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My guy, e get wetin i want tell you, I sure say you know wetin I want talk but might feel like na just talk. Pray about it, it must not be long hour prayer, but just carry am go Baba God hand, tell him your situation and what you want and ask Him to guide you.

After that one, you gats stand up go grind, it doesn't matter what you do(just make sure say na Legal stuff), start something, but have a long time plan, if you want dey do handwork or sales or whatever, dey run that one while doing your nursing stuff, make sure you aim for top position while studying, after that nursing stuff, I sure say everywhere go STEW, because nursing na extra hot cake for outside Naija. So just calm your nerves and start learning or selling something. I wish you the best

CandyOps:
You go say make I make money which one be make I no dey drink beer? Lol
I dey on 2 Bo rn. I just no dey drink for house again

As I said, I will talk to you like a big bro who has been there and done that.

Bone alcohol, I pray the repercussion never comes, because then, you'll wish you listened.

But all I said still stands.

More 💪

Kingju:
My guy, e get wetin i want tell you, i sure say you know werin i want talk but might feel like na just talk. Pray about it, it must not be long hour prayer, but just carry am go Baba God hand, tell him your situation and what you want and ask him to guide you.

After that one, you gats stand up go grind, it doesn't matter what you do, but start something, but have a long time plan, if you want dey do handwork or sales or whatever, dey run that one while doing your nursing stuff, make sure you aim for too position while studying, after that nursing stuff, i sure say everywhere go STEW, because nursing na extra hot cake for outside Naija. So just calm your nerves and start learning or selling something. I wish you the best

Yes sure. I feel you 💯
I just dey pack skills like mad man now. In a few months time some go pay off. And na lifelong skills.

Nursing go pay off in like 3 yrs now. And na for Yankee. So I dey on course but I want dey see money as e dey hot

GreyWolf01:
As I said, I will talk to you like a big bro who has been there and done that.

Bone alcohol, I pray the repercussion never comes, because then, you'll wish you listened.

But all I said still stands.

More 💪

Na once once bros. Not a habit. Maybe weekends. I done stop smoke. Una still say make I stop beer? 😩

But I'm open to sacrifice anything wey go lead to success financially o

Odizi ka unu achoro igbu m egbu

CandyOps:
Na once once bros. Not a habit. Maybe weekends. I done stop smoke. Una still say make I stop beer? 😩

[/b]But I'm open to sacrifice anything wey go lead to success financially o[b]

Odizi ka unu achoro igbu m egbu

All the ginger you need is in that statement. (No Kanayo )

Now Put in the work.


Weldone & once more, May God help you.

atoliman:
It is very normal for mum to ask when you are getting married. Just smile and be respectful to her when you answer. Every unmarried guy above 30 have gone through this through their mother. No need to vex , make plans to move out and get your own place.

Op, See How ya Mama already turned ya head upside down ...

Me wey no well ... na me turn my mama head upside down ... I just made her started a building project so she can leave me dafvc alone ... I say once the house is completed I go move in with my wife ... if you see the rush ehn ... ohboy .... before she finished, I go don Viaaammmmm

See, They want Grandchildren.... It's like Gold Medal to Them ... Thats all their Civilisations knows about as a Means to Happiness & Eradicating Life Boredoms/Depressions....

May God allows us to give them Many, Amen!

CandyOps:
I feel you boss. Thanks for the ginger!

with the way I dey go I know say I must enter inside once I begin see bar for street because the kin money I dey find na block... And all my bros wey dey on now done enter inside at least once...

One done get DSS case. One done get normal Eke case. So to enter inside be like say na the benchmark for entry into higher money. And I dey ready

Lol, boss man, cell no be beans oh, no wish to go there.


And BTW no be paper chase make me enter cell oh, na one bad belly go report me give ndlea, them come crench me for house, no be jungle oh... My own crib....


Me no dey run illegal jabs, if na by that one, I suppose don dey build house for my folks ajeh, but we dey press dey go jejely.


