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Bobodee09:
I haven't tasted alcohol since last year oct till date.
Not that I can't buy it but I just don't know why I just lost interest in it totally.

It been more than 2yrs I stopped taking beer but until last October I always have striker bitters in packs in my fridge.
Even last week my first daughter ask why I no dey take striker again....lol just told her have Giving my life to Jesus again.

I think I will get the drug sha cos my family has history of high BP.

Before going the drug route, Zobo (hibiscus/sorrel) is effective in lowering blood pressure, it is a natural remedy for high BP, read up on it if you have the time.

In marriage, men are outrightly at the loosing end

Bobodee09:
Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the ones who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they live longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on their neck. So don't let anyone push you by comparing you to them.

If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

Word on marble. This should be taught to ALL men before they get married or get into any serious relationship. Life is too short to spend it carrying a womans responsibilities.

Though I am still single. I am getting married in few months time.

One thing I have wl do is as a man either single or married with kids is " I WL take care of myself ND enjoy myself lastly. I wl not have plenty kids
Max is 5 kids.

GboyegaD:
What's the big deal in cleaning and cooking? Anyone can do it and it's no big deal. I guess everyone will find the kind of spouse they want.

If e easy, run am.

Bobodee09:
I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

Men have to be ready to lose the affection and company of their wife and kids if that will give them peace because if the man dies of high blood pressure running up and down to provide for wife and kids, the kids and wife will still survive without him but we men think that without us, wife and kids can not cope. How deluded we all are.

Yoruba's will say - woon kin so eran mo eran ki ikan kan kan pa. Just because 2 goats are tied together at the same spot does not mean that one goat should headbutt the other one to death. Live and let live,

Na only stingy / heartless men fit enjoy marriage.

Bobodee09:
My brother am doing that tonight cos I really need not to add any BP wahala join things.

Those people in general after checking my BP insisted I see the doctor but I knew what caused it so I just scope them an ran away.

Once I see the doctor I will.be placed on drugs for life and I reject that for my generation.

Smart move.

I told a friend not to be visiting his Doctor for every little problem but he didn't listen. Eventually they said he has HBP and they placed him on drugs for HBP and not long after that he had a heart attack and needed heart surgery and is still on drugs for life,

Bobodee09:
Most times I don't like arguing this things cos it like you women never be accountable for anything.

So having those kids was actually only the man decision The woman didn't want them to be 4 ,the man was constantly raping her.

They just gave birth to the children last night and since he went broke due to the economy he should killed 2 out of those kids so he can take of wife and the remaining 2 according to you.


It very easy to know someone like you isn't married.


No this fact today, left to most men just having 1 or 2 kids is enough but it is women who clamor for more kids in marriage.

@ bobodee09 I will live to dread you ....see the aspect you presented your arguments from....they are tough, crispy, concise, real, no truer words has ever been spoken on nl.

emmaodet:
We are in spirit. I started looking out for myself too when I realized I was always worried about family and bills while my wife doesn't.
No matter the problem, she doesn't neglect her dressing, buying clothes or her appearance.
I copied the strategy too and started buying good clothes, perfumes, sneakers etc, going to cinemas, swimming, gym etc.
Na wetin remain we go use solve problems.
I also plan going to morrocco by this year ending for African cup of nation whether Nigeria qualifies or not. Next year world cup too, I will be there by God grace

Ok Nations cup in Morocco
That's Great

I personally will plan towards 2026 world cup and it will be in Yankee

My US Visa will be readily available then
In sha Allah!!

1Sharon:
If e easy, run am.

I do it and no big deal. Still made dinner today and will always do it. It's a marriage and there's no reason to split roles. Whoever is available should do it.

Sonnobax15:

Seconded

Courtesy of us,the young and single guys who are still facing unnecessary pressure from the evil hands of Nigerian bannies

But God no go allow Dem kpai us

You will still tell us wetin your ex do you because when you two were still together, you were more temperate in your comments. Nowadays, you talk like person wey woman don show shege

Hmm, this year as a man, you must be selfish enough to stay alive and take care of yourself first oh ...

