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Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

It's a fact. But as a father and husband, we must set aside some money to take care of ourselves so what happened to the man in the story, doesn't happen to us.

pocohantas:
The babe is obviously scheming and the logical man is excited. But I advise women to do better in filling some gaps for the man. Most men tend to overlook any dressing that isn't work related. I have seen videos advising women not to upgrade his fashion game and I don't buy such advice. Men notice the big things and ignore the small ones. If the woman is not drawing his attention to it, forget it.

He thinks he has struck gold 🤣 what if his wife likes him like that? I agree women can buy fashion pieces here and there.

But this baba is just tired of responsibilty. His wife's spending is just a ruse.

skywalker240:
It is what it is

Even this year now we are battling how to make payments for school fees, house rent around the corner, the expenses keeps building up

Most times when I get home from work, after taking my bath, i just pretend that am sleeping and take a quiet place to reflect on what and what to do to improve the condition to favour

Life goes on

Nowadays, I don't work myself up, elders over here say

"Na the one WEY you chop for your Belle, na im be your own"

So most times when am at work and I see anything that i long to put in my stomach or for my satisfaction, I buy it, even if it means telling my wife a lie

Try to rest mostly on Sundays and when you get any chance off, lock yourself in the room and sleep

I'll never forget what A Man in his late 60s told me almost 10 years ago

He said if you as a family Man fall down and die today, the children you left behind will still achieve their goals and life purposes and yes they'll survive even without you.

Correct statement. I wake up daily by 4:30am all through the year to strategize on how to put food on the table. It's not funny. Once in a while, take yourself out and eat what you want to eat and buy yourself something important as life would continue if you are not there. Most importantly, try to sleep where possible daily 8 hours or thereabouts. Really rest.

1Sharon:
He thinks he has struck gold 🤣 what if his wife likes him like that? I agree women can buy fashion pieces here and there.

But this baba is just tired of responsibilty. His wife's spending is just a ruse.

Well, that would depend on how bad he was looking. Another thing is the age gap or she assumes he loves himself that way. I have come to notice these things dey sweet them o. I made a diary post on it sometime. The wife at home would be there carrying him like egg. One smallie outside go dey wear your husband crocs and short. Even do TikTok video with him.
😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩

[quote author=Bobodee09 post=133766456]Most times I don't like arguing this things cos it like you women never be accountable for anything.

So having those kids was actually only the man decision The woman didn't want them to be 4 ,the man was constantly raping her.

They just gave birth to the children last night and since he went broke due to the economy he should killed 2 out of those kids so he can take of wife and the remaining 2 according to you.


It very easy to know someone like you isn't married.


No this fact today, left to most men just having 1 or 2 kids is enough but it is women who clamor for more kids in marriage.[/quote

Fact. A poor man in 2025, still earning salary, may have been rich in 2022. But due to the rapidly deteriorating economy, he is unable to make ends meet, even though his salary or income may have been increased.

ibechris:
Na men dey like to suffer.

When u are in your 20's start early and awake ur investment mindset.

If u can do this early enough,at your 40's ur passive income should be enough to take care of your family expenses while u continue to grind with life.

I learnt this technique at an early age...not from my father but from someone whom I lived with years back.

Example is. If u have 30million,invest it for one year,use the proceed to settle all family expenses for one year,after that u can rest and be happy. Not all the time,waiting for salaries that isn't enough.

May his soul rest in peace and may this serve as a lesson for all our able young men especially our teenagers.

For those who may not find this feasible,this theory is working for me and u can always adjust it to suit ur figures especially if u think the figure is too high. remember na advice ooooooh.

Let's just pray to have money. I also invest some money. But it's not easy for over 95% of people out there. So don't think they are lazy. They may really not have enough.

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

Dude, na you dey furck up. In this life as a man, when money comes, pay your self first before thinking of others. Wahala no dey finish for this life

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those days when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can cater for without stress. Simple!!

