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What did they accuse her of stealing?
Who did she steal from?
With the above information we will be able to advise on the possibility of it happening.

Check her WhatsApp to know what made her do it... Is she being blackmailed

chrisxxx:
What did they accuse her of stealing?
Who did she steal from?
With the above information we will be able to advise on the possibility of it happening.

Office money about 30k. The boss has forgiven her, but I'm confused, why will she steal such money. But it hurt.

Hello, just resolve with her place of work on whatever they want as resolution, then stand by your wife, either guilty or innocent, she needs you now more than ever.
It might be a set up against her, she might be guilty too, but with the narration and boss reaction, I don't think it's sufficient to hang her dry by make a public announcement of it

CommentOfDMatch:
Check her WhatsApp to know what made her do it... Is she being blackmailed

We don't stay in same state for now, she left my place about 10 days ago after two days that was when this accusations came in, and when she was going I gave her 50k. So it baffle me that just two days, she will start stealing when she even have money in her account. We have not see,since they accuse her, in order for me to judge her physically.

OlujobaSamuel:
Hello, just resolve with her place of work on whatever they want as resolution, then stand by your wife, either guilty or innocent, she needs you now more than ever.
It might be a set up against her, she might be guilty too, but with the narration and boss reaction, I don't think it's sufficient to hang her dry by make a public announcement of it

They have resolve it, in their place of work and they have relieved her of her job but the issue here is why will she be accused of stealing and of a truth, I believe her boss explanation more than her own, because the evidence and detail explanation is very clear to me, she is just crying that she can't do such and that they set her up, but it is not adding up to me.

What EVIDENCE did her boss show you?

What explanation did your wife give you for why she thinks she was set up?

You claim that she has always been a content person who NEVER displayed a tendency for greed.

So that means there was a MISUNDERSTANDING or your wife is a MASTERFUL actress who has been pretending to conceal her TRUE nature.

Also, did her boss get the money back?
Or is he just sacking her and letting her go without recovering the #30k?

The entire situation is WONKY.

I DON'T trust your wife. But I DON'T trust her boss, either. Find out MORE!

Thundafireseun:
Good or bad I will stand by my wife and defend her integrity outside the house

I expect you to do the same

I understand your point, how about defending her, and her boss escalate the situation and it involve police and they have the evidence and you know, we are in a lawless country and it resolve to court case because they have the evidence. Please tell me, how can I stand by her now. I will be glad to learn from you.

Ibrahimado:
Please I want to be straight to the point,
My woman that we got married late last year, no children yet was just accuse of stealing in her place of work. And the evidence is very clear that she committed the crime. But she has deny it vehemently. But all evidence points that she did it. They did not disgrace her but silently told her to leave the work. She has be a supportive wife right from when we where dating. I did not see stealing during our courtship/dating. Last week, I had conversations with her boss and her boss open everything/story for me, it break my heart that her name is associated with stealing and just that last week, when she came to my place of work, I gave her 50k for her up keeping. And I do send her 10k weekly feeding, we don't stay in same place. She stay in Benin why I work in lagos. She stay alone. She is a very fervent Christian and it is hurting me since a week now, that my woman can be accuse of stealing. I don't steal and it is against my principle. She don't lack in that place of her work. I have not informed my family and her family. Because I don't want her to lose the respect they accord her. It is breaking me since a week now. What should I do my fellow people, I will be glad with all your inputs. I'm a nairaland of over 13 years.
Moreover, she has not steal from me and she don't ask too much money from me, she is always a contented person. She don't spend outrageously like me, no extra expenses/bill on her from her side or my side. Still I'm hearing all this thing from the first time. She is even her church treasurer for over 6years and her pastor has been calling me and telling me that she can't do it but I'm confused because the evidence is very glance in my eye from her boss narrative.

so you wanted to report your family and her family that your wife stole?
Are you sure you are not the one reporting her up and down that she stole?
you don't sound like a prepared married man am sorry to say.
In as much as stealing is a very bad thing no one should be associated with but you need to be tactical and check out he fact. From your write-up since she denied it which women are used to doing anyways just be objective and understand that later in Ur marriage you will still need to beg her too because you are going to offend her by cheating or something else.
She's your wife scold her and stop being a reporting agent oga

Toh

For her still denying even upon the glaring evidence means she might have been doing the stealing for quite sometimes not necessarily from her current work of place.

Such act requires real counselling because it's in mind, such people would still be tempted no matter how satisfied they are

Namaster:
What EVIDENCE did her boss show you?

What explanation did your wife give you for why she thinks she was set up?

You claim that she has always been a content person who NEVER displayed a tendency for greed.

So that means there was a MISUNDERSTANDING or your wife is a MASTERFUL actress who has been pretending to conceal her TRUE nature.

Also, did her boss get the money back?
Or is he just sacking her and letting her go without recovering the #30k?

The entire situation is WONKY.

I DON'T trust your wife. But I DON'T trust her boss, either. Find out MORE!

