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SmellingAnus:
sorry bro... You are suffering from symptoms of see finish.... Anytime there is see finish, the woman begins to threaten to leave even for minor misunderstanding.... You are probably contemplating leaving her but the truth is she might leave you before you even leave her and you will end up with a broken heart..

Na so.

sokkatua:
Welcome to my world .I regret my marriage with all my heart.My wife is the most stubborn,selfish and arrogant person in the history of huiman creation .It is to the point that i m considering suicide as my only way out ,I thought about moving back to Nigeria from Canada but i just cant leave my kids especially my son (whom unfortunately is autistic).Sometimes i feel God created me purposely to punish me .Imagine feeling scared to go home from work ,i m working 6 days a week just to stay away from a house that i m paying for .I ve been quietly sending my money back to Nigeria just in case she files for divorce and hopefully i can rebuild my life in Nigeria when the inevitable happens .If anyone can please suggests a reliable business i can do with 50million in nigeria that would be great

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Nonexisting1:
Whenever a wife threatens to leave, be the one to pursue her. She is already dancing to a tune and you are definitely not the drummer. Right now, she is done with the marriage without you knowing it. She is only calculating her moves and she won't make it until you're completely destroyed and down. Now that you still have your acts together, take action. A word is enough for the wise. By the way, when you were dancing and shinning teeth on your wedding day, if I had told you that you were a mugu, would you have agreed with me? Now, e don clear your eyes and we now know who dey "mature" and who no dey.

On his wedding day, he was probably asking his other friends “ oboy when are you getting married na”

alpharoyalty:
There are two things that will keep your marriage
Money and a good dîck.
The rest are manageable

Plenty sense dey ya head bro.

maasoap:
Firstly, why do you assume this irresponsible Op will be able to care of the boy (materially and also looking after) since the kid is also the part of the reason he's crying.
Secondly, you're the one advising Op to run away from home and travel to avoid his own responsibilities and you're still the same one tagging the innocent woman "promiscuous" if she's ever tired of waiting endlessly for an irresponsible husband and decided to move on. You're as sick as the Op you're advising

I was about to make you understand but hence saying you are sick 😫 just amounted that there is nothing to advise on anymore because an average 9ja will throw jabs when not been provoked because illitracy is the murder of learning. Live with this in ur confusion. Bye.

funkmrflexx:
Vacation costs money, that one join wetin dey stress man sef

ahahaha broooo that's why I chose to enjoy my flat alone since she left, Omo the peace no be here oo just that atimes you will feel the need of a woman around you. I promised my mum and folks that I'm not getting married again till owo ti wole plenty plenty.

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

Watch these two short videos. Does it describe your wife? What are you specific challenges? I believe you will overcome thia with the right infomation and determination.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MG1xRbNxHMY?si=tyq9Mb0Ru-6n_b50


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YlRLVtr1x2M?si=TaPowyFnZ9txZAWn

alpharoyalty:
There are two things that will keep your marriage
Money and a good dîck.
The rest are manageable

You're still a kid who doesn't know much yet

Bobodee09:
Is people like you that makes men feels marriage is of no benefit to them...take a look at your last sentence??

A man should treat the woman the same way you want someone to treat your sister if you have one and see how sweet your marriage would be ?? Like men are the issue?? How she treat him in return doesn't matter??

First of all the fact doing that doesn't guarantee anything no even pain me , what pain the most is the fact you don't even care how she treat the man in return or you just assume all women are good and angels??

Learn to balance things when talking about Marriage....both partners needs to treat each other good.

Don't mind such ediotic men. Unfortunately, there are many of them

Kobojunkie:
Please seek professional marriage counseling at this point so you and your wife can get on the same page on how you feel at this point in the marriage. Bring up the topic of separation during your counseling session, and if after some time you decide divorce is the best route then legally file for divorce.

It is OK to say you are tired of marriage or don't think you were cut out for it to begin with. Humans change and divorce is not a crime. What is never OK is abandoning your marriage and child. Only cowards and deadbeat dads resort to such measures. Couple that with the fact that marital abandonment is a criminal offense even under the code in Nigeria.

Let the woman go bros... How can a man be begging a woman to stay in a marriage... U be mumu

Just make sure she doesn't go with your children.. as for me that move is over my dead body, whoever wants to do that must first bury me oo or else heheheheheh

RealityKings1:
The report was not 8 million children, it was 10 million Almajiri children. The issue of Almajiri children is a different case entirely and doesn't fit into this position.

The question is this, would you trade your sanity and health just to be seen as a responsible woman?

And you think millions of children are not roaming southern streets too, right? May be you should go out often. Though, it may not be on the same scale as that of Northern region

Wickedfacts:
Let her go.
You are stressed because you are begging her.
A man should NEVER beg a woman to stay.

Pastor Jerry Eze of Nsppd held a program in TBS in Lagos, it is ladies that full there. All of them are looking for husbands.

Imagine trooping to a prayer ground seeking for a scum husband and when you get one you start misbehaving and threatening to quit. What kind of mentality do these people have biko?

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

Don't let the any situation put pressure on you.

It's good you know one of your weakness. Learn how to handle stress.

Most importantly, feed your mind with good thoughts. Avoid negative conversations.

I recommend you join a good community of people with common goal.
You can try any Covenant Nation church near. Trust me, you wouldn't regret it.

Iamblessed85:
On his wedding day, he was probably asking his other friends “ oboy when are you getting married na”

He might have even knelt down for the lady during proposal.

