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ibechris:
U might end up marrying her finally congratulations in advance.

Obaaderemi2:
Wetin cause am?

AngelSlay:
Congratulations 👏 taking care of a single lady who you ain't married too, she telling you what are they using money for, she ain't married neither does she have kids to cater for

1Sharon:
You know that will never happen.

ibechris:
Why are u helping him to know that? Are u the lady?

1Sharon:
Oh right. So the woman should go to work and come home and cook and clean while you go to work and just come back to chill. Who is doing more in that situation?

You claim to be taught by ladies that domestic chores aren't gender specific, but alot of you still think it's beneath you.

As long as the domestic tasks aren't shared equally, don't expect bills to be shared equally.

spartachico:
That part baffled me tho but she heed to warning never to interfere in that aspect of my life

Idaytesj29:
I'm happy you got the point. However, I didn't mention equal sharing of bills but assist and lessen your mans pressure

AngelSlay:
Congratulations 👏 taking care of a single lady who you ain't married too, she telling you what are they using money for, she ain't married neither does she have kids to cater for

Bobodee09:
I have just 2 girls and I don't pass myself.

The fact remains no one foreseen the economy will get this bad.

Inflation is making money made to be so lil......even managing small life style is costing two much.

Just to eat breakfast alone for family of 4 we spent more than 5k be it bread or yam.

Most money I make goes into foods and household needs so isnt as if am living a wasteful lifestyle

aestake:
He is struggling because of the number of children and corruption in Nigeria. Having the children to take care of you at old age is another fuckkup.

spartachico:
Last year I had the chance to go to Abuja to work with some company and luckily I met this single lady and this was after I spent over 500k in June to change my wife phone and gave her money for household items and money for the kids and her personal needs... Omo within myself I believe say I get cloth not until the Abuja lady enter my life, she first spent her money to baff me up and me looking at the mirror I'm like God dam... Oh boy I ended renting an apartment for her oo after 3/4 months I came back to Lagos ... I pack all the clothes in my wardrobe and threw them in the trash .. if I dress up that am going out, my wife is always in awww and look at me one kind, mind you every week within that 3/4 months away from home, I always send 50 to 100k for my family as upkeep at the end of the week Dem go say money don finish, this Abuja girl was always in shock that what are they buying... Anyway to cut long story short, naso this Abuja babe changed my dressing code oo infact I don dey use ear studs on weekends outing.. making me feel young agan... And Abuja girl is still behaving normal and still takes good care of me, if Lagos tire me na to travel to Abuja for work even when there's no work ... Man must take good care of themselves and worse case scenario is when drink and flex with friends is when we think say we are doing well in taking care of ourselves or enjoying life ... Theres more to do for our longevity of life.

occfx:
Should I assume you are OK with 200Amps 24V?

AngelSlay:
What can 24V carry?

Bobodee09:
My brother am doing that tonight cos I really need not to add any BP wahala join things.

Those people in general after checking my BP insisted I see the doctor but I knew what caused it so I just scope them an ran away.

Once I see the doctor I will.be placed on drugs for life and I reject that for my generation.

Bobodee09:
This advise goes especially to married men and men in general.

Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

I just lost an area senior bros this morning, the news didn't come as shock cos he has been in the hospital for a while and his BP refused to come down.

He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the ones who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they live longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on their neck. So don't let anyone push you by comparing you to them.

If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

1Sharon:
Likewise, cook and clean sometimes.

ibechris:
Whatever u called it.

I can help u to grow financially but now that u started with curse...I can tell ur tribe,ur state of origin and how badly u were raised.

There is even no need.

Keep ur Internet poverty in ur pockets.

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

1Sharon:
No be you table your family affairs for her?

