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Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by OriOko88(m): 3:51pm On Dec 23, 2024

Sonnobax15:

It'd be an unwise decision to quit your relationship simply because your fiancee's ex has refused to move on.....You should be more concerned on how she's handling the whole situation.....Is she giving him the room to have a conversation with her? Cuz we all know how vulnerable bannies could be...With their little tiny brains like that of a fish . How they can be easily be manipulated............

But then again,now I just realized that a man shouldn't be wasting his precious time on a banny .

Lmao. Mumu boy, speaking with both sides of the mouth

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Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by fmlala: 3:55pm On Dec 23, 2024

Failed courtship is far better than failed marriage......think very well before you go further and farther.......do not mix emotion with relationship else you regret as your seniors did.

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by qtx(m): 3:56pm On Dec 23, 2024

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

RED FLAG bro!. Only your girl can stop the guy if she truly wants to. anytime she sees his call from any number she can quickly block him if indeed she doesnt want to have anything to do with him any further. Look, guys only keep pressing when they see signs there is hope. Maybe your girl still gives him some hope. Honestly, in my opinion, your girl is somehow giving him the green light intentionally or unknowingly; the reason he is not backing off . Secondly, the fastest and easiest way is for her to change her line to cut all forms of communication with the guy if that won't affect her personal communication much.

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Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by laivwire(m): 3:57pm On Dec 23, 2024

Ijaya123:
Women don't love men.

My woman loves me.

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Benniemannz(m): 3:59pm On Dec 23, 2024

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

If she's serious she would change her phone numbers and socials but then just know that goodbye sex is loading somewhere if it's not already occurring grin

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Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by sylve11: 4:01pm On Dec 23, 2024

Baronthecelebri:
God punish you, leave that useless girl

Wahala 😆 🤣 😂 cool

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by sylve11: 4:08pm On Dec 23, 2024

yemmit90:
This is inevitable, she would use vex want to see the guy face to face in order to give him last warning, and when she get there, the guy, (having fuvk her many times before) will always has it easier to convince her again to get nack. And when they finish, they will agree that he should stop calling her except , so so so ways. The woman will promise him that she would always come and see him when she had chance but only if he can promise he won't be disturbing her again. It is likely they continue that way even after settling down with you.

Allow this girl to finish her mission with her ex before you take her serious, otherwise, you may father another man's children wuthiout knowing.

@op, listen to this man. cool

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by sylve11: 4:15pm On Dec 23, 2024

Geonigga:
Try to get audio recorder place it in a hidden place in your house and then leave for work while leaving your girl friend at home, then later if you are back secretly play the record audio. Do it for one week then you will know the kind of person your girl friend is.

@op, listen to this too. cool

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by frank417: 4:19pm On Dec 23, 2024

drstranged:

You acting like married women with even 7 children don't cheat on their husbands or don't have wayward men who still chase them? Doesn't matter if she's married. Marriage doesn't change anyone. If she and that guy can do stuffs before marriage and child birth, they can do even more after she gets married.

Yea, but the story didn't say she has cheated, and op asked her to choose between him or the ex. Not about cheating.
This is an ex that is chasing(most likely wants her back), and she is open enough to discuss it with the op. Sometimes marriage solve this issue as it becomes clear to the ex who her choice is.

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Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Desusi: 4:20pm On Dec 23, 2024

Where did you know the girl? Club house? Facebook?, on the road or church or mosque?My people say " iyawo ti a ba fi ijo fe, Iran nii wo lo"meaning Where you get your spouse will determine her character. A word is sufficient for the wise.

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by MadeMan01(m): 4:23pm On Dec 23, 2024

Take your girls SIM card and destroy it. Buy her a new SIM card. If she ever receives a call from the guy on the new line, break up

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by drstranged: 4:25pm On Dec 23, 2024

frank417:
Yea, but the story didn't say she has cheated, and op asked her to choose between him or the ex. Not about cheating.
This is an ex that is chasing(most likely wants her back), and she is open enough to discuss it with the op. Sometimes marriage solve this issue as it becomes clear to the ex who her choice is.

