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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Inyaky(f): 1:42pm On Jan 09, 2025
You claimed you love her and you still looking for advice, if both of you are compatible and you you are led by your spirit, go ahead.
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Faposky95: 1:42pm On Jan 09, 2025
WE GUYS ESP, SIMPSONS are the ish here....
all the girls and ladies on the street checking you out no do,?
let the single Mamas wait their turn......
good advice given
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by 24kmagik: 1:44pm On Jan 09, 2025
eniteden:
Pure fact! grin Bro.

But...
There are genuinely good ones whos innocence where taken advantage of by the said useless father who knows he can't or don't want the girl but still stick his raw rotten suya stick into such girl without protection knowing that the girl doesnt know what contrceptive is, that guy is either a devil or a slowpoke/an evil bread person. grin
The day a girl opens leg for a man who isn't her husband is the day she loses every atom of pity or innocence.

She deserves every thing that follows after that moment
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by engrchykae(m): 2:41pm On Jan 09, 2025
oziegbep:
Greetings All,

Please I need serious advice.

I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights.

I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout.

Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot
when you cant correct the child but is expected to fund the child.
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Father4all: 2:45pm On Jan 09, 2025
She is lying. After you married her the whole truth will come out
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Afolue(m): 2:55pm On Jan 09, 2025
oziegbep:
Greetings All,

Please I need serious advice.

I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights.

I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout.

Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot
single mums are often being hunted by their past in the long run unless the father of their kids is late outright. Upon that, how about responsibilities, distractions…loosed focus and shared attention and love. The union is a whole lot for you guys (historical) love story. Single mums should just be focusing on polygamy or divorcees. Love has nothing to play in the life’s journey of matrimony. As it has many hinderances….

I guess you are looking at her level if financial stability… can’t work! Your manly responsibilities is inevitable. If you be a lazy dud, na problem still
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by OChimex: 3:11pm On Jan 09, 2025
Namaster:
I have commented EXHAUSTIVELY on the perils of marrying or dating a single mother.

Check my profile for them.

But the summary is that single mothers are BAD NEWS.

They are FIT to fuuuccck because their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS. They CANNOT form when you have evidence they had been viciously RAWDOGGED in the past.

They are UNFIT for dating or marriage because, again, their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS.

Single-motherhood also points to a LOW IQ and STUPIDITY.

Because said woman not only CHOSE an irresponsible man who was willing to ABANDON his child. But ALSO chose to fuccck him WITHOUT condoms or other forms of birth control.

That stupidity would be a TAINT in the gene pool if both of you have children. Dumber kids will result.

There is a reason a LOT of the children of single mothers end up as Yahoo Boys and Hookup girls (future single mothers).

It's NOT just about the upbringing, or lack thereof, but also the STUPIDITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY inherent in their genes asserting themselves.

Also WHEN the father eventually shows up, the child you raised with your money, time and energy will DISCARD you without a second thought.

Chances are equally high the mother will do the same.

Fuccck her, if you must.
But NEVER marry a single mother!
You talked from naive, inexperienced angle.
Not all single mothers are bad and wayward, it might be an act of stupidity at one time, but, yes who hasn't done stupid things once or twice?
Some single mom are greats, they might be victims of circumstances.
They choosing to keep the baby says alot too.
The ones wey never marry, what if they tell you how many abortions they have done? Does it make them better?
Yes, raising a child not your comes with price, but what doesn't come with a price?
Again, the rate of infertility now is alarming and having a tested fertile woman is another win.
Life is more about stability, peace not more about glitters.
He should do his research very well about the lady, and if he thinks she will make him better, don't worry about baggage. After all, life is about advantage outweighing the disadvantage.
No be Israel, Davido's arrand boy marry virgin, still run comot within 3 months. Lol
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by twilliamx(m): 3:12pm On Jan 09, 2025
oziegbep:
Greetings All,

Please I need serious advice.

I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights.

I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout.

Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot
Love the kid and her mum or leave the kid and her mum
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Alanjay1: 3:14pm On Jan 09, 2025
I made such mistakes and today I'm crying bitterly inside my heart. There is no way i will not marry second wife. Ladies aint loyal. The beginning may be good but the end of getting hook with single mother is bad and can also be deadly
Celestialsword:
If both of you love each other, there's nothing wrong in setting down with her.

