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Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by damoobaba: 10:19pm On Jan 01, 2025
Draggun:
This has to be the realest thing I've read today. Thank you for the advice OP. May 2025 be better than 2024.
This mine 👇👇

1. Your helpers are your main family, not even the family you were born into. Don't  joke with people that genuinely love you. Try to get more people like them.

2. Don't bank on promises.
See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?
Don't care what people will say.
They will mock you. They will ridicule you.
Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

4. Do proper research, don't just believe what people tell you.

5. Be kind.

6. An Eye for an eye. A Tooth for a tooth.
Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.
Forgiveness should come after punishment.

7. Learn to see the light in people.
No one is utterly useless.

8. Learn to provide value.
Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

9. Don't beg for food. Don't beg for money.
Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar. Refuse to see begging as your last option.
Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.


10. Don't be an introvert.
Be part of a community
No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

11. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.
The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

12. Be DESPERATE to find solutions to your problems. Every problem has a solution and some solutions are found in the most unlikely places. NEVER LIMIT YOURSELF when looking for solutions.

13. Never give up on your goals. Even when you fall while chasing them, dust yourself up, get up, restrategise and continue the chase.

Don't be afraid of failure. You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.
Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.


14. Avoid procrastination.
What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

15. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.
This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.
If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

16. Value people that value you.
Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labour.

17. Don't just learn a skill.
Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

18. Dont trust any human completely. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your mental strength.

19. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you. It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.
They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by Enny2013(f): 10:20pm On Jan 01, 2025
Chai! No. 8 and 11 sweet me.
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by Konquest: 12:22am On Jan 02, 2025
CaveAdullam:
1. When you have verified that someone genuinely loves you, don't break that person's heart. Choose death rather. Or, end the relationship early.

Because not all lovers are weak. Betrayal may trigger their vindictive instinct and they'll come for your jugular like a vampire.

2. Don't bank on promises.

See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?

Once you answer that question, you'll be able to see all the channels that lead to your destination.

4. Don't care what people will say.

They will mock you. They will ridicule you.

Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

5. Seek truth.

If your heart is always in the pursuit of truth, you'll gain knowledge and learn wisdom.

You don't need a preacher or counselor to constantly be on your doorposts advising you.

6. Appreciate beauty.

Stay away from ugliness of any form. Ugliness will always make you dwell on the negative side of life.

Appreciate beautiful nature. Stare at beautiful people and architecture.

7. Be kind.

8. Eye for eye. Tooth for tooth.

Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.

Forgiveness should come after punishment.

9. Learn to see the light in people.

No one is utterly useless.

However, don't pay attention to the unrepentant fool.

10. Learn to provide value.

Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

11. Don't beg for food.

Don't beg for money.

Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar.

Refuse to see begging as your last option.

Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.

12. Always be optimistic.

No matter how tragic your travails are, be optimistic that one day you'll overcome.

Pessimism is a joy spoiler. You'll end up corrupting your soul and never see good in yourself or others.

13. Don't be an introvert.

Be part of a community.

No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

14. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.

The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

15. Dress nice. Smell nice.

Luxury isn't only in the cost. How you wear luxury matters.

Hardly anybody will ask you the cost of your shoes and clothes. So, you don't need to break the bank.

16. Life is a marathon. But it's better to run like a cheetah than walk like a snail.

Resources in life are scarce; first come, first serve.

Make smart moves always.

17. Avoid procrastination.

What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

18. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.

This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.

If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

It's important to curtail your foolishness early.

19. Hope is not a strategy.

Good work is.

Make sure you are doing something meaningful instead of wishing for a pool of Bethsaida miracles.

Those who work have no fear of the future.

20. Value people that value you.

Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labor.

21. Don't just learn a skill.

Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

22. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Even you.

Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your integrity.

23. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you.

It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.

They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.

24. Don't be afraid of failure.

You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.

Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.

Thanks.
Succinctly stated.
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by freedomchild: 6:17am On Jan 02, 2025
CaveAdullam:
1. When you have verified that someone genuinely loves you, don't break that person's heart. Choose death rather. Or, end the relationship early.