Women have subtle ways of cheating which only experienced men can tell. Cheating isn't only when she has sex. Like others have pointed out, a woman always knows how to permanently get rid of her ex. Her ex still pursues her because she is subtly giving him the green light. This is only what experienced minds can tell. Women would never openly make it obvious to you they're cheating. Now that the warning signs are there, he better dump her before he regrets. Marriage never changes a lady.

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Olarewaju89: 4:33pm On Dec 23, 2024

Faber:
Bro since it is getting out of head... simply tell her to get a new sim card or you call it quits... that guy will knack her one day

I am speaking from experience. Your girl have not even moved on from the guy. Also bear in mind that in a relationship, you don't fear new toasters of your babe...but you see her ex, if he mean business to get her back...you don't stand any chance. He knows the button to press.

You have said it all bro. 👍
Bro, you be legend

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Maysdevices(f): 4:33pm On Dec 23, 2024

Sonnobax15:

It'd be an unwise decision to quit your relationship simply because your fiancee's ex has refused to move on.....You should be more concerned on how she's handling the whole situation.....Is she giving him the room to have a conversation with her? Cuz we all know how vulnerable bannies could be...With their little tiny brains like that of a fish . How they can be easily be manipulated............

But then again,now I just realized that a man shouldn't be wasting his precious time on a banny .

If a man deceives a woman, it is because women are gullible with brains of a fish

If a woman deceives a man, it because women are evil and came from the devil

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Barcalee: 4:36pm On Dec 23, 2024

QUIT! There is no repentance in the grave,that ex you want to overlook will pop up in the middle of your marriage and you will then hear statements like I had a life before I met you

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Rechargeam247(f): 4:53pm On Dec 23, 2024

Lol, it's the plenty nonsensical comments here for me, women are more sensible and intelligent than men, take it or leave it.

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Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by TossTos(m): 4:53pm On Dec 23, 2024

Zulu11zulu:
Change her numbers then if it continues ask her how he got her numbers if she didn't give you good answers then quiet because she may be the one calling the guy.

I had to quote and I am sorry for that ..

I have similar this experience you stated above , I changed her phone , mobile number and piam, na him I saw the number called her again that beautiful day ..

She had forgotten she show me the number , I just have about 4 to 2 last digit of the number off hand ..

To cut the story short , she go her way after sometimes, I saw her with that same guy .. ( this damn true ) ..

She posted a picture of her on Facebook back then, I check the comment and saw the guy , go on to confirm if is another man or the same person I know only to found the same number she used for the Facebook as the number he always calls with ..

I no even know where the lady dey now ..

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Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Zony94: 5:14pm On Dec 23, 2024

Ít is 50% chances but you must realize that women tricked by attentions so give your fiance adequate attentions ín order to fend ofof her ex.You should chane her contacts both phone and social media.Lastly you study your fiance intention ìf ít is genuine towards you other than the ex.If you can guide her through these times ,thè ex factor Will fade away át All.

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by etrange: 5:16pm On Dec 23, 2024

At the first sign of trouble, you’re already considering turning your back on her? lol… ndi relationship

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Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Filmdirect: 5:18pm On Dec 23, 2024

Wait! A guy is stalking and harassing your girl. She tells you and you add to her stress by demanding she stay faithful?? You aren’t thinking of protecting her from this harassment, you are blaming her for another person’s actions? I would leave you because I wouldn’t feel safe with you or that you would protect me.

What else do you want her to do? She is transparent, she has blocked him. Yet he is using other numbers to call her. So she should throw her phone away? All the other people in her life that know her phone number, she needs to throw it away or change sim to make you happy?

You don’t care about her please. You are worried about yoursekf, and you come on here and allow a bunch of men who are insecure to paint your girl as a potential hoe. Your future wife and mother of your children.

Why don’t you answer the phone and tell the man to back off? In fact why don’t you do something drastic like tell her to set up a meeting and you both go? That man will stop.

But you aren’t reacting based on your fear. Then why marry her or be with her?

