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Hello everyone reading this, hope u are good?

I finally decide create another account today after I forgot d details of the first one after been offline for long.

My reason for opening this thread isn't far fetched but just to ask if others are experiencing this same thing I am in or I am the only one and also to clarify if the phrase "mid life crisis" is real.

I ought to make this a diary but I want to seek people's opinions first, let me do a little intro. I finished uni some 10 years ago and since then I have been up to one or two things, I couldn't get a white collar job despite all trials even till now but I have done a lot of hustles.

From working in paint factory to teaching to working in farm to having my own gas shop to having bet shop and co.

But to the topic, I had a thriving business in 2023 and I had some 400k as business capital I was told to try traveling which I did and lost the money and just to get back on my feet as an hustler I was advised to start rice business, bringing rice from idi iroko to Ibadan.

Believe u me, I borrowed close to 800 and we haven't even done 3 trips before custom seized everything and even before the driver could manage to collect his car, heaven nearly fall.

Fast forward to now, I have managed to pay a lot of debt, sold my personal properties including my phone n power bank but the debt still persists that my head is even blank now, I didn't create this thread to beg for money but to get experiences n way to go from people who have passed this phase before

Now yesterday my rent is due (150k), I am oweing my guy 350 and his family called me and I promised to drop at least 50k by February ending but right now I don't have kobo. A grandma borrowed me 20k n she's been calling even till now, I owe another guy 50k n some petty debt.

No loan app wey I no owe for this country, even 3 have called me today. I no longer pick calls from strange number cos I know say na loan app and besides I intentionally puty phone off for days

I told one of my friend my situation n he said I should rent shop that once I have that if anyone helps me I will channel d money into business, he sent 100k for shop n I paid. Right now nothing in d shop, debt still pilling, no money at hand, debtors calling, no food for me n my wife at home n many more.

Is there anyone who have been in this situation before and how did u get out of it?

Keep grinding surely you will get out of it.
I graduated 4years ago I have never done any kind of job except menial labours.
I am not in any kind of debt but to eat na wahala

Family problems no dey finish

Hmm 🤔 always remember this saying that life is not balance.

As long as you live .
And persistence hustling surely someday there will be light isn the end of the tunnel .

.......

I feel for you 🥺😔

"I was told" " I was adviced"

Wtf am I reading here?

Your story is somewhat similar to mine. But I didn't dare to get married. I see you're more venturesome than me. I mean you've done businesses, which I don't seem to have a clue about.

But God has been good all these years. I wish you all the best as well, man. Keep pushing.

Travelling with 400k in 2023 to where with such a low amount?

This is not mid life crisis na. This is just bad luck syndrome which has been following you since.

Dtruthspeaker:
This is not mid life crisis na. This is just bad luck syndrome which has been following you since.

bad luck?

Please I will appreciate it if u can clarify, this is y I am here

Lifedrama2025:
bad luck?

Please I will appreciate it if u can clarify, this is y I am here

Ah! I can't o. It is a religious issue and people want to do things by themselves so, I respect them and leave them alone to fix their problems as they deem fit.

But this clearly is what it means to be Cursed!

Dtruthspeaker:
Ah! I can't o. It is a religious issue and people want to do things by themselves so, I respect them and leave them alone to fix their problems as they deem fit.

But this clearly is what it means to be Cursed!

cursed?
By who?
N how can one check?
I just wish u could open up

I am a kind of guy that believes in spirituality too so b free to tell me things.

I just wish people above 50 could drop hints here or anyone with experience

I know I will b back to my feet before October but I just don't know how cos I am not lazy n I believe in God.

In fact I Dey shop right now despite d fact I no get goods n capital

So feel free to tell me your mind

You main challenges are as follows '

1. You take people's advice or opinion for a fact and work with them. They kept failing you and yet you refused to learn.

If you must take someone advice or opinion seriously, it must be a person who is into that thing too and have a template on the way to go about it, experience, contacts and testimonies to share with you.

It is better you do your research by yourself and conclude on the steps to take.

2. Don't go into business you don't have experience in.

3. Never take loans to start a business. Start small and learn the ropes. You can then later expand the business through loans after mastering it.

Lifedrama2025:
cursed?
By who?
N how can one check?
I just wish u could open up

I am a kind of guy that believes in spirituality too so b free to tell me things.

I just wish people above 50 could drop hints here or anyone with experience

I know I will b back to my feet before October but I just don't know how cos I am not lazy n I believe in God.