Everything na timing bro ..

Your time go reach....

Bro, cool down. No make anybody word hurt you, even that of your ma.

As things are now, you know yourself and what you want. Work towards it. Person wey no go press money enter my hand, or show me business, nor get right to dey complain to me say I do or I no do.

Country hard right now.

But as your guy, I go advise make you add crypto to your grind.

Be wise as always.

My cousin wey be newly ordained pastor just got married last month, na me be head of the family cause my papa na first and only son but that my cousin senior me small.


The boy dey earn just 15k per month, his wife just finished NYSC, and them get liver marry.

My papa even dey yarn me say the boy dey go collect foodstuffs from house almost every week cause that 15k no be money wey even me fit manage for 1 week.


The whole moral of the story be say, popsy dey encourage me to also try marry, say the girl fit be the blessing wey go make me blow.....


I lie down for ground dey laugh like goat, I first ask my papa how them go feel if I dey come back home every week to source for provisions? No be them go use mouth finish my life....


I don yarn am, if I no blow to the level wey I go fit take care of them and my siblings very well, make nobody carry marriage talk near me.

Mumsy was like, when your dad was at this your age, he already was married for three years and by then we just born you.


I go remind them say no be Tpain dey rule them that period, so everybody run their race....

I still dey wait for how my cousin matter go finish, I just dey pray make God help am sha..

CandyOps:
Omo! Person gats hold money like within the next few months. I feel like I have a few months or even a few years to get my money back in order.

Bastard money where are you?



I no wan dey school dey ask my siblings for financial support (which according to psychological research is a response to past trauma) while in school.

Just keep pushing. Please can you expantiate on the bolded

DonroxyII:
Op, See How ya Mama already turned ya head upside down ...

Me wey no well ... na me turn my mama head upside down ... I just made her started a building project so she can leave me dafvc alone ... I say once the house is completed I go move in with my wife ... if you see the rush ehn ... ohboy .... before she finished, I go don Viaaammmmm

See, They want Grandchildren.... It's like Gold Medal to Them ... Thats all their Civilisations knows about as a Means to Happiness & Eradicating Life Boredoms/Depressions....

May God allows us to give them Many, Amen!

Just talk to your Mum and tell her what is your mind in the most respectful way.

atoliman:
Just talk to your Mum and tell her what is your mind in the most respectful way.

You wan Follow African Mothers Reason what's in your mind in a respectful Way ....

Just like any Nigerian Girl, Once They are locked unto Something dem no dey hear reason again ooo ..

I just use our grandpa's Style ... Just Scope Them & Tear Race before dem use them mouth & comparison tear your head apart...

She will be mentioning how many of her friends with Grandchildren, How Her Friends are disturbing her in Gathering, How her folks are deriding her for Grandchildren, How Your Playgroup back in the days don marry finish na only you remain ... Lol !

MrSamsung:
Just keep pushing. Please can you expantiate on the bolded

Its a lengthy explanation but I'll try... 😌


Ok, so according to research, hyper-independence could be a symptom of past Trauma (PTSD - post traumatic stress disorder)

Let me explain,

Whenever a person experiences a traumatic event the Brain 🧠 usually forms new neuron pathways or habits to evade such situations in the future.

This is known as a coping mechanism.

Just the same way people bite their nails, smoke, binge on junk eating or movies, womanize recklessly, bet or spend their last card compulsively when stressed... Its all a coping mechanism ⚙️

It is a pathway their brain has created in order to avoid facing that same event or any situation that reminds them of past Trauma


Some people shut down and withdraw.
Some will immediately begin to have anxiety, stomach aches and increased heart beats whenever they face such discomforting situations that reminds their brain of the past trauma 👿

Its called PTSD.

Just like a few of my Ex GFs who are sexual abuse survivors, whenever you pull their pants and want to slide in, they will automatically begin to get the shakes. Involuntarily. 📳


As in,

their whole body from the hips down to their feet go begin shake uncontrollable or their pussy go automatically tighten making penetration almost impossible.