Because not all lovers are weak. Betrayal may trigger their vindictive instinct and they'll come for your jugular like a vampire.

2. Don't bank on promises.

See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?

Once you answer that question, you'll be able to see all the channels that lead to your destination.

4. Don't care what people will say.

They will mock you. They will ridicule you.

Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

5. Seek truth.

If your heart is always in the pursuit of truth, you'll gain knowledge and learn wisdom.

You don't need a preacher or counselor to constantly be on your doorposts advising you.

6. Appreciate beauty.

Stay away from ugliness of any form. Ugliness will always make you dwell on the negative side of life.

Appreciate beautiful nature. Stare at beautiful people and architecture.

7. Be kind.

8. Eye for eye. Tooth for tooth.

Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.

Forgiveness should come after punishment.

9. Learn to see the light in people.

No one is utterly useless.

However, don't pay attention to the unrepentant fool.

10. Learn to provide value.

Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

11. Don't beg for food.

Don't beg for money.

Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar.

Refuse to see begging as your last option.

Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.

12. Always be optimistic.

No matter how tragic your travails are, be optimistic that one day you'll overcome.

Pessimism is a joy spoiler. You'll end up corrupting your soul and never see good in yourself or others.

13. Don't be an introvert.

Be part of a community.

No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

14. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.

The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

15. Dress nice. Smell nice.

Luxury isn't only in the cost. How you wear luxury matters.

Hardly anybody will ask you the cost of your shoes and clothes. So, you don't need to break the bank.

16. Life is a marathon. But it's better to run like a cheetah than walk like a snail.

Resources in life are scarce; first come, first serve.

Make smart moves always.

17. Avoid procrastination.

What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

18. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.

This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.

If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

It's important to curtail your foolishness early.

19. Hope is not a strategy.

Good work is.

Make sure you are doing something meaningful instead of wishing for a pool of Bethsaida miracles.

Those who work have no fear of the future.

20. Value people that value you.

Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labor.

21. Don't just learn a skill.

Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

22. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Even you.

Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your integrity.

23. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you.

It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.

They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.

24. Don't be afraid of failure.

You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.

Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.

Thanks.
Great
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by FuckYeyeMods: 7:05am On Jan 02, 2025
Human are cunning and manipulative
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by enumerica: 8:04am On Jan 02, 2025
CaveAdullam:
1. When you have verified that someone genuinely loves you, don't break that person's heart. Choose death rather. Or, end the relationship early.

Because not all lovers are weak. Betrayal may trigger their vindictive instinct and they'll come for your jugular like a vampire.

2. Don't bank on promises.

See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?

Once you answer that question, you'll be able to see all the channels that lead to your destination.

4. Don't care what people will say.

They will mock you. They will ridicule you.

Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

5. Seek truth.

If your heart is always in the pursuit of truth, you'll gain knowledge and learn wisdom.

You don't need a preacher or counselor to constantly be on your doorposts advising you.

6. Appreciate beauty.

Stay away from ugliness of any form. Ugliness will always make you dwell on the negative side of life.

Appreciate beautiful nature. Stare at beautiful people and architecture.

7. Be kind.

8. Eye for eye. Tooth for tooth.

Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.

Forgiveness should come after punishment.

9. Learn to see the light in people.

No one is utterly useless.

However, don't pay attention to the unrepentant fool.

10. Learn to provide value.

Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

11. Don't beg for food.

Don't beg for money.

Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar.

Refuse to see begging as your last option.

Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.

12. Always be optimistic.

No matter how tragic your travails are, be optimistic that one day you'll overcome.

Pessimism is a joy spoiler. You'll end up corrupting your soul and never see good in yourself or others.

13. Don't be an introvert.

Be part of a community.

No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

14. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.

The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

15. Dress nice. Smell nice.

Luxury isn't only in the cost. How you wear luxury matters.

Hardly anybody will ask you the cost of your shoes and clothes. So, you don't need to break the bank.

16. Life is a marathon. But it's better to run like a cheetah than walk like a snail.

Resources in life are scarce; first come, first serve.

Make smart moves always.

17. Avoid procrastination.

What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

18. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.

This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.

If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

It's important to curtail your foolishness early.