Read below. Inflation makes rich people poor even when salary may have been increased after some years, the current amount can't buy what the lower amount could afford.

https://gazettengr.com/i-dont-want-britain-to-be-like-poor-nigeria-where-terrible-government-destroys-lives-kemi-badenoch/

emmaodet:
We are the same bro.
One of the common traps of men is over upgrading their life.
Before I moved to my personal house, I was staying in a reasonable and decent 3 bedroom flat when my mates where staying in 750k to 2m apartments. It helped me free up cash for other purposes.
I can buy a brand new car too but have been using tokunbo Honda Cross tour.
Kids school fees is reasonable instead of swallowing up needed cash for other purposes.
You will be hearing - I want the best for my kids, reason why I am sending my kids to this expensive school.
I like comfort and no traffic residential area, reason why am staying in this expensive location etc

exactly.I lived in my poorly finished bungalow for over 10yrs even tho I could build a mansion.People now knew I know what I’m doing when I now decided to build my mansion.built the luxurious home in 10 months and I was driving a corola still.Eveeybody con tire.I still drink Heineken when I feel like drinking,some boys ordinary 2m go enter their hand dem go begin turn Martel to their brand.i still eat in my normal eateries and carry my normal girls,some boys small money go enter their hand na to begin import girls up and down as if the girls in their area no be girls again.I am not a fan of loud life.

smasher1:
Let's just pray to have money. I also invest some money. But it's not easy for over 95% of people out there. So don't think they are lazy. They may really not have enough.

Be motivated all would be fine.

pocohantas:
Well, that would depend on how bad he was looking. Another thing is the age gap or she assumes he loves himself that way. I have come to notice these things dey sweet them o. I made a diary post on it sometime. The wife at home would be there carrying him like egg. One smallie outside go dey wear your husband crocs and short. Even do TikTok video with him.
😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩

Yes o they love it. As he said, he feels young again. These sickchicks give them a form of escapism and they won't leave their wives they get the best of both sides

tensazangetsu20:
lol I understand the pain. Unfortunately I don’t live in Nigeria and will never live in Nigeria to partake in the upcoming suffering with you. My current income can comfortably take care of 5 children without sweat 😂😂. Continue playing.

🫣 Lamba man.... Abeg shift... Uber eats delivery man

occfx:
This is not the right question... But how many Tubular batteries do you use, let's work with the equivalent.

One

Niyi4321:
This must be how my father killed himself same year I was born.
Well fortunately but funny, My mother is still Alive and Healthy. It's been 34 years now.
Only God knows how many men I have called Dad because they all lived with Mom in the house my father had built before he died.

Chaiii. Yorubaaaa women

Akpaamunsi:
Dude, na you dey furck up. In this life as a man, when money comes, pay your self first before thinking of others. Wahala no dey finish for this life

Hmmm g**bler and brot**** patron don drop quote

What do you know about being a responsible man?

spartachico:
Last year I had the chance to go to Abuja to work with some company and luckily I met this single lady and this was after I spent over 500k in June to change my wife phone and gave her money for household items and money for the kids and her personal needs... Omo within myself I believe say I get cloth not until the Abuja lady enter my life, she first spent her money to baff me up and me looking at the mirror I'm like God dam... Oh boy I ended renting an apartment for her oo after 3/4 months I came back to Lagos ... I pack all the clothes in my wardrobe and threw them in the trash .. if I dress up that am going out, my wife is always in awww and look at me one kind, mind you every week within that 3/4 months away from home, I always send 50 to 100k for my family as upkeep at the end of the week Dem go say money don finish, this Abuja girl was always in shock that what are they buying... Anyway to cut long story short, naso this Abuja babe changed my dressing code oo infact I don dey use ear studs on weekends outing.. making me feel young agan... And Abuja girl is still behaving normal and still takes good care of me, if Lagos tire me na to travel to Abuja for work even when there's no work ... Man must take good care of themselves and worse case scenario is when drink and flex with friends is when we think say we are doing well in taking care of ourselves or enjoying life ... Theres more to do for our longevity of life.

I pity you

AngelSlay:
One

That's 220A 12V

I don't recommend this for Lithium ion... But for lipo4, is OK and I don't have it right now.

Li-on is more dense and accessible thats why I use it.

Buy another Tubular and buy distilled water

Akpaamunsi:
🫣 Lamba man.... Abeg shift... Uber eats delivery man

As e Dey sweet us e Dey pain them as e Dey pain them e Dey sweet us 💃💃💃💃💃💃

AngelSlay:
How many can afford it?

It's not expensive

1Sharon:
Oh right. So the woman should go to work and come home and cook and clean while you go to work and just come back to chill. Who is doing more in that situation?

