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She's 28, very caring, she got pregnant after being deceived by her ex but after she delivered the baby, dude abandoned her and is currently cohabiting with another woman tho he occasionally calls and sends upkeep to the son and I fear okafor's law might play out anytime she meets with her ex and father of his son
I'm in my early 30's and we're dating and she's being supportive as well, kind, caring and above all respectful.
Well I hope all these characters are not
pretense to get me to marry her and now our relationship and bond has gone indepth.
But I'm scared to tell my friends the lady I'm dating and want to propose marriage to has a son and I'm scared to tell my family as well.
So guys can you marry a single mother?
What's your advise, pros and cons of marrying a lady that has a child from her previous relationship.
Cc advanceDNA nonexisting1 nonexisting luminuoz et al

1. Son should either go back to the father or else where. He's an extension of the man, except for brief visits, he should not be under your roof.

2. Put her belle.

In as much as I'm not against anyone marrying a single mother...

But then again,as a young man,I wouldn't advise you to start your life by marrying a single mother, especially when her baby daddy is still very much alive . Cuz they'll always use their baby as a point of meeting,and meeting can lead to knacking .

Abeg,no start wetin you no go fit finish.

Most single mothers are sweet, caring and supportive when they like you.

In fact, they can be so caring and well mannered you'd want to marry then asap.

But... it's a trap. They're merely pretending. Once they get what they want from you (marriage), her bad side will start showing.

Take note, I didn't say "true colour" Because someone's true color isn't just their bad side. It's a combination of good and bad. So, once she gets married to you, the bad side of her true color will show. And some times, it may not be a bad side you might want to deal with or handle.


The second reason why you should never marry a single mother is because she has a hidden resent for men. Her story is typical amongst single mothers. Their exes are always "deceiving" them.

But regardless of how sad their ex story is, she CHOSE to date him. CHOSE to sleep with him unprotected. So even though her ex will get a majority of the blame. She gets the blame too. No matter how bad she paints her ex, it's the same man she opened her legs for and had a baby with.... and it's the same man that's now the father of her child...

Which brings me to the third and biggest reason....

No matter what you do or sacrifice, no matter your love for each other.... that child will always be above you in her heart & mind. The child's needs and wants will be placed above yours.

Which means a strong connection and attraction will always be to her ex. Her ex can use the child to get to her heart and between her legs again and again.

Worst of all, the ex can make life a hell for you if he wants the child to come and stay with him. If the woman doesn't agree, you'll find yourself entering into a war you shouldn't be in.


On that note, the best thing is to repay her in whatever capacity she has supported you and bid her fare well.

The only time I MIGHT consider a guy marrying a single mother is if the father of the child is dead.

If not, it's a bad idea

Gromilla010:
mumu...you no go marry that woman .you better stay single till you die..my best advice for you...you are born to live a lonely,wretched,poverty-stricken and sorrowful life till you give up the ghost..just don't bother going close to her..or else you will become impotent...if you think of having sex na there Dem go strike you with stroke...if you want to climb her..na there you go die of cardiac arrest

chai this woman is so frustrated with life.
Well I'm happy despite being an unmarried an single evening newspaper in your late 40's instead of commiting suicide you find joy in lesbianism. So I'll live you to derive joy in fuccking your fellow women. It's better than killing yourself
Me I don't want to end up a failure like you, I want to get married and by the time I reach your age I will have achieved many things.

mariovito:
1. Son should either go back to the father or else where. He's an extension of the man, except for brief visits, he should not be under your roof.

2. Put her belle.

Chai see wisdom @bolded.
You nailed it boss.
I'll give her these conditions as criteria before thinking of engaging her..
Thanks boss

Lmao.
The Captain Save-A-304 said "... she got pregnant after being deceived by her ex but after she delivered the baby, dude abandoned her and is currently cohabiting with another woman.."

Essentially, she willing got down with that exciting guy that had the dark triad trait - Tall, DARK & handsome, followed through on that primal animalistic itch to bear the offspring of the divergent man, and she did all that because she knew that she could always count on the Captain to come flying in and save a her from the consequences of her actions.

