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I am currently in a dilemma,I don't know the step to take. I came across a lady last year October after defending my Bsc .We started flowing with each other to the extent we fall in love for each other. As times goes ,I realized that she was not privilege to further her education.My love for her began to decay. After my defends,my parents have not been sending me money again and life began to be tougher for me. She is working in fast food restaurants as a manager of the restaurant and her brother is in Malta and do sent her funds.She has contributed to my wellbeing both financially and materially. I have attempted to break up with her for 3 times but each time I planned I couldn't do it because I still have a soft touch for her. I constantly told her if a good man comes her way that she should consider because I currently don't have the financial capacity to proceed her marital rites all these are just excuses to make her have a second thought about me. I stop sleeping with her since last year December because I don't want to exploit her any longer. The truth of the matter is that this lady is older than me. I am currently 29 while she is 32. When I told my parents about what am going through, my mum blamed me of allowing the the lady to develop deep feelings for me and ask me to go ahead and marry her while my dad instructed not to do so if I don't love her but ask me to compensate the lady for time wasting by paying her off. The only money that I realized in my newly established business is 500k and
I wouldn't want to use it in paying her off because I might return to squares. I don't know the step to take because I don't want her to be devastated and sad. Please nairalanders , I need you guys help.

Beat her
Kikk her
Slap her and
She will go

Say it to her face and move on. You don't need relationship for now. Get the money and you'll meet better and finer women.

Nothing ends a carnal relationship faster than sex... U have initiated the first step...she will get the memo... If she's a very sexually active babe...it's only a matter of time before she replaces u.....Dem nor dey break up for 2025 if u nor want make person use vex kill u or pour u acid...

Na waa for the comments up here o. you people giving him advice on how to break up without minding what the other lady had invested in the relationship.

According to him, the lady had helped him financially and get him food stuff most times because the lady belief there is something in the relationship for her.

To you OP, You are just an exploiter.

Abobi, just Tuama ,Wata Bam Bam

This is one big problem we men have in relationships,we are too humane and considerate when dealing with women ,but you see women? Once they are no longer interested in you they dump you ASAP they dont think twice about it,without caring whether you will jump 3rd mainland bridge or drink sniper the after the news, women are very brutal in nature! I have never heard a woman ask this question before,Op I will advice you ghost her she will get the memo soon, that's the only way.

Never breakup with her.
Keep enjoying what she has to offer: funds and sex.

Is she cute, is she in Abuja, send me her number...

Breaking up with a woman in her 30s is like trying to remove the tyres of a Dangote Truck in MOTION.

It's IMPOSSIBLE!

She has found her soulmate IN you.
All your "look for another man because I'm not financially buoyant enough to marry you" will be interpreted as "I will marry you IMMEDIATELY I have money".

ONLY thing you can do now is VANISH!

You did not know she was older than you when you were sucking her breasts mercilessly and taking money from her

29 yrs old simp having feelings for a 32 yrs old
retired coded runsgirl . My guy run ooo.

So, you are smart for your mind be that oh. Were all these things you just highlighted as excuses to unleash your premeditated evil towards this lady not there when u started with her?? And I want to believe she must have interacted kindly with you on financial grounds, out of love and pity for your condition in the cause of your sexual exploitation period with her.

Just fear God in all you do and do onto others what is expected to be done to you or your loved ones.

Whenever a man have to struggle and can't find a tangible point to hold onto in laying off a partner, it's a clear indication that such woman is a good woman.

Karma no de miss address bro. My humble advice..

Rhymesy:
I am currently in a dilemma,I don't know the step to take. I came across a lady last year October after defending my Bsc .We started flowing with each other to the extent we fall in love for each other. As times goes ,I realized that she was not privilege to further her education.My love for her began to decay. After my defends,my parents have not been sending me money again and life began to be tougher for me. She is working in fast food restaurants as a manager of the restaurant and her brother is in Malta and do sent her funds.She has contributed to my wellbeing both financially and materially. I have attempted to break up with her for 3 times but each time I planned I couldn't do it because I still have a soft touch for her. I constantly told her if a good man comes her way that she should consider because I currently don't have the financial capacity to proceed her marital rites all these are just excuses to make her have a second thought about me. I stop sleeping with her since last year December because I don't want to exploit her any longer. The truth of the matter is that this lady is older than me. I am currently 29 while she is 32. I don't know the step to take because I don't want her to be devastated and sad. Please nairalanders , I need you guys help.