But alaye, tell us when are you leaving your wife for her?

skywalker240:
It is what it is

Even this year now we are battling how to make payments for school fees, house rent around the corner, the expenses keeps building up

Most times when I get home from work, after taking my bath, i just pretend that am sleeping and take a quiet place to reflect on what and what to do to improve the condition to favour

Life goes on

Nowadays, I don't work myself up, elders over here say

"Na the one WEY you chop for your Belle, na im be your own"

So most times when am at work and I see anything that i long to put in my stomach or for my satisfaction, I buy it, even if it means telling my wife a lie

Try to rest mostly on Sundays and when you get any chance off, lock yourself in the room and sleep

I'll never forget what A Man in his late 60s told me almost 10 years ago

He said if you as a family Man fall down and die today, the children you left behind will still achieve their goals and life purposes and yes they'll survive even without you.

djon78:
Actually I understand you
But this doesn't stop you from buying like 2/3 trousers or appareals/ clothes

It's great you are shouldering your responsibilities, I salute you.
But don't neglect yourself.

I used to be like you. Couple of years back I made a bit good money. But my madam, my home expenses, almost chop everything except the ones I invested back in my business.

Only for my madam, to ask me when we were quarrelling wetin I use the money do? Because I told her about the money. When I reminded her all the money I gave her, she no fit talk again.

That taught me a very big lesson. Now all my earnings, I still take good care of my family, but I don't neglect taking care of myself. I buy good clothes, shoes, etc. This year in Sha Allah I go take better vacation abroad even if na Rwanda or Qatar etc cause I no come this Life to watch others enjoy themselves. I work very hard and play harder

spartachico:
never ever ... No one is perfect and sometimes we got to go out to see what we need to do for ourselves, I'm not carried away and I dnt loose focus

Bobodee09:
My actual problem is fear of the unknown and unforseen expenses.

For instance last year March my daughter just came back from school and by night she got really sick.
In just 6days we spent over 200k on hospital bills.

I don't have people to run to for help, infact I hardly even ask anyone for help...so I can't afford to be financially stranded.

So that my fear which limits me alot but I think I need to put it aside now.

Trustmea:
Hmmm deep. I am almost entering a marriage that i didn't prepared for. I got someone pregnant and the family is threatening me to do the needful. I am scared of this union called marriage to be honest. The said girl is good in all ramifications but i am not just prepared for marriage and its wahala

1Sharon:
Yes you did, you're simply doing damage control in this thread.

For your sidechick to say " what are they buying" shows you must have already tabled your wife's matter and how she spends money. You don't care about her interfering " in that aspect of your life" as you claim. You encouraged it.

Continue with your scheming side piece.

When are you marrying her?

pocohantas:
Sharon leave me biko. 😂😂😂

highchief1:
no born more than two kids.and don’t over upgrade your life.i drive a 2014 car I can buy a 2024.Most of the time we start what we can’t finish.life no to hard na we Dey stress ourselves.i refuse to put my kids in the most expensive school even though I can afford it.i no Dey do pass myself and this have saved me from pressure a great deal.

1Sharon:
Sis this thread 😤

Bobodee09:
Most times I don't like arguing this things cos it like you women never be accountable for anything.

So having those kids was actually only the man decision The woman didn't want them to be 4 ,the man was constantly raping her.

They just gave birth to the children last night and since he went broke due to the economy he should killed 2 out of those kids so he can take of wife and the remaining 2 according to you.


It very easy to know someone like you isn't married.


No this fact today, left to most men just having 1 or 2 kids is enough but it is women who clamor for more kids in marriage.

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those days when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can cater for without stress. Simple!!

smasher1:
It's people with such behavior that does such to their husband. My friend a man has four kids, the first about to graduate. The wife is asking for the fifth. Now, the main issue is to keep on having money, because, a middle class family or person in 2023 is currently poor. And a rich man in 2023 that the income is not increasing astronomically like the inflation can not meet up in 2025. I had twins 2022 and the cost of feeding the last born 2024 and clothing her is four times the cost of feeding one person two years earlier. So if the income is not there, one would become poor.