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aswani:
Don't forget some wife's or husbands don't want parents of their spouses in their house.

That's something both couples need to work on. I mean it's cool having ones parents around, but not cool when it turns to something frequent and long stays. Me self no go gree for that frequent doings.

Samantha125:
Some elderly people people are a piece of work... I've heard a lot of people complain about them... Even a naughty child can be far better.

My maternal grandmother is also one of them, she moved in with us back home in 2020, but by 2022, we've all had enough of her, she was always causing conflicts in the house... My mother finally decided to take her to an old age home last year because none of her siblings wanted her in their house.

Lol 😂 you guys did Grandma dirty
It's a piece of work because, then you become a baby with other body, you know babies are piece of work too. Normally elderlies are confusions, their brains can't clock fast like the younger ones, that's why most times their actions and ways they reason and do things causes troubles. I can testify to that cus I too have experienced that with my mom.

Yeah, I believe it's possible to be happy without any of those. If you are in a good position to have them, however, I wouldn't advise that you ignore completely.

I think what's probably more important is to have a purpose in life. Something that you do and feel happy or fulfilled, even if you're not getting paid for it, and so can easily devote your life (or free time) to.

It helps to have a good support system but they may not even be family (in the regular sense). One may also be able to build that support system in the course of fulfilling a purpose, I think.

Sp1ritHusband:
I know lots of older people who are miserable because of their spouses and children. There are no guarantees in life my friend and, the surest is to find happiness for yourself.

So true, so so true

Suicideboy:
Long story short, I've dedicated my whole life to my career, now holding an engineering role with close ties to my company's executive committee. To get here, I chose to stay single and even burned bridges with family and friends.

Recently, though, I've been questioning it all. A close colleague, who worked directly under the CTO and was with the firm for nearly 20 years, was abruptly fired after a minor disagreement. Seeing someone so loyal and experienced dismissed so easily made me realize how fragile my own position is. If that happened to me, I don’t know if I could recover. It's left me feeling nihilistic about all the sacrifices I made for my career.

I can buy any car I want, own the latest phones and gadgets, dine at the finest restaurants, and even pay for the company of the most expensive escorts. Yet, none of it fills the void. I’ve achieved what most would call success, but it feels hollow. Every purchase, every indulgence, is just a fleeting distraction from the emptiness that lingers. The more I have, the more I realize how little it all means. What’s the point of all this wealth and status if, at the end of the day, I still feel utterly alone and unfulfilled?

The curse of Sisyphus. It's the human condition. Family won't fill the emptiness either. However, a wife and kids might make it more tolerable.

I don't know about centering one's life around a particular company. Jobs don't really come with a lifetime guarantee and just one illness could rob one of a career, so I wouldn't recommend building one's life around a career or a company. 🤔

Suicideboy:
➜ What’s the point of all this wealth and status if, at the end of the day, I still feel utterly alone and unfulfilled?

If you do not like your current life, you can change it up. Get yourself a relationship or even get married. But if I were you, I would first consider reconnecting with existing family— maybe nephews and nieces first— and patching things up with them first. See how they are doing and see if maybe that is what you need to fill that loneliness you feel inside. Try getting a dog or fish to raise... I think considering a relationship and then marriage should be only after you have tried everything else.

That said, yes, it is quite possible to be happy without marriage and children. That is a fact! 🤔

ThothHermes:
➜The curse of Sisyphus. It's the human condition. Family won't fill the emptiness either. However, a wife and kids might make it more tolerable.

Stop going around telling people this lie. Family does not have to mean a wife and kids. Family could simply be your biological family or maybe even a bunch of dogs. A wife and kids are, in most cases, additional burdens that could exacerbate the feeling of loneliness.

Kobojunkie:
Stop going around telling people this lie. Family does not have to mean a wife and kids. Family could simply be your biological family or maybe even a bunch of dogs. A wife and kids are additional burdens.

Psychojunkie
Still trolling I see.

Sp1ritHusband:
➜I know lots of older people who are miserable because of their spouses and children. There are no guarantees in life my friend and, the surest is to find happiness for yourself.

😊😊😊😊

After hustling all day at work, who do you discuss your day, plans, and aspirations with? At the end of the day, you'll need someone you can call your own. Your work, friends, bosses, neighbours, and even brothers/sisters won't give you that. A day will come when you'll need them and they would be too busy with their own lives. That is not to say that a life of solitude (no family at all) is impossible, but not many can deal with the consequences. This thread is already a proof that you can't deal with the consequences and you're not even 60 yet (?)

