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Isolation is not good to a large extent and the worst of life is staying without current information. People thought they could learn, or see what ever information on the internet, but forget that your friends are the ones to tell you of the welfare of others. Which helps kindness, by reaching out to celebrate or plead with them, life is fun on its own. Nothing is worth it, so existence is by choice. Whatever it is that pleases amongst being isolated or hyper active choose one and face the frustrations it serves.

dauntless15:
Honestly, people are after what benefits them and no one is selfless, so that saying no man is an island is a lie, they're thousands of selfish islands everyone looking for what will benefit only them, and the overzealous ones among them won't hesitate to remove you if you get in the way of what they want, I no do friendship, I came to this world alone and I'm leaving alone, and when I want something money can buy it for me, and the things money can't buy friends can't give me that either, make everyone dey him dey, I even value my weed dealer pass the so called friends.

Wotoporiously speaking

Bro you no lie, so many snakes out here man

Things and things don wound me for this life and I don learn, I no dey force anything o, just dey move jejely

If you're lucky to have a few people in your life outside family wey get your back you don't know what God has done for you.

These days I dey move like a Ghost, as long as the money enter nothing dey bother me, I no dey expect anything from anybody and make nobody expect from me.

All in all enjoy life to fullest, friends or no friends.

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

Bro you no lie, so many snakes out here man

Things and things don wound me for this life and I don learn, I no dey force anything o, just dey move jejely

If you're lucky to have a few people in your life outside family wey get your back you don't know what God has done for you.

These days I dey move like a Ghost, as long as the money enter nothing dey bother me, I no dey expect anything from anybody and make nobody expect from me.

All in all enjoy life to fullest, friends or no friends.

People no know na, person like me wey little pleasures of life dey excite me, cold beer and grilled fish excites me, video games excite me, good food excites me, new clothes and Nikes excite me, going away for the weekend, the list is endless, I can create endless happiness around me and I won't even interact with other humans for weeks, even family dey alienate each other wetin come be friends, aside my kid sis and bro, and sometimes my dad who I call from time to time oga everyone else can rest, my extended family don't even know what I look like cuz since I grew up I became a ghost, maybe I might take a girl seriously later in life and make a family with her, but till then I enjoy my life this way, I Neva even clock 30, I'll get worse when I do, that time na shadow I go evolve into, because humans are extremely wicked.

dauntless15:
People no know na, person like me wey little pleasures of life dey excite me, cold beer and grilled fish excites me, video games excite me, good food excites me, new clothes and Nikes excite me, going away for the weekend, the list is endless, I can create endless happiness around me and I won't even interact with other humans for weeks, even family dey alienate each other wetin come be friends, aside my kid sis and bro, and sometimes my dad who I call from time to time oga everyone else can rest, my extended family don't even know what I look like cuz since I grew up I became a ghost, maybe I might take a girl seriously later in life and make a family with her, but till then I enjoy my life this way, I Neva even clock 30, I'll get worse when I do, that time na shadow I go evolve into, because humans are extremely wicked.

Wotoporiously speaking

You dey burst my head bro

Things like this na it dey excite me, no time for lose guarding, in todays world wey be say snake full everywhere man Gaz dey on Google when interacting with anybody.

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

You dey burst my head bro

Things like this na it dey excite me, no time for lose guarding, in todays world wey be say snake full everywhere man Gaz dey on Google when interacting with anybody.

Lol he go use his eyes see na, and with the way he's going they'll see how desperate he is to not be alone and take advantage of it to exploit him.

dauntless15:
Lol he go use his eyes see na, and with the way he's going they'll see how desperate he is to not be alone and take advantage of it to exploit him.

Wotoporiously speaking

Na the matter be that na, make him sha no loseguard make them no carry am handicap

Not until you really interact with people and realize that your loneliness is better life

The magic is in childhood friends, nysc meetup that turned up real, secondary school friends & uni friends whom you have shared almost a decade with, they’ve seem you grow and mature & it’s easy to relate with at a personal level. If you happen to make new acquaintances, you don’t know if that acquaintance wants whats good or bad for you, try to raise arguments, they reveal alot, try to be there for them and see if they will extend any form of kind courtesy to you,these things show genuine intentions of people towards you just like you have towards them. If your values don’t match keep the friendship at a hi5 level and move on.

dauntless15:
Don't even go there, I turned up in every way I could, bro do you have this today, I'm broke, I'll send, can you help with this, I'll send, this is why I mentioned common 2k, I can't expect to get what I didn't give because I'm not unreasonable, the reason why I turned my back on friendship is I always give more and get nothing in return, experience is the best teacher, I won't say more than this, you go use your eyes see am and body go tell you.

