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The second confusion after conversion. This is what you will go through till you return to where you are coming from. Confusion, confusion and confusion.

Daejumong:
Hi Daejumong, I am a new Christian convert with 4 wives! My pastor said I need to send three of my women away except the first wife! He said it is called restitution and it’s important for my new life in Christ!

My wives have all given their lives to Christ as well and I love them and not keen on sending any of them away.
I am a 38yr old man living in the northern part of Nigeria and I used to be a Muslim .

Sir, what should I do? Can’t I keep all of them and we all serve God together?

The second confusion after conversion. This is what you will go through till you return to where you are coming from. Confusion, confusion and confusion.

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

You didn't answer the question. You are beating around the bush.

Hmm.
This is not correct.

In as much as I believe in restitution and correcting one's errors as much as possible, the Bible doesn't say anywhere that those who married more than one wive should divorce them.

Yes, in the new testament, the Bible doesn't encourage polygamy, but it also never says that polygamy is a sin. It's better to stay within the limit of the word of God.

The limit the Bible places on those who engage in polygamy is that they cannot occupy leadership positions (1 Tim 3:1-5, Tit 1:6). The reason for this should be obvious. A leader should be a good example - a role model, particular in properly ruling his home. Unfortunately, it is difficult, if not impossible to have a well-managed polygamous family.

If it is sinful to have more than one wife, apparently, Paul wouldn't have listed having one one wife at part of the criteria for selecting a leader. So, by saying a leader should be someone with one wife already indicated that there were people in the church with more than one wife.

While polygamy in itself, just like alcohol, is not a sin, the possibility that it will lead to sin is quite high.
I guess in an attempt to prevent believers from falling into sin, which the polygamy and alcohol provides more avenue for, church leaders just concluded that these habits are sinful. While the intention is noble and well-intended, it's still not biblical.

No responsible and serious Christian would go into polygamy, but for those, for whatever reasons, who found themselves in the state, especially before meeting Christ, they should not be made to commit further errors by sending their wives away.

If they send those women away, who will marry them? What about the children? How would they feel about a God who claims to be love, yet couldn't accept their mum?

I believe the words of Paul in 1 Cor 7:20 that everyone should remain in the same calling in which he was called is also very relevant here. The question that should be asked is that is this man already saved even with his wives or is sending his wives away that grants him salvation?

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

I am genuinely interested per the text in bold, where is this stated in the bible?

And if it isn't, what is the logic behind it? What if their parents are dead?

The gaping holes in your simplistic solution to this doesn't suggest you have thought it through at all.

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

But why did God approve multiple wives. All these toddlers in gospel will be talking trash. Don't quote else u go collect biblically

Send them to where?

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

You are very very wrong.

Marrying more than one wife is not a sin. If a man becomes born again, he can still have his wives.

Oga!May God bless you, actually looking for that"distraction".I read it somewhere in the bible where Apostle Paul emphasized as the condition to select leadership in the early church.It wàs never in the commandments,Jesus Christ remained silence about it.The only commandment says "Do not fornicate, do not commit Adultery"

flyingdutchman:
JESUS! False doctrine! The WORD of God never said that. Marrying more than one wife is distracting as a Christian but is NOT a sin

You are not required return your wives back. You married them properly.

Why would you push your three wives into temptation of Adultery? Beware of false teachings!

Don't send them away that will lead them to fornication rather add 1 more. Well done

Kingosytex:
Delusion is your name. Marrying more than one wife is a sin but paying tithes isn't? 😂

Religion is all about choosing what suits your narrative.

Olatundex22:
That pastor is mad

💯

YoungBlackRico:
Send them to where?

you might want dem 😁... It's for free o

To the best of my knowledge of the Bible the rules for one man one wife apply to overseers (leaders of the church) and kings.

The Bible also says a man shall not divorce his wife except for sexual infidelity.

Jesus has never send anybodys wives parking, why should we?

Daejumong:
Hi Daejumong, I am a new Christian convert with 4 wives! My pastor said I need to send three of my women away except the first wife! He said it is called restitution and it’s important for my new life in Christ!

My wives have all given their lives to Christ as well and I love them and not keen on sending any of them away.
I am a 38yr old man living in the northern part of Nigeria and I used to be a Muslim .

Sir, what should I do? Can’t I keep all of them and we all serve God together?

Your pastor is a fool and a pathetic liar.
There is nowhere in the bible that says you are not allowed more than a wife.
Go and read your bible and stop letting a tithe and offering bandit decide how to live your life.

MondayOmoAdugbo:
you might want dem 😁... It's for free o

Lol

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

Some of these ain't accurate.

marrying more than one wife is not a sin............

as a new christian, seek counsel from your elders in the church but dont listen to the part where they say send 3 back to there parents!

