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| I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by collarfreak(op): 1:52pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
Please, Nairalanders, I need your advice so urgently. There is a lady I met close to a year ago in a church, and one thing led to another; we were both in love, and I am ready to marry her as my wife. She introduced me to her parent and vice versa. Her parent accepted me, but after a while, the mother came back and said that she went to pray in her church, and the pastor told her that I am a man with multiple wives and not one. She was so disturbed about this, and she summoned me, and I told her it can never happen that with God at the centre of the marriage, it will not happen. Now we want to tie the knot early this year, but the mom is still adamant and trying to buy the lady to her side due to the prophecy her pastor told her. The lady stood her ground, but her mom still would not listen that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Please be aware that the lady parents are also separated, but they communicate. Please, what is your advice for me? |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by budaatum: 1:56pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
If the lady stands her ground, marry her. But make sure you never ever let the mother's 'curse' come to pass. 4 Likes |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by Lalami3232(m): 2:00pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
 Should we tell him? What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news 3 Likes |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by Lonestar124: 2:32pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
I go jejely leave the mother and the girlfriend for 4 to 5 months, and see what will happen, three things will happen, the mother and the girl will come back to beg, the girl will decide to break up from you entirely and lastly the girl will persist you are the one she want, don't enter any marriage with this kind of confusion. You need a break in that relationship bro, as for those pastors that are overfeed by their gullible followers sweat, na God go judge them!! 5 Likes |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by EmperorCaesar(m): 3:06pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
budaatum:Why should he go ahead to marry a lady whose mother is against their union. If the girl get ordinary catarrh, the woman go dey shout say dem don use her. Its draining starting a new life with that kind of in-law around him. How long is he gonna keep up with this? or you think the guy and the MIL will ever like each other in the future after this very patchy beginning? As for the bolded, curses are useless and vain negative wishes, they dont work 3 Likes |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by budaatum: 3:12pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
EmperorCaesar:Because he is not marrying the mother, and because the mother's curses are useless. Even the daughter is not bending to her stupid mother, so why should he let the mother dictate his own life? I know a mother who opposed her daughter's marriage and refused to attend the wedding. That mother has been invited to her granddaughter's wedding in summer, after having gone to her grandson's graduation 2 years ago. |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by collarfreak(op): 3:30pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
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| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by Kobojunkie: 7:21pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
collarfreak:What advice do you need in this case? You have a potential mother-in-law whose husband probably abandoned her to marry another wife and is paranoid that you would do the same to her daughter. She has the backing of her particular scammer-in-the-lord who is waiting to see if you could bribe him/her to influence the mother-in-law. And then you have your potential bribe who needs to decide her own life despite her mother's conviction. So what do you need us to tell you?  Just so you know, your marriages have absolutely nothing to do with God of Israel or Jesus Christ of Israel so these statements and mentions of the name God are all meaningless religious rattlings. Stop using the mention of God to confuse yourself in making your decision whether or not to marry the girl in question. Her mother raising God against you all is merely hiding her fears behind it all. And the pastor is there to take advantage. You raising the name God in your case are merely pretending as well. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by doxiler(m): 7:37pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
May be her mother believed that you don't have enough money. Guy, look for where you will be loved. Leave religious people 1 Like |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by louken(m): 9:25pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
Lalami3232:Tell him. Help a brother. Love is still covering his eyes |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by PerfectStranger(m): 9:59pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
Any marriage moves that affects your peace of mind should be aborted. |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by AllBlack: 7:45am On Jan 09, 2025 |
collarfreak:1. The mother is reflecting her life wàhálà and insecurities on your affair. 2. The mother don nack you bill wey you give her STORY. 3. The girl is the one that is telling the mother to come up with those fables so that she can have an excuse to dump you. Fear women. 4. The pastor eye dey your girl body so he can say anything to take you off the picture. 5. Should I say more? 1 Like |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by Talkisneeded(m): 9:14am On Jan 09, 2025 |
The Yorubas would say "a bad wife can be entertained,but a bad mother-in-law is a no go area." Park,pull over and leave the case... I sell herbs tho 1 Like |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by koladata(m): 9:19am On Jan 09, 2025*. Modified: 1:44pm On Jan 09, 2025 |
And if you marry more than one wife nko, is it her mother's money that you will use to take care of them? Let her go if her mother insist. You can marry a bad wife but you can't marry a bad inlaw. Marrying more than one wife is not a taboo as long as you take care of their daughter. Infact if I was in this position I will tell them yes there pastor may be right. I might marry more than one wife . Women plenty o , no go dey let one mother inlaw control you . 1 Like |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by Sleeknigga: 9:35am On Jan 09, 2025 |
You are married spiritually to many wives by virtue of intercourse you had when single take the prostitute in the Bible as example 1 Like |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by JOACHINpedro: 10:11am On Jan 09, 2025 |
Love supercedes no be for this country. Leave Nollywood and count your teeth with your tongue. Na format them wan use discharge you, maybe the mom get better suitor for the pikin. Don't go and knock where you are not accepted unless you value drama over peace of mind 1 Like |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by duduade(m): 7:52pm On Jan 09, 2025 |
The mother has seen a richer groom... Just one problem... Your gf isn't moved by him... Rather she's awwed by you Don't let the girls mother wish come to pass o 1 Like |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by collarfreak(op): 12:09pm On Jan 10, 2025 |
koladata:Lol...mad ooooo Thanks boss for your advice Too deep and precise 1 Like |
| Re: I Need Urgent Advice Over My Relationship by helinues: 6:12pm On Jan 10, 2025 |
Bro, don't put yourself in unnecessary troubles Her mother does not like you, she was just giving flimsy excuse. If you eventually tie the knot with the lady, you might have problem in your marriage as your girl is not independent in thinking. Whatever happens between you and her would be relayed to her mum even when it's unnecessary |
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