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Good afternoon everyone, am a 28 year old guy with good successful businesses and I can say I am doing well all thanks to God.

The problem I have is my inability to spend money on myself, I don't dress well nor do I eat well. People often doubt if I have the things I have cos I don't look it at all. Am modest to a fault, I haven't eaten chicken for the last 5years am being serious here. I just find it extremely difficult to spend money on Myself.

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I asked my few friends if I give off poverty mentality vibes and they said YES. Growing up was really really tough on me as i come from a very poor home, I don't know if that has affected my psyche.

Please how do I defeat this mentality

Paragonpric:
Good afternoon everyone, am a 28 year old guy with good successful businesses and I can say I am doing well all thanks to God.

The problem I have is my inability to spend money on myself, I don't dress well nor do I eat well. People often doubt if I have the things I have cos I don't look it at all. Am modest to a fault, I haven't eaten chicken for the last 5years am being serious here. I just find it extremely difficult to spend money on Myself.

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I asked my few friends if I give off poverty mentality vibes and they said YES. Growing up was really really tough on me as i come from a very poor home, I don't know if that has affected my psyche.

Please how do I defeat this mentality

Can we be friends?

You will have to pay for my advice...

Its a thing of the mind and its sometimes tied to one's self-esteem

You need to try read books about mind-shift or mind-growth and sometimes, try move with people that would make you feel oppressed. Your relationship with them would force you to change your self-perception


As for that Chicken and Turkey, me sef never chop am since over 15years and thats cause i dont like flying or flightless birds but i dey kilo of pork back to back every weekend like say na Juju


You have a serious work to do,bro

EmperorCaesar:
Its a thing of the mind and its sometimes tied to one's self-esteem

You need to try read books about mind-shift or mind-growth and sometimes, try move with people that would make you feel oppressed. Your relationship with them would force you to change your self-perception


As for that Chicken and Turkey, me sef never chop am since over 15years and thats cause i dont like flying or flightless birds but i dey kilo of pork back to back every weekend like say na Juju


You have a serious work to do,bro

low self esteem is true. Am always talking down on myself.

Boss I have a serious work to do truely. I can afford to buy turkey and chicken but I will already eat dried crayfish and Panla fish. The other day a friend of mine told me he bought a perfume for 35k and i shouted out that why will he buy something so expensive. I prefer to drive my old rickety Volkswagen bora than buy a newer model car. My problems are much bro. Please help me

Please can you recommend books for me to read please. I will really appreciate it thanks.

Mental chains lock harder than the physical

This story sounds like the guy I read his story where after he bought a car, because he was used to his poverty, he forgot he came to office with car and went back home using taxi.

Guy,I used to be like u. But today, na me flex pass but I do it in a responsible manner.

Eat 1% of ur gain by going out with a woman not some men that would envy u ooh...a woman that would never think of harming u.

Eat it with ur mouth.
That is what I do with my wife...go to her office,pick her up and take her to abacha barracks where we eat enough fish and drink to our satisfaction.

Sometime...I pick up my wife and her friends for Eat out.

Life goes on.

Nothing wrong in it...u are still battling with success consciousness,with time it would evaporate.

Good luck bros.

ibechris:
This story sounds like the guy I read his story where after he bought a car, because he was used to his poverty, he forgot he came to office with car and went back home using taxi.

Guy,I used to be like u. But today, na me flex pass but I do it in a responsible manner.

Eat 1% of ur gain by going out with a woman not some men that would envy u ooh...a woman that would never think of harming u.

Eat it with ur mouth.
That is what I do with my wife...go to her office,pick her up and take her to abacha barracks where we eat enough fish and drink to our satisfaction.

Sometime...I pick up my wife and her friends for Eat out.

Life goes on.

Nothing wrong in it...u are still battling with success consciousness,with time it would evaporate.

Good luck bros.

Am not married yet. But it's a woman I met just this week that opened my eyes to my mentality. I truly saw nothing wrong in what I was doing. It's as if she saw right through me. I couldn't believe my ears when she told me everything like she knew me since 20years ago.

Paragonpric:
low self esteem is true. Am always talking down on myself.

U are just psychological impaired, not in a horrible way though.......u had a poor childhood, so the thought of being broke scares you so your mind have adopted the coping mechanism of only spending money on whats compulsory ......look baba...its not technically a bad thing.....