They got the money back from her working bag according to the boss and they decide it is time for her to leave the job and the boss told me she has been doing it but no evidence all this time until this one that happened last week. She has not display any form of greed or any thing in that form to me, since I know her.

xtivin:
so you wanted to report your family and her family that your wife stole?
Are you sure you are not the one reporting her up and down that she stole?
you don't sound like a prepared married man am sorry to say.
In as much as stealing is a very bad thing no one should be associated with but you need to be tactical and check out he fact. From your write-up since she denied it which women are used to doing anyways just be objective and understand that later in Ur marriage you will still need to beg her too because you are going to offend her by cheating or something else.
She's your wife scold her and stop being a reporting agent oga

I'm not a reporting agent, I came to seek advice from this great forum and how to handle it better, two good heads are better than one. You must not vent your anger everytime during a meaningful discussion. Bye.

Btw, if your wife has such act without you having a clue, then it's likely possible there are other things she might be hiding from you.

She don't spend outrageously like me, no extra expenses/bill on her from her side or my side.

Are you sure she's not having secretive kids she might be spending the money on?

My brother,
You have no reason to look for a reason or to rationalize why she shouldn't be stealing when you confirmed yourself that the evidence presented to you is incontrovertible.

Denial is the worst stage of grief because to question reality and even bargain with facts puts one at par with hallucinating lunatics.

Experience has proven to NwaAmaikpe that the only creature that hides it's shit better than a pussy cat is a lying Nigerian woman. But just like the shït of a pussy cat, the stench of their wrongs always gives them away.

I feel so sorry for you because it was you who played yourself and that's why my problem here is not that your wife may have stolen.

The first rule in the Gentleman's guide to marriage book is; the only relationship that should carry on in distance is a casual one.

After the stomach, the kpekus is the second most ungrateful part of a human being. No matter how full you get it today, it MUST complain the next day when it wants to be full.

It gets even worse because a kpekus has no meter.

If a woman who sleeps on the same bed with her husband will shag a colleague in the store room at work, how much more one whose husband lives in Lagos while she lives in the capital of whoredom.

The fourth rule is, NEVER marry a lady who is neckdeep in church activities because there is a higher probability of her being engaged in something extremely unholy.
No pastor picks up a fückmate from a brothel, it begins from the church and there is no better victim than a vulnerable lonely wife.

That brings my final suspicion.
Despite the proof, why is a pastor who should be the impartial one to chastise her the one attesting to her innocence?

It points to something, he either knows her just as well as you do or even better than you and that is the actual problem I see in this story.

It is up to you to make out what the handwriting on this wall is.

She works, you load her with money, she has no building projects, you don't put her under financial pressure, so except she is a kleptomaniac, she is most likely stealing for another man.

But it is not from NwaAmaikpe's mouth that you will hear that someone else's preek has been expanding your wife's kpekus.

You withheld some vital points.
You claimed that the boss have strong evidence against your wife, please can you discuss more on that?
Is there a video evidence?
Please sit down with a oen and paper and ask yourself 10 reasons that will make your woman to do it. If you can have 10 reasons, then there is possibility of her commiting the offence but if you can't write 10 valid reasons for her to do it, then your wife can't do it.
Remember, it happened at the place if work, it might be a set - up.

Are you sure she's not having secretive kids she might be spending the money on?[/quote]No, we stay in same neighborhood for Benin, before I move to Lagos, no outside kids. 100% sure of that.

Don't you.ever.try to report this incidence to any family member. Cover your family. You and your wife need to sit together and discuss this, openly and heart to heart. Take her sides. She needs you now. Stop complaining. Be mature minded. Find out the truth from her. If indeed she stole, don't criticize her. Find out WHY she did so. Then correct her in love then find a way and resolve with her boss.
Lastly, it's too early for you guys to live apart moreso now U are yet to have babies. Let her join you in Lagos

Ibrahimado:
■ .....Last week, I had conversations with her boss and her boss open everything/story for me, it break my heart that her name is associated with stealing and just that last week, when she came to my place of work, I gave her 50k for her up keeping. And I do send her 10k weekly feeding, we don't stay in same place. She stay in Benin why I work in lagos. She stay alone. She is a very fervent Christian and it is hurting me since a week now, that my woman can be accuse of stealing. I don't steal and it is against my principle. She don't lack in that place of her work.
■ .I have not informed my family and her family. Because I don't want her to lose the respect they accord her. It is breaking me since a week now. What should I do my fellow people, I will be glad with all your inputs. I'm a nairaland of over 13 years.
Moreover, she has not steal from me and she don't ask too much money from me, she is always a contented person. She don't spend outrageously like me, no extra expenses/bill on her from her side or my side.
■ .Still I'm hearing all this thing from the first time. She is even her church treasurer for over 6years and her pastor has been calling me and telling me that she can't do it but I'm confused because the evidence is very glance in my eye from her boss narrative.

How did you come to having a conversation with your wife's boss? Does she also have conversations with your own boss or something?

