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Please guys, I need your help, I am really going nut and I am loosing my mind, got married February 2023, and our sex lives was very great, we had fun almost on daily bases. She took in that same month of our marriage, but since then, having sex with my wife has been a huge task, through out the 9 months pregnancy I only had sex with her twice. Which I tried to understand with her, because some women's body react differently.
She gave birth November 2023 though through C.S, i gave her enough time like 4 months before I started making attempt again, and I felt everything will return back to normal, but it was as if the child birth aggravated the whole thing, she turns down every attempt with almost no excuse. She just gives flimsy excuses that she's not in the mood. I have had series of discussions with her on how I have been frustrated and she down plays all my serious feelings. I even jokingly threaten to get it from outside, yet she still doesn't take me seriously.

Sincerely, I have suffered emotionally and mentally.

Mind you, I provide for the family to my very best and i am very sure she doesn't cheat on me. Please guys I need help on this, I am really loosing my mind.

The fear of another C.S should another pregnancy evolve must be one of the reasons behind how she's treating you

BTW,why is it that men are becoming more sexxx starved these days? What could be the cause? Abi the Tinubu economy policies wey suppose to dey kill men sexual libido come turn around to dey increase am? .

Ayam not understanding at all

and if you get sidechick now she will come here to open her own thread ooo. Na postpartum wahala she will come off it. As long as she is not cheating.
Just allow her abit dont force it on her. Rather start taking her out on dates. You may just get a maid or baby sitter. If you need your wife back you have to spend money. Take her outing, get her involved in marriage seminars on marriage it nice if both of you can attend .

With time She will start seeing it and learning se...x as her responsibilities then she will get used to it.

But the dates you go with her will be the rekindle her romantic passion with you. Note when you come back from the dates you may not gave s..x just light kiss, peek, learn to smoo...ch and leave her alone with a peek most times , dont forget to touch her head and shoulders no matter how expensive the hair do is. and just allow her lay on your chest make una gist while you stroke her hair, random kisss and kind words should follow do these from time to time. I tell you within weeks you should have your wife back depending on the severity of her case and no turn this matter to vex vex you will cause more harm. If i see you one on one i for tell you other things. But try these and other as your head and heart will guide you.

Sex, Sex, sex , Hian, like seriously, una no dey Taya with sex matter, look at the kind of topics popping up recently>>>my wife deny me of sex, my girlfriend deny me of sex , l am not having regular sex , since my wife got a new job, we only have sex 4 times in a month, nawao, like seriously, sex, sex, sex matter

IamMoses123:
✓ Please guys, I need your help, I am really going nut and I am loosing my mind, got married February 2023, and our sex lives was very great, we had fun almost on daily bases. She took in that same month of our marriage, but since then, having sex with my wife has been a huge task, through out the 9 months pregnancy I only had sex with her twice. Which I tried to understand with her, because some women's body react differently.
She gave birth November 2023 though through C.S, i gave her enough time like 4 months before I started making attempt again, and I felt everything will return back to normal, but it was as if the child birth aggravated the whole thing, she turns down every attempt with almost no excuse. She just gives flimsy excuses that she's not in the mood. I have had series of discussions with her on how I have been frustrated and she down plays all my serious feelings. I even jokingly threaten to get it from outside, yet she still doesn't take me seriously.
Sincerely, I have suffered emotionally and mentally.
Mind you, I provide for the family to my very best and i am very sure she doesn't cheat on me. Please guys I need help on this, I am really loosing my mind.

Make an appointment to see a professional marriage counselor for help since communication has become a major issue in your marriage. With the aid of a counselor you should maybe be better able to understand your wife's particular reason and then move forward from there towards helping her get back to normal or maybe deciding if best to call it quits on the marriage at this point in time.

IamMoses123:
Please guys, I need your help, I am really going nut and I am loosing my mind, got married February 2023, and our sex lives was very great, we had fun almost on daily bases. She took in that same month of our marriage, but since then, having sex with my wife has been a huge task, through out the 9 months pregnancy I only had sex with her twice. Which I tried to understand with her, because some women's body react differently.
She gave birth November 2023 though through C.S, i gave her enough time like 4 months before I started making attempt again, and I felt everything will return back to normal, but it was as if the child birth aggravated the whole thing, she turns down every attempt with almost no excuse. She just gives flimsy excuses that she's not in the mood. I have had series of discussions with her on how I have been frustrated and she down plays all my serious feelings. I even jokingly threaten to get it from outside, yet she still doesn't take me seriously.

Sincerely, I have suffered emotionally and mentally.

Mind you, I provide for the family to my very best and i am very sure she doesn't cheat on me. Please guys I need help on this, I am really loosing my mind.

BRUV it is OVER 2 YRS ago... leave that area finally......

Only men there wife know aren't bad guys they can try this shit with.