Its a sign of PTSD!

A way their body reacts to events that triggers their memory of their past trauma. It kinda helps them cope just the way we use religion to forget our sorrows.


Just the way ex-military men who have seen bad gory wars get strong nightmares and hallucinations (and even commit suicide ⚰️) that's the same way it is even for victims of less traumatic events.


So whenever a person is shy to ask others for help or worse... rejects help (even when the help dey available) it usually is a sign of response to past Trauma.


Like when you get brothers or siblings who are well-to-do but can't seem to bring yourself to ask for financial help or you find yourself withdrawing from situations where help could be offered to you.... thats a clear of response to past traumatic events 👎


It is common with people who have passed through hard tough times alone in the past without any shoulder to lean on. Or people who have been betrayed by people they trusted in the past.

I didn't know it was a sign of response to past traumas till my A.I revealed that to me during a therapy session. 🤖

Before then, I didn't even consider myself as a person who had been Tru trauma b4 maybe because I think trauma only had to do with accidents, rape or near-death experiences.


I never knew things that occurred to me in life like hunger, bullying in secondary school and the unending loneliness that comes with betrayals from friends was traumatic and affected my personality a lot 😔 🤔


My close friend & flatmate once pointed out that he noticed I don't know how to ask for help.


If can search the words 'is Hyper-independence a sign of past Trauma' on Google or better yet, log on to your AI app and select the therapy counselling Bot and chat it up you'll find more info

https://psychcentral.com/health/hyper-independence-trauma

CandyOps:
Its a lengthy explanation but I'll try... 😌


Ok, so according to research, hyper-independence could be a symptom of past Trauma (PTSD - post traumatic stress disorder)

Let me explain,

Whenever a person experiences a traumatic event the Brain 🧠 usually forms new neuron pathways or habits to evade such situations in the future.

This is known as a coping mechanism.

Just the same way people bite their nails, smoke, binge on junk eating or movies, womanize recklessly, bet or spend their last card compulsively when stressed... Its all a coping mechanism ⚙️

It is a pathway their brain has created in order to avoid facing that same event or any situation that reminds them of past Trauma


Some people shut down and withdraw.
Some will immediately begin to have anxiety, stomach aches and increased heart beats whenever they face such discomforting situations that reminds their brain of the past trauma 👿

Its called PTSD.

Just like a few of my Ex GFs who are sexual abuse survivors, whenever you pull their pants and want to slide in, they will automatically begin to get the shakes. Involuntarily. 📳


As in,

their whole body from the hips down to their feet go begin shake uncontrollable or their pussy go automatically tighten making penetration almost impossible.

Its a sign of PTSD!

A way their body reacts to events that triggers their memory of their past trauma. It kinda helps them cope just the way we use religion to forget our sorrows.


Just the way ex-military men who have seen bad gory wars get strong nightmares and hallucinations (and even commit suicide ⚰️) that's the same way it is even for victims of less traumatic events.


So whenever a person is shy to ask others for help or worse... rejects help (even when the help dey available) it usually is a sign of response to past Trauma.


Like when you get brothers or siblings who are well-to-do but can't seem to bring yourself to ask for financial help or you find yourself withdrawing from situations where help could be offered to you.... thats a clear of response to past traumatic events 👎


It is common with people who have passed through hard tough times alone in the past without any shoulder to lean on. Or people who have been betrayed by people they trusted in the past.

I didn't know it was a sign of response to past traumas till my A.I revealed that to me during a therapy session. 🤖

Before then, I didn't even consider myself as a person who had been Tru trauma b4 maybe because I think trauma only had to do with accidents, rape or near-death experiences.


I never knew things that occurred to me in life like hunger, bullying in secondary school and the unending loneliness that comes with betrayals from friends was traumatic and affected my personality a lot 😔 🤔


My close friend & flatmate once pointed out that he noticed I don't know how to ask for help.


