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hartson:
oh!didn't know it is noon already probably my mind is totally embroidered with work.
Thanks for reminding me.

kayperry:
describing wont do justice to it like you picking one by one and imagine the opposite

imagine talking to her, and her mode of interjection are exclamation "ehn ehn" "really" "are you serious"

OK, I’m not sure I completely understand your point, but here’s what I think you mean:

Each trait, perceived as unpleasant for being on one extreme, can have an equally unpleasant opposite extreme. For example, the opposite of being over-talkative could be someone who is completely unresponsive and contributes nothing substantial to a conversation, only interjections ehn, are you serious, ah ahn 😂 I know this type too.

If that’s the case, I tend to agree with you. Let’s revisit your original question, then go through the list, and imagine their polar opposites. I’ll also consider how I’d likely react to or what outcomes might result from each. (Caveat: These opposites might not be their “natural” counterparts—I’m intentionally taking them to extremes)



1. Turnoff: Interrupting habit

Opposite: Always lets you finish speaking before responding.
Outcome: Better communication, but conversations might feel mechanical.
Reaction: Admiration and respect for her communication skills, I sha value a natural flow.


2. Turnoff: Over-talkative

Opposite: Barely speaks or engages.
Outcome: Conversations lack depth, preventing a meaningful connection.
Reaction: Still a turnoff, as balanced communication is not too much to ask for.



3. Turnoff: Excessive family gossip

Opposite: Keeps personal interactions with family private and avoids gossip.
Outcome: Limited family bonding or bonds formed around different topics.
Reaction: Likely admiration for her discretion, turn-on.


4. Turnoff: Sharing secrets

Opposite: Keeps others' business completely confidential.
Outcome: Builds trust and encourages me to be more open in my interactions with her.
Reaction: Strong admiration for her trustworthiness. Hot AF. 🔥



5. Turnoff: Self-obsessed

Opposite: Poor self-image,
Outcome: frequently seeking validation.
Reaction: Mixed—enjoyment from supporting her growth in building self confidence but frustration if it becomes too draining.



6. Turnoff: Virtue signaling

Opposite: Vice signaling (bragging about bad behavior).
Outcome: I for don already log out tey-tey.
Reaction: repulsion due to misaligned values. Turnoff!



7. Turnoff: Clingy behavior/obsessive tendencies

Opposite: I don't care attitude.
Outcome: no spark, no connection.
Reaction: turnoff!


As already mentioned, I don't consider these above to be natural opposites, just a test for extremes for the sake of building an argument. Below is what I consider as the opposites of the originally listed turnoffs.


1. Respectful Listener: Engages in conversations without interrupting, understands that other people also have something to say.


2. Good Conversationalist: Maintains balance, not chochocho all the damn time. You need to listen to what others have to say too.


3. Healthy Family Dynamics: No excessive gossip. They should all mind their business.


4. Discreet: Protects others’ privacy.

5. Modest Confidence: Comfortable in her own skin without constant boasting or reminding you want a catch she is.


6. Genuinely Kind: She's generous and kind without parroting what she has done to whoever cares to listen.


7. Emotionally Balanced: Respects personal space. 3 missed max then send text expressing your concern and wait.

DemonSlayer:
OK, I’m not sure I completely understand your point, but here’s what I think you mean:

Each trait, perceived as unpleasant for being on one extreme, can have an equally unpleasant opposite extreme. For example, the opposite of being over-talkative could be someone who is completely unresponsive and contributes nothing substantial to a conversation, only interjections ehn, are you serious, ah ahn 😂 I know this type too.

If that’s the case, I tend to agree with you. Let’s revisit your original question, then go through the list, and imagine their polar opposites. I’ll also consider how I’d likely react to or what outcomes might result from each. (Caveat: These opposites might not be their “natural” counterparts—I’m intentionally taking them to extremes)



1. Turnoff: Interrupting habit

Opposite: Always lets you finish speaking before responding.
Outcome: Better communication, but conversations might feel mechanical.
Reaction: Admiration and respect for her communication skills, I sha value a natural flow.


2. Turnoff: Over-talkative

Opposite: Barely speaks or engages.
Outcome: Conversations lack depth, preventing a meaningful connection.
Reaction: Still a turnoff, as balanced communication is not too much to ask for.



3. Turnoff: Excessive family gossip

Opposite: Keeps personal interactions with family private and avoids gossip.
Outcome: Limited family bonding or bonds formed around different topics.
Reaction: Likely admiration for her discretion, turn-on.


