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My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by kennydotkom(m): 9:42am On Jul 04
My wife has always denied me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this has become frequent with her. Note that I work in another state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I live alone.

I can decide not to come home on a weekend just to attend to other girls but I didn't. Many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girlfriend with all the freedom I have.

Sometimes she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex. With just 2 or 3rounds am OK till next weekend oo.

HOW TRUE IS This? as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work.

She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up.

Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear.

I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by daddytime(m): 9:58am On Jul 04
Hmmm

Very rigid situation.

There's nothing you can do to reignite the spark In some women when they have decided to turn off the switch trust me.

I'd advise you just cable your line and find a fuckmate around you for relief.

By the time she sees you no longer ask her for sex, her body go phone her.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by uruba23: 10:00am On Jul 04
Okay maybe we should wait for the elders but I think you should communicate more with your wife and try see her beyond been a sex tool agreed by the time you returned Konji would have accumulated.Really you need to study moods,you know the language women hear is money,so if you haven't done that part you might not have a willing partner,secondly you need to do the little things that matters,especially now that you got kids,try to understand your wife and her moods.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by Davash222(m): 10:00am On Jul 04
So, you still need Ezemmuo to come and tel you your wife is getting the dicck somewhere else

After the weeks toil and you return home to your beloved wife, a faithful wife would ‘scatter’ you with sexx!!!! She’s getting the D somewhere!!! And I think that D is performing better than you. Sorry about that.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by Jayslicky: 10:01am On Jul 04
You should speak to your wife about the lack of sex on your lives, ask her the reason why she is always not in the mood, it could be because of her doing too many house chores and you are not always available to help out, I would advise you to always help her in doing some house chores when you are available and both of you can always set a time table when to have sex it would help and make her ready for the act, also try and spice up your romantic life, don't always be in a haste to penetrate when trying to have sex, put her in the mood, make her want you to have sex with her, kiss and cuddle her touch sensitive parts of her body and most importantly make her cum when you are through, if you can do all these things, your wife will be the one chasing you round the house for sex.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by donkilidon(m): 10:02am On Jul 04
What are your ages?
How long have you been in the marriage?
How long have you known each other?
What changes in sex partern have you noticed from the beginning till now?
When did she start having low sex drive?
Do you suspect she's seeing someone as a result of your job type?
Do you satisfy her other needs as a woman?

Answer these questions honestly and am sure you would find answers you desire.

She might just be passing through a phase in her life, soon the drive might appear.

I encourage you to adopt new and more romantic approach to making her desire you more.
Step up your game,
By improving your general being.
It's not easy to eat same food everyday,every month, every year served in same plate prepared with same old seasoning. Try to serve the same food differently, flavored differently, served differently.
And am sure she will change.
Good luck brother

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by Obainoneandonly(m): 10:03am On Jul 04
bro AS A mam you have sexual needs,you should sit her down and explain it to her EXPLICITLY. you should also ask her what's wrong because I know she can't just wake up one morning and decide unilaterally dat no more Bleep in your marriage again. if her excuse is flimsy as a piece of paper,then you have look elsewhere for the gratification of your desires. no let KONJI kill you my brother. Bleep is as cheap as purewater,don't let anybody tell u otherwise

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by Davash222(m): 10:08am On Jul 04
donkilidon:
What are your ages?
How long have you been in the marriage?
How long have you known each other?
What changes in sex partern have you noticed from the beginning till now?
When did she start having low sex drive?
Do you suspect she's seeing someone as a result of your job type?
Do you satisfy her other needs as a woman?

Answer these questions honestly and am sure you would find answers you desire.

She might just be passing through a phase in her life, soon the drive might appear.

I encourage you to adopt new and more romantic approach to making her desire you more.
Step up your game,
By improving your general being.
It's not easy to eat same food everyday,every month, every year served in same plate prepared with same old seasoning. Try to serve the same food differently, flavored differently, served differently.
And am sure she will change.
Good luck brother

All these are not necessary, just tell him the truth!! We’re adults here .

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by lilmax(m): 10:24am On Jul 04
she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming.


grin grin


tbh with you she's might have gone on marathon with other men, but wants the door to close before letting you in

if she fcks up in two weekends time, you're free to knack whoever you want to knack coddedly because its obvious she's doing it herself

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by donkilidon(m): 10:29am On Jul 04
Davash222:

All these are not necessary, just tell him the truth!! We’re adults here .

Oya what's the truth??

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by Davash222(m): 10:31am On Jul 04
donkilidon:


Oya what's the truth??
The truth is glaring, she’s getting the DICCK from a better source.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by donkilidon(m): 10:38am On Jul 04
Davash222:

The truth is glaring, she’s getting the DICCK from a better source.