Sorry about your experience bro. Some humans do not deserve so much. It's good you changed your circle of friends or you abandoned them completely.
In my experience, I will say, I was opportuned to meet and have wonderful friends, though just about 4 and we've been solid on good friends turn brothers for 10 years and counting.
From our very first year in school to six years after we finished school. We've always been there for one another and through collective efforts, we've all grown from just mere young undergraduates to fully grown men already planning marriage and whatever next phase life throws.
We've been that close to the point that despite coming from different states, we now live in the same estate, each in his own apartment.
The trust is so strong that I can give any of these guys 10m for a business and if he comes back to tell me that the deal failed and the money was lost, I won't even doubt him.

Idan

2cribz:
I only know my car,voka, pos vendors,and some few friends like 5. The rest are surface greetings.

Cashio:
Sorry about your experience bro. Some humans do not deserve so much. It's good you changed your circle of friends or you abandoned them completely.
In my experience, I will say, I was opportuned to meet and have wonderful friends, though just about 4 and we've been solid on good friends turn brothers for 10 years and counting.
From our very first year in school to six years after we finished school. We've always been there for one another and through collective efforts, we've all grown from just mere young undergraduates to fully grown men already planning marriage and whatever next phase life throws.
We've been that close to the point that despite coming from different states, we now live in the same estate, each in his own apartment.
The trust is so strong that I can give any of these guys 10m for a business and if he comes back to tell me that the deal failed and the money was lost, I won't even doubt him.

You're lucky honestly, in such cases there's an exception, strangers sometimes become your family or even more than your family sef, it happens, the difference is you didn't choose it nor were you intentionally and desperately looking for friends, in such cases you keep them close, don't go seeking for more, and in your case it's even more than necessary already, don't seek new relationships as there's no benefit to it, rather you nurture the ones you already have and form a lifelong bond, in my own case e go hard for this life make I give anyone access to my life in the name of friends, because unlike you I wasn't so lucky when I tried mine.

Tsarbomba:
Hey guys, let me share something with you that hit me hard recently. I've always thought that my worth as a man was tied to my achievements, wealth, or physical appearance. But let me tell you, I've just discovered that none of those things matter if you're lonely and without friends or a social network.

I'll be honest, I used to be that guy who thought he could do everything alone. I'd spend hours playing video games, watching movies, or just browsing social media. But one day, I realized that I had no one to share my experiences with, no one to talk to, and no one to support me. It was a lonely, isolating feeling

Think about it: when was the last time you saw a woman or anyone for that matter, flocking to a guy who has no friends, no social life, and is just plain lonely? Never, right?

It's harsh, but it's the truth. People are attracted to those who have a life, who have friends, who have a sense of belonging. And if you're a man who's lonely and isolated, you're going to struggle to attract anyone.
So, what's the solution? It's time to focus on building those relationships, guys! Invest in your friendships, join social groups, attend events, and put yourself out there.

Trust me, I'm doing this myself, and it's been a game-changer. What are your thoughts, guys? Have you experienced this firsthand? Share your stories and experiences.

I met my current girlfriend while I was at the movies by myself. You don't need ppl to make u happy

SpyMaster1:
This post is like looking into a mirror, bro! I've been feeling lonely lately, even though I'm surrounded by people...and by people, I mean my plants. But seriously, thanks for sharing it's time for me to get out there and find some human friends

well I think we are just introverts are we gonna call that loneliness 🤔

Well I am lucky to have my friends from primary 1 with me till today.
4 from secondary school
7 from first program in uni
3 from second program
6 workplace of which 2 are real GS

The rest are just acquaintance and I mix up with everyone else just for fun

dauntless15:
You're lucky honestly, in such cases there's an exception, strangers sometimes become your family or even more than your family sef, it happens, the difference is you didn't choose it nor were you intentionally and desperately looking for friends, in such cases you keep them close, don't go seeking for more, and in your case it's even more than necessary already, don't seek new relationships as there's no benefit to it, rather you nurture the ones you already have and form a lifelong bond, in my own case e go hard for this life make I give anyone access to my life in the name of friends, because unlike you I wasn't so lucky when I tried mine.

They are lucky too my bro cos I'm also very good. I don't let negative people get close to me. I am very free spirited and I won't ever watch you suffer or lack as my person when I have in excess. Now, if I sense you don't have same spirit as mine, I am stretching my distance from you.
The time to make friends is not when you are at the top. At the top, you only make business partners and associates and colleagues. Close and real friends are the ones who know your story.
Those who met you at the top will desert you if you fall from the top. But those who knew you from nobody before you became somebody will accept you even if you fall back to nobody because it won't be a new thing to them. We don't pray for that tho.