4. Turnoff: Sharing secrets

Opposite: Keeps others' business completely confidential.
Outcome: Builds trust and encourages me to be more open in my interactions with her.
Reaction: Strong admiration for her trustworthiness. Hot AF. 🔥



5. Turnoff: Self-obsessed

Opposite: Poor self-image,
Outcome: frequently seeking validation.
Reaction: Mixed—enjoyment from supporting her growth in building self confidence but frustration if it becomes too draining.



6. Turnoff: Virtue signaling

Opposite: Vice signaling (bragging about bad behavior).
Outcome: I for don already log out tey-tey.
Reaction: repulsion due to misaligned values. Turnoff!



7. Turnoff: Clingy behavior/obsessive tendencies

Opposite: I don't care attitude.
Outcome: no spark, no connection.
Reaction: turnoff!


As already mentioned, I don't consider these above to be natural opposites, just a test for extremes for the sake of building an argument. Below is what I consider as the opposites of the originally listed turnoffs.


1. Respectful Listener: Engages in conversations without interrupting, understands that other people also have something to say.


2. Good Conversationalist: Maintains balance, not chochocho all the damn time. You need to listen to what others have to say too.


3. Healthy Family Dynamics: No excessive gossip. They should all mind their business.


4. Discreet: Protects others’ privacy.

5. Modest Confidence: Comfortable in her own skin without constant boasting or reminding you want a catch she is.


6. Genuinely Kind: She's generous and kind without parroting what she has done to whoever cares to listen.


7. Emotionally Balanced: Respects personal space. 3 missed max then send text expressing your concern and wait.

Funnily shey you know there is no "correct answer" sef, its all just base on perception, personality and turn on/off

another man food is another man poison don talk am finish

The Economy...

Mummyfour:
He threw me out of the house at midnight so many years ago. He and his siblings said that a prophet told them I was a witch and wanted to kill him. I knew it was simply because I was trying to do a little marketing of products to be earning small small money by the side o. Because any time we had issues, he would deny me access to funds. So his ego was damaged 😀😀

So they threw me out o.

Kai you suffered, sometimes I read stuff like this and I just live in denial cuz how come you keep getting the thrashy treatment when you don't have your own faults. And why would someone treat you this way because you're ambitious or you want to earn your own money, cuz ambitious women wey I dey find I no see. Then lastly how do you people meet such guys, cuz your story sounds absurd and unbelievable like you embellished it.

Mummyfour:
🤣🤣 thanks so much. I go invite you. Let me note it down

I greet you well!!!

delishpot:
The first girls karma will forever haunt you. What yeye table do you have that anybody will be bringing anything on? You know say you no like person then leave her with no karma attached. Right now you are battling devil's in your head, you feel like you are running in a tunnel , you can see the light at the end but you seem to never be able to reach it. It's cos of your wickedness. Your mind is playing you but you tell yourself it's just your imagination. You are a wicked person besides this girl. You are a user, you think you are smart but you know it's not smartness. You use people. It will take 17 yrs of penance for your mind to stop tormenting you. You remember king Saul? It's not about your success just like him. 17 yrs mark it.

This comment dey scary o

lendahand:
you people are the problem of this country from Tinubu down to keyboard warriors like you.

And you are the salvation of this country, right?

You are dealing with just one person but you had to keep attacking a whole tribe of over 30million people
Whats logical about that?

Rest, Chikamso

DemonSlayer:
Madly in love with? Naah, too old for that sh!t.

However, if the question were what turned you off from someone you fancied, I could pull out a fairly recent instance. I could list a bunch of things that turned me off, but here are the top seven.

1. She has a habit of interrupting. I'd be right in the middle of a sentence expressing my thoughts, and she'd just interrupt and hijack the conversation. I find that rude and off-putting because this attitude has to sit on the assumption that what she has to say is more important than what I'm already saying. I'm not used to struggling to put a word in, or having to raise my voice in a perfectly civil conversation just to be heard. Along the same lines is:


2. She talks too much. We could be on the phone for an hour, and she'd have talked for 55 minutes. I understand the stereotype of the talkative female and their need to air out the entire content of their mind, but a conversation is supposed to be a dialogue, not a monologue, for a reason. I tend to think this behavior signals a self-centered person.