Hmmmmmmmm!!!
Can't be 100% sure bro

More over, I didn't rule that out in my initial post

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by SageMK: 10:52am On Jul 04
Don't listen to thośe stupíd modafúkers telling you that your wife is cheating or those advocating you to have it from someone. They are only out to destroy homes.

The truth is your wife doesn't enjoy having sex with you.
You don't satisfy her needs so she has given up on sex.

Be dominant, sit her down and have a discussion.

Let her know you are ready to try something new and it's either she's open to fixing it up or a permanent solution.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by HITdemUP: 11:53am On Jul 04
This is a sensitive issue. This is the actual reason my boss opted for a second wife as he couldn't bear the emotional torture his wife subjected him to with her incessant attitude of denying him sex as at when due. I'm not advising you to marry another wife though, but let her know the likely consequences of her actions. I don't think she is cheating on you either, hope she hasn't been masturbating in your absence ?, masturbation makes one lose sight of emotional and spiritual connection you should have with someone during sex. When the emotional connection doesn't exist, sex becomes un-enjoyable . Considering the weeks you spend outside before reuniting with your family it's safe to say she got used to self servicing herself to the point she no longer enjoy sex with you. Finally, learn to be more romantic with her., let her know how beautiful she is and how you easily get turned on by merely looking at her.. Talks like this will bring the emotional connection that existed between you guys.
Take the good parts of my advice that you consider meaningful and deter the ones you find not helpful. Good luck

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by Gaggi: 12:01pm On Jul 04
Withdraw what women value most and she will be the one begging you. Stop asking her and don't come home every weekend, do what you can to satisfy your sexual needs even if it involves self pleasure.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by 2mch(m): 12:34pm On Jul 04
kennydotkom:
My wife has always deny me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this had become frequent with her. Note that I work in anoda state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I leave alone. I can decide not to come home on a weekend jus to attend to other girls but I didn't. many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girl friend with all the freedom I have. sometime she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex with just 2or 3rounds am OK til next weekend oo. HOW TRUE IS THIS?as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work. She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up. Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear. I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.
Don’t cheat. Try to make her open up about her sexual preferences. I don’t think you are doing it how she likes it. Communicate with your wife and you will get your answer.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by bigl: 1:32pm On Jul 04
kennydotkom:
My wife has always deny me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this had become frequent with her. Note that I work in anoda state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I leave alone. I can decide not to come home on a weekend jus to attend to other girls but I didn't. many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girl friend with all the freedom I have. sometime she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex with just 2or 3rounds am OK til next weekend oo. HOW TRUE IS THIS?as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work. She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up. Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear. I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

Hmmmmmmmmm.... i understand u bro .... its probably stress and the fact that you are living apart ...

If she was like this when u got married; as in u always have to cajole her, etc before u have sex, then there's little chances she will change but if she's not being like that, then you really should address this head on.

But I don't think she's cheating. I still want to believe its the stress of taking care of the kids ... i'm a father and i know how tiresome one can be after chasing all these kids around (especially if u have them plenty).

And it can also be age factors affecting her hormones.

Sometimes, for strange reasons, some people stop having sex cos they just don't have the urges and they too can't explain; so they hide under "stress, tiredness, etc" though that can also be a contributing factor.

Try this: If u have a parents, let your kids go there for the weekend for the next couple of weeks, leaving u and your wife. Then take her out to see the world. Give her some trip/trills out there then come back home and have mind blowing sex.

If these doesn't work then there is need to see a doctor.

Whatever u do, pls pls and pls, don't report her to anybody: its like nailing a half dead man in a coffin.

If there are some more infos to these writeup, buzz me on whatsapp for some more private discussion

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by bukatyne(f): 1:41pm On Jul 04
uruba23:
Okay maybe we should wait for the elders but I think you should communicate more with your wife and try see her beyond been a sex tool agreed by the time you returned Konji would have accumulated.Really you need to study moods,you know the language women hear is money,so if you haven't done that part you might not have a willing partner,secondly you need to do the little things that matters,especially now that you got kids,try to understand your wife and her moods.

For a wife who sees her husbands only Fridays to Sundays max. Monday mornings?

She ought to jump on him and let every weekend be a mini-honeymoon.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by Firstorderwizard(m): 1:44pm On Jul 04
I tire for some niggaz here with their 1985 model of advice.
The woman is probably collecting better dick outside. OP, investigate who she's meeting and where she's been going lately.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by bukatyne(f): 2:06pm On Jul 04
kennydotkom:
My wife has always deny me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this had become frequent with her. Note that I work in anoda state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I leave alone. I can decide not to come home on a weekend jus to attend to other girls but I didn't. many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girl friend with all the freedom I have. sometime she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex with just 2or 3rounds am OK til next weekend oo. HOW TRUE IS THIS?as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work. She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up. Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear. I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

It is your wife we can advise in this case.

