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Every woman want to be successful

You can have a family and still be wealthy, but don't abandon family at the expense of wanting to be rich.

As u rightly said "age"

I would advice u chase both at once. Chase ur dreams while u chase opportunities for family.

BUT ..

The most important thing is not losing your femininity while chasing success, because that's the reason most men find successful women unattractive.

You can achieve both.

This life is all about choices and consequences. Cause and effect. Sowing and reaping.

What matters most to you now and what will matter to you 50 years from now? This decision will influence your choices.

May the Force be with you!

A miserable life doesn't worth living. I came from a lowly background and with zero family support. Due to the various challenges I faced as a result of these basic support , I have determined to never stop until I have more than enough to feed the society before I settle to own and nurture a family of my own.

After my law school, I had just one horrible job experience before landing my current associate role.

In fact, the firm I work for demonstrate and reflect reliably the nature of firm I have personally wanted to work for.

Things appear to be working for my own good. The work environment is comfortable. It's a platform that ultimately encourages transformation of their associates.

Within a few months of joining this firm, I have observed significant improvement in my abilities- speaking, writing and logical reasoning and client acquisition.

I now have clarity of how close I am to my destination and as each day passes by I get more obsessed with the process of achieving my goal.

I have conviction that to become the best requires knowing the truth path and learning off the shoulder of giants. Not just giants but those with zero bigotry of low expectations in their dealing with you.

I'm always grateful to God for putting me in where I am today. Sometimes I do unconsciously acknowledge my principal for being probably the last kind of good human left in this world.

I am in my early 30s and I feel getting married now is actually important but then finding the right woman has now become a big challenge for me.

I meet mostly women with loose and empty and vain dreams, and that's for a few who manage to have any at all.

With each significant development I observe about my growth each day, it sends down my spine huge sigh of relief that my future is secured.

I think the best is to focus on ones goal and never to let down on ones future children. That's my greatest fear and the ultimate reason I won't back down until I reach the pinnacle of my ultimate dream.

dkidd:
Continue ooh. My prayer is may God protect the wise girls and women from females like U. Una done do enough damages every where already

No, the status quo will and must change because men have preyed upon women for centuries.

Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

Being the jack of your dream is the set back here.
You can't be everything, every where all at once for your dream. That is where delegation come in.

You should not be afraid of letting others run your business. That is what men do.

The only thing is men grow to be monsters (kind of) so as to instil fear on their employees to protect their business. But women hardly grows to that extent. If you do, your own staff could eliminate you.

You can not be a man. But you can, by God's favour, have a man figure that would watch over your business while you relics on it successes.

Ask and believe.

Zooposki:
No, the status quo will and must change because men have preyed upon women for centuries.

Awon feminist abi na feminazi Weldon ehhn 👋

mjglobalservice:
Every woman want to be successful

Where is Ur bus services located? If on the island of Lagos can U go to Oyo state (drop off and pick up) no waiting?

sonofsteven:
I've got a solid advice for ya

Pursue your career

When you get some certain amount of success, go for sperm donor, carry pregnancy and deliver as much as you want and continue your life

If you are unable to carry pregnancy, or pregnancies, pay for surrogacy, have your eggs taken and fertilized in another's and you pay them

So it won't disturb your career

Who go come give her the companionship,love and support .

Mind you children is not the bone of contention here.

Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

Just go for a man who support your dream.

Your concerns are valid, and many women face similar fears and pressures. Here are some thoughts to consider:

Societal Pressures and Expectations
1. Recognize that societal pressures are not absolute: While there are certain expectations around marriage and family in Nigeria, it's essential to remember that these are not one-size-fits-all. You have the power to create your own path and define what success means to you.
2. Challenge negative stereotypes: Don't let societal pressures dictate your choices. Instead, focus on building a support network of people who encourage and believe in you.

Balancing Family Life and Personal Ambitions
1. It's possible to balance both: Many successful women have achieved their goals while raising a family. It may require careful planning, time management, and support, but it's not impossible.
2. Communicate with your partner: If you do get married, having an open and honest conversation with your partner about your goals and aspirations is crucial. This can help you both find ways to support each other's dreams.
3. Seek out role models and mentors: Look for women who have achieved success in their respective fields while balancing family life. Learn from their experiences, and don't be afraid to ask for advice.