About 3 weeks in, I knew virtually everything about her—down to the marital issues of her parents' neighbours back home. She doesn't even know how many siblings I have or what their names are, I asked her which State I'm from and I swear she guessed the wrong one. Leading us to:


3. She's always on the phone with her mom or sister, sharing the latest gossip—be it about an extended family member, a church member, a neighbour, etc. Every 10 or 15 minutes, the phone rings—mommy is calling. Even informing her mom of my presence when I visit. Not far from this is:


4. She shares secrets of mutual friends/acquaintances without being asked. I literally have a big sack of people's secrets that I'm taking to my grave and I don't understand why people just volunteer other people's private business when there isn't a pew-pew 🔫 pressed to their temple.


5. She talks about her own beauty too much. If it's not her luxuriant, long black hair, it's her spotless fair skin, and the list of people who fell for her because of these features.

🎼So if you like
The way 🎶
🎵 you look that much
Oh baby you should go and fvçk yourself 🎶


6. She fakes virtue. Always talking about acts of kindness and generosity that she and her family have done.


7. And finally, the most scary thing—the straw that broke the camel's back—is: she once gave me 32 missed calls in a single day. Maybe it's a joke or something, but to me, it was absolute psycho!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oyEuk8j8imI?si=_vnk-But-QOXCCbB

I hope you fúcked her well before you left her

ecomalchemistt:
She too Dey disturb me for money..

Today “Plz CaN u Do Me A faVor”

Tomorrow “My gaZ Has fINished”

Next week “I dOnT haVe TransPort Money”

Wetin bring that kain leg come , when Tinubu Dey deal with all man squarely,,, abeg o!

Everyday na one family problem to the other, I gatts commot plug 🔌 from that relationship cause na poverty alleviation scheme be that one.



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BareFacedLies:
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dauntless15:
Kai you suffered, sometimes I read stuff like this and I just live in denial cuz how come you keep getting the thrashy treatment when you don't have your own faults. And why would someone treat you this way because you're ambitious or you want to earn your own money, cuz ambitious women wey I dey find I no see. Then lastly how do you people meet such guys, cuz your story sounds absurd and unbelievable like you embellished it.

I don't embellish stories for any reason. Truth they say is bitter and always sounds strange. But it happened and there are worst stories that are stranger than what you just read. I wanted to create a thread about it a while ago, but I was like, no need. Nobody would believe me. So I kept it to myself. I am writing a book about it though and my children have been very supportive. Most times the things you read or watch in movies are real life experiences. Because it didn't happen to you, doesn't mean its not happening to someone else

Mummyfour:
I don't embellish stories for any reason. Truth they say is bitter and always sounds strange. But it happened and there are worst stories that are stranger than what you just read. I wanted to create a thread about it a while ago, but I was like, no need. Nobody would believe me. So I kept it to myself. I am writing a book about it though and my children have been very supportive. Most times the things you read or watch in movies are real life experiences. Because it didn't happen to you, doesn't mean its not happening to someone else

I won't refute your story, you're the only one who know what happened so that's that, just saying it's alot, stay strong, the worst has come and gone, it only get better from then on.

dauntless15:
I won't refute your story, you're the only one who know what happened so that's that, just saying it's alot, stay strong, the worst has come and gone, it only get better from then on.

thanks 👍

Mummyfour:
I have been expecting this. Nobody ever said I was perfect. Nobody is perfect. But at times our own imperfections pales out by a higher imperfection. Hope you understand what I mean?

And any imperfection that comes with physical, verbal abuse and all round domestic violence, it's not really worth it.

Ok...

Reply my msg.

luminouz:
She farted into my egusi soup.

I don't play with my food

Lol, how is this even possible

Rillycool:
Lol, how is this even possible

I'm clowning bro🤣🤣🤣

DemonSlayer:
Asking questions about someone indicates curiosity which implies interest. Depending on how early on in the "somewhat talking stage" the two are and the personality (age, experience, exposure) of the person in question, she might not what to come off as being equally interested off the bat, considering the relationship dynamic that places the man as the initiator. Or she could be rather timid.

Responding to questions, depending on the depth of the answers, shows a level of being invested and being comfortable enough with the other party to have things progress.

That said, connection is built through mutual sharing. In reacting to her answers, the guy could share his own experience and perspective, add a little drama and funny hyperbole to what he shares to pull a reaction from her or suspense to pique curiosity.

A good conversation should feel like a playing tennis, freely bouncing from one side of the court to the other with both parties being sufficiently engaged.

I just came online. Thanks. Your respond are rich. Stay bless.

Samantha125:
But you hate South Africans.

Yes because you guys hate other Africans.
But I see you're different and like we Nigerians.