You have your intentions already, you just need go ahead and now I will say it.

Go ahead with your decision, you have my blessing already

All you have to do is to call her, sit her down and tell her your feelings.

You can start by appreciating the good she did, how lovely she has been and your reasons for leaving.

You can tell her you want to leave her because you are not the better man for her.

Make her feel like a rich man is what she desires and you don't want to see her suffer. Tell her that's the best love you can give her right now not to suffer or waste her time with you.


95% of ladies age 30+ are seriously single and looking for men to marry them.

Tell her you are Hiv positif

Oloki:
Na waa for the comments up here o. you people giving him advice on how to break up without minding what the other lady had invested in the relationship.

According to him, the lady had helped him financially and get him food stuff most times because the lady belief there is something in the relationship for her.

To you OP, You are just an exploiter.

If you say this about the OP ut means 98% of women dating are exploiters because they are usually in the position of the OP isn't it? People like you won't see anything wrong if the OP was s woman and Wants to breakup but because its a man he is now an exploiter. Men don't have any good reason to terminate a relationship in your small mind.

Bookhub:
This is one big problem we men have in relationships,we are too humane and considerate when dealing with women ,but you see women? Once they are no longer interested in you they dump you ASAP they dont think twice about it,without caring whether you will jump 3rd mainland bridge or drink sniper the after the news, women are very brutal in nature! I have never heard a woman ask this question before,Op I will advice you ghost her she will get the memo soon, that's the only way.

You are right.

Op, the earlier u call it quits the better. Red flags everywhere. Though not red flags so to say but u definitely don't love her. She too see you as someone with potential and trying to invest in you. So quit now before it's too late

This shows that you are a human.... But if she was in your shoes... Reverse with be the case

One leg just right after the other...

Thats how to take steps

Why did you give her false hope?

You should not have accepted cash gifts from her from the onset.

You mumu die, you see better girl, you dey lose guard, give her belle first.

Oloki:
Na waa for the comments up here o. you people giving him advice on how to break up without minding what the other lady had invested in the relationship.

According to him, the lady had helped him financially and get him food stuff most times because the lady belief there is something in the relationship for her.

To you OP, You are just an exploiter.

And so what? Do ladies consider a guy's investment and emotional well-being when they want to break up

You lots always try to guiltrip a guy when he wants to break up as if ladies don't break up and dump guys in devastating manners.

Op, tell the damn girl and move on with your life!

Thank you for this.
I wish we are friends

lonelygem:
So, you are smart for your mind be that oh. Were all these things you just highlighted as excuses to unleash your premeditated evil towards this lady not there when u started with her?? And I want to believe she must have interacted kindly with you on financial grounds, out of love and pity for your condition in the cause of your sexual exploitation period with her.

Just fear God in all you do and do onto others what is expected to be done to you or your loved ones.

Whenever a man have to struggle and can't find a tangible point to hold onto in laying off a partner, it's a clear indication that such woman is a good woman.

Karma no de miss address bro. My humble advice..

Ignore her.
Stop all coms and watch her do what's best for her

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Oloki:
Na waa for the comments up here o. you people giving him advice on how to break up without minding what the other lady had invested in the relationship.

According to him, the lady had helped him financially and get him food stuff most times because the lady belief there is something in the relationship for her.

To you OP, You are just an exploiter.

Sure, he has exploited her, but it's better for him to break up with her now; later might be too late, and he could end up hurting her deeply. Love is a matter of the heart; it can't be forced. If a woman marries a man who doesn't have feelings for her, she will end up at a loss. She deserves better. She might eventually find someone who truly loves and appreciates her.

Call her that you did test and doctor told you you have HIV....she will leave you asap

RPG2020:
Tell her you are Hiv positif

Guy!!

I didn't promise to marry her

Ghost her and don't make any promises to her about marriage.