Give her something to worry about.....start going home late and going out to make calls.
Start doing some bad guys things trust me it will reset her brain.

Why will you be begging your wife for sex
No woman like a sissy man......they love hard men who are hard to predict.

You are too predictable for her.

That's Naija people for you.

AngelicBeing:
Sex, Sex, sex , Hian, like seriously, una no dey Taya with sex matter, look at the kind of topics popping up recently>>>my wife deny me of sex, my girlfriend deny me of sex , l am not having regular sex , since my wife got a new job, we only have sex 4 times in a month, nawao, like seriously, sex, sex, sex matter

It's normal for women to have lower sex drive after giving birth but your work as a man nah to think of what to do to spice things up.

Smh your wife gave birth through CS and u don dey disturb her for knack after 4months?


If you're seriously can't control the urge for knacking then Go and carry olosho to calm yourself down and chill. Yes I repeat am Carry Olosho if you can but don't get stucked

Things should be back normal gradually with your wife within 2years but u have to put in the work cuz she can't do it alone.

Not again 😔
Why sex matter con full everywhere this year like this?

Sonnobax15:

The fear of another C.S should another pregnancy evolve must be one of the reasons behind how she's treating you

[b]BTW,why is it that men are becoming more sexxx starved these days? [/b]What could be the cause? Abi the Tinubu economy policies wey suppose to dey kill men sexual libido come turn around to dey increase am? .

Ayam not understanding at all

Men have always faced this issue, which is why our fathers married multiple wives so at least out of the three or four, one would be in the mood every two days.

These days, men have almost completely lost control. If my wife denies me sex and I try to fix things but it doesn’t work, I’ll still have sex when I want to. It doesn’t make sense to remain faithful to someone who denies you intimacy.

I remember being in a talking stage with a lady, and we had a conversation like this:

She: If for a medical reason I stopped having sex with you, would you cheat?
Me: It wouldn’t be cheating if you can’t give it to me. It’d only be cheating if I ignored what I have at home to get it elsewhere.

She was shocked and asked if sex was that important to me. I said yes.

Later, we talked about the number of kids we’d have. She said two, and I said three. She insisted that her mind was set on two and she can't handle the stress of considering a third. I said no problem, you give me two, and I’d get the third elsewhere.

My sister ran.

No be me you go pocket.

AngelicBeing:
Sex, Sex, sex , Hian, like seriously, una no dey Taya with sex matter, look at the kind of topics popping up recently>>>my wife deny me of sex, my girlfriend deny me of sex , l am not having regular sex , since my wife got a new job, we only have sex 4 times in a month, nawao, like seriously, sex, sex, sex matter

This is coming from a gender that have sex with tap-water. 😂 😂

IamMoses123:
Please guys, I need your help, I am really going nut and I am loosing my mind, got married February 2023, and our sex lives was very great, we had fun almost on daily bases. She took in that same month of our marriage, but since then, having sex with my wife has been a huge task, through out the 9 months pregnancy I only had sex with her twice. Which I tried to understand with her, because some women's body react differently.
She gave birth November 2023 though through C.S, i gave her enough time like 4 months before I started making attempt again, and I felt everything will return back to normal, but it was as if the child birth aggravated the whole thing, she turns down every attempt with almost no excuse. She just gives flimsy excuses that she's not in the mood. I have had series of discussions with her on how I have been frustrated and she down plays all my serious feelings. I even jokingly threaten to get it from outside, yet she still doesn't take me seriously.

Sincerely, I have suffered emotionally and mentally.

Mind you, I provide for the family to my very best and i am very sure she doesn't cheat on me. Please guys I need help on this, I am really loosing my mind.

This is what happens to all these gentlemen who aren't street smart, if u are a very good bad guy u will get a side chick n give her strict conditions like not calling u at a time n never give her your WhatsApp number

U go do side chick for outside n get home n b d loving husband again

Save d side chick number with mechanic 2 or carpenter 2nd line n give her strict conditions to the relationship

U see I didn't go for option of olosho, they are dirty n I will never advice my worst enemy to try it

Do normal n reason side chick n still maintain d good husband vibe at home

Bobodee09:
Only men there wife know aren't bad guys they can try this shit with.

Give her something to worry about.....start going home late and going out to make calls.
Start doing some bad guys things trust me it will reset her brain.

Why will you be begging your wife for sex
No woman like a sissy man......they love hard men who are hard to predict.

You are too predictable for her.

don't mind d op

My wife can't even do that with me cos on a norms she knows I have admirers which I ignore cos I want to b responsible so it's already registered in her subconscious that if she slack local man can take some quick shot outside

Tallesty1:
This is coming from a gender that have sex with tap-water. 😂 😂

sex with tap water?