Guy....No let any body call u stingy on top our money, especially those women that want you to give it to them.... Shi shi..they don't have..if they have they don't like to spend their money but will be calling another person stingy for managing his own money

Paragonpric:
Good afternoon everyone, am a 28 year old guy with good successful businesses and I can say I am doing well all thanks to God.

The problem I have is my inability to spend money on myself, I don't dress well nor do I eat well. People often doubt if I have the things I have cos I don't look it at all. Am modest to a fault, I haven't eaten chicken for the last 5years am being serious here. I just find it extremely difficult to spend money on Myself.

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I asked my few friends if I give off poverty mentality vibes and they said YES. Growing up was really really tough on me as i come from a very poor home, I don't know if that has affected my psyche.

Please how do I defeat this mentality

Hope you are helping those in need around you sha

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Paragonpric:
Good afternoon everyone, am a 28 year old guy with good successful businesses and I can say I am doing well all thanks to God.

The problem I have is my inability to spend money on myself, I don't dress well nor do I eat well. People often doubt if I have the things I have cos I don't look it at all. Am modest to a fault, I haven't eaten chicken for the last 5years am being serious here. I just find it extremely difficult to spend money on Myself.

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I asked my few friends if I give off poverty mentality vibes and they said YES. Growing up was really really tough on me as i come from a very poor home, I don't know if that has affected my psyche.

Please how do I defeat this mentality

There is nothing wrong with your mentality so far you don’t lack any basic necessity you can afford.

With time, the more you grow financially; you would upgrade yourself unconsciously.

What % of wealthy folks income, do you think that spend on clothes, shoes etc? Less than 1%. Don’t let anybody pressure you into ungrading when you are not “there” yet. This is the reason most middle class people never attain financial freedom- always wanting to rent a bigger house, ride a bigger car, wear more expensive clothes. It holds you back.

Was it Warren Buffet or one ultra-rich that said the 1st $1 million is hard to make, he advised you be as frugal as possible till you reach it.

Keep this mentality of being thrifty and expand your business, if you want to take it further partner with God - and experience quantum leaps

Paragonpric:
Good afternoon everyone, am a 28 year old guy with good successful businesses and I can say I am doing well all thanks to God.

The problem I have is my inability to spend money on myself, I don't dress well nor do I eat well. People often doubt if I have the things I have cos I don't look it at all. Am modest to a fault, I haven't eaten chicken for the last 5years am being serious here. I just find it extremely difficult to spend money on Myself.

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I asked my few friends if I give off poverty mentality vibes and they said YES. Growing up was really really tough on me as i come from a very poor home, I don't know if that has affected my psyche.

Please how do I defeat this mentality

Op, I strongly recommend this book on my signature for you, u will be transformed after reading it

Paragonpric:
Good afternoon everyone, am a 28 year old guy with good successful businesses and I can say I am doing well all thanks to God.

The problem I have is my inability to spend money on myself, I don't dress well nor do I eat well. People often doubt if I have the things I have cos I don't look it at all. Am modest to a fault, I haven't eaten chicken for the last 5years am being serious here. I just find it extremely difficult to spend money on Myself.

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I asked my few friends if I give off poverty mentality vibes and they said YES. Growing up was really really tough on me as i come from a very poor home, I don't know if that has affected my psyche.

Please how do I defeat this mentality

There is nothing wrong with you. Just try and take yourself out once in a while and by nice clothes for yourself.

Paragonpric:
Good afternoon everyone, am a 28 year old guy with good successful businesses and I can say I am doing well all thanks to God.

The problem I have is my inability to spend money on myself, I don't dress well nor do I eat well. People often doubt if I have the things I have cos I don't look it at all. Am modest to a fault, I haven't eaten chicken for the last 5years am being serious here. I just find it extremely difficult to spend money on Myself.

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I asked my few friends if I give off poverty mentality vibes and they said YES. Growing up was really really tough on me as i come from a very poor home, I don't know if that has affected my psyche.

Please how do I defeat this mentality

Fear of going broke. That's your problem. It's good to have phobia for going broke but.. if you don't eat good food and you die of malnourishment, all your money goes to those who don't understand your suffering.