Don't allow your mind to trouble you,take care of the child as if he or she is your own, you do not know what that child will become tomorrow.
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by somtochukwu161: 3:15pm On Jan 09, 2025
Is ur choice but confirm if the dowry was paid or not....if it was paid ?has it been returned?if not d family should return it ASAP hence ur serious.then if they do u can marry her but if the first nigga dint pay dowry nd got her preg u can pay nd take both of them as urs(unless say e get Wetin una never tell us)
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by AngelicBeing: 3:43pm On Jan 09, 2025
emmabest2000:
Negative comments full this thread
Hian, for posting that gif, l will ask DSS to detain you for 2025 years without Bail shocked
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by AngelicBeing: 3:45pm On Jan 09, 2025
Alanjay1:
I made such mistakes and today I'm crying bitterly inside my heart. There is no way i will not marry second wife. Ladies aint loyal. The beginning may be good but the end of getting hook with single mother is bad and can also be deadly
Really, what happened to the single mom you married? Wetin she do you? sad
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by rock003: 4:10pm On Jan 09, 2025
Namaster:
I have commented EXHAUSTIVELY on the perils of marrying or dating a single mother.

Check my profile for them.

But the summary is that single mothers are BAD NEWS.

They are FIT to fuuuccck because their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS. They CANNOT form when you have evidence they had been viciously RAWDOGGED in the past.

They are UNFIT for dating or marriage because, again, their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS.

Single-motherhood also points to a LOW IQ and STUPIDITY.

Because said woman not only CHOSE an irresponsible man who was willing to ABANDON his child. But ALSO chose to fuccck him WITHOUT condoms or other forms of birth control.

That stupidity would be a TAINT in the gene pool if both of you have children. Dumber kids will result.

There is a reason a LOT of the children of single mothers end up as Yahoo Boys and Hookup girls (future single mothers).

It's NOT just about the upbringing, or lack thereof, but also the STUPIDITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY inherent in their genes asserting themselves.

Also WHEN the father eventually shows up, the child you raised with your money, time and energy will DISCARD you without a second thought.

Chances are equally high the mother will do the same.

Fuccck her, if you must.
But NEVER marry a single mother!
What of mothers who are single because their husbands died?
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by eniteden(m): 4:20pm On Jan 09, 2025
Wow Guy? U think so?

Do you have a sister? or have u bleeped anybody's sister??

Ooooorrrr u be still virgin cheesy
Well, whatever ur answer is; u have either made some loses whatever u just said or your sister loses whatever u just said or u are one the kind of person i explained up there.

Else u are a virgin then u are clean!

But on what u said? I kinda disagree with u to a very large extent lipsrsealed

24kmagik:
The day a girl opens leg for a man who isn't her husband is the day she loses every atom of pity or innocence.

She deserves every thing that follows after that moment
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by grandstar(m): 4:34pm On Jan 09, 2025
oziegbep:
Greetings All,

Please I need serious advice.

I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights.

I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout.

Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot
Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon, the world's second richest man was raised by his stepfather. That's even his stepfather's surname.

Shaquille O'Neal was raised by his stepfather. He actually thought he was his real father. He only found out he was not his bio bad when he was around 11. He later met his biological father but he considers his stapfather as his real dad.

If you want to marry her, you should be ready to accept her son as yours. Oyinbo says: "Love me, love my dog."
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by 24kmagik: 4:37pm On Jan 09, 2025
eniteden:
Wow Guy? U think so?

Do you have a sister? or have u bleeped anybody's sister??

Ooooorrrr u be still virgin cheesy
Well, whatever ur answer is; u have either made some loses whatever u just said or your sister loses whatever u just said or u are one the kind of person i explained up there.

Else u are a virgin then u are clean!

But on what u said? I kinda disagree with u to a very large extent lipsrsealed
My sister's decision to fvck or not to fvck a man who isn't her husband is actually none of my business. But she also deserves any she gets once she opens leg for any man who isn't her husband.

Same with me.... Once I knack a bitch girl, I've conquered her. Any thing she sees, she deserves it. Why open leg for me if not for what she thinks she stands to gain?

Bloody leeches
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Memyselfu2009(m): 4:40pm On Jan 09, 2025
shiwex:
Only a woman will write such nonsense
So what happen to single men with children.

Rubbish reasoning
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by histemple: 4:45pm On Jan 09, 2025
Namaster:
I have commented EXHAUSTIVELY on the perils of marrying or dating a single mother.

Check my profile for them.

But the summary is that single mothers are BAD NEWS.

They are FIT to fuuuccck because their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS. They CANNOT form when you have evidence they had been viciously RAWDOGGED in the past.

They are UNFIT for dating or marriage because, again, their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS.

Single-motherhood also points to a LOW IQ and STUPIDITY.