Cashio:
They are lucky too my bro cos I'm also very good. I don't let negative people get close to me. I am very free spirited and I won't ever watch you suffer or lack as my person when I have in excess. Now, if I sense you don't have same spirit as mine, I am stretching my distance from you.
The time to make friends is not when you are at the top. At the top, you only make business partners and associates and colleagues. Close and real friends are the ones who know your story.
Those who met you at the top will desert you if you fall from the top. But those who knew you from nobody before you became somebody will accept you even if you fall back to nobody because it won't be a new thing to them. We don't pray for that tho.

Very true, those who met you at the top were there for your status only and they'll fly when you fall from that grace, learnt alot on this thread as well, wisdom and life experiences, thanks for sharing.

GreenDee:
well I think we are just introverts are we gonna call that loneliness 🤔

Are you making a general assumption that all introverts are inherently happy and fulfilled with their alone time, and that loneliness is not a possibility for them?

Life is not straightforward, you should strive to have few quality friends and not multitude that will lead to your death, be lonely and develop yourself as a man , don't go out there and be opening teeth anyhow, you are not a woman, if you are a mystery, trust me people will strive to unravel you, then you can choose whom to call a friend

Tsarbomba:
Hey guys, let me share something with you that hit me hard recently. I've always thought that my worth as a man was tied to my achievements, wealth, or physical appearance. But let me tell you, I've just discovered that none of those things matter if you're lonely and without friends or a social network.

I'll be honest, I used to be that guy who thought he could do everything alone. I'd spend hours playing video games, watching movies, or just browsing social media. But one day, I realized that I had no one to share my experiences with, no one to talk to, and no one to support me. It was a lonely, isolating feeling

Think about it: when was the last time you saw a woman or anyone for that matter, flocking to a guy who has no friends, no social life, and is just plain lonely? Never, right?

It's harsh, but it's the truth. People are attracted to those who have a life, who have friends, who have a sense of belonging. And if you're a man who's lonely and isolated, you're going to struggle to attract anyone.
So, what's the solution? It's time to focus on building those relationships, guys! Invest in your friendships, join social groups, attend events, and put yourself out there.

Trust me, I'm doing this myself, and it's been a game-changer. What are your thoughts, guys? Have you experienced this firsthand? Share your stories and experiences.

Who friend help?
Friend no help me, so I don't need friends.
It's lonely at the top
Lonely lonely lonely
Money on my mind
Money money money
ASAKE.
Lonely, I am so lonely
I have nobody, to call my ownnnnnn
AKON.
Una go dey find wetin no lost abi you no kno say Na Naira Marley kill Mohbad.

Shey you no know say na Jacob steal Esau Destiny.
Just dey your own. Dey reason your life.

On a low key.
Everything go soft. Mafor

dauntless15:
You're wrong, your quality of life can't be tied to having people you interact with, I'd rather be alone than know a thousand people I don't benefit anything from, I am very popular to some extent, but something happened in my life that made me realize your popularity is useless, I lost my mum and the number of people that really sympathized were very few, infact it was a very small fraction of the people I know and out of that small fraction how many of them sent me common 2k, none, so what's the point of knowing so many people then, I buried my mum quietly then came back and leisurely opened my phone book, I started deleting numbers, cuz na numbers I get not contacts, I delete sotey my contacts no reach 30 again, and that 30 are my family and close friends, I've been on my own ever since, I do what I like, celebrate and reward myself when I want to, earn my money, look nice, just live for yourself, no one would die with you infact two weeks everyone has moved on, have few people you care about and value detachment, it's the Sweetest feeling in the world, being lonely is a state of mind, I can be by myself and still feel like I'm surrounded by a crowd, how? By making sure I do what I love all the days of my life, surround yourself with enjoyment and money and you don't need nobody, there's more to life than having useless friends who don't contribute jack sh!t to your life, what's having so many friends gonna do for you anyway? And why do you need many friends, so you can have people to talk to endlessly? Me wey talking dey even hard me, if you talk too much I cut you off, stop placing importance on the wrong things, enjoy the one life you have and bullsh!t every other things.

Being a "Lone Wolf" will have you live a peaceful mediocre or an average life and you may live longer life.

But, If you want to make great impact in your life, community and the world as a man, you need a tribe of men. All great men in the past followed this pattern including Christ.

I'm introverted myself but this is fact.

Princewill1:
Being a "Lone Wolf" will have you live a peaceful mediocre or an average life and you may live longer life.