That old lady doesn't want peace, she always wants problems to a point that none of her children want her in their house.

One time she became sick and we started rushing to buy black outfits for her funeral, I even bought some black lace gloves with a matching hat because we thought she wouldn't survive the sickness and mom was already smelling that insurance money, only for the old lady to start feeling better in a couple of days... It's been two years now and those black outfits are still waiting...

marlow1962:
Lol 😂 you guys did Grandma dirty
It's a piece of work because, then you become a baby with other body, you know babies are piece of work too. Normally elderlies are confusions, their brains can't clock fast like the younger ones, that's why most times their actions and ways they reason and do things causes troubles. I can testify to that cus I too have experienced that with my mom.

Samantha125:
That old lady doesn't want peace, she always wants problems to a point that none of her children want her in their house.

One time she became sick and we started rushing to buy black outfits for her funeral, I even bought some black lace gloves with a matching hat because we thought she wouldn't survive the sickness and mom was already smelling that insurance money, only for the old lady to start feeling better in a couple of days... It's been two years now and those black outfits are still waiting...

She did you guys "the more you look, the less you see"

Suicideboy:
Long story short, I've dedicated my whole life to my career, now holding an engineering role with close ties to my company's executive committee. To get here, I chose to stay single and even burned bridges with family and friends.

Recently, though, I've been questioning it all. A close colleague, who worked directly under the CTO and was with the firm for nearly 20 years, was abruptly fired after a minor disagreement. Seeing someone so loyal and experienced dismissed so easily made me realize how fragile my own position is. If that happened to me, I don’t know if I could recover. It's left me feeling nihilistic about all the sacrifices I made for my career.

I can buy any car I want, own the latest phones and gadgets, dine at the finest restaurants, and even pay for the company of the most expensive escorts. Yet, none of it fills the void. I’ve achieved what most would call success, but it feels hollow. Every purchase, every indulgence, is just a fleeting distraction from the emptiness that lingers. The more I have, the more I realize how little it all means. What’s the point of all this wealth and status if, at the end of the day, I still feel utterly alone and unfulfilled?

Mumu guy with entitlement mentality.

okoroemeka:
I think from your own observations you have already have the answer to the question you asked,a time will reach in your life that those gadgets,money and things that make you happy now will taste like ashs and dust in your mouth,you will seek companionship,good,health and family,go and build bridges with your family and get a good woman to marry,,one tree does not make a forest.

He's already feeling such at this stage.

Even I wouldn't want my parents to come and live with me when they're in their old age, I value my peace... Already I told them that they shouldn't bother themselves with me...

I'll either get them a professional caregiver to look after them in the comfort of their home, or send them to an old age home close to where I live so I can visit them weekly.

aswani:
Don't forget some wife's or husbands don't want parents of their spouses in their house.

Samantha125:
Even I wouldn't want my parents to come and live with me when they're in their old age, I value my peace... Already I told them that they shouldn't bother themselves with me...

I'll either get them a professional caregiver to look after them in the comfort of their home, or send them to an old age home close to where I live so I can visit them weekly.

That's fair enough.

Suicideboy:
Long story short, I've dedicated my whole life to my career, now holding an engineering role with close ties to my company's executive committee. To get here, I chose to stay single and even burned bridges with family and friends.

Recently, though, I've been questioning it all. A close colleague, who worked directly under the CTO and was with the firm for nearly 20 years, was abruptly fired after a minor disagreement. Seeing someone so loyal and experienced dismissed so easily made me realize how fragile my own position is. If that happened to me, I don’t know if I could recover. It's left me feeling nihilistic about all the sacrifices I made for my career.

I can buy any car I want, own the latest phones and gadgets, dine at the finest restaurants, and even pay for the company of the most expensive escorts. Yet, none of it fills the void. I’ve achieved what most would call success, but it feels hollow. Every purchase, every indulgence, is just a fleeting distraction from the emptiness that lingers. The more I have, the more I realize how little it all means. What’s the point of all this wealth and status if, at the end of the day, I still feel utterly alone and unfulfilled?

If you have what you claimed you have....

Turn your Knowledges to Businesses...

Start your own shop before the inevitable happens or it may never happen ....

As for me, A Man must be married with children to fulfill his biological cycle .... an Unmarried man is an incomplete Man ......!!