Time and Age Constraints
1. Focus on progress, not perfection: Don't put too much pressure on yourself to achieve everything at once. Break down your goals into smaller, manageable steps, and celebrate your progress along the way.
2. Prioritize self-care and time management: Taking care of your physical and mental health is essential for maintaining energy and focus. Learn to prioritize your tasks, set realistic deadlines, and take breaks when needed.

Final Thoughts
1. Your dreams are worth fighting for: Don't let fear or societal pressures hold you back from pursuing your goals. You have the power to create the life you want.
2. Stay flexible and adaptable: Life is unpredictable, and things don't always go as planned. Be prepared to adjust your goals and plans as needed.
3. *Surround yourself with positivity and support*: Build a network of people who believe in you and your abilities. This can help you stay motivated and focused on your goals.

Remember, your journey is unique, and what works for someone else might not work for you. Stay true to yourself, and don't be afraid to take the leap toward your dreams.

Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

Animegirl:
How powerful is my mind, hmm.

You see, what you men want vs what I want is quite different. I'm unlucky meeting guys who don't align with mine. Moreover I'm not obsess with power, I just want to be successful and wealthy.

baby girl you can achieve anything in this world
Just learn to balance both
But the truth is most men would prefer a family oriented woman

Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

Your fears largely depends on your partner, so make you you iron this out with the man you are with.

But also understand that in life, we cannot have it all. Maybe we can have it all, but it will be at a different time period. You can have some flexibility as an entrepreneur, but as an employee, in Nigeria, it will be difficult.

Most importantly, make sure you already have the ball rolling towards your goal, then when a man shows up, it will be a situation of adjustment, alignment and integration into each other's life, instead of disruption.

Relax, be yourself, live your life, go for your dreams but make sure you give having kid(s) a chance.e get why. We can't reverse time and we can't have it all.just know

Not necessarily but You can't eat your cake and have it.

I don't know, go and ask your grandfather.

Well... follow your heart, whatever people says here doesn't really matter what you will do is already in your mind, but don't come here and start lamenting - vanity upon vanity kind of things, when you eventually become wealthy and rich, who's gonna spend it with you...loneliness, depression is always on standby...come and see a lot of them *here* having nothing to live for, wealth is there (which is fine) but no husband, no kids, no family...

I learnt about approach approach conflict at school many years ago. The two things you want to do are both positive ..therefore chose one and let go of the other.. I however want you to know to that as a woman ; if you don't capitalize on your season of productivity and fertility ,dambling into marriage later May bring you stress and headache because women eggs reduce in quality as their age increases . Except you want to freeze your own for future usage. Our once upon a time society ladies are looking for husband to no avail today because men know they have passed their productive season. Their money can't.satisfy their desires anymore.

Namaster:
Marriage and children are EXCUSES used by rat-minded women to justify their MEDIOCRITY.

Choose a spouse whose ambitions and expectations ALIGN with yours.

DON'T marry a man who's interested in a homemaker and turn around to bitch about it.

FOLLOW the footsteps of the Venerable Madam Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala.

Google how many kids Ngozi has, convince me how a woman with no time for family can have such number

casualobserver:
You can’t have everything in life…no one does. Choose the one you will not regret. As a woman I will advise you prioritize family and children. That is Gods purpose for women. Trust me career success as a woman will come at great cost to you because it is not the natural path for a woman. People may admire and applaud you if you reach great career heights as a woman but you will bear the pain of choosing career over family in private.

well said. I will add to it by also saying that generally women get thier highest fulfilment from nurturing and comforting which point in the direction of people(family,children and loved ones).

Obnoxious2001:
Who go come give her the companionship,love and support .

Mind you children is not the bone of contention here.

I may be termed a simp.or whatever

But one thing or characteristics I look out for in a woman is the fact that she dreams big I mean dreams that is realistic, and she's got respect and acknowledge me as the crown on her head

I will be willing to go every hook and crooner for her,I mean support her,love her and see her living her dreams,for the children, if we can't get a better nanny, we can put the kids in a good school with my nieces and nephews,with a car provided, so that my siblings wives or sisters or cousins can bring all back to her house,lesson teachers will come there to teach them etc, every evening if I close early,I go there to carry my kids and go home to bathe them, and feed them, I did it for my uncle's children, I cooked for the whole family while the wife was lazying about as a full time housewife, how much for my own household....