I don't get abeg

Sharpsharp00123:
don't mind d op

My wife can't even do that with me cos on a norms she knows I have admirers which I ignore cos I want to b responsible so it's already registered in her subconscious that if she slack local man can take some quick shot outside

Lol......mine try not to even pick up fights with me again cos she knows that a big opportunity for me to go catch fun....nah to dey enter house anytime and no money for any other things apart from basic needs.

Weak men are the one always complaining there wife denying them sex.
Once a man dull am once hin dan mugu until he change things himself.

When my wife tried it with me after 2yrs into our marriage nah she beg me touch her cos I know the game.
Treat them exactly the way they treat you.

Once a man is easily predictable his wife will misbehave alot but once she can't predict your moves she will always be on her toes.

Bobodee09:
Lol......mine try not to even pick up fights with me again cos she knows that a big opportunity for me to go catch fun....nah to dey enter house anytime and no money for any other things apart from basic needs.

Weak men are the one always complaining there wife denying them sex.
Once a man dull am once hin dan mugu until he change things himself.

When my wife tried it with me after 2yrs into our marriage nah she beg me touch her cos I know the game.
Treat them exactly the way they treat you.

Once a man is easily predictable his wife will misbehave alot but once she can't predict your moves she will always be on her toes.

ur last line is d basic

Op matter don enter see finish cos he's already a captured man, d wife already knows if she deny him he has no option than to take it like that

Omo that 2 years I go don achieve some of my sexual fantasies

As I Dey like dis I don straff all type of girl no matter d height or complexion or body shape but I never straff albino or milf

I am married n i am trying to b on my best behaviour n b a good man but if my wife slack na to reason how I go mark albino or one sweet milf

madone:
and if you get sidechick now she will come here to open her own thread ooo. Na postpartum wahala she will come off it. As long as she is not cheating.
Just allow her abit dont force it on her. Rather start taking her out on dates. You may just get a maid or baby sitter. If you need your wife back you have to spend money. Take her outing, get her involved in marriage seminars on marriage it nice if both of you can attend .

With time She will start seeing it and learning se...x as her responsibilities then she will get used to it.

But the dates you go with her will be the rekindle her romantic passion with you. Note when you come back from the dates you may not gave s..x just light kiss, peek, learn to smoo...ch and leave her alone with a peek most times , dont forget to touch her head and shoulders no matter how expensive the hair do is. and just allow her lay on your chest make una gist while you stroke her hair, random kisss and kind words should follow do these from time to time. I tell you within weeks you should have your wife back depending on the severity of her case and no turn this matter to vex vex you will cause more harm. If i see you one on one i for tell you other things. But try these and other as your head and heart will guide you.

I love your take on this, though I do some of this and I got Frustrated. I'll like to discuss more with you privately.

AngelicBeing:
Sex, Sex, sex , Hian, like seriously, una no dey Taya with sex matter, look at the kind of topics popping up recently>>>my wife deny me of sex, my girlfriend deny me of sex , l am not having regular sex , since my wife got a new job, we only have sex 4 times in a month, nawao, like seriously, sex, sex, sex matter

Hmm, i don't know if you are married and if you are married and your sexual life is the way you want it, then congratulations to you.
But if a man comes out and tell you his challenge in his home for almost 2 years, you should know this is a serious matter. Sleeping on same bed everyday for two years and can't even make attempt because it will be a failed one.

For God sake, this is my wife and not my girlfriend, and I am not demanding for sex daily.
I beg you, don't judge please, sex is an integral part of marriage.

Bobodee09:
Only men there wife know aren't bad guys they can try this shit with.

Give her something to worry about.....start going home late and going out to make calls.
Start doing some bad guys things trust me it will reset her brain.

Why will you be begging your wife for sex
No woman like a sissy man......they love hard men who are hard to predict.

You are too predictable for her.

I've tried this once though, didn't sleep at home, though she wasn't moved, but i think I need to do this often.

9JAFULLBREED:
It's normal for women to have lower sex drive after giving birth but your work as a man nah to think of what to do to spice things up.

Smh your wife gave birth through CS and u don dey disturb her for knack after 4months?


If you're seriously can't control the urge for knacking then Go and carry olosho to calm yourself down and chill. Yes I repeat am Carry Olosho if you can but don't get stucked

Things should be back normal gradually with your wife within 2years but u have to put in the work cuz she can't do it alone.

I have been doing same research boss. You can also check further, It says some bodies takes six weeks, some 2 months and some 3 months. I understood it's a process. 4 months no b joke now . But mind you it's not even 4 months again, the pikin is over a year now and nothing has changed.

IamMoses123:
I've tried this once though, didn't sleep at home, though she wasn't moved, but i think I need to do this often.

Am not saying you should sleep out.

See at this point you need to take control back.......You need to lock up and never ask or discuss the sex issh with her henceforth.