But, If you want to make great impact in your life, community and the world as a man, you need a tribe of men. All great men in the past followed this pattern including Christ.

I'm introverted myself but this is fact.

mediocre in what way, please elucidate, you didn't give concrete argument to back up your vague declaration, just referenced Jesus Christ who is just some fictional character in some book you read, you that have a tribe of men please do well to list just few of your impact in the world and your community, let's start there.

If they're not your offspring or supportive parents, relations or friends who offer encouragement for your progress and mental sanity, you don't need them. Ask yourself, If you should get arrested or have a medical emergency, how long will it take for them to know or to be reached and how many of them will run up immediately with your bail money?

Try and exterblish a business na you go tire for friendship

Tsarbomba:
Hey guys, let me share something with you that hit me hard recently. I've always thought that my worth as a man was tied to my achievements, wealth, or physical appearance. But let me tell you, I've just discovered that none of those things matter if you're lonely and without friends or a social network.

I'll be honest, I used to be that guy who thought he could do everything alone. I'd spend hours playing video games, watching movies, or just browsing social media. But one day, I realized that I had no one to share my experiences with, no one to talk to, and no one to support me. It was a lonely, isolating feeling

Think about it: when was the last time you saw a woman or anyone for that matter, flocking to a guy who has no friends, no social life, and is just plain lonely? Never, right?

It's harsh, but it's the truth. People are attracted to those who have a life, who have friends, who have a sense of belonging. And if you're a man who's lonely and isolated, you're going to struggle to attract anyone.
So, what's the solution? It's time to focus on building those relationships, guys! Invest in your friendships, join social groups, attend events, and put yourself out there.

Trust me, I'm doing this myself, and it's been a game-changer. What are your thoughts, guys? Have you experienced this firsthand? Share your stories and experiences.

iLegendd:
As someone who has lived these two lifestyles, the one you called lonely is the better option.

I don't see it as being lonely. I have only been alone to improve myself. And I'm too picky with who comes around. I have only had 1 male friend all my life—the rest are women. I prefer being alone or with a playful dog more than with people, who'll end up becoming gossips or betrayers.

If you're a woman, come, spend some days, give me all the sex and go back, when I'm in the mood, I'll chat you up or someone else to come over.

I saw a poll on YouTube yesterday and guess what I chose? Not speaking to humans.

I prefer to be called arrogant than ungrateful. So, I'm scared of people being around me and accidentally end up doing me lots of favors and when it's their turn, I couldn't turn up.

Which in truth, I hate to turn up — I'd rather be at home practising something or exercising than attending naming ceremony, child dedication, wedding (that'll soon crash), graduation (that a YouTuber will still be richer than you), burial, rallies, etc.

So, the reason I hate to mingle is because I don't have time to attend all the silly and stupid invitations, especially birthdays and child dedications. You born Jesus?

Hmmm

It is better to be alone and be happy than be with someone and be unhappy.

Princewill1:
Being a "Lone Wolf" will have you live a peaceful mediocre or an average life and you may live longer life.

But, If you want to make great impact in your life, community and the world as a man, you need a tribe of men. All great men in the past followed this pattern including Christ.

I'm introverted myself but this is fact.

I love how you highlighted the importance of having a tribe of men who can support and uplift each other. This is especially important in today's society, where masculinity is often associated with individualism and self-reliance. By recognizing the value of community and collaboration, we can redefine what it means to be a strong and impactful man. Take, for example, the story of Nelson Mandela, who was able to overcome incredible adversity and become a symbol of hope and reconciliation in South Africa, thanks in large part to the support of his fellow anti-apartheid activists and leaders.

Baronthecelebri:
It is better to be alone and be happy than be with someone and be unhappy.

Being alone can be happy, but it can also be lonely. Humans are social creatures, and we thrive on connection and interaction with others. Don't you think that being in a relationship could provide a sense of belonging and connection that's harder to find when you're alone?

Mcslize:
My fellow, how you dey? We sigma males, we are lone wolves. We can survive without the presence of others. And we are always careful with who we role with.

I greet you specially my fellow Sigma.

It's a life of peace my brother.

Incidentally, women are still drawn to me.

dauntless15:
Honestly, people are after what benefits them and no one is selfless, so that saying no man is an island is a lie, they're thousands of selfish islands everyone looking for what will benefit only them, and the overzealous ones among them won't hesitate to remove you if you get in the way of what they want, I no do friendship, I came to this world alone and I'm leaving alone, and when I want something money can buy it for me, and the things money can't buy friends can't give me that either, make everyone dey him dey, I even value my weed dealer pass the so called friends.

I love my privacy ...My kush and mind , this connects me to the universe .