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Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Filmdirect: 5:20pm On Dec 23, 2024

etrange:
At the first sign of trouble, you’re already considering turning your back on her? lol… ndi relationship

Pathetic! Then God forbid when they marry and some man at work acts poorly, maybe then he will divorce her! How the heck is she supposed to control the world around her?

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Filmdirect: 5:28pm On Dec 23, 2024

qtx:
RED FLAG bro!. Only your girl can stop the guy if she truly wants to. anytime she sees his call from any number she can quickly block him if indeed she doesnt want to have anything to do with him any further. Look, guys only keep pressing when they see signs there is hope. Maybe your girl still gives him some hope. Honestly, in my opinion, your girl is somehow giving him the green light intentionally or unknowingly; the reason he is not backing off . Secondly, the fastest and easiest way is for her to change her line to cut all forms of communication with the guy if that won't affect her personal communication much.

That is not true. Most times when someone likes someone they think every action is a sign they are reciprocating. The lady will frown he will see hard to get but willing, the woman will smile they will see love potential, she will communicate they will read between the lines. Sometimes it just is the fact that they aren’t interested!!

The woman has blocked him. He has used other numbers. She might use her phone for business and doesn’t have to give him that much power to cause her to change everything about your number which could affect her business and other relationships.

Some men simply have no sense of decency and can’t walk away. If a woman wants you she will not play hard to get! Her eyes and body language will tell you! A man’s ego many times doesn’t allow them to accept they are not wanted.

The issue is is the OP. What kind of support can he even be to react this way?

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by ceejay80s(m): 5:31pm On Dec 23, 2024

Nicepoker:
Play along then abscond on the wedding day

ekwensu

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by olabrad: 5:33pm On Dec 23, 2024

Vikto17:
so what do u advice l do?

Do personal investigation. Tap her phone and check her Whatsapp without her knowledge Is her phone on airplane mode or silence when she is with you? Is she picking any calls in your presence or behind you? Does she set her Whatsapp to clear messages? These can give insight if she is cheating or not.

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Graficient: 5:41pm On Dec 23, 2024

Similar reason I broke up with Akuoma. I no fit marry who craze don knack before

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Eniitankorede: 6:05pm On Dec 23, 2024

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

Don’t you know the next thing to do? Change your girl’s sim card and number. Move to another town completely. Do your marriage asap and if possible move her abroad.,

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by kingsceemark(m): 6:06pm On Dec 23, 2024

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

A very SIMPle man like you.

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by drtee247(m): 6:08pm On Dec 23, 2024

Okafor’s law OP…. Think

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Kobojunkie: 6:40pm On Dec 23, 2024

Vikto17:
✓ My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...
The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....
l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....
Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

End the relationship immediately cause she is obviously not for you and you not for her. 🤔

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Kobojunkie: 6:42pm On Dec 23, 2024

Eniitankorede:
✓ Don’t you know the next thing to do? Change your girl’s sim card and number. Move to another town completely. Do your marriage asap and if possible move her abroad.,

Wrong! It is not his place to do all of that at all. OP already told you he has instead taking to warn her and stuff like that. That there already indicates that the relationship between them is not a healthy one. They should instead go their separate ways. She can deal with her stalker herself and he can find himself a woman who does not come with baggage he is unable to deal with. undecided

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Kobojunkie: 6:45pm On Dec 23, 2024*

olabrad:
✓ Do personal investigation. Tap her phone and check her Whatsapp without her knowledge Is her phone on airplane mode or silence when she is with you? Is she picking any calls in your presence or behind you? Does she set her Whatsapp to clear messages? These can give insight if she is cheating or not.

All this because he wants to marry and live a life with this same person? Wouldn't it simply be best to move on and find someone else he wouldn't need to do all that for? 😩🧐😩😩

Re: My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Stalking Her!! Should l Quit? by Nanalucky: 6:53pm On Dec 23, 2024

Guy run from that marriage planning.....did she tell you what they were taking about.....when them go Bleep small,will she tell you.....bro...free her...

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