2. Do you actually intend to tell your family that your wife was accused of stealing by her boss? WOW... Jeeezzzz...

3. WOW... is it me or does it sound like you are even considering divorcing her at this point?

jflower06:
You withheld some vital points.
You claimed that the boss have strong evidence against your wife, please can you discuss more on that?
Is there a video evidence?
Please sit down with a oen and paper and ask yourself 10 reasons that will make your woman to do it. If you can have 10 reasons, then there is possibility of her commiting the offence but if you can't write 10 valid reasons for her to do it, then your wife can't do it.
Remember, it happened at the place if work, it might be a set - up.

During late last year, during our marriage preparation she did not come to her place of work for four days and she was stop from working and her November salary with held without paying her a dime, so she started crying and I use my hard earn money to pay her the money 40k. around this year February she was called to resume back the work, then I was already in Lagos. So informed me about her resume the job a month later, I was upset and I ask her, if they have paid her the month they owe her, she wave it off, she said they will pay her. I said okay.
So concerning this present issue at hand, she said she saw the office money on the floor and kept It in her bag in order for her to return it later but when she went out for like an hour later, they ransack her bag and saw the money, she said she has no intention of stealing the money or taken it home, but all her plea fell on deaf ear.

jflower06:
You withheld some vital points.
You claimed that the boss have strong evidence against your wife, please can you discuss more on that?
Is there a video evidence?
Please sit down with a oen and paper and ask yourself 10 reasons that will make your woman to do it. If you can have 10 reasons, then there is possibility of her commiting the offence but if you can't write 10 valid reasons for her to do it, then your wife can't do it.
Remember, it happened at the place if work, it might be a set - up.

If I'm to write valid reasons why my wife steal, to be honest, it will not be up to three reasons. Because she is a contented person and don't spend outrageously.

Kobojunkie:
How did you come to having a conversation with your wife's boss? Does she also have conversations with your own boss or something?

2. Do you actually intend to tell your family that your wife was accused of stealing by her boss? WOW... Jeeezzzz...

3. WOW... is it me or does it sound like you are even considering divorcing her at this point?

1) She save all her contact in her email, and her email is log into my phone.
2) I don't have such intentions to reveal her secret to my family or her
3) I'm not considering divorce but ways to hand it more efficiently and maturely. She is a lovely wife every man can wish for but it hurt to know your wife reputation is stained.

She will transfer that traits to your kids. you are on a long thing bro.

Ibrahimado:
1) She save all her contact in her email, and her email is log into my phone.
2) I don't have such intentions to reveal her secret to my family or her
3) I'm not considering divorce but ways to hand it more efficiently and maturely. She is a lovely wife every man can wish for but it hurt to know your wife reputation is stained.

MAKE 100% SURE SHE ACTUALLY DID IT.
People who steal don't steal only once

Sit her down and have a conversation about this newly found trait in her. Don't do that now, until you test her and you get her red-handed. It might be a condition she's dealing with.

Support her, watch her and test her. Once you get her, then you can begin to help her walk through it.

Since you don't stay with her, you don't fully know her. Try to know her more. Pay attention.


A woman stealing? It breaks my heart.

CJStarz:
Don't you.ever.try to report this incidence to any family member. Cover your family. You and your wife need to sit together and discuss this, openly and heart to heart. Take her sides. She needs you now. Stop complaining. Be mature minded. Find out the truth from her. If indeed she stole, don't criticize her. Find out WHY she did so. Then correct her in love then find a way and resolve with her boss.
Lastly, it's too early for you guys to live apart moreso now U are yet to have babies. Let her join you in Lagos

For the issue of she joining me in Lagos, I will open it to her now. She just left my place 10 days ago, she always visit once in two months, she finished from uniben, she has done her clearance but waiting for deployment for her nysc. That is what is keeping her in Benin. I will tell her to start preparing to relocate. Thanks for your input.

Ibrahimado:
During late last year, during our marriage preparation she did not come to her place of work for four days and she was stop from working and her November salary with held without paying her a dime, so she started crying and I use my hard earn money to pay her the money 40k. around this year February she was called to resume back the work, then I was already in Lagos. So informed me about her resume the job a month later, I was upset and I ask her, if they have paid her the month they owe her, she wave it off, she said they will pay her. I said okay.
So concerning this present issue at hand, she said she saw the office money on the floor and kept It in her bag in order for her to return it later but when she went out for like an hour later, they ransack her bag and saw the money, she said she has no intention of stealing the money or taken it home, but all her plea fell on deaf ear.

Why didn't she return the money the moment she saw it. Keeping it in her bag all indices will work against her.

It has always been a cooked up story on Nairaland God will help you people.

Nicepoker:
Why didn't she return the money the moment she saw it. Keeping it in her bag all indices will work against her.

That is where the issue came from. Keeping it in her bag.

Ibrahimado:
1) She save all her contact in her email, and her email is log into my phone.
2) I don't have such intentions to reveal her secret to my family or her
3) I'm not considering divorce but ways to hand it more efficiently and maturely. She is a lovely wife every man can wish for but it hurt to know your wife reputation is stained.

calm down, first! Don't overreact. The good thing is, they didn't embarrass her or post her video online. Try her with another job and see how she does it. If It's in her, she'll do it again.

Stealing is terrible. Calm down and be mature about it. Don't involve your family yet.