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justtee42k:
Lol
So funny .
Well, this is my candid advice to you sir.
As long as she has the willingness to change and learn that help her for now and teach her consistently .
Be a husband and not a boss in the house .
Don't wait for her to do everything, do them yourself.
When the toilet is dirty, wash it don't wait.for her.
When the bedsheets is dirty, remove them and lay a new one, don't wait for her.
Teach her personal hygiene.
Before having sex, tell her to go and bath , after sex , make sure she wash herself up immediately before the next one.
Teach her how to take care of her self properly and with time she will adapt.

My marriage at first was also full of complains , till I decided to start doing things myself to be happy..
Recently, I told someone that just because a girl is perceived good does not mean she qualifies to be married to.
I have seen a very good girl that is so so lazy and won't do anything than to sleep press phone and pretend not t9 be feeling well once he hears the footsteps of the husband.

I have a seen a good girl that does not like going to church or pray .

So at the end, I decided that my happiness is the most important thing so I don't wait for my wife and I do what makes me happy rather than waiting for her.
If I get back home and she didn't make me a meal, I will go to the kitchen and cook.
If the cloth bin is full and becoming irritating because she doesn't want to wash her clothe4s , I will go there and wash her clothes for he4 than to keep complaining and fighting every day.

Marriage can be something else

Kudos

You are very wise and matured
Op take this advice
Marriage no be beans
But you must decide to make yourself happy no matter what

My view on marriage
Is exactly as this contribution
It's you that will make your bed the way you want to lye on it
Don't blame anyone

Im not surprise because you said she's dirty but I thought you said you stopped sleeping with her, If you die you will be surprise that your mom won't follow you, why not save your life by leaving the house for your mother and the girl ,

Character I more important than virginity. It lasts for a lifetime while virginity disappears in one night. She may already have been disvirgined before you got her.

November24:
You married your mother spiritual leader.
That was exactly what the spirit told Me now.

Your wife is your mother's mother spiritually.
If you like listen,if you like keep whinning, you are in the fattening room.

so what's d solution in this kinda situation

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

You had infection 3 times and you didn't take her for general check-up?

Are you sure you are not the one with the infection on your body before you met her,
Infection could hide in your body for a while before showing up and you will think it the new person you just met that give it to you meanwhiles it already in your body waiting for your immune system to become low before showing up.

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

A whole Msc holder you dey call village girl

Both of you need to see a doc. Infection not treated properly can cause infertility in both men n women

AlphaNugget:
Superstory!!

Your sharp.

Top shelf of things that Never happened....

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

November24:
You married your mother spiritual leader.
That was exactly what the spirit told Me now.

Your wife is your mother's mother spiritually.
If you like listen,if you like keep whinning, you are in the fattening room.

Pray tell, can you tell me what your spirit, or, the spirit, is saying, or, can tell you about me?
I suppose you are one who gets revelations from the realm of the spirit. So, what do you see?
Share. Good evening.

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

Do you guys use public toilet, her body might be sensitive and reaching to unclean environment which causes different infections in a woman.

Let her be using dettol to disinfect toilet seats anytime she wants to use public toilet

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin. Just be careful not to contact neuro-syphilis

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

is she clean? How is her hygiene most infections are from the toilet bowl and untidiness does she wash her panties. And the soap she uses might also lead to it.

Okoo...for this modern life wey people dey shine eye well well.how you go say ur mama insist say make u marry a girl wey ur mind no dey with? You are a very funny adult or better still Mama's bobo

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

Some idle Nairalanders like writing cock andbull stories.

How can a sane person believe that a master's holder will not look for job but prefer to be a full time housewife?

Did a qualified doctor tell you that you got your alleged Infections from your wife and are they sexually transmitted infections?
Only gullible reader's would believe your story

The way and manner nairalanders fabricate story in the name of contents needs to be studied

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

Two of you MUST go for proper medical checkup....it could be toilet infection.