Veggieseeddies:
Recently in Nigeria, if you continuou to sleep from hotel to hotel every weekend, chances of you getting killed in a year are high

How?

It's you that go through it not a lot of men. Solve your problem jejely . Marriage help me...

sokkatua:
Welcome to my world .I regret my marriage with all my heart.My wife is the most stubborn,selfish and arrogant person in the history of huiman creation .It is to the point that i m considering suicide as my only way out ,I thought about moving back to Nigeria from Canada but i just cant leave my kids especially my son (whom unfortunately is autistic).Sometimes i feel God created me purposely to punish me .Imagine feeling scared to go home from work ,i m working 6 days a week just to stay away from a house that i m paying for .I ve been quietly sending my money back to Nigeria just in case she files for divorce and hopefully i can rebuild my life in Nigeria when the inevitable happens .If anyone can please suggests a reliable business i can do with 50million in nigeria that would be great

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funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

Believe me, every man feel this, or at least 89% of men feel this heat, at a point you started thinking you have made the worst mistake of your life, but we all claim to be strong. If I have a way of running away from mind believe me I will without thinking it twice.

After marriage so many things will start going wrong in man's life. But...

purples25:
The thing I have always hated is that threat to leave whenever anything shele. Any problem, it leads to a talk about leaving. For the person that dares not to mention such because they know if they do, they will be booted from the marriage, it feels like the other partner is really emotionally detached and taking everything for granted. After all, if you value this the same way I do, why will you talk like that? Why is it so easy for you to be threatening that it’s over whenever anything happens?

So, the woman has no right to threaten to leave if she is violated by her husband in the marriage? Una tio dey like to talk like say una no understand the main reasons why fit result of those threats. OP conveniently avoided mentioning them and you all took it upon yourselves to conclude that that the woman must be the problem. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

livebullet:
✓ Let the woman go bros... How can a man be begging a woman to stay in a marriage... U be mumu
Just make sure she doesn't go with your children.. as for me that move is over my dead body, whoever wants to do that must first bury me oo or else heheheheheh

Did OP tell you why he keeps begging her to stay? Did Op tell you why the woman keeps threatening to leave? If na your daughter the wife be, you no go dey curious to know the exact details before condemning her as the problem in the marriage? 🤔

In all honesty, marriage is overrated

lendahand:
Imagine trooping to a prayer ground seeking for a scum husband and when you get one you start misbehaving and threatening to quit. What kind of mentality do these people have biko?

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Bro, nobody forced you to get married. Instead of whining like a little bitčh, go and make more money. Marriage is so sweet, when money is there. I can only imagine the level of stress that poor lady is going through!

Some days are like that without Jesus,marriage inclusive, try and return back to God, because with him all things are possible, involve Him in your marital life and get some relief! You can't do it alone!.

ROK123:
Some says are like that without Jesus,marriage inclusive, try and return back to God, because with him all things are possible, involve Him in your marital life and get some relief! You can't do it alone!.

Stop lying o'jare! 🙄🙄🙄

I am very sorry sir for the problems you're encountering now in your home. Maybe, a little patience, wisdom and understanding can weather the storm for you. Actually sir, marriage is good believe me, only when we marry right. That will still not change the fact that there may be issues here and there. You see, we focus on the benefits of marriage a lot but forget the real purpose of marriage. Marriage as instituted by God is only for a help-mate. Any other reason like finance, children, beauty etc are all benefits of marriage. Maybe you can view things from each other's perspective perhaps it can help. Sorry for the discomfort you're having right now, honestly this is not the right time for anyone to make anybody uncomfortable. Bring Jesus in remember He is the Prince of peace.

Kobojunkie:
1. That is if you live in a socialist society where that is agreed upon by all, right? In many societies, people would rather you abort the child altogether than pretend it is OK for you to burden others with the raising of your own choice — child.

2. I don't follow at all!

What exactly are you saying about someone who is in poor mental state or someone incapacitated healthwise in respect of his responsibility to his children?

Wallade:
➜What exactly are you saying about someone who is in poor mental state or someone incapacitated healthwise in respect of his responsibility to his children?

Your child remains your responsibility whether you are in poor mental health, coughing up blood, or literally dying, etc.,

Kobojunkie:
Your child remains your responsibility whether you are in poor mental health, coughing up blood, or literally dying, etc.,

Are you married?

Are you male or female?

Are you based in Nigeria?

I would like to know your answers to these questions before I respond to you.

Wallade:
➜Are you married? Are you male or female? Are you based in Nigeria? I would like to know your answers to these questions before I respond to you.

What does it matter if I am in my 12th marriage when it comes to taking care of what is your own child? Are you sure you are OK at all? Suppose society makes it well known to even single parents that their children are their responsibility. What makes you think or believe that you as a married individual can escape that same?

joelsky:
Before marriage did you plan? Planning is not just financial, - it's financial+ physically+spiritually+ emotionally.

I have been married for 6 years now. No single regret. I'm not perfect neither is wifey. But we both weather the storms with love.

Even when the total income in the family was less than 6 figures, we were living fine. Every expenses in the month is well figured out. Food time table (e.g. I know what I am eating on the 19th of February along with the cost involved), house-work time table, etc. every thing is well planned.

So there is virtually no need for any argument unless the devil wants to strike and that is well prevented by prayer and daily family devotion.

God gave me my wife, I have studied her, she has studied me, we all know our strengths and weaknesses. All problems in the marriage are channelled to him for wisdom and guidance to resolve them.

Thank God for you.