If my wife gets home before me,she'd go bring the kids,more of communication....

Though I'm yet to see a wife who has the ops mindset...


For your info... some men do these in china,most women in china loves the work while some of the men help them take care of chores

Even our African brothers do the cooking and cleaning in the home because most chinese women find it difficult to clean and cook African dishes too.. my guy wey dey marry Madagascar woman na him dey cook and clean him house...

Peace

Stay on the path. But don't get too heady. You're making progress. That's what matters... Life will give you what you need at the right time. I like people that have a growth mindset.

It is very simple
Marry a woman like you
Don't get married
Don't have children
If you don't want to listen
Marry a man that you are better than so you will control him

Wealthoptulent:
wetin u want? be a business woman with pyjamas 80k + ur body at delivery = TOTAL package 300k and 3 years in to business u go connect pass Google MAP or other wise

Animegirl please whatever you do, don't reply this idiot.

It's good having this ambition. I have some questions if you would not mind answering.
What do you intend doing with the excess money when you acquire them? What's your drive for wanting so so much wealth?

Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

I really like your energetic choice, Can we have a talk, if yes then get back to me

You want an advice on something this important and you come on Nairaland - the hub of misogynistic men to ask? I hope their answers have given you enough guidance.


Please find women with thriving businesses and careers who have managed or are managing their homes well to give you practical advice. Only a woman can accurately tell you what it takes to combine both. This is why we need more women at the top and also an equitable distribution of driven women across Nigerian families. And no, you won't be lonely. You would only have to deal with 2% of Nigerian men.

pocohantas:
You want an advice on something this important and you come on Nairaland - the hub of misogynistic men to ask? I hope their answers have given you enough guidance.


Please find women with thriving businesses and careers who have managed or are managing their homes well to give you practical advice. Only a woman can accurately tell you what it takes to combine both. This is why we need more women at the top and also an equitable distribution of driven women across Nigerian families. And no, you won't be lonely. You would only have to deal with 2% of Nigerian men.

Okay, thanks Ma'am.

Animegirl:
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams.

I'm really scared.

I prefer successful women, wise men like solomon understand this, a woman of value. Can you text my email,

enter123:
Well... follow your heart, whatever people says here doesn't really matter what you will do is already in your mind, but don't come here and start lamenting - vanity upon vanity kind of things, when you eventually become wealthy and rich, who's gonna spend it with you...loneliness, depression is always on standby...come and see a lot of them *here* having nothing to live for, wealth is there (which is fine) but no husband, no kids, no family...

Lol.. No mind the OP. One thing many people have not learned especially this part of the world is that no human can have it all. You give something up to get another. Those who are close to have had it all (the seemingly perfect life) are very very few in number. And on such a journey as this, there are dangers too, toes to step on, happiness to forgo, even sins to commit.

Every body go dey alright last last, after all it's all a rat race journey to nowhere!

Make everybody choose him own part, go do whatever dem feel and reap the consequences. Make nobody dey whine our peace for here 😌😌

papyjaypaul:
Should I tell you the worst thing? Once a man has seen that there is no need to provide, he stops hustling. He becomes mentally lazy, not totally his fault but because of the conditioning. He doesn't see the need anymore. There is already security and this thing pisses women off because they still expect him to work hard and make money. They call him deadbeat and write him off. This same man will see a poor girl and work hard to elevate her. When the man is beneath her, she does not see his worth even if he is trying his best.

The bold is so true. On Twitter, a well to do man was accuse by his wife of being lazy and deadbeat. This is a man who owns the house they live in and has more than $2M in liquid assets, plus his earnings from the sale of his company is twice of the wife's salary. But because he's a sit-at-home dad, he is seen as lazy 🙄

They don't mind taking care of their family members and other emotional stuff but it makes her crazy when she is doing the work of provider and caregiver. A woman would rather bea single mom and know that she is the only one taking care of the family than to have a man who is around and not doing anything.

Another truth. I've seen so many times.

Humans cannot defeat nature. Women are hypergamous as they marry up, not down.

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I just saw your screenshots. Thank you for posting them alongside your message. Facts there, not the lovey-dovey posts we'd see from unrealistic Nairalanders.