If can search the words 'is Hyper-independence a sign of past Trauma' on Google or better yet, log on to your AI app and select the therapy counselling Bot and chat it up you'll find more info

https://psychcentral.com/health/hyper-independence-trauma

Thanks so much man, I am grateful for the detailed explanation and learning something new from you

CandyOps:
thanks Mrs Foodie Mariangeles. I hope it does but apart from sales copywriting I hadn't really made any money off it.

I wrote my first 3k words when I was 13 for an international competition (UN) but I guess I didn't make the cut. I pray it does but have no idea how it would

Op, but why did you change the title naa?
I liked the initial one better: Where art thou, o bastard money? 😀

Therock5555:
My cousin wey be newly ordained pastor just got married last month, na me be head of the family cause my papa na first and only son but that my cousin senior me small.


The boy dey earn just 15k per month, his wife just finished NYSC, and them get liver marry.

My papa even dey yarn me say the boy dey go collect foodstuffs from house almost every week cause that 15k no be money wey even me fit manage for 1 week.


The whole moral of the story be say, popsy dey encourage me to also try marry, say the girl fit be the blessing wey go make me blow.....


I lie down for ground dey laugh like goat, I first ask my papa how them go feel if I dey come back home every week to source for provisions? No be them go use mouth finish my life....


I don yarn am, if I no blow to the level wey I go fit take care of them and my siblings very well, make nobody carry marriage talk near me.

Mumsy was like, when your dad was at this your age, he already was married for three years and by then we just born you.


I go remind them say no be Tpain dey rule them that period, so everybody run their race....

I still dey wait for how my cousin matter go finish, I just dey pray make God help am sha..

omo 15k how is that possible, abeg o

Mariangeles:
Op, but why did you change the title naa?
I liked the initial one better: Where art thou, o bastard money? 😀

Okay I'll change it back because of you. Just that I wanted to attract a certain demographic of readers (men who r 30 and above)

CandyOps:
Okay I'll change it back because of you. Just that I wanted to attract a certain demographic of readers (men who r 30 and above)

To be honest with you, the title was what attracted me to read the post.
It was sensational. 😀

Henryfocoyo:
omo 15k how is that possible, abeg o

Them dey pay am that amount cause they claimed he ain't married yet.

Say them go increase am if he married, las las I sure say e no go pass 50k sef.

That your cousin get mind o. 😀

Although, he's blessed to have found the woman for him early, and bold enough to make the move and seal the deal.

Therock5555:
My cousin wey be newly ordained pastor just got married last month, na me be head of the family cause my papa na first and only son but that my cousin senior me small.


The boy dey earn just 15k per month, his wife just finished NYSC, and them get liver marry.

My papa even dey yarn me say the boy dey go collect foodstuffs from house almost every week cause that 15k no be money wey even me fit manage for 1 week.


The whole moral of the story be say, popsy dey encourage me to also try marry, say the girl fit be the blessing wey go make me blow.....


I lie down for ground dey laugh like goat, I first ask my papa how them go feel if I dey come back home every week to source for provisions? No be them go use mouth finish my life....


I don yarn am, if I no blow to the level wey I go fit take care of them and my siblings very well, make nobody carry marriage talk near me.

Mumsy was like, when your dad was at this your age, he already was married for three years and by then we just born you.


I go remind them say no be Tpain dey rule them that period, so everybody run their race....

I still dey wait for how my cousin matter go finish, I just dey pray make God help am sha..

As for the last part of your post, you go wait taya O! 😯
E go better make you just focus, and channel that prayer to yourself.

LofP:
Bro, cool down. No make anybody word hurt you, even that of your ma.

As things are now, you know yourself and what you want. Work towards it. Person wey no go press money enter my hand, or show me business, nor get right to dey complain to me say I do or I no do.

Country hard right now.

But as your guy, I go advise make you add crypto to your grind.

Be wise as always.