19. Hope is not a strategy.

Good work is.

Make sure you are doing something meaningful instead of wishing for a pool of Bethsaida miracles.

Those who work have no fear of the future.

20. Value people that value you.

Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labor.

21. Don't just learn a skill.

Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

22. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Even you.

Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your integrity.

23. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you.

It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.

They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.

24. Don't be afraid of failure.

You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.

Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.

Thanks.
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by ChiefOkporghe: 8:44am On Jan 02, 2025
CaveAdullam:
1. When you have verified that someone genuinely loves you, don't break that person's heart. Choose death rather. Or, end the relationship early.

Because not all lovers are weak. Betrayal may trigger their vindictive instinct and they'll come for your jugular like a vampire.

2. Don't bank on promises.

See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?

Once you answer that question, you'll be able to see all the channels that lead to your destination.

4. Don't care what people will say.

They will mock you. They will ridicule you.

Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

5. Seek truth.

If your heart is always in the pursuit of truth, you'll gain knowledge and learn wisdom.

You don't need a preacher or counselor to constantly be on your doorposts advising you.

6. Appreciate beauty.

Stay away from ugliness of any form. Ugliness will always make you dwell on the negative side of life.

Appreciate beautiful nature. Stare at beautiful people and architecture.

7. Be kind.

8. Eye for eye. Tooth for tooth.

Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.

Forgiveness should come after punishment.

9. Learn to see the light in people.

No one is utterly useless.

However, don't pay attention to the unrepentant fool.

10. Learn to provide value.

Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

11. Don't beg for food.

Don't beg for money.

Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar.

Refuse to see begging as your last option.

Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.

12. Always be optimistic.

No matter how tragic your travails are, be optimistic that one day you'll overcome.

Pessimism is a joy spoiler. You'll end up corrupting your soul and never see good in yourself or others.

13. Don't be an introvert.

Be part of a community.

No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

14. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.

The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

15. Dress nice. Smell nice.

Luxury isn't only in the cost. How you wear luxury matters.

Hardly anybody will ask you the cost of your shoes and clothes. So, you don't need to break the bank.

16. Life is a marathon. But it's better to run like a cheetah than walk like a snail.

Resources in life are scarce; first come, first serve.

Make smart moves always.

17. Avoid procrastination.

What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

18. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.

This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.

If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

It's important to curtail your foolishness early.

19. Hope is not a strategy.

Good work is.

Make sure you are doing something meaningful instead of wishing for a pool of Bethsaida miracles.

Those who work have no fear of the future.

20. Value people that value you.

Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labor.

21. Don't just learn a skill.

Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

22. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Even you.

Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your integrity.

23. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you.

It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.

They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.

24. Don't be afraid of failure.

You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.

Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.

Thanks.
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by Ten06(m): 10:36am On Jan 02, 2025
Do not think that because someone is rich he will not demand much money from you when he or she render service. Rich people will demand more for service rendered than poor people
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by Caseless: 7:58am On Jan 03, 2025
CaveAdullam:
1. When you have verified that someone genuinely loves you, don't break that person's heart. Choose death rather. Or, end the relationship early.

Because not all lovers are weak. Betrayal may trigger their vindictive instinct and they'll come for your jugular like a vampire.

2. Don't bank on promises.

See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?

Once you answer that question, you'll be able to see all the channels that lead to your destination.

4. Don't care what people will say.

They will mock you. They will ridicule you.

Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

5. Seek truth.

If your heart is always in the pursuit of truth, you'll gain knowledge and learn wisdom.

You don't need a preacher or counselor to constantly be on your doorposts advising you.

6. Appreciate beauty.

Stay away from ugliness of any form. Ugliness will always make you dwell on the negative side of life.

Appreciate beautiful nature. Stare at beautiful people and architecture.

7. Be kind.

8. Eye for eye. Tooth for tooth.

Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.

Forgiveness should come after punishment.

9. Learn to see the light in people.

No one is utterly useless.

However, don't pay attention to the unrepentant fool.

10. Learn to provide value.

Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

11. Don't beg for food.

Don't beg for money.

Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar.

Refuse to see begging as your last option.

Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.