Because said woman not only CHOSE an irresponsible man who was willing to ABANDON his child. But ALSO chose to fuccck him WITHOUT condoms or other forms of birth control.

That stupidity would be a TAINT in the gene pool if both of you have children. Dumber kids will result.

There is a reason a LOT of the children of single mothers end up as Yahoo Boys and Hookup girls (future single mothers).

It's NOT just about the upbringing, or lack thereof, but also the STUPIDITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY inherent in their genes asserting themselves.

Also WHEN the father eventually shows up, the child you raised with your money, time and energy will DISCARD you without a second thought.

Chances are equally high the mother will do the same.

Fuccck her, if you must.
But NEVER marry a single mother!
I agree completely.

Just to add, do NOT and NEVER believe the stories told by single mothers without hearing from the baby daddy.

And don't be deceived by their pretentiousness. They are NOT as nice as they make you believe. They are angels until you finally marry them and they have a child with you.

I am speaking from experience.
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by eniteden(m): 4:51pm On Jan 09, 2025
grin grin Guyhuh u be Devil grin grin

24kmagik:
My sister's decision to fvck or not to fvck a man who isn't her husband is actually none of my business. But she also deserves any she gets once she opens leg for any man who isn't her husband.

Same with me.... Once I knack a bitch girl, I've conquered her. Any thing she sees, she deserves it. Why open leg for me if not for what she thinks she stands to gain?

Bloody leeches
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Basicend:
Inyaky:
You claimed you love her and you still looking for advice, if both of you are compatible and you you are led by your spirit, go ahead.
That's a woman giving you advice in d above quoted.

That's a dangerous advice as expected.

Bro,

You love her, probably bcoz u have had sex with her and u are enjoying it (trapped there).

The word love is not enough for marriage. It entails more factors.

Does she love you in return? The cons overrides the pros of engaging a single mum in ur context.

Ladies respect, love, submits and crave for a man that has a clear line of success or progress. Work on your goals and finances, have a clear and growing business concern/s. With time, better ladies than the subject single mum will be fighting to have you.

Hence, you can make a better choice for a sustainable marriage.
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by MadeMan01(m): 5:30pm On Jan 09, 2025
Hello house, happy New year. I experienced something like this in my last couple of years. The single mom if one told me, the husband has not set eyes in the child since birth and the child is now 6years. She claimed they were married but the man misled her and was previously married. What do you think will make a man marry a woman, and leave her when his kid is born without setting eyes on the kid even for a second for over six years. The story does not gel and she says she does not know the husband family because the wedding was abroad and the introduction was to be made when they arrived Naija. Guys , what will make you leave a woman who gave birth for you assuming you married her without setting eyes in the kid. For me it's paternity fraud. Also if a woman cheat on me after marriage, the marriage is over, I will be in kids life but she return to her father house. I want peoples opinion on why this could happen if it did happen as she narrated
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by meobizy(m): 6:01pm On Jan 09, 2025
Some people pack faeces to make ends meet. You are with a single mum for the compensation of sex and companionship. You are on the right track. Carry on.
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Chemlite: 6:02pm On Jan 09, 2025
budaatum:
Why should you be in love with a woman with a child who's father abandoned it?
I do have a suggestion though. Tell the woman to abandon the child so you can have her to yourself. Both of you can go throw the abandoned child in the dust bin.
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My point is taking the child as his, shouldn't be a criteria, it should be he should maltreat the child. Most ladies will tell you to take the child as yours only when the time for fees and care arise but you dear not correct/ discipline the so called your child when s/he misbehave.
Like I said, it is not his child, there are certain decisions he can't take due to that, therefore they (the single mum & guy) should discuss & maintain that boundary, simple.
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by horia: 6:16pm On Jan 09, 2025
DonEd:
So are we saying that all single mothers are bad news?

We guys can sweet mouth a lady to make her believe she has found her heaven on earth o ly to abandon her after childbirth.