Lasting legacies are built on near flawless foundations.

Dj, please play < J. Cole - No Role Modelz>

Sonnobax15:

In as much as I'm not against anyone marrying a single mother...

But then again,as a young man,I wouldn't advise you to start your life by marrying a single mother, especially when her baby daddy is still very much alive . Cuz they'll always use their baby as a point of meeting,and meeting can lead to knacking .

Abeg,no start wetin you no go fit finish.

yes boss na why I include for that post that I fear okafor's law might happen whenever they meet..
And the baby daddy is younger than me too probably 30.
But I'll be so ashamed to tell my family and my friends she has a son from her previous relationship.
E come be like second hand or fairly used material I dey purchase but just that she fine oooo and from a good home as it plays in her good character and she's financially independent

Rizzputin:
Most single mothers are sweet, caring and supportive when they like you.

In fact, they can be so caring and well mannered you'd want to marry then asap.

But... it's a trap. They're merely pretending. Once they get what they want from you (marriage), her bad side will start showing.

Take note, I didn't say "true colour" Because someone's true color isn't just their bad side. It's a combination of good and bad. So, once she gets married to you, the bad side of her true color will show. And some times, it may not be a bad side you might want to deal with or handle.


The second reason why you should never marry a single mother is because she has a hidden resent for men. Her story is typical amongst single mothers. Their exes are always "deceiving" them.

But regardless of how sad their ex story is, she CHOSE to date him. CHOSE to sleep with him unprotected. So even though her ex will get a majority of the blame. She gets the blame too. No matter how bad she paints her ex, it's the same man she opened her legs for and had a baby with.... and it's the same man that's now the father of her child...

Which brings me to the third and biggest reason....

No matter what you do or sacrifice, no matter your love for each other.... that child will always be above you in her heart & mind. The child's needs and wants will be placed above yours.

Which means a strong connection and attraction will always be to her ex. Her ex can use the child to get to her heart and between her legs again and again.

Worst of all, the ex can make life a hell for you if he wants the child to come and stay with him. If the woman doesn't agree, you'll find yourself entering into a war you shouldn't be in.


On that note, the best thing is to repay her in whatever capacity she has supported you and bid her fare well.

The only time I MIGHT consider a guy marrying a single mother is if the father of the child is dead.

If not, it's a bad idea

men bro this is deep, harsh as it sounds but that's bigger truth.. even if you're married to a fresh lady the moment she gives birth her love, attractions, care and focus shifts from you to her child.
We all know women use love, care and all forms of deceptive guise to manipulate men into marriage and once this has been achieved she now prioritizes her child..
So I may not be surprised her first child from a previous relationship would be prioritized.
Omo sha women plenty ooo so I guess I'll have to start looking elsewhere.
Moreover till now I've kept it a secret from my parents and friends cos shame dey catch me

People get married every Saturday including single mothers. If you wish to go ahead fine, if not, fine as well. Another man will go for her as long as she's employed and beautiful with good character. The choice is yours.

ICTspecialist:
She's 28, very caring, she got pregnant after being deceived by her ex but after she delivered the baby, dude abandoned her and is currently cohabiting with another woman tho he occasionally calls and sends upkeep to the son and I fear okafor's law might play out anytime she meets with her ex and father of his son
I'm 34 and we're dating and she's being supportive as well, kind, caring and above all respectful.
Well I hope all these characters are not
pretense to get me to marry her and now our relationship and bond has gone indepth.
But I'm scared to tell my friends the lady I'm dating and want to propose marriage to has a son and I'm scared to tell my family as well.
So guys can you marry a single mother?
What's your advise, pros and cons of marrying a lady that has a child from her previous relationship.
Cc advanceDNA nonexisting1 nonexisting luminuoz et al

Not Bad, but your first child will be child of another father.
Congratulations to your Child, at least you will be a good Father.