In fact I Dey shop right now despite d fact I no get goods n capital

So feel free to tell me your mind

Did you fornicate, especially in a woman like this?

https://www.nairaland.com/8333468/small-boys-keep-asking-me#133988494

What I have to tell you is, please don't end it all.
Don't even consider it.
In due time, you will overcome.

I've come to know that, when you're working hard, doing everything you can, doing what others are doing, and still not getting anywhere [stagnant], it is not ordinary.
When you fail where others succeeded, it is not ordinary.
When things never seem to work out for you, it is not ordinary.

Seek GOD for answers.
So then, it is not of him that willeth, or of him that runneth, it is of God that showeth mercy.

Dtruthspeaker:
Did you fornicate, especially in a woman like this?

https://www.nairaland.com/8333468/small-boys-keep-asking-me#133988494

it's far from that, I married 2 years ago n I have been a faithful man

Mariangeles:
What I have to tell you is, please don't end it all.
Don't even consider it.
In due time, you will overcome.

I've come to know that, when you're working hard, doing everything you can, doing what others are doing, and still not getting anywhere [stagnant], it is not ordinary.
When you fail where others succeeded, it is not ordinary.
When things never seem to work out for you, it is not ordinary.

Seek GOD for answers.
So then, it is not of him that willeth, or of him that runneth, it is of God that showeth mercy.

God bless u my sister

This motivation is what I need right now, I really appreciate

Lifedrama2025:
it's far from that, I married 2 years ago n I have been a faithful man

I did not ask if you are married. I asked if you went fornicating and you fell into a woman like the woman in the link I gave.

Dtruthspeaker:
I did not ask if you are married. I asked if you went fornicating and you fell into a woman like the woman in the link I gave.

no bro

Lifedrama2025:
God bless u my sister

This motivation is what I need right now, I really appreciate

The LORD bless you, and keep you:
The LORD make His face shine upon you, and be gracious to you:
The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, and give you peace.


Don't give up.

bro jus keep pushing you have all the attributes of a successful man cos you a risk taker. i can bet you something, once you clear those debts other challenges will arise its a sign of being alive na deadbody no get problem, wishing you the best in your next endeavors

Pootle:
bro jus keep pushing you have all the attributes of a successful man cos you a risk taker. i can bet you something, once you clear those debts other challenges will arise its a sign of being alive na deadbody no get problem, wishing you the best in your next endeavors

Thanks boss

I will keep u updated as d film dey play, I am just happy even when in deep shit.

I go do something for u n mariangeles if things set

I just keep having the feeling that everything is gonna b alright

Baba you don Bleep up. How will you collect 100k to get a shop when you know you have no where to get money to buy goods.

You supposed to give your wife that money and use to start pos (easiest hustle now) she won't stay in a place o, she can be moving round inside a busy market to do her hustling.

Then you, enter street, if you sabi drive, enter garage, meet with drivers there, they will link you up.

If na truck you sabi, enter factories, you will meet one person that will link you.

Your matter might be spiritual, mismanagement or bad advise. But right now, shop won't solve your issues.

This isn't mid life crisis. My advice is that you keep working hard and believing things will get better one day. Try as much as you can not to compare. Life is a marathon thus, we keep pushing till we make it.

SINisSIN:
Baba you don Bleep up. How will you collect 100k to get a shop when you know you have no where to get money to buy goods.

You supposed to give your wife that money and use to start pos (easiest hustle now) she won't stay in a place o, she can be moving round inside a busy market to do her hustling.

Then you, enter street, if you sabi drive, enter garage, meet with drivers there, they will link you up.

If na truck you sabi, enter factories, you will meet one person that will link you.

Your matter might be spiritual, mismanagement or bad advise. But right now, shop won't solve your issues.

my wife is gainfully employed in a company n she's cool too

SINisSIN:
Baba you don Bleep up. How will you collect 100k to get a shop when you know you have no where to get money to buy goods.

You supposed to give your wife that money and use to start pos (easiest hustle now) she won't stay in a place o, she can be moving round inside a busy market to do her hustling.

Then you, enter street, if you sabi drive, enter garage, meet with drivers there, they will link you up.

If na truck you sabi, enter factories, you will meet one person that will link you.

Your matter might be spiritual, mismanagement or bad advise. But right now, shop won't solve your issues.

lol

I don begin stock shop n I don even do table tennis board to bring customer

I don get small change to do POS

The reason for getting a shop first is because any money that enters will b channelled towards stocking it n it will b easy to convince people I am back on track m ready again

It's a strategy