I really hope we stop this bashing for mistakes made by women who were given assurance by men.
Shut up😂
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by DonEd(m): 6:29pm On Jan 09, 2025
horia:
Shut up😂
That's all u can say? Empty head.
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Kobojunkie: 6:31pm On Jan 09, 2025
MadeMan01:
➜Hello house, happy New year. I experienced something like this in my last couple of years. The single mom if one told me, the husband has not set eyes in the child since birth and the child is now 6years. She claimed they were married but the man misled her and was previously married. What do you think will make a man marry a woman, and leave her when his kid is born without setting eyes on the kid even for a second for over six years.
➜The story does not gel and she says she does not know the husband family because the wedding was abroad and the introduction was to be made when they arrived Naija. Guys , what will make you leave a woman who gave birth for you assuming you married her without setting eyes in the kid. For me it's paternity fraud.
➜Also if a woman cheat on me after marriage, the marriage is over, I will be in kids life but she return to her father house. I want peoples opinion on why this could happen if it did happen as she narrated
1. Where you born yesterday that you would ask such a ridiculous question? Some men would after having many kids up abandon them to die yet desire to have us believe that this particular scenario of yours is the worst and most nonsensical there could be. undecided

2. Nothing! undecided

3. Good for you but we have many more cases out there of men abandoning their children and marriages than your sob story here to work with. The millions of children who litter the streets of your Nigeria every day and not all orphans as many of them have fathers and some even mothers out somewhere who refuse to care for them. undecided
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Kobojunkie: 6:34pm On Jan 09, 2025
Chemlite:
➜My point is taking the child as his, shouldn't be a criteria, it should be he should maltreat the child. Most ladies will tell you to take the child as yours only when the time for fees and care arise but you dear not correct/ discipline the so called your child when s/he misbehave.
➜Like I said, it is not his child, there are certain decisions he can't take due to that, therefore they (the single mum & guy) should discuss & maintain that boundary, simple.
If disciplining the child means assaulting it then of course, the woman has every reason to ensure that never happens. After all, it is her fault that the child has to have a step-parent in the picture. undecided

2. It can be your child too if you would overcome your ego and accept that every child deserves love the very same as even that which comes out from your own loins. undecided
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Kobojunkie: 6:37pm On Jan 09, 2025
grandstar:
➜Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon, the world's second richest man was raised by his stepfather. That's even his stepfather's surname.
Shaquille O'Neal was raised by his stepfather. He actually thought he was his real father. He only found out he was not his bio bad when he was around 11. He later met his biological father but he considers his stapfather as his real dad.
If you want to marry her, you should be ready to accept her son as yours. Oyinbo says: "Love me, love my dog."
No mind these folks who would rather bask in their various delusions... delusions that continue to reveal them incompetent beings. 😩😩😩😩
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Trendsoulmate(f): 6:39pm On Jan 09, 2025
Namaster:
I have commented EXHAUSTIVELY on the perils of marrying or dating a single mother.

Check my profile for them.

But the summary is that single mothers are BAD NEWS.

They are FIT to fuuuccck because their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS. They CANNOT form when you have evidence they had been viciously RAWDOGGED in the past.

They are UNFIT for dating or marriage because, again, their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS.

Single-motherhood also points to a LOW IQ and STUPIDITY.

Because said woman not only CHOSE an irresponsible man who was willing to ABANDON his child. But ALSO chose to fuccck him WITHOUT condoms or other forms of birth control.

That stupidity would be a TAINT in the gene pool if both of you have children. Dumber kids will result.

There is a reason a LOT of the children of single mothers end up as Yahoo Boys and Hookup girls (future single mothers).

It's NOT just about the upbringing, or lack thereof, but also the STUPIDITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY inherent in their genes asserting themselves.

Also WHEN the father eventually shows up, the child you raised with your money, time and energy will DISCARD you without a second thought.

Chances are equally high the mother will do the same.

Fuccck her, if you must.
But NEVER marry a single mother!
YOU ARE AN UNCOUTH ANIMAL.
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Trendsoulmate(f): 6:41pm On Jan 09, 2025
Baronthecelebri:
If she has a daughter go a head,when the daughter clocks 20, then you can Bleep her to fulfill the scripture that says the husbandman that labour must be the first partaker.
You are dirty bas**tard
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by lailo: 8:11pm On Jan 09, 2025
Marry your death warrant by yourself grin
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by MadeMan01(m): 9:08pm On Jan 09, 2025
Kobojunkie:
1. Where you born yesterday that you would ask such a ridiculous question? Some men would after having many kids up abandon them to die yet desire to have us believe that this particular scenario of yours is the worst and most nonsensical there could be. undecided

2. Nothing! undecided

3. Good for you but we have many more cases out there of men abandoning their children and marriages than your sob story here to work with. The millions of children who litter the streets of your Nigeria every day and not all orphans as many of them have fathers and some even mothers out somewhere who refuse to care for them. undecided
My friend give me your opinion before you take your rabies vaccine. Me too I have caustic tongue. I'm not dealing with her, I just want opinions to see if I was overlooking anything as to whether a man can walk out of his kid and wife without seeing the kid for years. House please your opinions , no insulting
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