12. Always be optimistic.

No matter how tragic your travails are, be optimistic that one day you'll overcome.

Pessimism is a joy spoiler. You'll end up corrupting your soul and never see good in yourself or others.

13. Don't be an introvert.

Be part of a community.

No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

14. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.

The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

15. Dress nice. Smell nice.

Luxury isn't only in the cost. How you wear luxury matters.

Hardly anybody will ask you the cost of your shoes and clothes. So, you don't need to break the bank.

16. Life is a marathon. But it's better to run like a cheetah than walk like a snail.

Resources in life are scarce; first come, first serve.

Make smart moves always.

17. Avoid procrastination.

What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

18. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.

This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.

If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

It's important to curtail your foolishness early.

19. Hope is not a strategy.

Good work is.

Make sure you are doing something meaningful instead of wishing for a pool of Bethsaida miracles.

Those who work have no fear of the future.

20. Value people that value you.

Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labor.

21. Don't just learn a skill.

Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

22. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Even you.

Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your integrity.

23. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you.

It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.

They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.

24. Don't be afraid of failure.

You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.

Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.

Thanks.
Sumptuous!!!

Thank you!
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by DAramis: 9:10am On Jan 07, 2025
1. Avoid the toxic and vindictive woman (Aka Hate filled woman) at all cost.

She can go all length to see you cry, with lots of happiness drained away from you. Been there , and witnessed it.

2. You will not know how expensive peace of mind is till you come across a toxic woman with a negative aura around her. Your life expectancy will drop from +70 to - 15. AND your peace of mind vanished completely.

3. Make sure you are on top of your game when it comes to your physical and mental health. Very important in this century.

4. Some people out there will think nature overblessed you with physical attribute. Avoid them at all cost. Never be afraid to walk alone cause it shows strength rather than weakness.
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by JESHAL007: 5:44pm On Jan 11, 2025
Happy new year big Man @CaveAdullam
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by CaveAdullam(op): 8:10pm On Jan 11, 2025
JESHAL007:
Happy new year big Man @CaveAdullam
Same here, chief.

Well done.

How's life and doings?
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by JESHAL007: 8:10am On Jan 12, 2025
CaveAdullam:
Same here, chief.

Well done.

How's life and doings?
We thank God, applying the redpill just got a girlfriend early this year, sourcing for jobs with our digital gigs, improving my skill,
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by CaveAdullam(op): 8:53am On Jan 12, 2025
JESHAL007:
We thank God, applying the redpill just got a girlfriend early this year, sourcing for jobs with our digital gigs, improving my skill,
Good to hear this.

Having a girlfriend will truly test your masculine and redpill edges. A tough one indeed.

One just needs upgrading skill level. Cos the recent gig economy is hard but possible.

Bottom line: we are all gonna come out more successful and better by December.

Stay put.

Kudos.
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by JESHAL007: 10:28pm On Jan 30, 2025
CaveAdullam:
1. When you have verified that someone genuinely loves you, don't break that person's heart. Choose death rather. Or, end the relationship early.

Because not all lovers are weak. Betrayal may trigger their vindictive instinct and they'll come for your jugular like a vampire.

2. Don't bank on promises.

See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?

Once you answer that question, you'll be able to see all the channels that lead to your destination.

4. Don't care what people will say.

They will mock you. They will ridicule you.

Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

5. Seek truth.

If your heart is always in the pursuit of truth, you'll gain knowledge and learn wisdom.

You don't need a preacher or counselor to constantly be on your doorposts advising you.

6. Appreciate beauty.

Stay away from ugliness of any form. Ugliness will always make you dwell on the negative side of life.

Appreciate beautiful nature. Stare at beautiful people and architecture.

7. Be kind.

8. Eye for eye. Tooth for tooth.

Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.

Forgiveness should come after punishment.

9. Learn to see the light in people.

No one is utterly useless.

However, don't pay attention to the unrepentant fool.

10. Learn to provide value.

Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

11. Don't beg for food.

Don't beg for money.

Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar.

Refuse to see begging as your last option.

Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.

12. Always be optimistic.

No matter how tragic your travails are, be optimistic that one day you'll overcome.