1Sharon:
Likewise, cook and clean sometimes.

When I see things like this I just feel maybe women in marriage paint pictures of there husband not doing anything to you ladies or you single ladies just assume it.

I cook,clean and even do more housework than my wife.
My girls prefer me cooking cos I cook faster and good with different meals.

Most of you who aren't married just assume we married men just cross our legs and our wife do everything from morning till night.

When my wife goes for few weeks due to nature of her work who takes care of the house??


It just annoying how single ladies always try to paint of married men don't assist there wives at all in the house.

djon78:
Ok Nations cup in Morocco
That's Great

I personally will plan towards 2026 world cup and it will be in Yankee

My US Visa will be readily available then
In sha Allah!!

God go do am bro.
All na planning.
I don secure my US and Canada visa down since last year sef to avoid stories that touches like denying.
US, Canada and Mexico are the 3 countries hosting it. So it will be a nice time to see these countries

Niyi4321:
This must be how my father killed himself same year I was born.
Well fortunately but funny, My mother is still Alive and Healthy. It's been 34 years now.
Only God knows how many men I have called Dad because they all lived with Mom in the house my father had built before he died.

Wow! So your mum have been shaging different gbola for 34 years! She is really to this world to enjoy o!

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those days when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can cater for without stress. Simple!!

Mumu analysis

How many kids do you have?

Lesbian like you.

You're doomed

1Sharon:
Who cooks for him and serves him, who washes his clothes and cleans the house? Who nurses him when he's sick? Abeg!

My sister, you are right! Ise ni kini yen o!
I have tried home work for just 3 months for my self alone and I'm exhausted. My wife did 15 years for family of 5 and in-laws before she travelled temporarily!

Bobodee09:
This advise goes especially to married men and men in general.

Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

I just lost an area senior bros this morning, the news didn't come as shock cos he has been in the hospital for a while and his BP refused to come down.

He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the ones who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they live longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on their neck. So don't let anyone push you by comparing you to them.

If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

Lolz

Sonnobax15:

Seconded

Courtesy of us,the young and single guys who are still facing unnecessary pressure from the evil hands of Nigerian bannies

But God no go allow Dem kpai us

Na una wan kée una sef na

Bobodee09:
Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

Naso she dey tell me too , i bought some clothes before new year , i no send her confirm stock jean like three 100k ... I no look her face and i told her how much i bought sef make she cry ... Marriage no ever dey benefit men

Gerrard59:
Those who enjoyed Jonathan's administration saw hell during Buhari's. Nigeria entered into a recession TWICE within four years. That was when the Canada frenzy kicked off. I know this because I lived through it. It then I realised things could have worsened if my parents had just one more child. You think it is today people began to japa? You mentioned the dollar rate, how much was it under Jonathan compared to when Buhari left office? Your 500K was very big money under Jonathan and people were flying to London every weekend. Add 100 - 200K and that was the entry level salary for Shell. The economy was growing at 6% per annum only for Buhari to enter and eventually leave office, yet the economy didn't hit 5% annual growth throughout his eight years.

No be today Nigerian economy begin get problem. The same occurred during IBB tenure.

I appreciate your persistence on limited number of children.

You may want to also acknowledge that poor, idle people have more children because they don’t have any other means of recreation.

It’s therefore necessary for those of us who understand that, to evangelise and proselytise others until we have a critical mass of enlightened people to oblige government officials (local, state and federal levels in the legislative and executive branches) to prioritise our money for free basic education and basic healthcare plus support for MSMEs and large corporations, which will keep everyone too busy to make babies.

anonimi:
Neo-black Problem: Must Blacks Be Ruled by Whites in Order to Prosper?

In short, the neo-black dilemma may be framed as follows: is it better to live under white rule without political dignity but with basic life-sustaining standards for many;

or to live under black rule with illusory political dignity and without basic life- sustaining standards for the majority?
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The path forward for Africa lies in cultivating higher and adequate levels of personal and communal agential integrity as well as full personal responsibility and productivity. Not to mention creativity (including epistemic creativity), productive justice (such as merit and freedom), harmony and reconciliation at local and international levels, and a proper domestication of capitalism and other related values and institutions.