Clothing is overrated... Food..good food is the most important thing.

You need spiritual cleansing

Paragonpric:
➜Good afternoon everyone, am a 28 year old guy with good successful businesses and I can say I am doing well all thanks to God.
The problem I have is my inability to spend money on myself, I don't dress well nor do I eat well. People often doubt if I have the things I have cos I don't look it at all. Am modest to a fault, I haven't eaten chicken for the last 5years am being serious here. I just find it extremely difficult to spend money on Myself.
Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I asked my few friends if I give off poverty mentality vibes and they said YES. Growing up was really really tough on me as i come from a very poor home, I don't know if that has affected my psyche.
Please how do I defeat this mentality

If you maybe wanted to eat chicken at this moment, what thoughts stop you from doing just that? Why do you give in to the thoughts that stop you from fulfilling your desire to maybe eat chicken?

you're doing well


you're just like me



better invest that money properly , stop buying nonsense



Invest!!!!!!!


and thank me later

You really doesn't have a problem except you choose to create one for yourself.
Your working environment and your association determines alot.
Your set goal and vis.a.vis your responsibilities is another factor.
The information you provided is too shallow for anyone to give you customized comprehensive solution but on a general note,
Read books across various topics such as biographies, books on friendship and relationships, making money and money management, faith and spirituality even comedy novels.
About chicken and some foods, what if you are eating healthily and you think it's poverty?
Don't let anyone tell you who you ought to be.
Work on yourself to be who you desire to be and be happy with that yourself you are.
Bliss

Carndidlaydid:
Can we be friends?

Op pls for your sake don't listen to this high octane lunatic

Paragonpric:
Am not married yet. But it's a woman I met just this week that opened my eyes to my mentality. I truly saw nothing wrong in what I was doing. It's as if she saw right through me. I couldn't believe my ears when she told me everything like she knew me since 20years ago.

Better watch out. Jezebel has been deployed to finish you. I hope you are not in love with her already

Kobojunkie:
If you maybe wanted to eat chicken at this moment, what thoughts stop you from doing just that? Why do you give in to the thoughts that stop you from fulfilling your desire to maybe eat chicken?

I will feel it's a waste of money to eat it. So I'll rather get crayfish or dried panla fish to eat

Paragonpric:
I will feel it's a waste of money to eat it. So I'll rather get crayfish or dried panla fish to eat

Do you feel the same way about chicken/goat/cow meat during the holidays, and when you have friends over?

Nicepoker:
Better watch out. Jezebel has been deployed to finish you. I hope you are not in love with her already

she's 49years

Lol....this is a very simple matter fa. Just reflect on what happens to successful people's estate after their demise to get your head in order.

I remember one uncle like that. He was a highly successful and incredibly hard working plumber in the abroad. Dude barely slept as he was on call 24/7! Last last he had cancer and died quickly. Come and see how his young sons lavish his money on sport cars and frivolities. Poor guy would have been turning in his grave as he only drove a beat up truck and lived a minimalist lifestyle while alive.

It is well with you....most people regret not taking care of themselves, spending more time with loved ones and not living their best lives on their deathbed. Don't eat with all your fingers o but please eat....tomorrow is not promised.

Kobojunkie:
Do you feel the same way about chicken/goat/cow meat during the holidays, and when you have friends over?

I find it hard to buy such things with my money even during holidays

Truvelisback:
There is nothing wrong with you. Just try and take yourself out once in a while and by nice clothes for yourself.

will keep that in mind thanks . My fashion sense is zero

Paragonpric:
➜I find it hard to buy such things with my money even during holidays

If you are happy living as you do, there is no problem at all with it. So long as you can get the nutrients you need from the type of food you spend on, that is all good. It may pose a problem when you are trying to date someone though.

Even me that doesn't have much...I try to enjoy life at least to have a feeling....I don't drink or smoke.... but I sometimes relax.... with a good meal..
If I eat too much I fall sick, I am so used to fasting....

If you don't like spending on yourself, give to the poor, sponsor a child invest in properties...
Don't let the money lay there, it will depreciate ..

You're doing great! You're just like me. Make sure to invest that money wisely and avoid unnecessary purchases. Invest, and you'll thank me later!

illicit:
You will have to pay for my advice...

How far has your advice helped you so far