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Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her contacts.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her contacts.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

meobizy:
Should I read? Bleep this. It will be one out of the many hundreds of similar stories posted here. I pass.

brain54:
Well, I don't think I am making excuses for her per say...

A baby is growing inside of her. It's unfair to think she isn't pressured. She isn't like the op who is here deciding whether to abandon the consequence of their bad decision. The consequences of their bad decision is growing inside of her. She can't abandon or run away from it.

It's also not fair enough to pass judgement based solely on what op has said. Remember we have not heard her side of the story yet. It is only fair to try to balance our judgment by cutting her at least a small slack.

Lastly they have been together for 3 years and he didn't specify whether she has been this irrational in the past period. Or acted carelessly with her comments. So I take it its her first acting that way hence I attributed it to hormones. (By the way, women do act out of place in the presence of others including their bosses, sometimes people just don't pay attention to notice)

If she has acted irrationally in the past 3 years and it had been a constant behavior and he stuck with her till now only to abandon her now she is pregnant for being irrational then I think he is been the irrational one here.

Life is not always a straight line. That's why we must at least try to balance things... Especially life judgments!

James4358:
My wife can't even get pregnant... And I'm reading this. Chia... 'Inside Life'

BABANGBALI:
Bad boy. You're a very wicked boy.




I need ur help. I am participating in a Bible quiz in church. The fish that swallow uncle Jonah, was it TITUS, KPANLA, CATFISH or KOTE fish?

Lakebib:
I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.

James4358:
My wife can't even get pregnant... And I'm reading this. Chia... 'Inside Life'

James4358:
My wife can't even get pregnant... And I'm reading this. Chia... 'Inside Life'

SINisSIN:
Have you tried local ways?

ednut1:
May we not raise wayward daughters 🤮

meobizy:
Should I read? Bleep this. It will be one out of the many hundreds of similar stories posted here. I pass.

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her contacts.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

brain54:
If it's confirmed it's your pregnancy...

Then I think it's not right to abandon her. You ought to be responsible for your actions. I can never advise anyone to abandon a woman carrying his baby. Even though I am sure you aren't ready to keep it.

To think she made that statement about pinning the pregnancy on any guy she sleeps with is quite chilling. It says a lot about the kind of person she is.

Who knows if she is trying to pin the pregnancy on you?

Gotocourt:
Early this year is January, which is last month. It's too early for bump to show, it's not your pregnancy. Forget the Werey girl

brain54:
Well, I don't think I am making excuses for her per say...

A baby is growing inside of her. It's unfair to think she isn't pressured. She isn't like the op who is here deciding whether to abandon the consequence of their bad decision. The consequences of their bad decision is growing inside of her. She can't abandon or run away from it.

It's also not fair enough to pass judgement based solely on what op has said. Remember we have not heard her side of the story yet. It is only fair to try to balance our judgment by cutting her at least a small slack.

Lastly they have been together for 3 years and he didn't specify whether she has been this irrational in the past period. Or acted carelessly with her comments. So I take it its her first acting that way hence I attributed it to hormones. (By the way, women do act out of place in the presence of others including their bosses, sometimes people just don't pay attention to notice)

If she has acted irrationally in the past 3 years and it had been a constant behavior and he stuck with her till now only to abandon her now she is pregnant for being irrational then I think he is been the irrational one here.

Life is not always a straight line. That's why we must at least try to balance things... Especially life judgments!

Lakebib:
I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.