Daejumong:
Hi Daejumong, I am a new Christian convert with 4 wives! My pastor said I need to send three of my women away except the first wife! He said it is called restitution and it’s important for my new life in Christ!

My wives have all given their lives to Christ as well and I love them and not keen on sending any of them away.
I am a 38yr old man living in the northern part of Nigeria and I used to be a Muslim .

Sir, what should I do? Can’t I keep all of them and we all serve God together?

Please don't listen to false prophets
Don't send anyone away except she willingly wants to God

Ensure you live a true Christian life being just and fair to all your wives and children

May God continue to strengthen you.Amen

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

Oponu!

Did ur Bible permit Divorce?
So after he sends the women away, who wil now marry them?
I'm Disappointed in you.

Not all sins need restitution

There's no where in the Bible where it is commanded that a man must marry only one wife. Pls don't put away your wives and possibly your children. That's false doctrine.

Daejumong:
Hi Daejumong, I am a new Christian convert with 4 wives! My pastor said I need to send three of my women away except the first wife! He said it is called restitution and it’s important for my new life in Christ!

My wives have all given their lives to Christ as well and I love them and not keen on sending any of them away.
I am a 38yr old man living in the northern part of Nigeria and I used to be a Muslim .

Sir, what should I do? Can’t I keep all of them and we all serve God together?

Na Ogun go kee the useless Vagabond Pastor

Don't mind the Pastor ...

The Bible does not explicitly state that a man must marry only one wife, but it does emphasize monogamy in several passages. For instance, in Genesis 2:24, it describes the union of a man and woman, indicating that they become "one flesh." Additionally, in the New Testament, passages like 1 Timothy 3:2 and Titus 1:6 highlight that church leaders should be "the husband of one wife," suggesting a preference for monogamy. While these texts imply monogamous relationships, the cultural context of the times included polygamy, especially in the Old Testament.

Except you are a church leader , if a woman can give birth to twins , quartplet etc , so you still one flesh with the women you choose to marry ..but as a Nigerian we are overpopulated already ... If you haven't marry four Biko stick to one wife...

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

No let Ogun kee you and your useless Pastor that is teaching you nonsense

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

If him send them away,na you, d pastor or your papa go marry them ?

Daejumong:
Hi Daejumong, I am a new Christian convert with 4 wives! My pastor said I need to send three of my women away except the first wife! He said it is called restitution and it’s important for my new life in Christ!

My wives have all given their lives to Christ as well and I love them and not keen on sending any of them away.
I am a 38yr old man living in the northern part of Nigeria and I used to be a Muslim .

Sir, what should I do? Can’t I keep all of them and we all serve God together?

I get that this writer was a Muslim, but what was the need to marry 4 wives at 38 years? It's basically covetousness, inability to look away from other women and be satisfied with one! Just send 3 away, they are still young and can remarry...they are a whole lot of distraction

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

You keep lying or cherry-picking the Bible, of what benefits if I may ask.
According to the world population based on gender, there more women than men currently because of wars, cultism, industrial death, terrorism, all these things claims the lives of 90% men than women. You can't dispute this. You can check the census done in Africa to satisfy your curiosity if you think a am wrong, there is always difference of one to two million in terms of women to men in ration, so what happens to the rest of the women who will not find husband when the ratio of men to women is 1:2.
If you think God is myopic that he doesn't know the future , then I can say you don't even know God , you are just pretending.
Can you give us a logical answer not just sentiment , I doubt it , because you don't have one, you think it's only you who reads the Bible.

hedonido:
Show me the Bible verse or scriptural injunction that discourages polygamy in Christianity.

I don't like it when people smuggle their subjective (and hypocritical) moral preferences into Christianity.

This is a church doctrine which has no scriptural basis
Unfortunately, most of today’s Christian traditions are simply church doctrine being read into the Bible

For example, the trinity is not scriptural.
It was read into the Bible after the Romans accepted Christianity nearly 400yrs after Christ in the 1st Council of Nicaea in 325AD and the Council of Constantinople in 372AD
In both Councils votes had to be taken to decide on the divinity of Jesus Christ

umarc19:
La Haula wala Quwwata illa Billah.

Allahumma Ajirni fi Musibati wa Akhlifli Khairan Minha.

Do not bomb this forum, I beg of you.

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

Can you please quote any scripture where marrying many wives is said to be a sin?

casualobserver:
The Bible also says a man shall not divorce his wife except for sexual infidelity.

Na this one worst pass. I'm 💯% sure Christian women do not agree to this. So it's the man that can initiate the divorce and not the woman?