Be out there more and make sure you unavailable at home like before anymore.

Be very cold and provide for only basic things and be selfish....women love hard men who don't send there feelings.

Be commanding without being loud.....start choosing meals you want to eat instead of what she wants.

Just make sure in whatever you do henceforth do things that will give you joy and focus on yourself and kids only.

I doubt you be able to do all this cos you are a nice guy.

[quote author=IamMoses123 post=133659096]Please guys, I need your help, I am really going nut and I am loosing my mind, got married February 2023, and our sex lives was very great, we had fun almost on daily bases. She took in that same month of our marriage, but since then, having sex with my wife has been a huge task, through out the 9 months pregnancy I only had sex with her twice. Which I tried to understand with her, because some women's body react differently.
She gave birth November 2023 though through C.S, i gave her enough time like 4 months before I started making attempt again, and I felt everything will return back to normal, but it was as if the child birth aggravated the whole thing, she turns down every attempt with almost no excuse. She just gives flimsy excuses that she's not in the mood. I have had series of discussions with her on how I have been frustrated and she down plays all my serious feelings. I even jokingly threaten to get it from outside, yet she still doesn't take me ...

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The advices na wa!

Hard men eku ise o!

Op part from sex is there other changes in her ,if there's she suffering from postpartum depression

wiseone28:
Must you fvk?

Yes. He must Bleep. It's part of marriage.

IamMoses123:
I have been doing same research boss. You can also check further, It says some bodies takes six weeks, some 2 months and some 3 months. I understood it's a process. 4 months no b joke now . But mind you it's not even 4 months again, the pikin is over a year now and nothing has changed.

1. How was the sex life before you people married?
2. How was your connection (affection) before the marriage and during the marriage?

IamMoses123:
I've tried this once though, didn't sleep at home, though she wasn't moved, but i think I need to do this often.

At this point, the most important question to ask [yourself] is does she still love you?
Did she ever love you?
In that question lies the root cause of your problem.

Most times, you men get carried away with the thought of sex, and ignore/forget the foundation.

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Haba go get another woman now case closed

uote author=IamMoses123 post=133659096]Please guys, I need your help, I am really going nut and I am loosing my mind, got married February 2023, and our sex lives was very great, we had fun almost on daily bases. She took in that same month of our marriage, but since then, having sex with my wife has been a huge task, through out the 9 months pregnancy I only had sex with her twice. Which I tried to understand with her, because some women's body react differently.
She gave birth November 2023 though through C.S, i gave her enough time like 4 months before I started making attempt again, and I felt everything will return back to normal, but it was as if the child birth aggravated the whole thing, she turns down every attempt with almost no excuse. She just gives flimsy excuses that she's not in the mood. I have had series of discussions with her on how I have been frustrated and she down plays all my serious feelings. I even jokingly threaten to get it from outside, yet she still doesn't take me seriously.

Sincerely, I have suffered emotionally and mentally.

Mind you, I provide for the family to my very best and i am very sure she doesn't cheat on me. Please guys I need help on this, I am really loosing my mind.[/quote]

Sir, be real to yourself, have you ever cheated on your wife during these 2 years period and been caught and forgiven?
Did your wife have any complications during pregnancy?for example, a woman who has had cervical cerclage done during pregnancy probably realises that her life is worth more than 10 mins round of sex with someone who probably will marry someone else when she's gone. Same with many pregnancy complications.
What is the foundation of your marriage? You have just told us this little stuff, we do not know the nitty gritties that may have hardened your wife to make such resolve. For example, a divorcee kept cheating with his ex wife under the disguise of seeing/ supporting his ex children. The wife being a lover of peace didn't bother to stop him. She was even glad to have someone out there helping her out in that department. Their sex life suffered just like yours as the wife completely lost sex interest in her own husband.
Another question I have for you is do you insult your wife(sexually) whenever there's a quarrel or make her look like a prostitute due to circumstances you met her,etc do you give her money or meet the house or family needs?. All these and more can make a woman resolve never to have sex with her husband again but will continue living in peace with you.

Divaan:
➜Sir, be real to yourself, have you ever cheated on your wife during these 2 years period and been caught and forgiven?
Did your wife have any complications during pregnancy? for example, a woman who has had cervical cerclage done during pregnancy probably realises that her life is worth more than 10 mins round of sex with someone who probably will marry someone else when she's gone. Same with many pregnancy complications.
What is the foundation of your marriage? You have just told us this little stuff, we do not know the nitty gritties that may have hardened your wife to make such resolve. For example, a divorcee kept cheating with his ex wife under the disguise of seeing/ supporting his ex children. The wife being a lover of peace didn't bother to stop him. She was even glad to have someone out there helping her out in that department. Their sex life suffered just like yours as the wife completely lost sex interest in her own husband...

Women dey marry things! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