT THE RED PILL GETS YOU.

Obama on the other hand does house chores & through it, He enjoys the companionship and partnership of his wife. The same house chores that red pillers have refused to do as 'house chores demeans them'.

Who do you think is truly happy between both men?
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by Zooposki(f): 1:41pm On Oct 12, 2024
GloriousGbola:
i see - if some poor uneducated white trash is better than you and you accept that - thats on you.

small wonder i can see 10 year old white kids call you boy and you dropping to your knees - yes massa - and then going home to beat your wife who is carrying the household
Well, that uneducated poor white thrash will receive better treatment than you anywhere you go.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by dipsx(m): 1:46pm On Oct 12, 2024
budaatum:
You are a trustworthy person and you trust your partner who trusts you in return.

How I wish you would consider telling us how your experience has made you both grow and produce what will grow more so we all may learn.
Well we are not perfect but I believe in being the person u desire in the other.

First self-respect, my word is my bond. If I have committed to u then I do everything within my power to ensure I am not the one defaulting.

Secondly You need to get a trust-worthy person ready and open to learning, this is largely dependent on how honest u are as a person as in step1. I am that honest to telling my wife I just wanted friends with benefits at the beginning cos I was planning to marry my tribe then.

My wife is the 3rd woman I have shared my passwords with even though the 1st two didn't work, trust was never the issue.

Presently we are just 3yrs in marriage and far from perfection too but trust issues are almost entirely absent. She has the history of almost all the ladies but not exes I have long calls with.

Na me no dey remember her ATM pin cos money no dey too dey there. My cards are in her possession but she has never withdrawn in my absence without asking me first.

Because of this openness I can tell you that my wife doesn't at any point in time know my balance or salary, she care less about those details knowing and believing that I am not spending frivolously. We both need some privacy to account balance or how each person spends cos I can't take permission from her to help F&F. I am a very prudent person as well as I no get person to look up to most times.

We don't have joint accounts at the moment but with how we living that is almost what is happening.

The more u try to hide the more U induce others to probe. Openness is by far d easiest way to hide things as usual there is often nothing to hide.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by HIbreed(m): 1:47pm On Oct 12, 2024
tete7000:
Sometime when I see what some of you waste precious tines to write and post, I wonder If you have anything meaningful you do with your life except thinking of girlfriend, boyfriend matter.
For males and females, learning and figuring out the opposite sex (for me, learning about women) whom you meet and interact with daily is a must for you to survive earth or else, doom awaits you no matter who you are!
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by HIbreed(m): 1:50pm On Oct 12, 2024
Filmdirect:
A true alpha male, secure in himself, used to wealth (different from riches) accustomed naturally to the finer things of life will never boost or laud himself. He or she will never write a long essay to announce his achievements or self value.

Wealth whispers, riches shout.
Not true. People are different!!
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by GloriousGbola: 1:50pm On Oct 12, 2024
Zooposki:
Well, that uneducated poor white thrash will receive better treatment than you anywhere you go.
Found the maga
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by Chykes403: 1:51pm On Oct 12, 2024
Who else just scrolled down without reading all these? huh
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by Zooposki(f): 1:52pm On Oct 12, 2024
GloriousGbola:
Found the maga
It is what it is. Que sera sera. You guys should man up and make the African continent great again.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by Haydens: 1:52pm On Oct 12, 2024
See the way evening newspapers are wailing. 😭😭😭😂😂

Their tears go bitter to drink.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by GloriousGbola: 1:54pm On Oct 12, 2024
Zooposki:
It is what it is. Que sera sera. You guys should man up and make the African continent great again.
Now get off my mentions and go and hop on a Florida metheads dik. tongue
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by Haydens: 1:54pm On Oct 12, 2024
If you want to make women's both pvssy and eyes wet bring out a topic or talks that makes them emotional.

Them more emotional the topic the wetter their pvssy and eyes.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by tete7000(m): 1:56pm On Oct 12, 2024
HIbreed:
For males and females, learning and figuring out the opposite sex (for me, learning about women) whom you meet and interact with daily is a must for you to survive earth or else, doom awaits you no matter who you are!
You occupy your minds with worthless issues. You don't learn about women focusing on negativities carved out around them. What you end up with is needless aversion for women. All you people want to tell yourself and assure yourself with is notions of women are whores, women are cheats, etc. No intelligent discussion about womanhood.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by HIbreed(m): 2:00pm On Oct 12, 2024
Mcslize:
This is what we are saying. Some of you bunches of women are quite vindictive. You want to use ObalendeCMS as a second option just to spite a man you're dieing for who doesn't give a fvck about you? If this isn't stupidity, tell me what it is.
You see very clearly their thought pattern.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by HIbreed(m): 2:03pm On Oct 12, 2024
tete7000:
You occupy your minds with worthless issues. You don't learn about women focusing on negativities carved out around them. What you end up with is needless aversion for women. All you people want to tell yourself and assure yourself with is notions of women are whores, women are cheats, etc. No intelligent discussion about womanhood.
I don't care what you are on but my delivery is simple; study the opposite sex, and it encompasses every spheres. Namaste.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by HIbreed(m): 2:30pm On Oct 12, 2024
greypencils:
I don't like revealing details about myself but I would in this case to misguided young men who would read this.