Can you get her here?

Or you show her the thread?

As a wife, she ought to look forward to your arrival every weekend and clear her calendar to make you her priority so you feel rejuvenated when going back the next week.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by uruba23: 2:26pm On Jul 04
bukatyne:


For a wife who sees her husbands only Fridays to Sundays max. Monday mornings?

She ought to jump on him and let every weekend be a mini-honeymoon.
Lol I am not a woman,but what is there to jump about if the man hasn't done other responsibilities.You never know if that is all he does when he comes back,perhaps no call,no how are you doing when away,just want come and be shooting like Shina Rambo .

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by bukatyne(f): 2:41pm On Jul 04
uruba23:

Lol I am not a woman,but what is there to jump about if the man hasn't done other responsibilities.You never know if that is all he does when he comes back,perhaps no call,no how are you doing when away,just want come and be shooting like Shina Rambo .

If he hasn't done other 'responsibilities', the wife should address that.

He does not call to check up on the family? Call him and tell him you would like him to check up.

Ditto any other thing he does not do.

Address the issue.

And yes, she and the kids should jump on him and give him a royal welcome.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by sisisioge: 2:45pm On Jul 04
Alright...its all about sexual deprivation this week! How fun!

Sorry OP....beg her to stop hoarding fa. Hoarders may not make heaven grin

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by J111333(m): 3:24pm On Jul 04
Your wife is the lazy type, yes too lazy to have sex or she's having it with someone or she has some emotional stuff going on with her and you need to act fast before the condition deteriorates.

Goodluck and if the problem doesn't fall in any of those categories, then consult iffa priest. grin

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by chii8(f): 4:07pm On Jul 04
Some women do develop low sex drive after giving birth, it could be fear of being pregnant again which maybe they no longer want to have children.it could be emotional issues.

But for a man who is only around on weekend,she should treat the man better. Most men don't joke with sex,the truth is that the Op's wife has a problem and the man hasn't identified it,so the solution is not going to come.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by BuddhaPalm(m): 4:21pm On Jul 04
kennydotkom:
My wife has always deny me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this had become frequent with her. Note that I work in anoda state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I leave alone. I can decide not to come home on a weekend jus to attend to other girls but I didn't. many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girl friend with all the freedom I have. sometime she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex with just 2or 3rounds am OK til next weekend oo. HOW TRUE IS THIS?as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work. She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up. Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear. I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

This could help: https://www.nairaland.com/3023490/how-frustrated-man-fixed-sexless

Personally, I'll go with girlfriends.

Younger, better looking and more enthusiastic.

Sex is a vital ingredient in your happiness as a man.

One person shouldn't have a monopoly on granting you this expression.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by Zombiekiller010: 4:44pm On Jul 04
Be romantic, responsible but stop asking her for sex , just a matter of time, she will realise she is chasing you out

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by marriage1: 4:47pm On Jul 04
AVOID THESE DEADLY MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE.
Every woman should take notes of these, build a your Marriage, protect
your Marriage, and also fight to keep your Marriage alive so you can enjoy your spouse.

Denying your spouse sex when there is no health issue is like giving him
an automatic tickets for him to get a girlfriend.
Don't see yourself making this mistakes.
Avoid them for the happiness of your marriage.
https://allsinglesandmarried.blogspot.com/2019/06/18-deadly-mistakes-that-women-make-in.html

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by uruba23: 5:40pm On Jul 04
bukatyne:


If he hasn't done other 'responsibilities', the wife should address that.

He does not call to check up on the family? Call him and tell him you would like him to check up.

Ditto any other thing he does not do.

Address the issue.

And yes, she and the kids should jump on him and give him a royal welcome.
Lol it doesn't works that way all the time.Marriage is a complex institution ,you don't even want to know what happens behind the closet.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by bukatyne(f): 5:48pm On Jul 04
uruba23:

Lol it doesn't works that way all the time.Marriage is a complex institution ,you don't even want to know what happens behind the closet.

Marriage is as easy as you both want it to be.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by kennydotkom(m): 7:23pm On Jul 04
Thank bro. Just that I don't like cheating on my wife because she is not the cheating type too, maybe because she was circumcised that is why she has low sex drive.
daddytime:
Hmmm

Very rigid situation.

There's nothing you can do to reignite the spark I some women trust me.

I'd advise you just cable your line and find a fuckmate around you for relief.

By the time she sees you no longer ask her for sex, her body go phone her.

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Re: My Wife Often Denies Me Sex Despite That I Only Return Home On Weekend From Work by davillian(m): 7:27pm On Jul 04
grin

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