You claim to be taught by ladies that domestic chores aren't gender specific, but alot of you still think it's beneath you.

As long as the domestic tasks aren't shared equally, don't expect bills to be shared equally.

What's the big deal in cleaning and cooking? Anyone can do it and it's no big deal. I guess everyone will find the kind of spouse they want.

Smilleydr:
and what is the probability say you go old befoer you die self, who give you the assurance, in any way make we men dey enjoy life too ooo

Tomorrow s not guarantee.

You see am.

Story of my life last year...it is well my brother.Anyway, I've promise myself I'm goimg to do more for myself this year no matter what it takes.

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

Trustmea:
Hmmm deep. I am almost entering a marriage that i didn't prepared for. I got someone pregnant and the family is threatening me to do the needful. I am scared of this union called marriage to be honest. The said girl is good in all ramifications but i am not just prepared for marriage and its wahala

Tell them you would be responsible for the child but you are not yet ready to marry. No one can force you against your wish and it isn't fair to both of you to do so as the marriage might end up being an abusive one.

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

This was me years back but I changed it. Started looking out for myself first.
My wife and in-laws said I was. Selfish but I love the selfish side of me.
I make sure I buy things for myself like clothes or perfs or sneakers on monthly basis.
Whatever is left is what we use to solve whatever problem on ground.
I sleep better now, dress better and smell better.
I see my ladies and married women look at me in admiration and I love it. Far better than when I was a slave to others and was invincible to other gender.
Watch out for yourself bro.
If you die today, your wife, children and family will miraculously adjust to new reality and solve their problems themselves

Akpaamunsi:
Chaiii. Yorubaaaa women

brof kudos to you for speaking the truth, and thank God in all these you self don learn lesson

If you kpai today highest na cry oooo nobody go follow you

You don go be that, so in any situation you just need to stay alive l.

Smilleydr:
Oga there s nothing like marry right ooo, no just allow money finish for your hand, I take God beg you, if money finish for your hand na that time you go know may b you marry right or you marry wrong.

People who bought their wives are speaking

peropoliet:
People who bought their wives are speaking

okay oooo

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

Baba it's been 2 years I got myself any reason wear... If 100k is left in my account, I'm in serious panic mode. You're seeing money and literally have no clue what you've done with it when you setback and calculate... Bills swallowed everything and more bill is still piling up... Shxt doesn't end.

Bobodee09:
Most times I don't like arguing this things cos it like you women never be accountable for anything.

So having those kids was actually only the man decision The woman didn't want them to be 4 ,the man was constantly raping her.

They just gave birth to the children last night and since he went broke due to the economy he should killed 2 out of those kids so he can take of wife and the remaining 2 according to you.


It very easy to know someone like you isn't married.


No this fact today, left to most men just having 1 or 2 kids is enough but it is women who clamor for more kids in marriage.

My brother, no man wants to even have 2 kids.. Na 1. Women are always the ones that needs 5

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

That's just plain selfishness, nothing else. Definitely would be painful to prioritize someone who doesn't reciprocate, these are the things that build up resentment in a marriage/relationship, one person is doing almost all the giving, the other person is doing all the taking. Everyone should have what they bring to the table.

Bobodee09:
He was a well to do man . He had those kids when things were good.

We could ever imagine things will go this bad 10yrs ago.

You came blame anyone who got married 2010 who has 3-4kids. Things was good then

Even if things are good and the government is performing well, doing their duties - good road, electricity, housing, education, jobs etc is the best thing and the best thank you to the government chains of kids? Why give a government extra headaches for doing something right.
Why is it that the best thank you is more headaches to government.
Then we hear all so familiar story of how things were better during their time and never knew things will get this bad. It still boils down to bad decision making.
If the government is trying to make the economy good and better just like you agree to prior 2010, the best thing the reasonable citizens to do is not to have more kids now

Savedday2:
Marrying a 9ja girl is one of the greatest disservice you can ever do to yourself as a man.

If you are married to a 9ja girl, you are a big SIMP aka "girl is more important than my life" because they don't add any value to your life except stress and death.

All 9ja girls are totally useless. It is the importance you as a man attached to them that make them look as if they are important.

Stop SIMP today and know the true worth of any 9ja girl, aka ashawo/Olosho/borehole/money for hand back for ground/gold diggers/from prick to prick. They are all the same.

Bros, calm down. No vex