I am a married man with two daughters and I treat my wife the exact way I would want my daughters to be treated by their future husbands, with respect. When you cheat on your wife/fiancee or you beat her, you are not treating her with respect and like it or not, your children are noticing all these.
They would end up rejecting the idea of being married. All we do are seeds being sown into the future which your children will reap terribly. As men, your red pill is going to lead you to success in all things except marital bliss. If you are satisfied with marrying a low IQ woman who allows herself to be treated with disrespect, good luck to you. As a man, the standard is for you to set an example for your wife and children by telling them to do as you do, not do as you say. It is pretty simple. Do good, be good and good will come to you.

Having a good home starts with that 'serious' relationship. To think you can have a serious relationship in which one party (your woman) is open and faithful to you and you as a man you are not, isn't that delusional? I repeat, as men, make una dey think well sometimes.
Good point. To each their own. I prioritise financial opulence over marital bliss, though. Seing as the world richest men's wives dey leave them despite their wealth is enough reminder and conviction for me prioritise the papers.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by iLegendd(op): 2:35pm On Oct 12, 2024
With the number of quotes I got, trying to read them and reply everyone will take hours of my time, so I won't even dare. Thank you all for your contributions—be it negative or positive. Whatever you said, you're right.

I no gree na him dey tear shirt, but the summary is, men, keep her only as friend with benefit if she's hiding her phone from you. There is something she's hiding and it's dangerous. If you have access to her phone, on her WhatsApp chat bar, search for the words: abortion, sex, visit, infection, travel, hotel, boyfriend, love, hate, 2k, hospital, sugar daddy, etc. These words will lead you straight to conversations where those keywords were said. Or go straight to her chat with her bestie. Even i

If you catch her or she refuses to make her phone available, it's better to still have her around as your free ashawo instead of wasting money whenever konji calls on call-girls. This is why you need to handle the dating world with zero emotions and always be ready to lose what seems like the best you found.

Since she's hiding something, she's cheating, so encourage her to double date because it's good to have options. Whine her and tell her to be free when any of these guys that like her calls her. Tell her she can visit them whenever she wants, but she needs to take permission.

She'll feel free with you and call you a real man— man who isn't insecure. A time will come when you'll just end up as her bestie-in-sex and you'll know her main guy and all her side guys. For the main guy mind, him don get girlfriend. At this point, you're not the side guys who gets all the benefits of a main guys without spending except on TP and food when she comes to visit.

So, don't chase her away, keep her as a bestie. Used great sex to hold her down while the other guys do the spending.

As long as you're good in bed and never desperate, never easily available, you won't spend on a woman — she'll be the one always trying to see you.

Sweet commodity wey scarce is always in high demand. Speaking from experience.

So, that's my last speech—let men who have ears hear.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by HIbreed(m): 2:40pm On Oct 12, 2024
TheFinesseKid:
Guyman rest. Are you claiming to be a patriotic citizen of the shithole? Abeg. No dey use sentiments here.
Na mumu man.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by greypencils: 2:48pm On Oct 12, 2024
HIbreed:
Good point. To each their own. I prioritise financial opulence over marital bliss, though. Seing as the world richest men's wives dey leave them despite their wealth is enough reminder and conviction for me prioritise the papers.
Indeed! To each his own. Just remember, your children with improper upbringing will be the victims here.
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by HIbreed(m): 2:52pm On Oct 12, 2024
greypencils:
Indeed! To each his own. Just remember, your children with improper upbringing will be the victims here.
Improper upbringing grin. So you telling me that those Yahoo boys and sex workers all over the world came from a broken homes?
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by greypencils: 2:56pm On Oct 12, 2024
HIbreed:
Improper upbringing grin. So you telling me that those Yahoo boys and sex workers all over the world came from a broken homes?
Are you telling me you will raise a balanced child with which you have no relationship with the mother?
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by Adasun(m): 3:08pm On Oct 12, 2024
iamtoofan:
I dont know it all though, Women are sarcastic beings, if the women in your life willing drop there phone with you, esp. money .... oooooin ! 😄

Bro its got nothing to do with trust, its a decoy for something, that gender are not wired to be "direct cheesy

sometimes what you don't want a man to see hide it under his nose, smiley men like ilegend their eyes always up wont see his nose
Lols, forget it... If anything goes wrong, my awareness is always up. Yes they are those that are quite manipulative but i have m
Not met one
Re: Treat Her as a Friend with Benefit Until She Does This [Picture] by GOOOGLE504(m): 4:48pm On Oct 12, 2024
budaatum:
To your "calm down", see below.



You don't need strong women. Weak men usually don't. And that's why I am simply not the woman for you.

Thankfully for you, there's lots of women out there for you to pick from. We after all live in a world where some women think they are a man's rib. I'm just not one of them.
Lols I just dey laff for these ur mumu quotes . This one is even attributed to ‘Strong woman’

E go soon clear for your eyes
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