Please look for a good medical laboratory for testing on both of you.

Let the medical result show you the cause of the infection before you rush to make a conclusion.

NOTE: THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY OUT. DIVORCE IS NOT THE SOLUTION.

Did you say she has a master's degree?

Dera25:
A graduate with masters degree? Yet a virgin? That girl need to be rewarded because her type is very rare. In this century, for a girl to pass through secondary education, University and masters level without messing up her life? I beg oo respect what God has ordained

see how you took your time to respond to him...
If she's with all these qualification, he won't refer to her as village girl now.

Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

I doubt it if STD can give you infection that makes you pass out blood and stomach pain.. May be you should check out your kidneys first.
Another point here is that if you are now an adult, you shouldn't let your mother dictate to you, manipulate you to do something you're not comfortable with. It is your life, decide what you want.

You have no choice than to continue what you have started, you knew marriage is for life, you should have studied her before getting married to her, that's why courtship is important before marriage.

purples25:
How can she be a graduate with a master's degree and a village girl at the same time?

Dont mind him.
Na fake story

Very simple case. You guys should go for test. I want to believe that it’s a minor issue. Except a proper treatment, nothing will change.

purples25:
How can she be a graduate with a master's degree and a village girl at the same time?

Because she is a virgin. 😂😂

End the marriage. Make una rest this 2025. Marriage is not for everyone.

There are a hundred and one causes of bloody urine (hematuria).
You might be blaming an innocent person.
Pls see a urologist for proper assessment.
Thanks.

Please get me her phone number ASAP.

U nailed it

Dera25:
The point here is that you don't love the girl from onset she was imposed to you and your capability of standing as a man was not there , now you are reaping the fruits of your incapability

For the infection, Mr man visit a good hospital with your wife for a test and treat whichever comes out once and for all. I doubt where two faithful partners transmit std to each other and beside, how did you conclude that it is your wife that gives you these infections? I think your mind is playing tricks on you here based on your misconception over choosing this girl

From your write up the girl does cooking, washing etc showing that she is wifable to some an extent, you did not tell us that the girl is disrespectful, nagging, lazy, cheating, fetish so I don't understand your reasons in particular

I wonder what does being a Village girl has to do with being a good wife, if many married men can open up and tell you what they are passing through in the hands of their wife, my dear you will embrace that Village girl and mould her to your taste. You married her a virgin from the village meaning that she is a novice it's now left for you to put her through and place her to your standard of woman

A graduate with masters degree? Yet a virgin? That girl need to be rewarded because her type is very rare. In this century, for a girl to pass through secondary education, University and masters level without messing up her life? I beg oo respect what God has ordained

purples25:
How can she be a graduate with a master's degree and a village girl at the same time?

I'm still trying to get that, the guy is just seeking someone who will massage his ego...

Meteng:
I tire o. Graduate with masters come be village girl? You sure say dem no rub alum for puna on that first day give am make him knack?

You mean say dem connive use alum do natural (albeit temporary) vaginoplasty for the puna to deceive baba and baba ate the forbidden fruit and thought she was a virgin

This world is "deep" o.

Factcheck0001:
What u don't understand is that many ladies have accumulated untreated infections n their body can hide it but a man's body can't hide it.

The best option is to take her to the hospital n u both treat yourself cos without it u might not give birth, no b curse

I have seen situations where infections blocked d fallopian tube, take this from a married man.

Fact.

For example gonorrhea will show its signs in a man in 3 days but as gonorrhea has no symptoms in at least 50% of women, a lot of women are infected with gonorrhea but have no symptoms and so will keep reinfecting their man regardless of the number of times the man treats it and as untreated gonorrhea can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease which has similar symptoms to fibroid, the woman will think she has fibroids without knowing that the gonorrhea left untreated in her body is the problem and this can lead to blocked Fallopian tubes, ovarian cysts, ectopic pregnancy, infertility and even cancer.

She's a graduate with master's you mean or yourself?

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!