Africa must stop wasting her time on dreams of socialism because it is a system of wealth distribution primarily. Whereas, capitalism is a system of wealth creation primarily, and wealth has to be produced before it can be distributed.

https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2024/10/12/neo-black-problem-must-blacks-be-ruled-by-whites-in-order-to-prosper/

djon78:
Ok Nations cup in Morocco
That's Great

I personally will plan towards 2026 world cup and it will be in Yankee

My US Visa will be readily available then
In sha Allah!!

Do you have idea the visa requirements for Morocco?

emmaodet:
We are in spirit. I started looking out for myself too when I realized I was always worried about family and bills while my wife doesn't.
No matter the problem, she doesn't neglect her dressing, buying clothes or her appearance.
I copied the strategy too and started buying good clothes, perfumes, sneakers etc, going to cinemas, swimming, gym etc.
Na wetin remain we go use solve problems.
I also plan going to morrocco by this year ending for African cup of nation whether Nigeria qualifies or not. Next year world cup too, I will be there by God grace

Stuff I love to read. Well done sir!

AutoChick4U:
Guava leaves for help him Bp

How do they use the guava leaves for BP treatment?

emmaodet:
I think what you need is insurance.
Do health insurance for your kids. 60k per kid with axa mansard, that way, you won't be scared of a child been sick.
You spent 200k on your kid within a week when 60k would have covered that.
You can also think of doing education insurance for your kids and life insurance for yourself

Is the 60k a one time payment? How does it work pls?

maak400:
Is the 60k a one time payment? How does it work pls?

You can pay it 4 times a year (quarterly) or twice or once

Bobodee09:
Most times I don't like arguing this things cos it like you women never be accountable for anything.

So having those kids was actually only the man decision The woman didn't want them to be 4 ,the man was constantly raping her.

They just gave birth to the children last night and since he went broke due to the economy he should killed 2 out of those kids so he can take of wife and the remaining 2 according to you.


It very easy to know someone like you isn't married.


No this fact today, left to most men just having 1 or 2 kids is enough but it is women who clamor for more kids in marriage.

The person you're quoting has a negative IQ

onyxo76:
This is true reflection of the average family man's life in this current dispensation.
One just has to avoid financial stess by all means, today I told my wife that we need a new inveter battery for the inverter, and I need her support ,she said she's giving her salary as first fruit to church this month, I told her I'm not going to keep fueling generator every night, na she kuku dey carry chutch doctrine for head.
I no go kill myself over anything again.

Omo... may God dey help us...

ibechris:
U are alone on this.

Nigerian women are still the best,because I married one of them and she is my beloved wife.

all these simps why una just plenty for naija, you came to this world to be a slave to a woman!

Ohraykon:
all these simps why una just plenty for naija, you came to this world to be a slave to a woman!

Alpha male...satanic alpha male.

E pain u small.

Great advice, here.

You could have gone ahead to also tell them the kind of investments they should embrace that works so they don’t jump from pot to fire.

That would make your advise solid-proof.

When advice isn’t comprehensive enough, it could cause more harm than good. Not all investments are worth it.

ibechris:
Na men dey like to suffer.

When u are in your 20's start early and awake ur investment mindset.

If u can do this early enough,at your 40's ur passive income should be enough to take care of your family expenses while u continue to grind with life.

I learnt this technique at an early age...not from my father but from someone whom I lived with years back.

Example is. If u have 30million,invest it for one year,use the proceed to settle all family expenses for one year,after that u can rest and be happy. Not all the time,waiting for salaries that isn't enough.

May his soul rest in peace and may this serve as a lesson for all our able young men especially our teenagers.

For those who may not find this feasible,this theory is working for me and u can always adjust it to suit ur figures especially if u think the figure is too high. remember na advice ooooooh.

ibechris:
Alpha male...satanic alpha male.

E pain u small.

unrepentant slave enjoy mr toto worshipper