Pessimism is a joy spoiler. You'll end up corrupting your soul and never see good in yourself or others.

13. Don't be an introvert.

Be part of a community.

No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

14. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.

The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

15. Dress nice. Smell nice.

Luxury isn't only in the cost. How you wear luxury matters.

Hardly anybody will ask you the cost of your shoes and clothes. So, you don't need to break the bank.

16. Life is a marathon. But it's better to run like a cheetah than walk like a snail.

Resources in life are scarce; first come, first serve.

Make smart moves always.

17. Avoid procrastination.

What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

18. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.

This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.

If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

It's important to curtail your foolishness early.

19. Hope is not a strategy.

Good work is.

Make sure you are doing something meaningful instead of wishing for a pool of Bethsaida miracles.

Those who work have no fear of the future.

20. Value people that value you.

Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labor.

21. Don't just learn a skill.

Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

22. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Even you.

Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your integrity.

23. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you.

It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.

They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.

24. Don't be afraid of failure.

You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.

Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.

Thanks.
Big man good evening, been so busy haven't read your writeups in two weeks, I'm so glad I knew about nairaland through which I met you, your wisdom/ intelligence is golden, ethical, pragmatic. I wish I can get to know you personally, my counselor, my guardian, my mentor, my friend, you have my deepest respect and gratitude, your write ups are realistic and gives me joy and hope which typically is not the case for realistic materials which tend to be cynical and pessimistic, but your writeups are different, very calm, soothing, medicinal, really love you like a brother, my online friend
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by tobore4u(m): 5:41am On Jul 06, 2025
CaveAdullam:
1. When you have verified that someone genuinely loves you, don't break that person's heart. Choose death rather. Or, end the relationship early.

Because not all lovers are weak. Betrayal may trigger their vindictive instinct and they'll come for your jugular like a vampire.

2. Don't bank on promises.

See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?

Once you answer that question, you'll be able to see all the channels that lead to your destination.

4. Don't care what people will say.

They will mock you. They will ridicule you.

Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

5. Seek truth.

If your heart is always in the pursuit of truth, you'll gain knowledge and learn wisdom.

You don't need a preacher or counselor to constantly be on your doorposts advising you.

6. Appreciate beauty.

Stay away from ugliness of any form. Ugliness will always make you dwell on the negative side of life.

Appreciate beautiful nature. Stare at beautiful people and architecture.

7. Be kind.

8. Eye for eye. Tooth for tooth.

Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.

Forgiveness should come after punishment.

9. Learn to see the light in people.

No one is utterly useless.

However, don't pay attention to the unrepentant fool.

10. Learn to provide value.

Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

11. Don't beg for food.

Don't beg for money.

Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar.

Refuse to see begging as your last option.

Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.

12. Always be optimistic.

No matter how tragic your travails are, be optimistic that one day you'll overcome.

Pessimism is a joy spoiler. You'll end up corrupting your soul and never see good in yourself or others.

13. Don't be an introvert.

Be part of a community.

No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

14. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.

The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

15. Dress nice. Smell nice.

Luxury isn't only in the cost. How you wear luxury matters.

Hardly anybody will ask you the cost of your shoes and clothes. So, you don't need to break the bank.

16. Life is a marathon. But it's better to run like a cheetah than walk like a snail.

Resources in life are scarce; first come, first serve.

Make smart moves always.

17. Avoid procrastination.

What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

18. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.

This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.

If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

It's important to curtail your foolishness early.

19. Hope is not a strategy.

Good work is.

Make sure you are doing something meaningful instead of wishing for a pool of Bethsaida miracles.

Those who work have no fear of the future.

20. Value people that value you.

Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labor.

21. Don't just learn a skill.

Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

22. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Even you.

Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your integrity.

23. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you.

It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.

They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.

24. Don't be afraid of failure.

You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.

Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.

Thanks.
Good morning sir.

Pls can you assist me how to figure out number 3?
Re: Don't Make These Mistakes: 24 Bitter Lessons I Learned In 2024. by akan102: 12:26pm On Jul 06, 2025
Nice one, beautiful advise if only people will remember to put them to practice
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