ICTspecialist:
She's 28, very caring, she got pregnant after being deceived by her ex but after she delivered the baby, dude abandoned her and is currently cohabiting with another woman tho he occasionally calls and sends upkeep to the son and I fear okafor's law might play out anytime she meets with her ex and father of his son
I'm 34 and we're dating and she's being supportive as well, kind, caring and above all respectful.
Well I hope all these characters are not
pretense to get me to marry her and now our relationship and bond has gone indepth.
But I'm scared to tell my friends the lady I'm dating and want to propose marriage to has a son and I'm scared to tell my family as well.
So guys can you marry a single mother?
What's your advise, pros and cons of marrying a lady that has a child from her previous relationship.

.lol....is she the one that told u she was deceived or her pvssy is explaining on your behalf?? Nigga...love is not blind ooooo

See ...the rodeo with single mum is the same ...u are first a ticket to bankrolling her son and herself....so make sure its a symbiotic relationship .....make no mistake baba...u are the third-party....u will always be the third-party in your own home....

U don form broke??
U sure say she kind, empathy driven, team player....?? No say I nor ask you oooo....

Single mother is a no go area for me....but if u ean chook head...look well ooo...no let pvssy game confuse you....remember say one guy see this same "loving & caring" girl but still japa...

Kindly avoid those devil people. mostly if they are 9ja girls, run ooh if not is untimely death raise to power 10

Can you verify anything she told you about her baby father?

pansophist:
Can you verify anything she told you about her baby father?

you seem like someone who has experienced a lot in life...and by so doing your experience has broaden your horizon and scope of knowledge to see life and expectancy in a much more moderate dimension...if I may ask what is your say about homosexuality?

Gromilla010:
you seem like someone who has experienced a lot in life...and by so doing your experience has broaden your horizon and scope of knowledge to see life and expectancy in a much more moderate dimension...if I may ask what is your say about homosexuality?

I think they are contribute to society in such a way that they leave more women for us, and also takes other dude along with them.

https://www.nairaland.com/8241482/whats-advice
A much better option than marrying a single mother.

pansophist:
I think they are contribute to society in such a way that they leave more women for us, and also takes other dude along with them.

I love that

Why are homophobes so scared of homosexuals?

Single mothers are liars. All of them.

Gromilla010:
keep consoling yourself...you better start telling your useless parents to go look for a better evil forest to dump your carcass cos your death is near...leave this nonsense advice about marriage...you don't deserve to marry..you are an anomaly...use this chance you have while you are still alive to tell your useless parents cos you have a little time to live on earth to just go look for a befitting evil forest to dump your carcass were vultures can feast on.

Na wah o.
Nothing wey Musa no go see for gate, see self confessed homosexual calling someone an anomaly.

If it were to be in medieval times someone like you would be tied to the stake and burned alive just like they do to witches

In all you do, don't cum inside her.

IMO, a man's sexual experiences + children count should always exceed the woman. That's the best balance.

So a single mother of one is a best match for a single father of two.

ICTspecialist:
She's 28, very caring, she got pregnant after being deceived by her ex but after she delivered the baby, dude abandoned her and is currently cohabiting with another woman tho he occasionally calls and sends upkeep to the son and I fear okafor's law might play out anytime she meets with her ex and father of his son
I'm 34 and we're dating and she's being supportive as well, kind, caring and above all respectful.
Well I hope all these characters are not
pretense to get me to marry her and now our relationship and bond has gone indepth.
But I'm scared to tell my friends the lady I'm dating and want to propose marriage to has a son and I'm scared to tell my family as well.
So guys can you marry a single mother?
What's your advise, pros and cons of marrying a lady that has a child from her previous relationship.
Cc advanceDNA nonexisting1 nonexisting luminuoz et al

So you even have the guts to call my name to this post? Did anyone tell you I'm married to a single mom or something? 😡😡😡

I want you all to know that the return of CHRIST is drawing near. Therefore let us continue to do good, repent and be baptized so that we can be saved on that great day of judgement.
May GOD bless us all

Only situation i can support this is if the baby daddy is dead or unknown.Unnecessary drama and financial wahala no worth am