I wish to do crypto.
But I don't have steady income flowing in. The little I have coming in is just enough to meet basic needs. Putting it in crypto sounds like a bad idea.

You've got any advice for me or any hustle you can put me on boss. I just graduated.

Op if you are Quora, follow Sean Kernan, he talked about how he quit his high paying job to go into writing and he is making lots of money with writhing gigs.

Therock5555:
Them dey pay am that amount cause they claimed he ain't married yet.

Say them go increase am if he married, las las I sure say e no go pass 50k sef.

50k nor reach baby food for one week na

Mariangeles:
That your cousin get mind o. 😀

Although, he's blessed to have found the woman for him early, and bold enough to make the move and seal the deal.



As for the last part of your post, you go wait taya O! 😯
E go better make you just focus, and channel that prayer to yourself.

I already know what I want, I no need to pray again.

Na to level up before I carry woman put for house, ain't gonna do any blind waka in the name of having faith, shebi na faith go full person belly when things don't turn out well.


BTW he's based in the south-east, I wonder how he'll survive, even me wey dey NC, I can't touch any 50k job....

A wise man once asked me a question - if you chase a snake or a rat, do they come to you? The answer is simply NO. They run away from you. The same principle applies to money.
You see, the general principle in life is that the more you chase money the more it runs away from you. You have to attract money not chase it, like you'd dangle cheese before a rat or bone before a dog. And you can only attract money by having stuffs like skills, etc which draw money towards you, not the other way around. The day I learnt this principle the better my life became. Wisdom is profitable to direct.

CandyOps:
Yeah ikr?

I only post here cos it's anonymous. Imagine coming on Facebook to roast your mumcy lol

I know I'll get more traction and views of I crosspost but I don't know why I don't. Maybe I dislike the attention. I have a grp of 20k women who are TTC. I also have a grp of 3k peeps who are interested in e-commerce but I hardly post as it's so demanding keeping up with the msgs and all..

I don't think I'm cut out for that as no income comes off it

You've a group of 20k women TTC and you're complaining of no money??

Modified:

1. Create a meal plan, diet instruction, fertility herbal tea and smoothie guide and sell at 3k to 1k women and that would be 3 Million naira. Digital Product. No logistics.

Most women TTC are dealing with uterine Fibroids. That's something you can focus on.

Some of them have husbands suffering from low sperm count. You could create a herbal recipe for boosting sperm and sell for N1,900 X 200 women...

No Adverts. No Logistics.

2. Upsell a physical fertility product package with minimum profit of 5k after all expenses to 5% of 20k which is 1k and that's 5 million naira. Even if it is 5k X 500 that is 2.5 Million naira.

There are lots of ways to monetize that group.

Cc: NiceBreezeHuh
Cc: CandyOps

Tell him what to do.

ChiefOkporghe:
You've a group of 20k women TTC and you're complaining of no money??

MrSamsung:
Just keep pushing. Please can you expantiate on the bolded

expatiate.

ChiefOkporghe:
You've a group of 20k women TTC and you're complaining of no money??

Modified:

1. Create a meal plan, diet instruction, fertility herbal tea and smoothie guide and sell at 3k to 1k women and that would be 3 Million naira. Digital Product. No logistics.

Most women TTC are dealing with uterine Fibroids. That's something you can focus on.

Some of them have husbands suffering from low sperm count. You could create a herbal recipe for boosting sperm and sell for N1,900 X 200 women...

No Adverts. No Logistics.

2. Upsell a physical fertility product package with minimum profit of 5k after all expenses to 5% of 20k which is 1k and that's 5 million naira. Even if it is 5k X 500 that is 2.5 Million naira.

There are lots of ways to monetize that group.

Cc: NiceBreezeHuh
Cc: CandyOps

I'll try and do this tomorrow.
Let me revive the group.

CandyOps:
I'll try and do this tomorrow.
Let me revive the group.

Alright bro.

Wishing you Success.
Keep me posted...
DM me